If you truly know God, then you should know his way of doing things is one hundred times better than our own. Especially when it comes to relationships, God knows a thing or two about how we can not only find true, lasting love, but how we can improve our relationship as the years go by.

There are so many attributes that are talked about in the Bible in order to have or improve a healthy relationship. I wanted to focus on a few of the main things you can work on just like I do in my own relationship. You can’t argue with what the Bible has to say!

PATIENCE

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” – Ephesians 4:2

You may think you’re a patient person, but recognize the next time you start tapping your foot or rolling your eyes. Patience comes solely from a place of love and a peaceful mind. Next time your boyfriend starts testing your patience, take a deep breath, and remember how patient God is with us and how undeserving we are of his mercy.

ENDURANCE

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” – Colossians 3:23

Disagreement, jealousy, bitterness, and so many other things can cause relationships to get hard at times. If you know you’re with the person God wants you to be with, that relationship will require work, even when things get rough. This isn’t an excuse to stay in a toxic relationship, but when you know your boyfriend or girlfriend is the one, you have to put in the effort to make it work no matter what.

SINCERITY 

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” – Romans 12:9

If your relationship isn’t sincere, truthful, and genuine, then you probably shouldn’t be in it in the first place. Sincerity and honesty is something God holds so highly, because it allows you to fully trust the other person. Love must be sincere, and if we practice that daily, good things will happen in our relationships.

SELFLESSNESS

 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

If you want to know the best way to do relationships, read 1 Corinthians 13. The above passage lists so many characteristics of a healthy, godly relationship. Practicing selflessness could be as simple as cooking a nice meal for your boyfriend/girlfriend, getting them their favorite coffee, or even accepted defeat in an argument (which I know may not be the easiest thing!).

Practice these four qualities in your relationship and watch how things can change for the better. If we have the means to improve our relationship, why wouldn’t we? 🙂

– Chelsea