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You Can’t Change People, But God Can

Odds are, you have someone in your life who really needs to change. They have an anger problem, a sin problem, an addiction problem, an attitude problem, or maybe even…

Odds are, you have someone in your life who really needs to change. They have an anger problem, a sin problem, an addiction problem, an attitude problem, or maybe even a denial problem. And you don’t know how to help them overcome their struggle or the sin that has held them down for so long. Fed up, tired, and hopeless because you have tried and tried, but somehow nothing has changed. You come to grips with the fact that they may never change, and that they may always be the way they are. I mean, what are you supposed to do in a situation like that?

Lucky for us, the Bible gives us wisdom on how to actually help a person change. So, how can you help a person change?

Pray repeatedly. Somehow we get this unbiblical idea in our heads that we can change people and by the force of our sheer will, we can make a person turn from their ungodliness to godliness. Scripture says differently. James 1:19-10 says “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” The hard truth is that we cannot cause a person to change, no matter how hard we try. Only God can soften their heart and open their ears. The best thing we can do for a person is pray for them, and not in a “God please change this person because they are driving me crazy” kind of way, but in a “God please change this person for their good and your glory” kind of way. Pray for them constantly. Pray that God would bless them, give them joy, and give them victory over their sin. Also, instead of criticizing the person you want to change, pray for them. For every one time you criticize, pray ten times!

Encourage them often. This may sound counterproductive because if I encourage them, they will think everthing is okay, right? That isnt how it works. The authors of the Bible made this evident. Before they brought any criticism, they always began with encouragement. The way Paul responded to the Corinthians is a great example of this. The Corinthian church was going nuts. They were all engaging in sexual immorality, worshiping other Gods, making idols, and many other sinful things. But, Paul began his letter to the Corinthians by telling them how grateful he was for them. “I give thanks to my God always for you..” are his words exactly. Do you want to help a person change? Give thanks to God for them. Encourage them and point out areas where you see God at work in their life. Don’t fixate on their weaknesses and miss all the good things God is doing in them.

Correct them lovingly. There is a time for correction, but that correction should be when necessary. 1 Thessalonians 5:14 says “And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.” Sometimes our corrections can take the form of admonishment or rebuke. Sometimes they can take the form of helping someone in their weakness. But always correct with patience and love, not anger and frustration.

So, how do we help people truly change? Pray, encourage, correct, and repeat. Don’t try and make people change, persistently pray for them and let God do the changing.

XOXO, Chels

 

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Life Lessons from Proverbs 16:24

Proverbs 16:24 says “Gracious words are like honey. Sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” What does it mean to be gracious? To me, I think that it…

Proverbs 16:24 says “Gracious words are like honey. Sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”

What does it mean to be gracious? To me, I think that it means being a forgiving person. It means that you treat others how they should be treated, not how you necessarily want to treat them. It means believing the best in people, and being kind. Using gracious words means being gentile and kind with how you speak to people. It means building others up and taking the high road. God’s word tells us that when we use gracious words, they are actually good for us. They are mentally and spiritually healthy. You are more joyful and happy when you show others grace instead of holding on to grudges and hard feelings.

Next time you are in a difficult situation, remember to be gracious in the way you handle it, because it is better for you and for those around you in the end.

XOXO, Chels

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Life Lessons from 1 John 3:18

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” I love this verse from 1 John 3:18. It speaks about how we should love others….

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” I love this verse from 1 John 3:18. It speaks about how we should love others.

How do you express love to others? Do you tell them or do you show them? As the old saying goes, actions speak louder than words, and that is exactly what this verse explains. Your actions and how you show people you love and care about them express a lot more than the words you say. Showing someone you love them may mean sacrificing your time to be with them. It may mean helping them out with something or going somewhere to support them. Showing others we love them is so important because it helps us build a relationship with them. I know I feel loved when my family and friends come to events that I am performing or speaking at, or when I am having a bad day and they come hang out with me.

So, let’s all try our best to show love to others with our actions, because there is no better way to show them you care.

XOXO, Chels

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How to Take Great Group Photos

Prom and graduation are here, and with both comes one thing…. group pictures! We have all had that awkward group-photo experience where everyone is confused about what they are supposed…

Prom and graduation are here, and with both comes one thing…. group pictures! We have all had that awkward group-photo experience where everyone is confused about what they are supposed to be doing with their hands, if they should be squatting or standing, and “guys, are we smiling or are we being serious?” Here are a few tips on how to look fierce in every group pic.

