Chelsea Crockett

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Leave It, Then See It

God’s timing is perfect. It is never early, and never late. We may not always agree with it, but it is divinely appointed and we can’t argue with it. Patience…

God’s timing is perfect. It is never early, and never late. We may not always agree with it, but it is divinely appointed and we can’t argue with it. Patience is something I, and I think most people, struggle with. We want things now, and we want them just the way we like them. Stress tells us that we need everything right this second and we need it to happen now. Faith tells us something different. Faith reminds us that everything will happen when God says that it will happen.

I saw a quote the other day that said “Those who leave everything in God’s hands will eventually see God’s hands in everything.” So, to shorten that quote, I say “Leave it, then see it.”

I am good at giving things to God. I cast my cares on Him. I share the anxieties of my heart and the worries on my mind with Him. I am good at giving things to Him. But, that doesn’t mean I am good at leaving them there. I have a tendency to want to take things back and do them my own way. I have never regretted giving anything to God. I have regretted taking things back.

Isaiah 41:9-10 says I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you. I said, ‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

This verse describes us as the Lord’s servants. We have been chosen by Him. We have no need to be afraid or dismayed because He strengthens and helps us. He loves us and upholds us. Why wouldn’t we leave everything in His hands?

What are you holding on – or trying to take back- from God? Is it career choices, financial struggles, health issues, relationship trials, etc.? Put your fears, doubts, questions and anxieties in the hands of the One who knows every hair on your head. He knows yesterday, today, and tomorrow. He can calm the seas with a single word. He gave sight to the blind. He made the lame to walk. What makes you think he can’t handle your worries?

I am still learning, and will be for a long time, how to trust the hands of the One who created the universe. He will give you peace and security. He will give you clarity. And, best of all, He will give you joy. Leaving everything in His hands means you can see His hands in everything.

XOXO, Chels

 

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When You Can’t See God’s Plan

I am a planner. I like to plan my days, and even months, out. I like to know that I have a solid agenda scheduled out. It helps me feel…

I am a planner. I like to plan my days, and even months, out. I like to know that I have a solid agenda scheduled out. It helps me feel like I have my life under control and, hopefully, prevents chaos. Nothing could possibly go wrong when you have your life planned out, right?

Wrong. The times when my plans didn’t turn out the way I had envisioned are the times when my faith is tested the most. These are also the times when I learn the most about myself – how I respond to crisis, how I react in uncomfortable situations, and how I recover. But why would God let this happen? Why would he disrupt your perfectly thought-out plans? Where is God in the midst of your situation?

The answer is simple to hear but difficult to understand: it is part of His plan. I recently went through a situation where I had planned months and months for something, and when the event finally happened, it was not what I thought it would be. I felt anxious, afraid, sad and confused. Why would God allow this? When I prayed about this and planned for it and searched for His will every step of the way? I am learning right along with you, friends.

James 1:2-3 was a verse quoted to me during my trial. It says “Consider it pure joy my brothers, when you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.” I didn’t want to hear this at the time, but it was the truth. It is what I needed to hear. I am supposed to feel joy in the midst of my crippling anxiety? Yes. I am supposed to feel joy when I am paralyzed with fear? Yes. How? Think about the end result.

Focus on the end goal. Remember that nothing worth fighting for was ever easy to achieve. Those trials will make the end success even sweeter. Knowing you pushed past your weaknesses and overcame your doubts is euphoric. Being on the other side and seeing the lessons you learned and the new things you found out about yourself helps all of the pieces fall in place. Everything begins to make sense, and God’s purpose becomes clearer. When you are in the middle of the trial, facing it head on and feeling as though you will never see the light at the end of the tunnel, it can be hard to understand why God would make you go through what you are going through.

Don’t let your situation cloud your vision. Keep your eyes on God. Keep your mind on His purpose and trusting in His plan, even when you cannot see it. Scripture tells us that God’s plan is not meant to harm us but to give us hope for the future. God made us and He loves us. He wants to see us succeed. That doesn’t mean he is going to make it easy. Who knows, maybe you are going through this trial because God wants you to be able to relate to others going through the same thing. Maybe He wants to use you to minister to others.

