Chelsea Crockett

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The Missing Piece of the Puzzle

This past week, I’ve been reading a book by Louie Giglio, titled, I AM NOT BUT I KNOW I AM. Something that hit me hard right away is when he…

This past week, I’ve been reading a book by Louie Giglio, titled, I AM NOT BUT I KNOW I AM. Something that hit me hard right away is when he talks about two archenemies of the heart- stress and meaninglessness.
i am not but i know i am I’m sure many of you can relate to what it’s like as a mother to take on the weight of the world, like it’s something we are supposed to do. We feel like we have to be all things to all people. Louie says, “If we knowingly or unknowingly, view ourselves as the source of all things of all people, we slowly lose peace of mind and find ourselves staring at the ceiling late into the night trying to figure out how to hold it all together and/or medicating ourselves just to make it through the day. ” He then goes onto say, “Why? Because the human frame wasn’t created to carry the weight of the world. That’s why, in the end, stress kills. It kills laughter. Extinguishes hope. Cracks relationships. Squashes dreams. Robs health. And steals God’s praise.”

The other archenemy he talks about is meaninglessness. He says, “Meaninglessness woos us into spending our one shot life on insignificant and trivial things. Our days become filled with drama over the ridiculous: our complaints fly free at the small challenge or difficulty: our energy and wealth are consumed by what is fleeting; and our chatter becomes dominated by events, people, and things that won’t last much longer than the morning mist.”

While reading this book, I thought about a time after college, when I decided that I wanted to get my “husband to be”, a nice gift to go in his office. I decided on a framed ‘Old Map of the World’. It would be the nice touch to the place where he spent most of his time. There was only one stipulation to this idea. It was a 2500 piece puzzle that had to be put together, glued, and fitted for a special sized frame. So being the Ultimate Ambassador, who up until that point had majored in delegating difficult jobs, I asked my oldest sister, Deb, to help me with this task. After all, I would never have the patience to see how all of those pieces fit together by myself. I told her that I would pay her to put it together. Little did we know, after all the hours it took her, she would discover a missing piece upon completion. So, she, in her most frustrated voice, asked what she should do. So being the lovely little sister that I am, I told her to get another one and to find the missing piece in the new box. After many, many hours of looking, she discovered that the new puzzle was cut differently than the original one. Therefore, she would never be able to find the missing piece!

Why do I tell you this story, you might ask? Well, to get to this point. I’ve been searching for the missing piece for so long, but the missing piece is evident. Louie Giglio says, “To both stress and meaninglessness, this book says, “Enough! Enough of little lives led by little people, crumpling under the weight of stress. And enough of empty ambition masquerading as something grand yet marked by the numbing effects of a vacant heart. And more important, this book bids, “Welcome to the story of God!”

Several years ago, I was talking to an older lady who experienced deep pain in her marriage. I was very inquisitive about her life and her experiences. I asked her what it was like to lose her husband. I asked her if she thought that it was the right choice for her life. She said, “I don’t know. I’ve never known anything different.” She then paused, and  said, “But,….it was like I had been working on this very, very, large puzzle with someone, and when we were just about finished with it,….. he just quit.”

While this woman knew nothing about the family heirloom that still hangs in our office, I knew this moment was very significant. I thought about how, in many ways, I’ve not been willing to even pick up the first piece. But, it was at that moment, that I knew that I would begin trying harder and harder than I would at anything else to pick up the pieces. After many prayers from family and friends, as well as some very hard work, I’ve come to know this. “God is really, really, BIG! He is the beginning and the end. He is the Alpha and the Omega.”

And, for those of you wondering what happened with our “Old Map of the World”, with the missing piece, …… my sister inserted a similar looking piece of the cardboard box, into the area where the real one should be. It is quite the conversation piece, still, after all these years. In fact, if you ever come to see it, I’d be happy to tell you about it, as well as what we have come to know as our missing piece of our puzzle. It’s a story of loving, caring, and forgiving God.

Mama.

