Chelsea Crockett

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For When You’re Feeling Low…

Whether you’re feeling lonely, anxious, depressed, or anything below average, you know that common feeling of a pit in your stomach and a head filled of wandering thoughts. These emotions…

Whether you’re feeling lonely, anxious, depressed, or anything below average, you know that common feeling of a pit in your stomach and a head filled of wandering thoughts. These emotions chip away at your happiness and make you start to believe the “what ifs” you’ve been telling yourself all along.

God never intended for us to feel sadness, anger, heartbreak, or any other negative emotion. But because we’re human, we feel all of these, sometimes separately and sometimes all at once. Although it may be rare to audibly hear the voice of God, we have the Bible which is the closest thing to it.

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.”

It’s easy to let your mind take control. What’s harder is replacing those thoughts with those of which that are truly lovely and praiseworthy. There is so much power in positivity and thanksgiving, so make a conscious effort to trade your bad thoughts for happy thoughts like the Bible says to!

Psalm 34:17-18 says, “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Whether you have to read this every night or even make it your phone background, do it! Knowing that the Lord is close to us in our brokenness is something that’s so comforting and reassuring. He loves us in our sad times, in our dark times, and even in our rebellious times.

For the times you feel worthless, know that God thinks just the opposite. He sees you as his perfect child that he loves and cares for more than we can even comprehend. 2 Corinthians 6:18 says, “’And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me,’ says the Lord Almighty.”

When God calls us his children, we need to fully understand what this means. God calls us his own, and he protects us, loves us, and extends his grace and mercy to us. What more could we possibly ask for?

Once again, we are human. It’s common to experience the feeling of sadness and loneliness more often than not.

Lean on HIM! Read deep into his word and feel the presence of God all around you. It’s okay to feel low and it’s okay to feel abandoned, but it’s not okay to let those thoughts take over.

Here’s a simple prayer you can pray to God when these feelings start to resurface. Say “Dear Lord, when feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and self-doubt creep into my heart, help me to see myself the way you do. Help me to recognize that I am your child, loved by you and perfect in your image.  Amen.”

Use this prayer when you need it and even when you don’t. It’s a perfect reminder of how God sees us through his eyes: his perfect, beautiful, wonderful creation.

– Chelsea

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When to Bite Your Tongue

How do you know when it’s time to keep your mouth shut and when it’s time to speak your mind? We walk such a fine line of wanting to say…

How do you know when it’s time to keep your mouth shut and when it’s time to speak your mind? We walk such a fine line of wanting to say what we truly want to say while still adhering to scripture and what God would want at the same time. There are five situations in which I find myself wanting to say what’s on my mind but knowing it’s best to bite my tongue!

When you are angry:

Being angry is the #1 reason that hurtful words are oftentimes said. The emotional buildup that comes from anger can lead to saying things you don’t even mean.

James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” 

Slow to speak and slow to become angry. These are the two parts of the verse that we really need to pay attention to. We grew up with the phrase: “think before you speak,” and I think that’s still applicable to life today! Don’t let anger be a gateway to regret!

When you’re tempted to gossip: 

Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Gossip is one of the easiest sins to fall into. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it! If you find yourself in a situation where you’re tempted to gossip, either remove yourself or think of a new topic to talk about. Let your conversations be full of encouragement and positivity!

When it’s time to listen:

Sometimes all a friend needs is for someone to listen to them instead of overbearing them with advice or trying to tell them what they’re doing is wrong. When was the last time someone sat and simply listened to you? We all need these moments, and it’s important to recognize when the people close to us need them, as well.

If your words will be hurtful:

Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

If you know what you’re about to say may be hurtful, then stop and think: is this benefiting anyone? Sometimes it’s necessary to be honest and straightforward, but there can be a fine line between hurtful and truthful.

If your words don’t reflect the Lord:

As followers of Christ, people watch what we say and do whether we know they are or not. Our words and actions should reflect who Jesus is as our Lord and Savior.

Psalm 19:14 says, “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

If you’re wondering if you should bite your tongue, think if Jesus would approve of what you’re about to say. Although we’ll never be perfect, we can take steps to ensure that our words are pleasing to the Lord!