How you choose to react in trying times is so important. Your choices can either bring glory to God and be a testimony of your faith, or they can harden people’s hearts and turn them away from Him. Find God in the hard times by choosing to trust Him and find your hope in Him, even when you cannot see the way. Turn your pain into praise. Your heart will be filled with peace. And, trust in His plan. It may not be easy, it may not be pretty, it may not be anything you envisioned it would be, but His plans are greater than anything we could come up with on our own.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Habits of A Godly Woman

Growing up, I’ve been fortunate enough to have multiple role models and godly women to look up to in my life. I’ve witnessed the way they speak to others, the…

Growing up, I’ve been fortunate enough to have multiple role models and godly women to look up to in my life.

I’ve witnessed the way they speak to others, the way they not only talk the talk but walk the walk, and the way they carry themselves daily. It’s something I’ve always taken notice of and want to apply to my own life.

I thought about the characteristics and qualities about these women that make them stand out among the rest. There are 5 habits in particular that are not only backed up by scripture but easy to apply to your own life!

  1. She puts God above all else.

Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you.”

Putting God before school, relationships, our own desires, and so much more is so important. Once we learn to put God as our highest priority, everything else falls into place.

  1. She makes time for herself.

Matthew 11:28 says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

Setting apart time for yourself and for God is something you need to do in order to grow closer to Him and find out who you are in Christ!

Set apart a half an hour a day or more to give your undivided attention to God. It’s important to discover your true identity in Christ and in Christ alone!

  1. She treats her body like a temple.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies.  

Ladies! We should learn to respect ourselves and our bodies. God created us so uniquely and perfectly, and we should use our bodies to honor Him! What an amazing way to glorify him and his creations.

  1. She’s content in her singleness.

1 Corinthians 7:32,35 says, “I would like you to be free from concern… I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” 

Oftentimes, singleness is made out to be such a bad thing. But when we’re single and focusing solely on ourselves, we can work on self-growth and strengthening our relationship with God!

Consider it a gift. For most of us, there’s only so many years left of true singleness. Take advantage of them and be truly content in the waiting!

  1. She practices selflessness.

Philippians 2:4 says, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

When we learn to put the needs of others before our own desires, our attitude completely changes. We learn to extend a hand and help those we never thought we could’ve.

What other habits have you noticed in the lives of godly women? There are so many more qualities and characteristics that you can take note of to adapt to your own life!

Practice each of these habits daily and see what God does in your life!

– Chelsea

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Agree to Disagree: What God Says About Conflict

At every stage in your life, you’ll always encounter people that love conflict. They love drama and it seems to follow them wherever they go. There’s also those people that…

At every stage in your life, you’ll always encounter people that love conflict. They love drama and it seems to follow them wherever they go.

There’s also those people that you simply disagree with. Whether it’s over the littlest things or not, you seem to always butt heads over anything and everything.

Whatever the case, what does God say about those little arguments? What is his take on conflict and drama, and how should we handle these situations?

Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Along with Proverbs 16:32 that says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”

What do both of these verses have in common? Patience.

Be patient in the way you respond, be patient in the way you forgive, and be patient in the way you approach situations. Patience will teach you to be kind-hearted and slow to anger, which God commands us to be.     

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

You should never be quick to pick a fight. Know which battles are worth fighting and which ones are not.

God wants us to use our energy on positive things, like building each other up and lending a hand to those in need, whoever it may be. What he doesn’t want us doing is using our energy to tear each other down and start conflict where it’s not needed!

Another verse from Ephesians that gives me some of the best advice that I still stay true to today is Ephesians 4:26. It says: “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”

Although this verse is short and sweet, it gets straight to the point. My mom always told me you should never let yourself go to bed upset or angry with someone. It’s advice that has never let me down no matter what the situation is.

Resolve things as they happen. Don’t let them build up and allow a grudge to form. God wants us to be quick to forgive because he knows the consequences of letting anger build up inside of us.

Now is God saying we should never stand up for ourselves? Not at all.

He wants us to have the wisdom of knowing where and what we should involve ourselves in. Be the peace-maker, NOT the trouble-maker!

Look at it this way: How would Jesus respond in this situation? Would he be quick to argue or quick to bring about peace?

