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God’s Relationship Red Flags

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships. When we…

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships.

When we look deeper into the Bible, it tells us what we should and what we shouldn’t be looking for in a relationship. There are several so-called “red flags” that we can take from certain verses in the Bible. They can help us know if we’re in the relationship God wants us to be in!

Impatience

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Patience is something that every relationship needs to have in order to work. Whether that be showing patience toward the other person or having patience for the future, every relationship needs a firm foundation of patience. Patience is the glue that holds things together. In tense situations or waiting moments, without patience, there would be nothing to keep you sane.

Selfishness

1 John 3:16-18 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

In every relationship, whether it be boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, or friend to friend, we should be making a conscious effort to put others before ourselves. When someone is only looking out for themselves all the time, they aren’t ready to commit themselves to someone else in a relationship. Relationships require sacrifice, even if it means giving up your own needs and wants in order to put the other person first.

Fear/Worry

1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

Having constant worry or anxiety in your relationship is one of the biggest red flags there could possibly be. This is God speaking to you and telling you that you maybe shouldn’t be dating the person that you are. The Bible says it itself: “There is no fear in love.” If you have a constant pit in your stomach or a reoccurring feeling of worry, take a step back and look at your relationship.

Jealousy

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

As humans, jealousy is a feeling that we’ve all experienced from time to time. It becomes a red flag when it starts taking over your relationship. It’s a feeling no one likes to experience, and when you’re constantly getting jealous over even the little things, maybe that relationship isn’t the one for you.

If you’re seeing signs of these red flags within your relationship, maybe God is trying to tell you something. Sit and talk with him and ask him for guidance. He always wants the best for us, we just have to let him work in our lives!

– Chelsea

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25 Kind Things to do for Your Significant Other

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is…

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is definitely key in maintaining a healthy relationship. No matter how big or small, acts of kindness never go unnoticed or unappreciated. Here are some easy ideas on how to serve your significant other and make them feel loved.

  1. Start a conversation with him that you know he will really value.
  2. Watch a sports game with him (or an event that he really loves to watch)
  3. Leave a sweet love note in his backpack or coat pocket so he will find it later.
  4. Brag about him in front of his friends. It will make him feel proud and will boost his self-esteem!
  5. Pray for him. Then, let him know that you have been praying for him.
  6. Hold his hand in public, when you are in the car, any time you can!
  7. Tell him how much you appreciate him. Give him specific examples of things that you appreciate about him.
  8. Do one of his daily chores for him, like taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, or anything else he usually does.
  9. Cook him his favorite meal.
  10. Let him pick the movie or restaurant or desert or whatever you are doing for date night!
  11. Leave your phone, tv, or computer off while you are eating dinner and give him your undivided attention.
  12. Give him a genuine compliment (or two)
  13. Write an encouraging Bible verse and place it somewhere he’ll see it.
  14. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him, or if you can help him with anything.
  15. Surprise him at work with his favorite lunch or coffee.
  16. Send him a random text in the middle of the day telling him you are thinking about him.
  17. Bake his favorite treat.
  18. Take his car and get it washed, vacuum it out, and make it look squeaky clean!
  19. Make him a mix tape CD or Spotify playlist with songs that make you think of him.
  20. Brag about him on your social media.
  21. Surprise him with something he loves, like tickets to see his favorite band or a new book by his favorite author.
  22. Tell him that you are glad he is in your life.
  23. Play his favorite board game or video game with him.
  24. Ask him to go on a walk or bike ride with you.
  25. Go out and do his hobby with him. It may not be your favorite thing, but he will appreciate your effort to spend time with him!

Doing ALL of these things definitely isn’t necessary, but there are definitely some great ideas on this list! Whatever place you are at in life, whatever season you are going through, you can always find ways, however big or small, to make your significant other feel loved and appreciated.

Chels

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5 Cheap Winter Date Ideas

Winter is the best season for fun, creative date nights.  There are so many different things you can do to get in the holiday spirit with your boyfriend or girlfriend……

Winter is the best season for fun, creative date nights.  There are so many different things you can do to get in the holiday spirit with your boyfriend or girlfriend… while saving money at the same time!  I came up with a few different date ideas that are inexpensive yet a good time for you and your crush!

