Most of us have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages.” It is a great book to read with your significant other to better understand how they show love and how they like to receive it! It has definitely helped my boyfriend and I understand eachother on a deeper level. All of us need different things to “fill our love tank.” That means that sometimes we have to turn those love languages back on ourselves and discover what our “self-love” love language is. What I need in order to feel like I am treating myself well and caring for myself may be totally different from what you need. We may even need a little of each love language! Are you speaking your own?
Acts of service: This is my #1. I love when people help me do things or do them for me. AKA taking my car to get gas for me, taking out the trash without me asking, anything that normally I would have to take time to do but they do it instead. So, how can I show myself love through acts of service? I can give myself what I need when I need it. I can take care of myself and make sure my mind and body are healthy and where they need to be. If this is your love language, cook yourself a nice meal, enjoy a nap, or let yourself indulge in an episode of your favorite TV show.
Gifts: This is the one that I identify with the least. I feel almost uncomfortable accepting gifts. I never know what to say! I feel like “thank you” just doesn’t cover it. But, if this is your love language, treat yo’ self. This is not to say that you should go blow a ton of money, I am all for budgeting and being smart with your spending. But, every once in a while, it is okay to spend $10 at Starbucks because you need a pick-me-up. It doesn’t cost a lot to be kind to yourself! Is there something that you have been really wanting? Start budgeting and then treat yourself to it. Invest in yourself!
Quality time: This love language comes in second for me. I love spending time with my loved ones, whether it is on a family vacation or just sitting around in the living room watching The Bachelor together. It doesn’t matter where we are as long as we are together. In order to show yourself some quality time, spend time doing something you love. Take a run or a walk by yourself. Give yourself some “me-time” to be able to journal or reflect. Go have fun and take time to do one of your hobbies.
Physical touch: Go get yourself a massage. Give your tired weary muscles some love. Have a spa day, even if it is just at home in your living room with a $1 Target face mask. Do some yoga, and go get a green smoothie. Again, treat yo’ self.
Words of affirmation: I go through phases where I am really good at this and then the next week I can fall out of touch with it. I try and affirm my friends and loved onces as often as possible, but sometimes you get in a rut. It is so important to make sure you aren’t forgetting to affirm yourself. Build yourself up and cheer yourself on. Remind yourself how good you are doing, and say it out loud! Think about yourself in a positive light. It can be a game changer!
Now go show yourself some self-love.