You can find SO much knowledge in God’s Word, so if you ever need guidance, this should be the first place you look!

Start approaching situations the way God would want you to. There’s so much to gain by looking at what God says and letting that light shine through on your life and the people around you!

– Chelsea

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Walk in Godly Wisdom

With age comes wisdom. And with knowledge of God’s word comes godly wisdom. Although wisdom is a good quality to have, godly wisdom is even more important. Knowing what God’s…

With age comes wisdom. And with knowledge of God’s word comes godly wisdom.

Although wisdom is a good quality to have, godly wisdom is even more important. Knowing what God’s word says and how we can apply it to our lives is crucial as a follower of Christ.

Although we might be young, age isn’t the only thing that brings upon wisdom. We can dive into God’s word now and gain the knowledge and wisdom he wants so badly for us to have!

James 3:17 says, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.

Let’s break this verse down piece-by-piece.

PURE

Our wisdom should be shown through the way we live our lives. What does God mean when he talks about pure wisdom? He wants us to live selflessly and holy, striving toward purity from sin.

PEACE-LOVING

He also wants us to strive toward peace. Use your wisdom to know what’s worth investing your time in and what’s not. Be wise about gossip, drama, or any situation involving conflict. Be slow to speak and quick to encourage peace.

CONSIDERATE

Next, comes being considerate. Taking into account the feelings of others and showing sympathy in the right situations spurs from godly wisdom. We should strive toward caring for other people before caring for ourselves.

SUBMISSIVE

What exactly does submissive mean when it comes to wisdom? We should be submitting to God’s authority and obeying by the rules he lays out for us in his Word. We shouldn’t be picking and choosing which of God’s rules we want to follow! He lays out everything for a reason, hand-picking each thing to advise us with.

FULL OF MERCY

What exactly is mercy? It’s defined as an act of kindness, compassion, or favor shown toward an offender or an enemy.

If you thoroughly study the Word of God, then you know He wants us to be full of mercy and compassionate toward others. The true test of wisdom is knowing how to forgive others and treat them maturely as Jesus would.

IMPARTIAL AND SINCERE

Lastly, God wants us to be fair, just, and honest. You know someone is wise by the way they carry themselves and the way they treat others.

If we treat others with fairness and honesty, they’ll most likely treat us the same. Sincerity is so important, and the more we see how Jesus treated his people throughout the Bible, the more we can see how we should treat others, as well!

I have one more important thought to leave you with:

Proverbs 4:7 says, “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”

Whatever you do, find wisdom. Engage in God’s Word and discover the true understanding of who He is and what He wants for your life.

– Chelsea

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3 Quiet Time Plans to Follow

A crucial part of being a follower of Christ is spending time with him and yearning to know him more and more. When the day comes when we’re standing at…

A crucial part of being a follower of Christ is spending time with him and yearning to know him more and more.

When the day comes when we’re standing at the gates of heaven, we want God to know us and know of the time we’ve spent so deeply and so frequently with him.

There are many ways to get to know Him more, one of which is to have daily quiet times, diving deeper into God’s Word and dissecting what each part of the Bible means.

Over the years, I’ve discovered and put into practice several different plans and ways to do quiet times. There are three different ones in particular that I find extremely beneficial no matter how far along your relationship with God is!

5 x 5 x 5 Reading Plan

If you’re new at quiet times or reading the Bible, this is the perfect plan to get your feet wet.

This plan calls for 5 minutes a day, 5 days a week, and 5 methods to dive deeper into the Word. Just start with a simple 5 minutes and see where that takes you! This is a good challenge and it can keep you accountable day-by-day!

As far as 5 ways to dive deeper, you can memorize, underline/highlight, reword, question, or pray about what you read for the day. I challenge you to do all 5 of these to get the most out of your quiet time!

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3 R’s Plan

This is one of my favorite plans. The three R’s stand for rejoice, repent, and request.

For “rejoice,” write down every part of the verses or chapter that gives you things to be thankful for.

For “repent,” write down anything that’s talked about in the chapter that God commands us not to do.  Think of which of these commands you struggle with, and write those down as well.

For “request,” write down anything you want to ask God for. Whether that be strength to stay out of the sin you repented or simply things you’ve been struggling with.

