Chelsea Crockett

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Falling Victim to Nyctophilia

Nyctophilia (n): An attraction to darkness or night; finding relaxation or comfort in the darkness. Do you ever experience Nyctophilia? Maybe it sounds something like this: You know what you’re…

Nyctophilia (n): An attraction to darkness or night; finding relaxation or comfort in the darkness.

Do you ever experience Nyctophilia? Maybe it sounds something like this: You know what you’re doing isn’t right, but it’s comfortable. So instead of changing your actions of lifestyle, you remain in this “darkness” that the world offers, instead of looking up to God for change or direction.

We’ve all done it from time to time. We stay with the things that are familiar and comfortable because we’re too scared to take the next step.

This is when we fall victim to Nyctophilia. Instead of taking a step forward, we remain where we’re at due to fear and the “what ifs.” This keeps us doing the things we’re comfortable with, the things that cause us to turn away or ignore God.

1 John 2:15 says, “Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.”

God understands the appeal of the world and the easiness of it. It’s easy to do what everyone else is doing and to desire those things, as well. But our actions are the reflection of what we stand for and what we believe in. So, like the verse says, when we show love for the world more than we show love for our heavenly Father, God’s light cannot shine through within us.

Titus 2:11-12 says, “For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “no” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.”

 The grace of God extends with no limit. It covers our past sins, our present sins, and even the sins we haven’t committed yet. When we seek the darkness of the world and everything it has to offer, God gives us his perfect gift of grace. But just because God is merciful to us doesn’t mean we should use this as an excuse, continuing to seek the ways of the world and proceed happily in our bad habits.

It’s okay to desire comfort and ease, but the moment it keeps you from making a positive change or taking a step in the right direction, it becomes a problem. God wants us to be comfortable and relaxed, but in his way. His way is much more satisfying. It’s eternal, joyful, merciful, and so much more.

I urge you to step out of your Nyctophilia at least once this week. It doesn’t have to be anything big, but pick something you can work on in your life for the better. Maybe for you it’s gossiping, jealousy, anger, your desires, etc. Whatever it may be, try using that time spent on those actions, thoughts, or emotions, and spend it on your spiritual life.

Instead of being jealous or angry toward someone, simply start talking to God. Ask him for help and guidance on how you can change your darkness into light! 🙂

– Chelsea

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Search Me, O God

“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts.” – Psalm 139:23 God knows every part of us. He knows our thoughts, our hearts,…

Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts.” – Psalm 139:23

God knows every part of us. He knows our thoughts, our hearts, and our whole being. He knows our motives and the “why” behind our every action.

The underlying theme to this is that God created us, he knows us, and he searches us. We may not always want God to know every part of our hearts (I know I sometimes don’t), but it’s a beautiful thing when the God that created us truly knows us, even the things we’re not proud of.

When God searches us, he reveals to us the parts of our mind that we don’t always want dug up. But when we confront the things that God wants shown to us, we get the opportunity to become more like him.

When we pray, we should be asking God to show us our convictions and reveal to us the areas in our lives that could use a little work. For you, it may be patience, jealousy, alcohol, etc., simply anything that doesn’t reflect that of a follower of Christ. Your struggles may seem smaller or bigger than others, but in God’s eyes, they’re all the same.

Psalm 139:13-14 says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

When we ask God to search our hearts, he already knows what’s in them. He knit us together the day we were created, making no mistakes or accidents.

Think of yourself as a house. There are several different rooms filled with several different things. Some rooms you don’t mind showing to people because they’re clean, put-together, and presentable. But then there are the rooms that you don’t want people to see, even God. You keep the door locked so no one can see what’s behind it.

We all have the rooms that we’re not proud of. Whether those rooms are filled with your past, your thoughts, your shameful actions, etc., it’s the rooms you don’t want anyone else to see regardless.

But once we open these rooms to God, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable and fully transparent with him. It’s an intimate thing when we put everything out on the table and share with God even the things we don’t want to.

Although God already knows our deepest thoughts, it’s completely different when we invite him in and willingly share the things we’ve been hiding from him.

I encourage you to ask God to search your locked rooms. Ask him to help you with the things you struggle with and to forgive you for the things you’ve been hiding. No matter how bad you think these things are, God will always forgive you and love you just the same.