  • Have a hot cocoa date. Go to your nearest grocery store and pick out different flavors of hot chocolate.  Make a variety of hot cocoa, make some cookies, and curl up on the couch!  Maybe even put on your favorite Christmas movie. 🙂
  • Do a surprise gift exchange at the mall. Set a budget and a time limit and have some fun!  Go back home and exchange your gifts with each other.  It’s not too expensive, but you still get to give and receive a gift!
  • Decorate your Christmas tree together. What’s a better way to get in the Christmas spirit than decking the halls!  Invite your boyfriend over, turn on some Christmas tunes, and set up some decorations!
  • Build a fort. Okay, this might sound super cheesy but it’s actually so fun… and not to mention, free!  Make some popcorn, pick out a movie, and chill out.  Why not channel your inner kid again?
  • Go on a horse drawn carriage ride. These are so fun and the perfect winter date!  If you live near a big city, bundle up and go for a ride.  It’s not too expensive and you get to enjoy the view of the city, too!

Which date idea are you going to try out?  Tell me in the comments below! 🙂

Love, Chels

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5 Non-Awkward First Date Ideas

First dates can be the most fun, yet most intimidating, encounters.  Sometimes the conversations flow perfectly and you hit it off right away.  But other times conversations become awkward and…

First dates can be the most fun, yet most intimidating, encounters.  Sometimes the conversations flow perfectly and you hit it off right away.  But other times conversations become awkward and you run out of things to talk about!  Since I know from personal experience that those situations can be super awkward, here are five guaranteed non-awkward first date ideas!

  • Go see a movie. Okay, now I know this might be basic but still take it into consideration! It’s not going to be awkward because you’ll be watching a movie the whole time! There won’t be time for awkward pauses or dull conversation.
  • Go to a school sporting event. Whether you’re in high school or college, going to a game together is fun and gives you something to talk about. You can even get a big group of friends to go with you!
  • Go to the zoo. The zoo is always a chill date that’s fun and relaxing! Sometimes during the winter, zoos will do a holiday festival with Christmas lights and music. Keep an eye out for those seasonal events!
  • Go to a food festival. What’s better than dressing up cute and eating good food? Enjoy sampling tasty snacks and seasonal treats with your date!
  • Be a tourist in your own city. Spend the day exploring with your date.  Think of all the cool places in your town that you’ve never tried!  Make a list and go on an all-day adventure!

Try suggesting one of these ideas next time you get asked out on a date! 🙂

XO, Chelsea

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4 Things to Ask Yourself Before Getting into a Relationship

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When…

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When you put it that way and look at the bigger picture, you should make sure you’re certain about someone before you get into a relationship with them.  Here are four things to ask yourself before dating someone!

  • “Am I ready for a relationship?” First and foremost, you need to put yourself first.  Although you might like the idea of him, make sure YOU are ready to make the commitment.  You need to be sure you’re over any past relationships and are ready to date again.
  • “Does he have everything I’m looking for?” We have to set our standards, ladies!  Sometimes it even helps to write down a list of all the things you look for in someone.  Maybe it’s humor, manners, kindness, or honesty.  The list can go on and on.  Then, go from there!
  • “Are there any red flags?” These are SO important to pick out before you get into a relationship with someone.  If there’s an automatic red flag at any point, you should definitely look further into it!  Whatever it may be true or not, don’t make excuses for it unless you ask them about it first.
  • “Are you both on the same page?” Making sure you have the same morals and values is also an extremely important factor to put into play. Although opposites can attract, most times two people with similar mindsets work out a little better!

I hope this helps you next time you’re unsure about getting into a relationship! 🙂

Love, Chelsea

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Do’s and Don’ts of Breaking Up

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or…

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or heartbreaking and miserable.  Either way, I have a few helpful do’s and don’ts that I think I could offer!

  • DO be respectful.  Make sure you are always considering their feelings and their side of the story.  Try to put yourself in their shoes and know it can be just as hard on them as it is for you.
  • DON’T forget your worth.  Oftentimes, it can be easy to forget your worth and make excuses for the other person, especially when you’re going through a rough patch.  Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less!
  • DO put yourself first.  There’s a huge difference between being selfish and putting yourself first.  It’s okay to consider your own feelings and to value what you need out of a relationship over your boyfriend.  At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself!
  • DON’T forget what you learned.  You can learn so much through dating and breaking up.  It teaches you valuable lessons that you can use the next time you date someone.  You can observe what worked, what didn’t work, and what traits you’re looking for in the next person you date!

I hope this helps you out next time you go through a break up, which I hope isn’t any time soon for you!