I always like to end with a prayer reviewing what I wrote down. This is the time to send your praises and requests to God!

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Journaling

This is a much looser version of a quiet time. Sometimes the less structure, the more you can let God speak to you!

Pick out a certain book or chapter of the Bible and read it once all the way through. Then go back and read it again verse by verse. Right down anything and everything that comes to mind. If you come across a verse that speaks to you, write it down.

End with a prayer and let your heart take over. Sometimes I even like writing down the prayer and simply letting my mind be open to whatever God wants to tell me! This also gives me the chance to go back and read what I wrote down in the future.

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Which way are you going to try out? All of them are great places to start if you want to build a better relationship with God. Pick one and get started! 🙂

– Chelsea

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Intentional Thankfulness

Thankfulness is a learned trait. It’s something that has to become a habit, by practicing it over and over again. Intentional thankfulness is an area I’ve been trying to grow…

Thankfulness is a learned trait.

It’s something that has to become a habit, by practicing it over and over again.

Intentional thankfulness is an area I’ve been trying to grow in. When you learn to be thankful for even the little things, your whole outlook completely changes.

On the days that don’t go as planned or the days that seem like the world is against you, it can be hard to find even the smallest things to be thankful for.

I have a challenge for you. On these days, when your mood is down and your ground is shaken, start with gratitude. Let’s take a look at what God has to say about it.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

The Bible doesn’t say to give thanks in some circumstances, it commands us to give thanks in all circumstances. Even on our worst days, we should make an effort to see the good around us.

For some of us, this comes naturally. For others, it can take a conscious effort to look for the good in situations.

The Bible also talks about generosity and how it too can lead to thankfulness.

2 Corinthians 9:11 says, “You will be enriched in every way so that you can be generous on every occasion, and through us your generosity will result in thanksgiving to God.”

When we humble ourselves and give to others, we become more thankful for what we have. Whether that be physical giving like food, gifts, etc. or giving time through volunteering or simply helping out a friend, our day-by-day attitude changes!

When we swallow our pride and humble ourselves, God does something in our hearts. He reveals even the smallest of blessings to us, things you never would’ve seen before you allowed him to work in your life.

It’s worth a try, right?

For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving.” 1 Timothy 4:4-5 gives us the truth about God’s creations. Everything is good and nothing is to be rejected.

Sometimes God sends us blessings in disguise. When your boyfriend breaks up with you or you fail a test, remember that there are hidden things you can be thankful for, you just have to change your thinking!

Everything always comes full circle, whether it be the in next week or 5 years down the road. Maybe you’ll meet the real love of your life soon after your boyfriend breaks up with you. Or maybe that failed test led you to pick a major you’re more passionate about.

Whatever it may be, thank God. Thank him for the setbacks, the disappointments, the unexpected twists and turns. You never know what he has planned for you.

And if it were me, I would take his plan over mine, every single time.

– Chelsea

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Finding Your Purpose in a Big World

The world is full of 7.4 billion people. To put that into perspective, if you multiply the population of the United States 22 times, you still wouldn’t exceed the earth’s…

The world is full of 7.4 billion people.

To put that into perspective, if you multiply the population of the United States 22 times, you still wouldn’t exceed the earth’s population. It’s more than the amount of people living in New York City… if you multiplied it by 866.

You never really think of how big the world is and how you are only 1 of the 7 billion on this planet.

I don’t say these things to discourage you or make you feel less important, I just want you to realize how big of a world God created and recognize the true scale of its greatness.

On the contrary, I want YOU to recognize the true scale of your own greatness, the greatness that God designed in you since the beginning of your life.

Take a look at Psalm 119:

 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Read that verse through again. The creator of the entire universe knew every detail about you before you were even brought into this world. He created you to be wonderful, God-fearing, and perfect in his eyes.

Knowing that the same God who created the ocean and the stars in the sky created me and you individually and perfectly, we should have full confidence in the fact that HE has a bigger purpose for OUR lives.

1 Peter 2:9 says, “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”

We are a part of something much bigger than ourselves. We are chosen for God’s perfect mission on this earth. We should act as if we are God’s special possession like the Bible says. Once we believe this, our confidence, boldness, and joy will overflow into our lives!