Pray for God to search you and reveal these things to you! He uses our weaknesses to work in our lives and turn them into strengths! 🙂

– Chelsea

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When Silence Is Sinful

We’ve all heard of the silent treatment. We all know the sadness and guilt we feel when we’re on the receiving end of it. On the other end, we’ve also…

We’ve all heard of the silent treatment. We all know the sadness and guilt we feel when we’re on the receiving end of it. On the other end, we’ve also experienced the anger and pain that build up when we cut someone out of our life or decide to choose bitterness over forgiveness.

Silence can result in guilt, regret, sadness, and so much more. When we don’t confront a problem or simply ignore it, the result is almost always worse than what it would’ve been if we would’ve given up silence as a boundary in the first place.

Think about this situation for example. You and your roommates are in a fight, and instead of confronting the problem, you allow it to build up over time and continue to sweep it under the rug. This can either make the problem worse, or never solve anything in the long run… Neither are the outcome you would want!

God looks at these situations and wants us to extend love, forgiveness, and patience. When we approach conflict the way God does, the outcome will be better every single time.

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

God sent his one and only son to pay the price for our sins. He forgives us instantly, without holding a grudge or keeping a track record. So, why wouldn’t we do the same for other people?

This reminds me of the story from the Bible of Peter asking Jesus about forgiveness.

Matthew 18:21-22 says, “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

 Jesus then preaches the parable of the unforgiving debtor. The story tells of a king discussing the debt of his servants. One in particular owed the king millions and millions of dollars, but had little to no money to repay him. The servant begged for the king to forgive him, and the king was filled with pity for him. He released the servant and forgave him of his debt.

But when the servant left, he came across a man that owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded him to pay him the money. When the king heard about this, he threw the servant in jail until he had paid his entire debt.

Matthew 18:35 says, “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.”

God doesn’t just want us to swallow our pride and forgive others, he demands it. We can’t go through life holding grudges and using silence as a barrier. In the end, this solves nothing, leaving us angrier than we were before.

Take these lessons from the Bible and apply them to your life. Once we start taking Jesus’s advice on how to resolve conflict, life will go a whole smoother!

– Chelsea

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5 Ways to Love like God Does

Love is difficult to understand. We feel it, we see it, and we even dream about it. Love doesn’t always have to be the kind we see in movies. Love…

Love is difficult to understand. We feel it, we see it, and we even dream about it.

Love doesn’t always have to be the kind we see in movies. Love can be as simple as extending it to your friends and the people around you. Loving others well is something I think we can all get a little better at!

Worldly love is no match against godly love. The Bible talks about this perfect love that God gives to us, and tells us how we too can show this kind of love to other people. The world could always use a little more love, don’t you think?

  1. Love without fear.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” – 1 John 4:18

If we let fear be a boundary, then we’ll never be able to give ourselves fully to others. Love can oftentimes come with pain, sadness, and regret, but if we focus on the “what ifs” then fear will always consume us.

  1. Love selflessly.

Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” – John 15:13

Selflessness is a learned trait. Our natural instinct is to put ourselves first, but it takes a conscious effort to care for the needs of others before our own. When we love without the thought of getting something in return, people take notice. It’s a quality that people forget about, but it multiplies beyond measure.

  1. Love your enemies.

’But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you…’” – Luke 6:27

Real strength comes from loving those who are hard to love. It’s easy to show love and kindness to your friends or family, but when’s the last time you extended it to someone that has done wrong to you in the past?

  1. Love through forgiveness.

Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers all wrongs.” – Proverbs 10:12

Forgiveness is a hard concept. How do we forgive someone who maybe doesn’t deserve it? It’s hard to show forgiveness and mercy in times that we least want to, but we have to remember who God is and what he’s done for us. His grace and mercy covers all our sins when we especially don’t deserve it, so we should have the same mindset toward others!

  1. Love sincerely.

“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” – Romans 12:9-10

It’s important to be real, open, honest, and genuine toward others. This builds trust between two people and makes a relationship that much stronger. Learn to love others with a genuine heart, and people will feel the love of God through you!

Make a conscious effort of loving people just as the way God loves us. Once again, the world could always use a little more love!

– Chelsea

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Those to Keep Around & Those to Let Go

Each year, people come and go within our lives. Some can be there to stay while others are temporary. Sometimes it’s hard to know who of which God placed in…

Each year, people come and go within our lives. Some can be there to stay while others are temporary. Sometimes it’s hard to know who of which God placed in our lives to be a friend or a lesson.