  1. Get in sync: Not Insync, like the band, in sync like as in the same pose! One of the keys to a good group is to make sure you are all on the same page pose wise.
  2. Keep up the candids: I looooove candid pictures. They let your personality shine through! Just because it is graduation doesn’t mean you have to stand stiff and serious! Throw your hat, have a laugh, and hug your friends.
  3. Squat it out: Once you have mastered the “squad squat” you will never have trouble taking group pics again. When you need to fit a bunch of buds into one pic, file into a few rows, then squat your tush down.
  4. Pop a knee: An easy way to add some sass and attitude to a group pic is to do a little pop of the knee. A knee pop can actually help fit more people into the pic if you are standing diagonally!

Now go rock those group photos!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Beat the Mid-Semester Slump

I hear my friends saying “How many more days until school is over?” and I bet you do too. But who can blame them? It is almost half way through…

I hear my friends saying “How many more days until school is over?” and I bet you do too. But who can blame them? It is almost half way through the second semester of the school year, and this is what I like to call the “mid-term slump.” It is the part of the year where you feel like you have been in school forevvver and your motivation is seriously lacking. It can even be a bit depressing. Don’t let the slump rule your life, take control! Here are a few ways to overcome it.

  1. Find what isn’t working and change it: If your grades or slipping or you feel like you are losing connection with some of your friends, make a change! Change the way you study, and change the way you stay in touch and stay close to your friends.
  2. Take care of yo-self: When your mind is in 20 different places and when you aren’t feeling motivated, it is easy to put taking care of yourself on the back burner. Don’t do that! Take care of yourself emotionally by writing in a journal or talking to a friend, and take care of yourself physically by taking a study or work break and going on a walk or working out. Keep yourself healthy and feeling good, it will help keep you out of the slump!
  3. Talk to a friend: Let them know how you are feeling. Odds are, they are feeling slump-ish too! Talking about it can help, and you can both try and come up with ways to stay motivated!
  4. Realize it will be over soon: Summer will be here before you know it, I promise. Counting down can sometimes make the time seem like it goes by slower. Quit crossing off the days and just enjoy the moment! These are some of the best days of our lives, so make them count!

Stay far from the slump, you will thank yourself in the long run!

XOXO, Chels

 

 

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5 Things I Wish I Knew as a Senior About to Graduate

Well this is it… You’re finally at the home stretch.  As a freshman in high school, I never thought I would’ve actually made it to senior year with only a…

Well this is it… You’re finally at the home stretch.  As a freshman in high school, I never thought I would’ve actually made it to senior year with only a couple months till the next chapter of my life.  It’s both scary and exciting, but I assure you, there are bigger and better things right around the corner!  I wanted to share with you a few things I wish I would’ve known as a senior about to leave high school for good.

  • Hang out with your family more than you normally do. Chelsea Crockett - High School If you’re planning on going away to college, soak up all the family time you can get.  Ask your mom to go shopping with you or take your little sister out to lunch!
  • Appreciate your teachers, whether you want to or not.  They got you to where you are today!  Don’t hesitate to thank them by shooting them a heartfelt email.
  • Don’t let senioritis take its toll.  Senioritis is real, lemme tell ya, but I urge you to stay on top of your grades and make your last couple of months count!
  • Go to every sports game.  Participate in every student section.  Some of my best high school memories happened while I cheered on my school’s team with all of my best friends.
  • Don’t put your life on hold because of homework and studying.  With only a couple months of high school left, keep good grades but don’t miss out on life because of school.  Go to dinner with your friends or go for a night drive in the middle of the week with your boyfriend!  Make all the memories you can! 

Make the most out of however long you have left in high school!

Love, Chelsea

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Thoughtful Gifts For Your Long Distance BFF

Friendship is the best thing ever. BFFs are God’s gift to you. So you know what is the absolute worst? When your best friend moves away. Or when you move…

Friendship is the best thing ever. BFFs are God’s gift to you. So you know what is the absolute worst? When your best friend moves away. Or when you move away from your best friend! It is like there is a hole in your heart. College and growing up can send you to opposite sides of the country or even the world. Here are 3 sweet gifts for you and your bff to make the distance feel more manageable.