Start today by creating positivity and encouragement around you by what you say. Use your words to lift people up instead of tear them down. It starts with one person to make a difference in the conversations you’re having daily! Stop tearing people down and start lifting people up, even if that means staying silent! 🙂

– Chelsea

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Balancing Emotions

Emotions are a crazy thing. One moment you’re happy, the next moment you’re sad; one second you’re loving life, the next you’re angry at the world. What is going on?!…

Emotions are a crazy thing. One moment you’re happy, the next moment you’re sad; one second you’re loving life, the next you’re angry at the world. What is going on?! Learning how to balance emotions is tricky, but it can be done. Once you’ve learned how to control the way you feel, life will be a much happier place!Chelsea Crockett- worry

  1. When I am feeling stressed, upset, or unappreciated I always turn to my Bible. It reassures me that I am loved, taken care of, and that God will take care of anything that is worrying me.
  2. Make a list of everything you are thankful for. Every time you are sad or angry, read the list. You will realize how much you should be grateful for.
  3. Surround yourself with people that lift you up! If you notice a friend that is always negative or putting you down, it’s time to drop them. If they aren’t doing anything to benefit your life, it’s time to move on.
  4. Go for a run! Running releases endorphins, which, in the simple sense, makes your brain happy.
  5. Take time for yourself. I understand that school, work, sports, family, and friends can be a lot to handle at once, but it’s important to take time to breathe. Set aside 30 minutes to 1 hour a day to watch your favorite show, do a DIY project, or just hangout!

Life is good, so let’s spend it happily!

            Chelsea  

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“Let your Kids be your Mirror”

 Being reactive to crisis is a response to things that we don’t expect to happen.  We may be hurt and angry when unfair events or crisis occur in our lives.  …

mirror-self-reflection-image Being reactive to crisis is a response to things that we don’t expect to happen.  We may be hurt and angry when unfair events or crisis occur in our lives.   There are some events that seem so overwhelming, some may choose to cope by holding onto feelings of anger, resentment, and unforgiveness. Ask yourself some questions.  How long will I choose the path of anger, resentment, and bitterness?  Who am I hurting in the process?  Is it time to leave the emotions behind and do the hard work?  Who can help me move forward?  Be honest with yourself and to others when you can’t do it alone.  Ask for help, and when you are not getting it, keep asking.  Good counsel is sometimes not easy to find.

 

 Self- reflection can be a helpful and natural response to change.  How can you tell if you need to change?  As a mother, it was easy.  I began to notice how my own children were behaving in the world.  I began to see my own insecurities and fears in them.  I began to watch their priorities take shape-  the same priorities my husband and I set before them.

It is when I began to notice this, that I realized the important choices I had to make.  I began to ask myself some hard questions.  What negative habits and perceptions in my own life need to change?  I could take a step back and begin to make changes and improvements.  I finally internalized the power of the statement, “Children Learn What They Live”.  I experienced it first-hand.  Being an observer of my children was a powerful lesson for me.

 

 I first had to ask myself, “How did I get to this place of self-awareness?”  For me,  it was a deep mis-trust of man that paralyzed me on a daily basis.  The sequence of life events that shook me to the core began to pile up.  I woke up one day, and said, “How did I get to this place of not trusting anyone?”  I felt guilty because I was  not able to trust and love people in the way I knew I should.  The unforgiveness had a hold of me.  But to truly forgive is not something you do effortlessly.  It is a process.  Revisiting your childhood through remembering is part of the healing process.

 

 What were the messages that your parents or people who raised you regarding important issues- such as love, compassion, fear, patience, diversity?  What were the lessons that our parents and teachers taught us?  Were we allowed to be children?  Did we have a childhood? 

 

 Our subconscious blueprint of who we are, what the world is like, etc., is learned by a very young age. These early experiences and our subconscious decisions about them, control the way we are into adulthood.  It is when we experience imagesCAY4U1DNdeep, unresolved pain or abuse from childhood, that we discover the underlying beliefs.  You may not begin to process your past, until you are forced with hard situations in your relationships, workplace, and your own family in the present. 

 

Some of the most common and hurtful emotions are shame and guilt.  Shame is rooted in a belief that who you are is not okay.  Guilt indicates that what you do is not okay.  If we are in a place where we experience these emotions from day to day, it becomes a counteractive process to healing.  It makes us feel raw inside.  That’s why it’s so important to allow people to heal when they need to.  Reinforcing shame and guilt for things of the past is never good practice and pours salt on a raw spirit.  If you want to help someone heal from an abusive past, be an encourager. 

 

I pray for you today, as you become aware of your past and make decisions that impact the lives of your family.  It is my hope and prayer for you that you decide to be proactive in your decisions.  Moving forward  is so much easier with a forgiving heart. 

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