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Mission in Motherhood

Have you ever had those really strange moments in your life when everyone had stopped laughing at a joke, but for some reason, you just kept laughing long after it…

Mission in Mother Hood with Chelsea CrockettHave you ever had those really strange moments in your life when everyone had stopped laughing at a joke, but for some reason, you just kept laughing long after it was told?  Many of those times for me, are now funny  stories we will tell our grandchildren someday about their parents.   One of those times was one early morning when Chelsea was around one year old.  She was crying and coughing in her bed, so the video baby monitor woke us.  We noticed that on the screen, she was sitting up and it looked like there was white fluff all over her crib.    When we went in to check on her, we found out that not only did Chelsea not appreciate being wet, she also discovered that her diaper didn’t taste very good either.  Yes,… Chelsea was digging at her wet diaper and trying to eat it.  Nice one, Chels. 

While being a parent is entertaining, it can also be trying at times.  The difficulty lies in the fact that many times, we forget that being a parent takes commitment on our parts.  It is so easy to become exhausted with everyday life that we forget to teach our kids about discipline and setting limits for them in their lives.  Family lives are so busy that “surviving the hectic, busy day” is the theme, while guiding and teaching is low on the priority list. 

One of the challenges that I’ve faced this year was from this very thing!  We were so busy prioritizing our schedules, we neglected our priorities.  While we had good intentions to sit down together at night to eat as a family,  it rarely happened.  The stress began to eat away at our patience for each other, and our over-all health was deteriorating.  The symptoms ranged from migraine headaches, arthritis, panic attacks, insomnia,- and the list goes on and on and on. Mission in Mother Hood with Chelsea Crockett

Recently, we’ve been getting our priorities in order.  One of the things that I’m working on as a mom is to become more healthy and to help my family do the same.  We’ve been working on understanding proper nutrition, as well as what we are deficient in.  We are working hard to eliminate the toxins from our lives.  Another goal of mine is to guide and steer our family into thinking about a family mission statement. 

My personal mission statement as a mom is to be an energetic mother who loves and knows God fully, follows his lead, and leaves a legacy of christian love to her kids. Sounds really good, doesn’t it?  Well, I have to admit…..some of it, I stole from our pastor’s sermon this past week.  In fact, if you would like to see this sermon, you can go to www.fbmaryville.org.  The sermon was titled, “Love and Limits”.

As “Mother’s Day” approaches, I hope and pray you feel empowered to become the mother that you are called to be.  Isaiah 40:11 says, “He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young.”  

In this Old Testament promise, spoken by the prophet Isaiah, the Lord clearly states his commitment to guide and protect mothers and to care for their children.  It is hard to believe that someone could love our children as much as we do, but he really does.   I don’t know about you, but I find this to be very encouraging.

Mama

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“Let your Kids be your Mirror”

 Being reactive to crisis is a response to things that we don’t expect to happen.  We may be hurt and angry when unfair events or crisis occur in our lives.  …

mirror-self-reflection-image Being reactive to crisis is a response to things that we don’t expect to happen.  We may be hurt and angry when unfair events or crisis occur in our lives.   There are some events that seem so overwhelming, some may choose to cope by holding onto feelings of anger, resentment, and unforgiveness. Ask yourself some questions.  How long will I choose the path of anger, resentment, and bitterness?  Who am I hurting in the process?  Is it time to leave the emotions behind and do the hard work?  Who can help me move forward?  Be honest with yourself and to others when you can’t do it alone.  Ask for help, and when you are not getting it, keep asking.  Good counsel is sometimes not easy to find.

 

 Self- reflection can be a helpful and natural response to change.  How can you tell if you need to change?  As a mother, it was easy.  I began to notice how my own children were behaving in the world.  I began to see my own insecurities and fears in them.  I began to watch their priorities take shape-  the same priorities my husband and I set before them.

It is when I began to notice this, that I realized the important choices I had to make.  I began to ask myself some hard questions.  What negative habits and perceptions in my own life need to change?  I could take a step back and begin to make changes and improvements.  I finally internalized the power of the statement, “Children Learn What They Live”.  I experienced it first-hand.  Being an observer of my children was a powerful lesson for me.