  1. State necklaces: Give your bff a necklace with your states on them! The sweet charms are an adorable reminder of your home and hers, and how you hold each other close to your hearts! Find them HERE
  2. Pretty pillows: Give her an adorable pillow like this one to remind her of you! She will think of you every time she sees it. There is a heart in the place where you live connected to a heart where she lives, reminding you that, no matter how far apart you are, your heart is with her. Find them HERE.
  3. Cute coffee mugs: Who doesn’t love a cute coffee mug? This pair of mugs is the perfect gift for a long distance BFF. Buy them HERE.

Remember, true friendship isn’t about being inseparable. It is about being separated and having nothing change. Just because you are far apart doesn’t mean your friendship has to be!

XOXO, Chels

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Tips on Forgiving and Moving On

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging…

Carrying around resentment and anger is so unhealthy. It is hard to forgive someone who did you wrong, but forgiveness is a powerful thing. Forgiveness is accepting what happened, acknowledging your feelings, and then letting them go. Forgiveness isn’t just for the person who hurt you, it for yourself too. Here is how you know you are ready to forgive and how to do it when the time is right.

  1. Forgive yourself and let go: Give yourself time to release all of the emotions you are feeling and recognize when you are ready. Next, understand that it is ok to feel shame or embarrassment or shame because of what happened. Then forgive yourself. Realize we all make mistakes and that no one is perfect.
  2. Talk it out: It doesn’t have to be out loud. Talk through the whole thing in your head. And next time you see the person who hurt you, you don’t have to verbally say “I forgive you” because that may just be plain awkward. You can show them you have forgiven them by your actions instead. But then again, sometimes it is good to verbally talk things through. It may make you feel better if you are able to communicate your hurt to the person but at the same time let them know you have moved past it. It really depends on you and the situation!
  3. Know the boundaries: Forgiving the person doesn’t mean things are going back to the way they used to be. That may take time, or it may never happen. Setting boundaries like limiting the amount of time you spend with that person, or avoiding certain situations that you know could be trouble is wise. Avoid falling back into the cycle that caused the hurt and know how to avoid it.

Forgiving someone takes a lot of humility and it takes a strong person. It isn’t easy, but it is so worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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Ways to Pray For Your Friends

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when…

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when life gets hard I have no problem praying for what I want and need, but when my friends are going through tough times I’m not as good about it! The best thing you can do for your friends is pray for them. Here are 4 prayers for your friends and mine.

  1. Jeremiah 17:7-8:Ask that the Lord would bless your friend as she trusts in the Lord. Pray that she would be like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots strong and deep by the stream, and has no need to fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit. Pray that God would make your friend strong, fruitful, and flourishing for His glory.FullSizeRender (84)
  2. Numbers 6:24-26: Pray that the Lord bless your friend and keep her; that He would make his face to shine upon her and be gracious to her; that the Lord would lift up His countenance upon her and give her peace.
  3. Proverbs 3:3-8: Pray that she would trust in the lord with all her heart and not lean on her own understanding. Ask that in all her ways she would acknowledge God, and God will make straight your friend’s path. Entreat the Lord to help your friend not be wise in her own eyes, but to fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.
  4. Psalm 138:7-8: Ask that when your friend walks in the midst of trouble, God would preserve her life. Claim His promise to stretch out His hand against the wrath of your friend’s enemies, to deliver her with His right hand. Remind God of His commitment to fulfill His purpose for your friend, and of His steadfast and endless love for her.

I hope my friends pray these prayers over me from time to time as well. What an encouragement to know that someone cares about you enough to lift you up in prayer!

XOXO, Chels

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3 Things That Make You a Bad Friend

I have heard way too many girls say that they don’t have many girl friends because “There’s too much drama” or “Too much judgement.” Our society tries to pit females…

I have heard way too many girls say that they don’t have many girl friends because “There’s too much drama” or “Too much judgement.” Our society tries to pit females against each other and dramatizes female conflict and makes everything seem like it is one big competition, when really we should be on the same team and working with each other to be better friends. I don’t doubt for one minute that you are a great friend who supports your gal pals, but like I said, we live in a world where it is often easy and sometimes encouraged to be a bad friend. Here are a few things you may not be aware you are doing, but they can be making you a bad friend.