Oftentimes, we keep people around who hinder us from being the best versions of ourselves. They bring us down, pull us away from God, and make us question who we are and what we believe. We need to know the difference between these people and those of which that encourage, love, and support us. Here’s how you can use the Bible to you help tell the difference between the two!

Those to Keep Around:

When it comes to those you want and need in your life, God gives you hints throughout the Bible of who is best to surround yourselves with! In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, it says, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are in the habit of doing.” Who in your life helps you be a better you? Who makes you feel confident, loved, and happy?

A lot of the time, we’re just as happy and joyful as the people we surround ourselves with. That’s why we should make a conscious effort to be around those that make us feel refreshed, instead of drained.

We also need to acknowledge who in our lives is a source of wisdom and sound advice for us to go to. Maybe that’s a parent for you or a best friend you’ve had for years. Maybe it’s a friend from church or an older relative. Whoever it may be, we need people to listen and give advice for the harder times in life. Sometimes it’s okay to admit we can’t do it alone.

Those to Let Go:

Whether we like to admit it or not, life is short. It’s too short to keep people in your life when they constantly bring you down or pull you away from God. God also touches on this in the Bible. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” When you walk alongside people that you shouldn’t, you start to be affected whether you realize it or not.

This verse is similar to Proverbs 13:20. It says, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” The Bible stresses the importance of surrounding yourself with wise, godly people. Why live your life alongside people who are constantly tearing you down and making you stumble in your walk with the Lord?

I know that it’s harder in different situations, but I also know that there’s nothing wrong with distancing yourself from the people that negatively affect you. Always extend forgiveness and show love, but also look out for yourself when you need to!

So, think about your life. How can you start surrounding yourself with people that love and encourage you? Don’t be afraid to take that step. Help shape a better you while helping those around you in the process!

– Chelsea

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My Sin Is Great, Your Love is Greater

We live in such a sinful world that we don’t even think about the sin surrounding us daily. Sin is such a part of our lives that half the time…

We live in such a sinful world that we don’t even think about the sin surrounding us daily. Sin is such a part of our lives that half the time we don’t even realize we’re doing anything wrong in the first place.

Think of the last time you gossiped or got angry with someone. You probably didn’t even consciously think about the fact that you could be sinning by doing so.

Although we’re not perfect, Jesus has given us the free, undeserving gift of forgiveness and mercy. We are sinful people living in a sinful world, yet there is so much love and grace in store for us.

There’s a song called What a Beautiful Name by Hillsong Worship and there’s a line that I fell in love with the first time I heard it. The lyric says, “my sin was great, your love was greater,” and that has always stuck with me since I heard it. We often get so wrapped up in our own sin that we forget how powerful the love of God is.

2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

Once you’ve been redeemed by Christ, you are no longer drowning in sin. You’re a new creation, made pure and perfect in his sight. We oftentimes beat ourselves up for the sins we’ve committed. I know I do at least! But knowing that I am forgiven and made blameless in his sight gives me the hope I need for the days to come.

Psalm 103:12 says, “as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”

Think about the significance of this verse. The east to the west is never ending. It goes on and on and never stops. God removes our sins from us and never thinks of them again. In Micah 7:19, it says, “You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea.” To think our Heavenly Father forgets the wrongs we’ve done against him is amazing and something we are so undeserving of.

It’s natural to feel regret and pain for the things we’ve done in our life, but we can’t forget who our creator is. His love is so big and so wide, and he wants us to know the depth of his mercy and forgiveness.

If we don’t think God truly forgives us for what we’ve done in the past, then we don’t know who God is at all. Have faith and dive deeper into what is character really is. He is merciful, loving, caring, and perfect in all that he is.

I’ll leave you with a quote I found that gave me a peace over my heart. It says, “God is not waiting to love you until you have overcome your weaknesses and bad habits. He loves you today with a full understanding of your struggles” – Dieter F. Uchtdorf.

Write this on your mirror, make this your phone background, put it on a sticky note on your dashboard. Read it and believe it. God’s love overcomes all sin, today and every day!