Xoxo – Chelsea

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5 Tips for Dating in Today’s Culture

Dating today is completely different from what it used to be.  We now have to take into account social media, texting, and lots of other things that can cause too…

Dating today is completely different from what it used to be.  We now have to take into account social media, texting, and lots of other things that can cause too many problems in today’s relationships.  Here are five dating tips that can be super helpful in today’s culture!

  • Keep your communication face to face.  If you have to talk about something important or sort something out, don’t do it over the phone!  It is so important being able to talk about the deep stuff face to face instead of texting it out.  It’ll make your relationship 10x closer.
  • Don’t think too far into social media posts.  Girls are over-thinkers as it is but overanalyzing something as simple as a tweet can drive us crazy!  Don’t dwell on something as little as a post that most likely isn’t what you think it is in the first place.
  • Be honest.  I know this is kind of vague and should already be assumed, but simply be honest and open with one another!  Honesty is the best policy and it shouldn’t be overlooked.
  • Make it a point to see each other frequently.  In today’s culture, people substitute facetiming, calling, and texting for hanging out with their boyfriend or girlfriend, and that’s not okay!  Don’t let phones be the core of your relationship.
  • Be intentional.  Like I mentioned before, make it a point to talk to each other and see each other.  Go out of your way to do something nice for them occasionally, too!

I hope these tips give you some clarity on how you can lessen the effect today’s culture has on your relationship!

Love, Chelsea

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5 Signs that You’re in the Right Relationship

It’s a pretty terrifying thing to know when the person you’re dating isn’t the one for you.  You know they’re too different from you or that you both are going…

It’s a pretty terrifying thing to know when the person you’re dating isn’t the one for you.  You know they’re too different from you or that you both are going down two totally different paths.  BUT when you meet someone that’s perfect for you, there are certain signs to assure you that you’re in the right relationship!  They do say you know when you know right? 🙂

  • You’re on the same page.  It’s so good to have the same beliefs, morals, and plans as each other.  I’m not saying you can’t differ on things but it’s better to have similar wants and mindsets as one another!
  • Trust.  If you can’t trust the person you’re dating, maybe you should reevaluate why you can’t trust him in the first place.  Maybe something in your past makes it hard for you to trust, but if you truly can’t trust what he’s saying, that’s a major red flag!
  • Openness.  Openness and honesty are two of the best things to have in a relationship.  It’s nice to be with someone that you can tell everything to and rely on them to do the same! 
  • God is the center of your relationship.  This may not be the case for everybody, but for my relationship, I like to keep God in the center.  If you glorify God with your relationship, you’re most likely on the same page and everything else will fall into place!
  • You have fun together.  Nothing’s better than kicking back and laughing till you cry, especially with the person you’re dating.  As important as it is to have those serious moments, it’s just as important to have the fun ones, as well!

Are you in a relationship?  What do you think about these signs?  Let me know in the comments below!

XOXO – Chelsea

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What to Consider when Going on a First Date

First dates can be extremely nerve-racking, but they can also be a great time to really get to know the each other!  First dates usually mean first impressions, so there…

First dates can be extremely nerve-racking, but they can also be a great time to really get to know the each other!  First dates usually mean first impressions, so there are many things to consider before, and during, your date.  If you’re new to the dating world, or could still use as much help as you can get, here are a few things to keep in mind!

  • Your outfit.  Chelsea Crockett - First DateUnfortunately, most of the time first impressions are based a lot on appearance.  I suggest wearing something that will reflect who you are.  If you’re bubbly and like to rock bright colors, go for it!
  • Where to go.  If he didn’t already decide where you guys are going, suggest somewhere that will make you most comfortable!  If you’re nervous about too much small talk over dinner, see a movie instead.  Or if you’d rather do something a little less formal than dinner, go mini golfing or hiking!
  • How he treats you.  Notice how he treats you especially since it’s your first time on an actual date with each other.  Pay attention to his manners such as if he’s on his phone a lot or if he’s only talking about himself!
  • Red flags.  These are so important!  Notice if he says or does something that you would automatically consider a red flag.
  • Keeping an open mind.  Doing this allows you to be open to something you might not be expecting.  Maybe you thought you had the person figured out but he could be much better than you’re expecting!

I hope your first date is everything you’re hoping for and more!

Love, Chelsea

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5 Things to Consider Before Getting into a Relationship

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet…

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet the wrong person… Yikes!  There are certain things to consider before getting into a relationship.  Consider it a “checklist” to make sure both you and the other person are ready for it!