2 Corinthians 8:21 says, “Our purpose is to do what is right, not only in the right of the Lord, but also in the sight of others.”

Do you know what it means to be a witness for Christ? It means to live your life in a Christ-like manner for others to see. The way we talk the talk and walk the walk can push others to desire a relationship with God!

Extend a hand to your friends, your family, even strangers passing by. We should allow God to shine his light through our own lives.

Our time here is limited. We should be living for God and fulfilling his purpose for our lives, whatever that may be!

Find your confidence in HIM. We may just be 1 person out of 7 billion, but we have a special purpose in HIM and HIM alone!

– Chelsea

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How to De-Clutter Your Mind

Have you ever gotten to a point where you feel like you cannot fit anything else in your head? Your mind is so full and you have so much going…

Have you ever gotten to a point where you feel like you cannot fit anything else in your head? Your mind is so full and you have so much going on that it starts to take a toll. We pay attention to everything else in life and invest so much time in what is happening on the outside that we neglect what is happening on the inside. This causes mental clutter, and mental clutter can cause you anxiety and stress. I feel like sometimes I need to drag and drop everything swirling around in my head into the trash can. I need to hit the refresh button or I am going to burn out. Clutter isn’t good for anyone. It suppresses our productivity and creativity! Here are a few ways to refresh your mind and get rid of the clutter.

The first order of business is to get your priorities in check. Prioritize your goals and lay them out to help you organize your decisions. Another great tool is lists. Write down all of your responsibilities, daily goals, ideas, life goals, things to do and so on. Laying these things out helps take them from your brain onto paper and prevents you from forgetting them. Once they are written down, clear some space in your mind.

One thing that really helps me is having a set routine. I get up around the same time every morning, and I try to keep things pretty routine during the day. Not only does this keep me goal-oriented and productive, it keeps me sane. I know that I am getting everything done that I need to be because it is part of my routine. Having structure keeps the worry and clutter away. Also, be aware of why you are doing the things you are doing during the day. Remind yourself that your actions have a purpose and you are working towards a goal, whether that is school or work or other personal goals.

Working out is also a huge part of keeping my mind clear and focused. Taking care of my body not only helps with my self-image but it also boosts my mood. Exercising is my “me time” when I get to listen to music and push myself. It helps me clear my head and refocus.

What helps you keep the mental clutter away? I would love to hear how you keep your mind clear and focused. We are all different and have minds of our own!

Chels

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20 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend on Date Night

Have you ever been on a date with your boyfriend or husband and realized that you can’t think of anything to talk about with them? It’s not that you are…

Have you ever been on a date with your boyfriend or husband and realized that you can’t think of anything to talk about with them? It’s not that you are uninterested in them, it is just that you think you know pretty much everything that is happening in their life and know pretty much everything about them. What else is there to ask? That is when you must start thinking outside the box. I love “uncommon” questions because they are the ones that spark the most interesting and enlightening conversations. Want to go deeper on your dates and learn more about what makes your significant other the way they are? Start with one (or a few) of these questions.

  1. Tell me 5 things I don’t know about you.
  2. What are the top 3 things that make you happy?
  3. What 3 things would you tell your 16-year-old self if you could?
  4. What are 2 of your passions and why?
  5. What do you hope to be remembered for?
  6. If you could change one part of your body, what would it be?
  7. What is your favorite feature on your body, or your favorite personality trait?
  8. List 5 people that have had influence on you and why.
  9. What is your favorite childhood memory?
  10. If you could drop everything and go on a road trip right now, where would you go?
  11. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  12. What does your perfect day look like?
  13. What makes you nervous?
  14. What is a movie that you disliked so much that you would never watch again?
  15. What is the biggest lesson you have learned from past relationships.
  16. What makes you angry?
  17. What do you look forward to most about getting old?
  18. What is the best thing about how your parents raised you?
  19. What are you hard on yourself for?
  20. If money was no object, where would you live?

These are definitely great conversation starters. I am taking these on mine and Nick’s next date! I love learning more about him and what makes him “him.” These will keep the conversation rolling for hours.