– Chelsea

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How to Pray for Those Who Have Hurt You

Why in the world would you want to pray for someone who has hurt you? When someone hurts me, that is definitely not my first reaction. We have all been…

Why in the world would you want to pray for someone who has hurt you? When someone hurts me, that is definitely not my first reaction. We have all been hurt, disrespected, shamed, disregarded, and taken advantage of. How does Jesus expect us to pray for the people who treat us this way?

We first need to realize that Jesus knows that it is difficult because He knows everything about us. You do not need to hide how you feel from Him. You can share everything with Him – your joys, concerns, disappointments, weaknesses, challenges, all of it. Think about all of the times you have hurt someone – both intentionally and unintentionally. Did you feel bad once you realized that you hurt them? Would it have comforted you to know that they were praying for you? Praying that Jesus forgives you and shows you the error of your ways? Pray that He grants you patience while he works in the heart of the other person. Pray that He gives you the grace to accept what has happened, and the perspective you need to move on. Pray that the other person is led to Him.

Praying for the person that hurt you allows you to see things through God’s eyes. You will be able to see them as a person who is much like you. You will also be able to see your own wrongdoing – whether it be not showing the other person grace, talking about them behind their back, or not forgiving them.

I am not saying any of this is easy. We can be so paralyzed by our feelings of hurt and frustration towards the other person that we cannot even think straight. In these situations, we should go to the Lord in prayer and ask for His comfort and thank him for his unconditional love. We should ask for His guidance through this incredibly tough time, and the strength to come out of it stronger.

We are all works in progress. The Lord does not expect us to easily forgive those who mistreat us – but He does expect us to forgive them in the end. The next time someone wrongs you, turn to Jesus first. He is there with comfort, healing, and understanding. All you have to do is ask for it. He knows a thing or two because He has seen a thing or two.

Chels

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What is the Grace of God?

Grace is a word that I’ve heard time and time again. But if you were to sit three people down and ask them to define it, you would probably get…

Grace is a word that I’ve heard time and time again. But if you were to sit three people down and ask them to define it, you would probably get three different answers.

A lot of people think grace is the same thing as forgiveness. Although it may be similar at times, there’s more to grace then just forgiving a person for something they did wrong.

A lot of people think grace is the same thing as mercy. Once again, although it may be similar, grace is more than simply showing mercy to someone who may not deserve it.

If you want the dictionary’s definition of grace, it defines it as “the free and unmerited favor of God.” In other words, God’s free, unearned, undeserved favor. What’s more beautiful than that?

Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.”

In other words, we have been saved by Jesus Christ because God had favor on His children. He loves us so much that he sent his son to save us. We have his divine favor that is given to us as his perfect gift. According to the verse, we can’t be saved through pointless works and deeds. We can only be saved through our faith in Him! 

2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 

After knowing the true definition of grace, these verses make me smile. God, the creator of the entire universe, gives us His favor. This verse from Corinthians is one of my favorites because it explains that even though we are weak, through Him we are strong.

We can boast about our weaknesses because we have God’s favor and power over us, which is far greater than any weakness that tries to bring us down.

There’s a quote about God’s grace that has always stuck with me. It says, “You may not think that you’re good enough, but God’s grace and love are bigger than who you think you are.”

We are so undeserving of God’s grace, but he gives it to us freely, without thought, especially when we don’t deserve it.

With the grace of God, we are unstoppable.

Think of what this means for you. Knowing you have God’s favor over your life, where will you go from here? Take note of the weaknesses in your life and remember you have the power of God resting in you. Let the grace of God lead you into something great.

– Chelsea

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Do What’s Right, Not What’s Easy

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing…

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing to do.

The situations that take you doing the right thing when it isn’t always the easiest, now these are the situations where your boldness comes in.

God talks about this in the Bible, over and over again. As a Christian, we will face persecution for the things we say and do. What God wants for us will more times than not differ from what the world wants for us.

Eventually, there comes a choice. How will you know which choice is honoring God and which is for your own benefit? There are several verses that talk about how we can live and decide through godly wisdom.

Colossians 3:17 says, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

When you’re stuck at a crossroad, you should ask yourself this question: What would Jesus want me to do? Think of the best possible way you could honor him.

Not just in what you do, but in what you say. In word and in deed, we should always think of how Jesus would respond to the situation. It can be hard to go out of your way to apologize to someone that doesn’t deserve it, but in the end, what’s right is showing mercy and grace to those who most definitely don’t deserve it!

Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”

God makes it very clear to us in the Bible that our days are numbered. We never know how many more opportunities we have to display the light and love of God through our lives.

If making the most of every opportunity means showing kindness and love in every situation, then we should do just that. Just because it’s not the easiest thing to do, doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.

I once saw a quote that puts it perfectly: “Keep a good attitude and do the right thing even when it’s hard. When you do that you are passing the test. And God promises you your marked moments are on their way.”

Think of life as a time filled with many tests. We should want God to be proud of our actions and who we are when the world isn’t looking.

So, do good, be good, and spread goodness. At the end of the day, people will remember the times you did the right thing instead of the easy thing, every single time.

Being a follower of God isn’t supposed to be easy, that’s why God calls us to a life so much greater than this. Listen to his word and his wisdom and apply it to your life. You’ll feel content, rewarded, and an all-around better person at the end of the day!

– Chelsea

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How to Forgive Like Jesus Would

Forgiving someone can be one of the hardest things in the world.  It’s something that we most of the time don’t want to do and would rather just forget about…

Forgiving someone can be one of the hardest things in the world.  It’s something that we most of the time don’t want to do and would rather just forget about the situation.  But once you master how to truly and purely forgive someone from the heart, your whole outlook will change!  Here are some tips to learn how you can forgive like Jesus would.

Chelsea Crockett - Forgiveness QuoteThere are two passages that pretty much sum up how and why we should forgive others.  The first passage, Ephesians 4:31-32, says this: “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Because God freely and generously forgives you, you should extend the same grace and forgiveness to others.  It can be extremely difficult, but getting rid of the bitterness and anger in your heart will do both you and them much more good than you realize!

The second verse, Isaiah 1:18, says: ““Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.””  If God can settle any matter, we should strive to do the same.  He forgives even our darkest mistakes.  If He can do this, we should extend the same forgiveness to anyone, despite how “in the wrong” they might be.

Clean your heart from any grudges or negativity and forgive others as Jesus forgives you!

XOXO – Chels

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Tips on Forgiving and Moving On

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging…

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging your feelings, and then letting them go. Forgiveness isn’t just for the person who hurt you, it for yourself too. Here is how you know you are ready to forgive and how to do it when the time is right.

  1. Forgive yourself and let go: Give yourself time to release all of the emotions you are feeling and recognize when you are ready. Next, understand that it is ok to feel shame or embarrassment or shame because of what happened. Then forgive yourself. Realize we all make mistakes and that no one is perfect.
  2. Talk it out: It doesn’t have to be out loud. Talk through the whole thing in your head. And next time you see the person who hurt you, you don’t have to verbally say “I forgive you” because that may just be plain awkward. You can show them you have forgiven them by your actions instead. But then again, sometimes it is good to verbally talk things through. It may make you feel better if you are able to communicate your hurt to the person but at the same time let them know you have moved past it. It really depends on you and the situation!
  3. Know the boundaries: Forgiving the person doesn’t mean things are going back to the way they used to be. That may take time, or it may never happen. Setting boundaries like limiting the amount of time you spend with that person, or avoiding certain situations that you know could be trouble is wise. Avoid falling back into the cycle that caused the hurt and know how to avoid it.

Forgiving someone takes a lot of humility and it takes a strong person. It isn’t easy, but it is so worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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My Past Was Made Clean By My King

Does the thought ever cross your mind that you have made so many mistakes and have sinned so much that you don’t feel like you deserve God’s love? We should…

Does the thought ever cross your mind that you have made so many mistakes and have sinned so much that you don’t feel like you deserve God’s love? We should never feel like that. It doesn’t matter what we say, what we do, what mistakes we make, God still loves us unconditionally.kid

My past was made clean by my King. Any mistake or sin that I made in the past has been washed away. If you ask God to forgive you, He does and doesn’t look back. It doesn’t matter how long or how often you have sinned, because we ALL sin and fall short of what God expects of us. But no matter how many times we fall down, He picks us back up and says that our past has been forgiven. We can move forward knowing that our sin and shame is behind us and we have a clean slate.

In our lives, we will all have times when we feel like we need a fresh start. God makes your past clean and gives you a renewed sence of purpose and a bright future. If you ever feel like you don’t deserve His love or forgiveness, just remember that He created you and loves you unconditionally. Your past can be made clean by your King.