 

 I first had to ask myself, “How did I get to this place of self-awareness?”  For me,  it was a deep mis-trust of man that paralyzed me on a daily basis.  The sequence of life events that shook me to the core began to pile up.  I woke up one day, and said, “How did I get to this place of not trusting anyone?”  I felt guilty because I was  not able to trust and love people in the way I knew I should.  The unforgiveness had a hold of me.  But to truly forgive is not something you do effortlessly.  It is a process.  Revisiting your childhood through remembering is part of the healing process.

 

 What were the messages that your parents or people who raised you regarding important issues- such as love, compassion, fear, patience, diversity?  What were the lessons that our parents and teachers taught us?  Were we allowed to be children?  Did we have a childhood? 

 

 Our subconscious blueprint of who we are, what the world is like, etc., is learned by a very young age. These early experiences and our subconscious decisions about them, control the way we are into adulthood.  It is when we experience imagesCAY4U1DNdeep, unresolved pain or abuse from childhood, that we discover the underlying beliefs.  You may not begin to process your past, until you are forced with hard situations in your relationships, workplace, and your own family in the present. 

 

Some of the most common and hurtful emotions are shame and guilt.  Shame is rooted in a belief that who you are is not okay.  Guilt indicates that what you do is not okay.  If we are in a place where we experience these emotions from day to day, it becomes a counteractive process to healing.  It makes us feel raw inside.  That’s why it’s so important to allow people to heal when they need to.  Reinforcing shame and guilt for things of the past is never good practice and pours salt on a raw spirit.  If you want to help someone heal from an abusive past, be an encourager. 

 

I pray for you today, as you become aware of your past and make decisions that impact the lives of your family.  It is my hope and prayer for you that you decide to be proactive in your decisions.  Moving forward  is so much easier with a forgiving heart. 

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Being a “Noticing Parent” in the midst of Struggling Teens

One of the things that I’ve noticed as a mom with teens is the amount of  pressure that teens are under.  Society tells them that  they have to dress the…

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One of the things that I’ve noticed as a mom with teens is the amount of  pressure that teens are under.  Society tells them that  they have to dress the best, have the best grades, or be a part of a particular group of kids or organization.  As a mom and teacher, I realize that we have the power to encourage the unrealistic ideas or foster healthy, realistic ones.   What can we do to empower kids to be all that they are called to be?

One of my personal goals, as a parent, is to maintain a life of honesty.   Many adults stay away from telling kids about their past.  They think that kids will possibly make the same poor choices they did.  But telling them the truth is not enough.  They need to know that you have grown or learned from the experiences.  Remember, just because you shared a particular mistake with them, as well as what you learned doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t go through the same problem.  Ultimately, their decision-making is their own. 

How can we empower kids and teens to live a life of honesty and good-decision making?  Modeling honesty is important for them to see.  If kids live with dishonest parents, then dishonesty will show up in a kid’s life at some point and on some level.  Also, give kids a foundation for their spiritual development.  Kids need to know that there is a higher purpose for their lives and that there is life after death.  It gives them a peace and a hope for their future. 

Communicating with your child or teen on a regular basis helps them feel that they are not alone.  Kids and teens are under a lot of strain these days.  Be their support and someone they can talk to.  That way, when they do have problems, you will be the one they come to.  You may wonder what you will talk about.  Start with your own experiences.  Their may be some surprising common ground that will begin the process of open and honest communication.  

 If you are a parent who is struggling with the past and present, don’t lose hope.  It is never too late to change your course of life.  While forgiving people that hurt us seems next to impossible during periods of your life, hang in there.  Let yourself process the events and begin finding ways to heal.   Being reactive is a natural response to things that surprise us or catch us off guard.  Being angry and bitter can be an initial response and a coping mechanism for many.  However, anger and bitterness can begin to turn into a poison in your life, if you let it. Take the bitterness and anger and turn it into a passion for change.  Surely, we can celebrate the good that sometimes comes from the bad things that happen.

  I am praying for you today, if you are a parent who is struggling with your past and your present. I have been in that place, myself.  It is when we embrace both, that we can see our future in a new light.  Believe me, if I can kick habits, gain new perspective, and develop a plan for thinking differently, ANYONE CAN.

 

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