  • Know your worth.  If you don’t know who you are as a person, you’re going to look to others to define you, especially someone you have a lot of feelings for.  Knowing your worth is important in and out of a relationship, but even more so before you date someone!
  • Make sure you’re over past relationships.  There is nothing worse than getting into a relationship without being over your last one.  This is so important!  Don’t allow anyone to be your “rebound.”Chelsea Crockett - Dating Quote
  • Talk about your morals and values with each other.  Being on the same page is crucial for a successful relationship.  Talk about religion, priorities, etc.
  • Prepare yourself to be fully committed.  If you can’t do this, then you’re not ready to invest your time and feelings into someone.  Don’t waste your time and theirs!
  • If you can’t see yourself possibly marrying the person, then don’t start a relationship with them!  I cannot stress this enough.  If you know you’re not going to end up with them in the long run, don’t waste your time and feelings.

Take these things into account before dating that special person!

Love, Chelsea

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Creative Valentine’s Day Dates

For Valentine’s Day this year, why not stray away from the typical “dinner and a movie” and come up with something more creative to do?  If you think outside the…

For Valentine’s Day this year, why not stray away from the typical “dinner and a movie” and come up with something more creative to do?  If you think outside the box, you and your date can have a memorable Valentine’s Day that’s just as fun and romantic. 🙂 If you’re not the most creative person in the world, here are some ideas for your day/night!

  • If you really want to get creative, create a scavenger hunt for your boyfriend with little gifts and treats at each spot.  You can make this as fun as you want! 
  • Instead of going out to eat, stay in and cook a dinner you both love!  Not only is it cheaper than going to an expensive restaurant, but it’s super fun to cook up a meal with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Chelsea Crockett - Hot Chocolate
  • Sometimes morning dates are even better than night dates!  Meet for coffee or brunch at your fave spot.
  • Picnics aren’t just for summer!  Bundle up and find the perfect spot to lay down a blanket and make a date out of it.  Bring lots of hot chocolate and blankets and maybe even your gifts to exchange if you decide to buy for each other, too.
  • Become a tourist of your own city for a day!  Whether you live near a big city or not, grab some money and a camera and go places you’ve never been before.

What are your plans this Valentine’s Day?  Let me know below if you use one of these unique date ideas!

XOXO – Chelsea

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Godly Boyfriend Checklist

When I start to date someone, it’s not just for the company or to have someone to text all the time.  If you’re like me, you date with a purpose…

When I start to date someone, it’s not just for the company or to have someone to text all the time.  If you’re like me, you date with a purpose to see if you could potentially end up with that person for the rest of your life!  I’ve recently studied some verses in the Bible that can make the perfect checklist for what a Godly boyfriend should be like!

One of my absolute favorite verses provides the perfect list to follow on how both you and your boyfriend should act in a relationship!  1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.Chelsea Crockett - Bible Verse It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”  This verse sets up a complete checklist of what you need to look for in a relationship.  It tells you as straight as it can which qualities and characteristics are in a Godly man.  That being said, we as girls need to uphold these qualities for our boyfriends, too!  Another important characteristic we need to pay close attention to is the confidence you and your boyfriend have in each other.  The Bible calls for having full confidence in one another and lacking nothing in value.  I urge you to practice all of these things in your future relationships!

I hope this checklist helps you judge who your next boyfriend needs to be!

Love, Chels

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Do’s & Don’ts of Long-Distance Dating

Long distance dating can be tough.  Being in a relationship can be hard enough as it is, but adding distance into the equation can make it ten times harder!  There…

Long distance dating can be tough.  Being in a relationship can be hard enough as it is, but adding distance into the equation can make it ten times harder!  There are certain things you and your boyfriend/girlfriend can do and not do to make your long-distance relationship easier and all around better!

  • DON’T feel the need to talk or text 24/7.  I get it, you miss one another, but being across the country from each other doesn’t mean you need to keep tabs on him/her all the time.  Long-distance relationships need a lot of trust and this helps build that!  Chelsea Crockett - Long Distance Dating 
  • DO make an effort.  The worst feeling is when you feel like you’re putting in more than you’re getting out.  Make sure you’re both making an equal amount of effort!
  • DO keep a positive attitude.  Positivity is everything!  If you really want it to work, don’t doubt and complain about your situation.  Think about the good!
  • DON’T ignore your problems.  Just because you can’t talk in person doesn’t mean you shouldn’t bring up problems or issues.  It’s important to keep a healthy and open relationship whether it’s face-to-face or not. 
  • DO give each other reassurance.  Reassurance is so important when you’re dating someone far away from you.  Knowing that each other is 100% invested and willing to make the relationship work will help through the good and bad times.