  1. Jealousy: it can be difficult not to feel jealous when you see your bff getting her dream job, taking an incredible trip, or gaining huge achievements. But, nothing good comes from playing the
    comparison game. It just brings you down and makes you feel inadequate. It can also make your friend upset if you aren’t happy for her and her successes. Be happy for her achievements! It will make your life much more joyful, and she will be more likely to celebrate yours.FullSizeRender (79)
  2. You see her has competition: There are always going to be women that are more successful than you. Instead of making it feel like life is a competition and comparing yourself to them, take pride in what YOU have accomplished. You are also an amazing person, and are doing incredible things, so take pride in that. Not everything has to be a competition!
  3. You tend to judge her: If your friends do things you don’t agree with or approve of, let them know how their actions make you feel. Share your thoughts and feelings with them in a respectful manner instead of letting your judgements cloud your view of them. When they hear the way you feel, they will be able to respect your opinions.

Be supportive, caring, kind and a team player. That’s the key to being a great friend!

XOXO, Chels

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Your Guide to Hosting Friendsgiving

What is the one thing that is almost as good as Thanksgiving with your family? Friendsgiving of course! As we get older, we start making traditions of our own, and…

What is the one thing that is almost as good as Thanksgiving with your family? Friendsgiving of course! As we get older, we start making traditions of our own, and one of my favorite new traditions is having a Thanksgiving with my friends, or “Friendsgiving.” Here are a few tips on how to host the best Friendsgiving ever.

  1. You make the main course, they do the rest: As the host of the party, you are in charge of the main parts of the meal such as the turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie. But the rest of the meal should involve your friends! Have them bring their favorite side dish or appetizer.this-aint-your-mommas-thanksgiving-happy-friendsgiving-7d42b
  2. Go all out DIY: No need for fancy decorations or décor, make your own place mats out of brown craft paper and other cute decorations with tissue paper and jars.
  3. Mason jars galore: Speaking of jars, use them as cups! You can even tie little bows around the necks of the glasses to make them a little more festive.
  4. Set the mood: Having the right background music playing gets the party going. Some good tunes playing low enough for people to hear them but soft enough for people to be able to hear their conversations can really set a relaxed but joyful mood.
  5. Send home the leftovers: Buy some to-go boxes and after the night is over, send leftovers home with your guests! College students love leftovers!! Especially Thanksgiving leftovers.

Happy Friendsgiving!

XOXO, Chels

 

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Life Lessons From 1 Thessalonians 5:11

To me, one of the best things you can do for your friends and family to show them you love them and care for them is to build them up….

To me, one of the best things you can do for your friends and family to show them you love them and care for them is to build them up. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says “Encourage each other and build each other up.”1-thesselonians

This is such an important thing to have in life – people who will build you up and encourage you. And it is an important personality trait for us to have ourselves. People like to be around people who are positive and make them feel good about themselves and supported. Life is so much better when you feel like you have a support system and people that believe in you and encourage you to be successful. Be that person for someone else. Be that person that builds others up and encourages them. People will be drawn to you and will want to be around you! It is so energizing to be around positive people.

I have been trying to share tons of encouragement over my social media to try and encourage and build YOU all up. I want to be that person for you, and I pray that you would be that person for someone else.

XOXO, Chels

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Why We Should Work Out with Friends

Don’t get me wrong, I love working out by myself. Long runs with just me and my music are great therapy. But, working out with friends has its perks too!…

Don’t get me wrong, I love working out by myself. Long runs with just me and my music are great therapy. But, working out with friends has its perks too! Here are the benefits of working out with friends, besides much-needed girl time.

Accountability: When you are forced to schedule your workout ahead of time or don’t want to cancel on friends, it is a great way to stay accountable!635980440725861308438135525_bd4e6a743aeb93e9e09220cf56b83739

Motivation: When the going gets tough, your buds can provide that extra boost of energy! We all have those days when the last thing we want to do is work out, so having a friend to get you off your tush and into the gym is always a bonus.

Learn more exercises: Your friends can teach you new moves and ways to work out! I love mixing up my exercise routines. They can teach how to use different machines at the gym or they can show you new fitness classes that you would never have known about if it weren’t for them!

Healthy competition: Everyone knows you work harder when you are competing against someone! 😉

It’s more fun!: Working out with a friend is just downright fun.