Chels

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Knowing Your Self-Love Language

Most of us have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages.” It is a great book to read with your significant other to better understand how they show love…

Most of us have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages.” It is a great book to read with your significant other to better understand how they show love and how they like to receive it! It has definitely helped my boyfriend and I understand eachother on a deeper level. All of us need different things to “fill our love tank.” That means that sometimes we have to turn those love languages back on ourselves and discover what our “self-love” love language is. What I need in order to feel like I am treating myself well and caring for myself may be totally different from what you need. We may even need a little of each love language! Are you speaking your own?

Acts of service: This is my #1. I love when people help me do things or do them for me. AKA taking my car to get gas for me, taking out the trash without me asking, anything that normally I would have to take time to do but they do it instead. So, how can I show myself love through acts of service? I can give myself what I need when I need it. I can take care of myself and make sure my mind and body are healthy and where they need to be. If this is your love language, cook yourself a nice meal, enjoy a nap, or let yourself indulge in an episode of your favorite TV show.

Gifts: This is the one that I identify with the least. I feel almost uncomfortable accepting gifts. I never know what to say! I feel like “thank you” just doesn’t cover it. But, if this is your love language, treat yo’ self. This is not to say that you should go blow a ton of money, I am all for budgeting and being smart with your spending. But, every once in a while, it is okay to spend $10 at Starbucks because you need a pick-me-up. It doesn’t cost a lot to be kind to yourself! Is there something that you have been really wanting? Start budgeting and then treat yourself to it. Invest in yourself!

Quality time: This love language comes in second for me. I love spending time with my loved ones, whether it is on a family vacation or just sitting around in the living room watching The Bachelor together. It doesn’t matter where we are as long as we are together. In order to show yourself some quality time, spend time doing something you love. Take a run or a walk by yourself. Give yourself some “me-time” to be able to journal or reflect. Go have fun and take time to do one of your hobbies.

Physical touch: Go get yourself a massage. Give your tired weary muscles some love. Have a spa day, even if it is just at home in your living room with a $1 Target face mask. Do some yoga, and go get a green smoothie. Again, treat yo’ self.

Words of affirmation: I go through phases where I am really good at this and then the next week I can fall out of touch with it. I try and affirm my friends and loved onces as often as possible, but sometimes you get in a rut. It is so important to make sure you aren’t forgetting to affirm yourself. Build yourself up and cheer yourself on. Remind yourself how good you are doing, and say it out loud! Think about yourself in a positive light. It can be a game changer!

Now go show yourself some self-love.

Chels

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25 Kind Things to do for Your Significant Other

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is…

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is definitely key in maintaining a healthy relationship. No matter how big or small, acts of kindness never go unnoticed or unappreciated. Here are some easy ideas on how to serve your significant other and make them feel loved.

  1. Start a conversation with him that you know he will really value.
  2. Watch a sports game with him (or an event that he really loves to watch)
  3. Leave a sweet love note in his backpack or coat pocket so he will find it later.
  4. Brag about him in front of his friends. It will make him feel proud and will boost his self-esteem!
  5. Pray for him. Then, let him know that you have been praying for him.
  6. Hold his hand in public, when you are in the car, any time you can!
  7. Tell him how much you appreciate him. Give him specific examples of things that you appreciate about him.
  8. Do one of his daily chores for him, like taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, or anything else he usually does.
  9. Cook him his favorite meal.
  10. Let him pick the movie or restaurant or desert or whatever you are doing for date night!
  11. Leave your phone, tv, or computer off while you are eating dinner and give him your undivided attention.
  12. Give him a genuine compliment (or two)
  13. Write an encouraging Bible verse and place it somewhere he’ll see it.
  14. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him, or if you can help him with anything.
  15. Surprise him at work with his favorite lunch or coffee.
  16. Send him a random text in the middle of the day telling him you are thinking about him.
  17. Bake his favorite treat.
  18. Take his car and get it washed, vacuum it out, and make it look squeaky clean!
  19. Make him a mix tape CD or Spotify playlist with songs that make you think of him.
  20. Brag about him on your social media.
  21. Surprise him with something he loves, like tickets to see his favorite band or a new book by his favorite author.
  22. Tell him that you are glad he is in your life.
  23. Play his favorite board game or video game with him.
  24. Ask him to go on a walk or bike ride with you.
  25. Go out and do his hobby with him. It may not be your favorite thing, but he will appreciate your effort to spend time with him!