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, share with me some tips below on how you make it work!

Love, Chelsea

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Best Christmas Dates to Go On this Season

Around the holidays is the absolute best time for fun winter dates.  There are so many different things to do whether it be with your new crush, boyfriend, or even…

Around the holidays is the absolute best time for fun winter dates.  There are so many different things to do whether it be with your new crush, boyfriend, or even your BFF.  Most are pretty inexpensive too which is always a plus! Here are a few dates that are perfect for breaking you and your date into the Christmas spirit!

  • Since spending a lot of money to go out on an actually date isn’t always an option, spending a night at home can be just as fun!  Baking Christmas cookies and watching your fav Christmas movies isn’t too bad of an idea!Chelsea Crockett - Christmas Lights
  • Around my area, we have a ton of neighborhoods/houses that go all out for Christmas decorating.  Wait till it gets dark out, make some hot chocolate to-go, and go for a drive to look at all the lights and decorations!
  • I’ve heard this a bunch of times but haven’t actually tried it out myself!  People say volunteering with your boyfriend or girlfriend is a good way to not only help your community but to get to know them better as well.  Maybe go shopping for a toy drive or volunteer somewhere to spread some holiday cheer!
  • Search online for any Christmas festivals or celebrations going on around your area.  I know where I’m from we have different Christmas events going on all throughout December!
  • Buy tickets for a Christmas play or concert.  Instead of the typical movie theater date, switch it up and go to a holiday play!  You can even go on a nice dinner before, dress up, and enjoy your night together!

I hope you and your date have an awesome holiday season! 🙂

XO – Chelsea

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The Do’s & Don’ts of Gift Buying for Your Boyfriend

Especially around the holiday season, everyone wants that special person to spend Christmas time with!  If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend this year, then you’ll most likely be buying…

Especially around the holiday season, everyone wants that special person to spend Christmas time with!  If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend this year, then you’ll most likely be buying each other Christmas presents.  There are certain things to consider when picking out that perfect gift for your boyfriend or girlfriend to make sure this year is the best Christmas yet!

  • DO get him something meaningful.  Chelsea Crockett - Christmas PresentsPut some thought into it!  Boys like meaningful gifts too whether they admit it or not.
  • DON’T just give him money or a gift card.  Like I said, put some thought into it!  Although money and gift cards are nice, he’ll probably be getting some from relatives anyways. 
  • DO ask his friends and family for advice.  Nothing’s wrong with asking for a little help!  They might know about what he likes or what size he wears more than you do, so shoot them a text and ask!
  • DO ask each other for a budget.  I don’t mean you have to have an exact spending amount set, but at least try to get an idea of how much to spend.
  • DON’T overthink it.  Boys will usually be happy with whatever you get them as long as you know what they like and don’t like.  Don’t stress about it! 

I hope you’re all getting into the Christmas spirit!

Love, Chels

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How to Be the Best Third Wheel

Have you ever found yourself in a room full of couples? Are all of your best friends getting into relationships? This tends to be a trend in high school and…

Have you ever found yourself in a room full of couples? Are all of your best friends getting into relationships? This tends to be a trend in high school and college, but don’t fret! It is possible to enjoy third wheeling and it can even be fun! Embrace the situation you’re in and become the best third wheel you can be!

A third wheel means hanging out with your BFF and their boyfriend or girlfriend. While most may seem uncomfortable, you’ve got to look on the bright side! Since your BFF now has a partner, you’ve just gained another friend yourself. It’s like the song says, “Two is better than one!” It’s also a good idea to take note of your friend’s relationship. You can learn the DO’s and DON’Ts of a relationship just by hanging out with them! This way, when it’s your turn to get in a relationship, you’ll know what and what not to do! This can save you from a lot of arguments!

There are a few scenarios to take note of before you third wheel. Avoid romantic dinner dates! If you’re going to tag along on a dinner, go somewhere casual and fun; the more people, the better. It’s also important to know when to dip out. If you feel like your friends want some alone time or you’ve been with them too much, just casually leave! Don’t make it awkward, just come up with something. There’s always a time and a place for this situation.

All in all, being a third wheel isn’t that bad!! Embrace your situation. When the right time comes, you’ll be the one in a relationship.

XOXO,

            Chelsea  

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