Get up, grab a friend, and hit the gym.

XOXO, Chels

 

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Dating Tips to Defy Distance

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in…

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in distance and you’ve really got a challenge! I strive to be the best girlfriend I can be, even from a thousand miles away. Here are some of my tips on how to keep your relationship strong despite the distance.

  1. Give him your full attention: When you are on the phone with him or skyping, get rid of distractions. You want him to know that when you are talking to him that he has all of your attention. You want to make the most of the little time you have together.FullSizeRender (34)
  2. Be the “friend” in girlfriend: Be his best friend! Be the one who they can talk to and share all of their hopes, dreams, and fears. Ask him how his day went, tell him the funny parts of your day, and just be a friend! Things don’t have to be romantic all the time.
  3. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Don’t focus on the negative and don’t pick fights. When you focus on the negative, all you will see is negative!
  4. Love something he loves: Does your boyfriend like football or a certain band? Ask him about how his favorite team is doing or download some of the band’s music and discuss it with him when you talk to him next. Watch an episode of his favorite tv show with him over skype. By sharing in the things he loves, you are becoming closer and you are showing him how much you care!
  5. Don’t text him allllll the time: A few texts during the day is just fine. You both understand that you are busy, and feeling like you have to constantly keep texting each other can make you feel a little stressed. Wait until the end of the day to catch up on everything, it will give you more to talk about when you are together or when you have his undivided attention. Plus, he needs his space and you need yours!

Long distance relationship-ers…I’m with you! I feel your pain! You are not alone. We got this. J

XOXO, Chels

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Why Exercise is Good for Your Friendship

I think we can all agree that, most of the time, working out with friends is more fun than working out alone. Not only is it more enjoyable, it is…

I think we can all agree that, most of the time, working out with friends is more fun than working out alone. Not only is it more enjoyable, it is also good for your friendship! If you are looking to strengthen your bond with your BFF, working out together is a great way to do so! Here is why.

  1. You spend more time together: This is an obvious one. When you work out together, you are getting to spend time together and talk and bond while you sweat your booty off. Setting a workout schedule and having a routine with a friend means more time with them.FullSizeRender (10)
  2. You’re making a transformation together: You get to see your body transformations together and get to congratulate each other! You have been there from the beginning of one another’s fitness journey, so you are able to see her improvements and how her body has changed. Having someone there who recognizes your success and can celebrate with you is a huge encouragement, and knowing that she has been there for you since the beginning of your journey will make you feel so much closer to her!
  3. You’re being vulnerable together: Working out isn’t pretty. You sweat, you grunt, you make funny faces and funny noises. Having someone see you at your worst and most vulnerable can make you feel closer to them. They have seen you at your worst, and at your best, and they still love you!

So, next time you feel you need some girl time or some quality time with a friend, take them to the gym or on a bike ride with you. Your friendship will benefit, and so will your body!

XOXO, Chels

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DIY Gifts for You & Your Best Friends

There’s so many times that I want to simply show how much I love and appreciate my best friends for all they’ve done for me.  Especially at this point in…

There’s so many times that I want to simply show how much I love and appreciate my best friends for all they’ve done for me.  Especially at this point in my life, all my friends and I are going our separate ways for college.  If you’re in the same boat, or simply want to do something special for your BFFs, here are a few DIY gifts you can surprise them with!

  • Friendship bracelets are not overrated!  They might be the basic BFF gift but you can put your own spin on it! Chelsea Crockett - Gift Basket Depending on where you live, there are tons of places and stores that can engrave whatever you want onto a bracelet or necklace.  Maybe add your initials or you can your friend’s favorite Bible verse!
  • For this DIY, you’ll need to develop your favorite picture of you and your best friend.  You’ll need to buy a matted frame that you can write on from a craft store like Hobby Lobby.  Think of quotes or sayings that you and your friend like and write them all over the frame with a Sharpie!
  • Each of my best friends and I have certain foods or specific places we like to go, and of course lots of inside jokes.  Buy a cute basket and fill it with your guys’ favorite snacks, gift cards to your favorite places, or any funny things that remind you of her!  I also suggest getting a card to write a heartfelt message whatever the occasion may be!

I hope your BFF enjoys whatever wonderful DIY you decide to create! 🙂

Love, Chelsea

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