Doing ALL of these things definitely isn’t necessary, but there are definitely some great ideas on this list! Whatever place you are at in life, whatever season you are going through, you can always find ways, however big or small, to make your significant other feel loved and appreciated.

Chels

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Avoiding Spiritual Mismatch

Spiritual mismatch was a term I rarely ever heard of, let alone had given any thought of what it meant for my life and those around me. Recently, I’ve been…

Spiritual mismatch was a term I rarely ever heard of, let alone had given any thought of what it meant for my life and those around me.

Recently, I’ve been exposed to how important and crucial it is to be on the same page as those who you surround yourself with.

Ever heard of the quote: “your vibe attracts your tribe”? I can see how this reigns true in the lives of almost everyone around me. My friends that are loud and outgoing oftentimes tend to lean toward others who are also loud and outgoing. Same for the friends that are quiet, funny, crazy, etc.

Although that’s not always the case, and sometimes opposites do attract, we often like to group ourselves with the people who are similar to us. Instead of only looking for certain personality traits, we should also look for spiritual traits, those who can push us toward having a better relationship with the Lord.

Ever heard of the phrase “spurring one another on?” Hebrews talks about the importance of it in the lives of Christ followers.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

We should look for people who are going to push us toward God’s love and inspire us to do the deeds he wants us to accomplish. In this verse, he talks about “meeting together,” or in other words, fellowship.

Fellowship should be a big part of your life. God doesn’t just suggest it, he demands it. He knows that without a good group of people to continually “spur” you on, it’s easy to slip away from the path God has created for you.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

Again, God speaks of the importance of fellowship. If we surround ourselves with people who have opposite values, morals, or beliefs, it can be hard to stay true to our own.  We need to have a good balance of people we can be influenced by and people who we ourselves can have influence on.

So, how can we avoid spiritual mismatch?

Take a step back and look at your life. Are you doing the things God speaks of in Hebrews and 2 Corinthians? Are you letting the people in your life influence you for the better?

I challenge you to make some changes in your life. Surround yourself with the people who “match up” with how you want to live your life.

It makes a world of a difference and will make you the best version of yourself that you can be!

– Chelsea

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Conquering Comparison

I never noticed I struggled with comparison. Growing up, I didn’t give it much thought as to who was “prettier,” “smarter,” “more popular,” etc. Everyone was friends with everyone and…

I never noticed I struggled with comparison. Growing up, I didn’t give it much thought as to who was “prettier,” “smarter,” “more popular,” etc. Everyone was friends with everyone and that was that.

Growing up and experiencing the pressures of junior high and high school, comparison started to creep in. Being a teenage girl, we all experience the pressures of society whether that be from friends, TV shows, movies, or anything else that makes you feel like you’re not living up to societal standards.

The society we live in gives unrealistic expectations that make us feel less than, devalued, and insecure at times, and I know we’ve all felt the pressure of these expectations before.

Whenever I’m faced with something, whether it be comparison, pressure, etc., my first thought is to look and see what the Bible has to say about it. And when the topic of comparison comes up, God has some wise words we should all take note of!

Galatians 6:4-5 says, “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load.” 

Whenever I struggle with comparison, I think back to this verse in Galatians. Let’s break this verse down piece by piece.

“Each one should test their own actions.” Take a look at yourself. How are your actions? Are they aligned with how you want them to be? You and God should be the only two allowed to judge what you do, not under the scrutiny of others!

“Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.” God wants us to have the pride and confidence that he sees in us. We are God’s masterpieces and he wants us to see the beauty in us!

“For each one should carry their own load.” God doesn’t expect us to carry the loads of those around us. He doesn’t want us feeling the weight of others’ expectations or standards. We answer to someone much higher than anyone on this earth, not the friends or people around us!

Another verse in Galatians says this: “Am I saying this now to win the approval of people or God? Am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be Christ’s servant.” – Galatians 1:10

God didn’t create us to please others. If he did, we would spend our entire lives worrying about what other people think and do.