XOXO, Chels

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How to Forgive and Move On

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging…

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging your feelings, and then letting them go. Forgiveness isn’t just for the person who hurt you, it for yourself too. Here is how you know you are ready to forgive and how to do it when the time is right.

  1. Forgive yourself and let go: Give yourself time to release all of the emotions you are feeling and recognize when you are ready. Next, understand that it is ok to feel shame or embarrassment or shame because of what happened. Then forgive yourself. Realize we all make mistakes and that no one is perfect.338672
  2. Talk it out: It doesn’t have to be out loud. Talk through the whole thing in your head. And next time you see the person who hurt you, you don’t have to verbally say “I forgive you” because that may just be plain awkward. You can show them you have forgiven them by your actions instead. But then again, sometimes it is good to verbally talk things through. It may make you feel better if you are able to communicate your hurt to the person but at the same time let them know you have moved past it. It really depends on you and the situation!
  3. Know the boundaries: Forgiving the person doesn’t mean things are going back to the way they used to be. That may take time, or it may never happen. Setting boundaries like limiting the amount of time you spend with that person, or avoiding certain situations that you know could be trouble is wise. Avoid falling back into the cycle that caused the hurt and know how to avoid it.

Forgiving someone takes a lot of humility and it takes a strong person. It isn’t easy, but it is so worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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Ways to Enhance Your Inward Beauty

Recently, I’ve been thinking about inward beauty as much as outward beauty.  Of course, it’s always fun to talk about eye shadow, lipstick colors, fashion trends, nails, etc.  Many times,…

Recently, I’ve been thinking about inward beauty as much as outward beauty.  Of course, it’s always fun to talk about eye shadow, lipstick colors, fashion trends, nails, etc.  Many times, we’re up for trying the latest styles for our physical attraction but what about working to better ourselves on the inside? Chelsea Crockett - Fruit of the SpiritBesides, that’s what is most important in the long run!

Here are some tips I try to live by daily.  Kindness, generosity, and compassion are three important attributes to possess.  It’s always good to spend a little part of each day by trying to help someone else.  Look at others with a kind and compassionate heart and ask yourself… How could I generously help them today?  How could I encourage them today?  Sometimes it only takes a few minutes of your time to make someone feel extra special.  Trust me, you will get more from it then you think!

Grace, mercy, and forgiveness are other attributes you should freely give to others. Sometimes it’s hard to be forgiving and to show mercy and grace.  The best way to do that is to change your focus and have an attitude of gratitude.  Once you change your outlook on things, this gets a lot easier to do. If you hear drama at school or maybe even have a rumor started about you, remember it’s only temporary. Most negative things that happen in high school won’t even matter in a year. So continue being nice and forgiving under any circumstance.

I hope these thoughts will benefit your inward beauty!

Love, Chels

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5 Words to Live By

It may be cliché to say this, but life is full of many ups and downs. I lost count of the days that didn’t go as I had hoped or…

It may be cliché to say this, but life is full of many ups and downs. I lost count of the days that didn’t go as I had hoped or planned! In church, in school, and in everyday life, I’ve learned a few words that help me get through whatever I’m dealing with, without losing a positive attitude.

  1. Faith. I’ve learned in EVERY situation, that you have to have faith. Without putting my trust and hope in God, I can easily get discouraged. Sometimes so discouraged that I end up not even trying in the first place!Chelsea Crockett - Happiness
  2. Happiness. If you don’t strive towards happiness, how can you live a life you enjoy? I’ve learned that if something or someone isn’t making you happy, it’s best to get rid of whatever it is bringing you down.
  3. Forgiveness. Being a forgiving person not only helps you, but the person you’re forgiving, as well. Forgiving is a domino effect. Once you let go of something with your friend or someone in your family, it doesn’t go unnoticed. Compassion spreads, so why not pass it along yourself?
  4. Love. Love doesn’t only mean finding someone and falling head over heels for them. Love should be shown to anyone and everyone, whether you’re at school or at church. Next time you’re about to comment negatively about someone, show love and lift them up instead of tearing them down!
  5. Patience. Having patience is one of the greatest virtues in life. Things don’t always happen right when you want them to. Waiting patiently is something you’ll learn as you mature. The love of your life is out there, you just might not find them in high school!

Keep these words in mind and live a life filled with joy and happiness!

Love, Chels

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