Once we remember that our purpose is to please God and only God, comparison seems like only a distant worry.

How can you start building your confidence today? Know your worth and recognize who the Lord of your life is!

Be confident, be bold, and be proud of the masterpiece God created you to be. 

– Chelsea

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Is Heaven Too Good to Be True?

We all grow up thinking about what happens to us after we die. A lot of people I grew up with believed in heaven, but started to question it the…

We all grow up thinking about what happens to us after we die. A lot of people I grew up with believed in heaven, but started to question it the older they got.

How good can it be? Will it be similar to our lives now? Will there actually be angels flying all around? There are so many misconceptions and doubts about what heaven is actually like.

Although we’ll never actually know the wonder of heaven until we get there, God gives us several hints throughout the Bible. I like to call these the “sneak peeks” into what eternal life will look like for us.

So, let’s answer this: Is the idea of Heaven too good to be true?

No More Suffering

Revelation 21:4 gives us one of the most comforting verses of the Bible. It says, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

Can you imagine waking up one day never having to feel pain or sadness again? I don’t know about you, but I don’t think there could be anything better.  This isn’t a myth, or something you read online, it’s a true promise that God gives to his people.

It Gives Us Hope

Revelation 22:5 says, “There will be no more night. They will not need the light of a lamp or the light of the sun, for the Lord God will give them light. And they will reign for ever and ever.”

This is the part we need to make note of.

God doesn’t say his people will reign in heaven for 10 years, 100 years, or 1,000 years. He says they will reign for ever and ever, and the Lord will give them light. He’s talking about US! How cool is it to know that God is preparing a place as amazing as this for US?

We are so undeserving but God still gives us the hope of the future and eternal life with HIM!

We Have God’s Promise

Revelation 22:6 says, “The angel said to me, ‘These words are trustworthy and true. The Lord, the God who inspires the prophets, sent his angel to show his servants the things that must soon take place.’”

Like I mentioned before, the book of Revelation isn’t just a fictional story God wrote to entertain us, it’s a look into what we could have if we lay down our lives and follow him.

Now that you’ve read a little glimpse into heaven, you may be thinking: so how do I, a sinner undeserving of this amazing place, get there?

John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in HIM shall not perish but have eternal life.”

By simply believing in Jesus and accepting him into your life, you can experience the wonder of heaven for yourself!

Thankfully, He is always faithful and so are his promises.

– Chelsea

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Guarding Your Heart 101

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships. Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching…

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships.

Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching feelings, it covers several areas of your life you wouldn’t even think of.

When it comes to different areas in our life, we should practice guarding our hearts from anything that could damage it.

Maybe music is your weak point. What songs are affecting you negatively? Maybe it’s movies. What movies put bad thoughts into your head over and over again?

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

For boys:

This is a big one ladies. I know for me, I grew up dreaming of the husband God was preparing for me. Every guy I dated, I always wondered in the back of my head if he was the one.

For a while, I would pour out my heart to every boyfriend I had. In the end, I would be left broken and empty because I rushed to give so much of my heart to whoever I was in a relationship with.

I soon after learned a very important lesson: stop giving my heart to the hands that can break it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Once you find the kind of love God describes in 1 Corinthians, then you can start your journey of letting your guard down.

Until then, be careful who you give parts of your heart to. Seek God and you’ll find him in all areas of your life, even your relationships.

For friends:

When you’re with your friends, learn which ones are lifelong and which are temporary. Learn who you can trust with your secrets and venting sessions.

I learned this the hard way, by trusting too many people and giving too many of my “friends” access to all areas of my life.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

God wants you to have good fellowship and to keep those in your life who encourage and build you up. You just have to know who’s wise and who you should walk with.

For the things of this world:

As far as music, movie, TV shows, etc., you retain more of the information you hear and watch than you think.

After a while, the harsh words you hear or the vulgar scenes you watch may start to take a toll on you.  Put into your body the things that are going to leave a positive impact on you, not a negative one.

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There’s a strong difference between guarding your heart and shutting people out. It’s important to know when to let your guard down and when to keep it up.

God wants us to protect ourselves from the things that take us away from Him.

I challenge you to practice the things God talks about in the Bible. Once again, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

– Chelsea

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