Chelsea Crockett

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Cultivate Kindness

Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3 What does it mean to cultivate kindness? When I hear…

Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3

What does it mean to cultivate kindness? When I hear the word “cultivate” I tend to think of gardening. With a garden, you have to show it a lot of time and effort to see the payoff. Cultivating your garden means to prepare and care for it. Kindness takes the same work and care.

What does kindness mean to you? What does it look like? Is it giving of your time or resources freely? Is it looking out for the underdog? Is it little acts throughout each day that show others you care? For me, it is being selfless with my time and spending it with others and giving without the expectation of getting anything in return. Why is kindness in such short supply these days? It isn’t always easy to be kind, but it is always rewarding.

Here are a few ways that I have been trying to cultivate kindness in my daily life:

  1. Be aware of your influence: Be conscious of the effect you have on others. You know the snarky remark you made when you were out of patience with the store clerk? We’ve all been there – we’ve all ruined someone else’s day because we were having a bad one ourselves. Don’t take your aggravation or exhaustion out on innocent bystanders. If you do, follow it up with a sincere apology. Knowing your influence on others is a great way to keep kindness at the center.
  2. Be present in person: Offering your condolences and congratulations over Facebook doesn’t always take it far enough. A true act of kindness is taking the time to show up face to face.
  3. Let some things go: When someone cuts you off on the interstate because they are in even more of a hurry than you are, let it go instead of giving them a dirty look and possibly shouting at their car. I know it can be tempting to let road rage take over, but the feeling of knowing that you aren’t quite as wound up as the other driver must be is a small victory. Maybe the next time someone cuts THEM off they will remember your kind reaction and show someone else grace.
  4. Keep it to yourself: Being kind to others is not about showing off or “humble bragging” after you do something nice for someone else. It is about the internal pat on the back you get, not the external one. Kindness requires no affirmation or payback.

Just like exercising your muscles makes them stronger, flexing your kindness muscles does the same. You get better and better with practice.

Chels

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The Power of Your Words

Has someone ever said something to you that lingers in your head and repeats itself over and over again? This shows the power of words. Hurtful words can take a…

Has someone ever said something to you that lingers in your head and repeats itself over and over again?

This shows the power of words. Hurtful words can take a toll on your mind, heart, and entire being. They stick with you and can be hard to forget if they hit hard enough.

God has a lot to say about the power of words throughout the Bible. He gives us advice on how to watch our mouths and prayers to pray to help us think before we speak.

When words are spoken, they are a reflection of the heart. If you’re bitter and jealous, your words will show that. If you’re happy and joyful, it’ll reflect through the way you speak to others.

Take a look at Matthew 12:33-34 for example.

It says, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit… For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”

If you struggle with jealousy, anger, bitterness, etc., it shows through your words. An angry heart will speak angry words, just like a bad tree will bear bad fruit.

This is an important message that the Bible is trying to make clear to us. Your true colors will show through the way you speak! Your words are more powerful than you think and others take note of them.

So, how do we make sure our words are used for good instead of bad?

First, we need to learn patience and gratitude. We need to be able to think before we speak to ensure that what we’re saying is the right thing. James 1:19 says this: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…” 

Take the time to listen to what others are saying to you. Listen, think, and then respond. Think of how Jesus would respond to the situation! If he wouldn’t say it, then you probably shouldn’t say it either.

I think it all comes back to the golden rule: do unto others as you would like to be treated. Or in this case: speak to others as you would like to be spoken to.

Be a listening ear. Compliment others. Show kindness. You are what you say! Your positivity and kindness will be contagious, and others will take notice.

Speak from a godly heart and show others the contagious love of Jesus Christ. You’ll see a difference in how others respond to you.

Be a listener and an encourager and see how your perspective changes!

– Chelsea

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Do What’s Right, Not What’s Easy

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing…

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing to do.

The situations that take you doing the right thing when it isn’t always the easiest, now these are the situations where your boldness comes in.

God talks about this in the Bible, over and over again. As a Christian, we will face persecution for the things we say and do. What God wants for us will more times than not differ from what the world wants for us.

Eventually, there comes a choice. How will you know which choice is honoring God and which is for your own benefit? There are several verses that talk about how we can live and decide through godly wisdom.

Colossians 3:17 says, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

When you’re stuck at a crossroad, you should ask yourself this question: What would Jesus want me to do? Think of the best possible way you could honor him.

Not just in what you do, but in what you say. In word and in deed, we should always think of how Jesus would respond to the situation. It can be hard to go out of your way to apologize to someone that doesn’t deserve it, but in the end, what’s right is showing mercy and grace to those who most definitely don’t deserve it!

Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”

God makes it very clear to us in the Bible that our days are numbered. We never know how many more opportunities we have to display the light and love of God through our lives.

If making the most of every opportunity means showing kindness and love in every situation, then we should do just that. Just because it’s not the easiest thing to do, doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.

I once saw a quote that puts it perfectly: “Keep a good attitude and do the right thing even when it’s hard. When you do that you are passing the test. And God promises you your marked moments are on their way.”

Think of life as a time filled with many tests. We should want God to be proud of our actions and who we are when the world isn’t looking.

So, do good, be good, and spread goodness. At the end of the day, people will remember the times you did the right thing instead of the easy thing, every single time.

Being a follower of God isn’t supposed to be easy, that’s why God calls us to a life so much greater than this. Listen to his word and his wisdom and apply it to your life. You’ll feel content, rewarded, and an all-around better person at the end of the day!

– Chelsea

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25 Kind Things to do for Your Significant Other

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is…

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is definitely key in maintaining a healthy relationship. No matter how big or small, acts of kindness never go unnoticed or unappreciated. Here are some easy ideas on how to serve your significant other and make them feel loved.

  1. Start a conversation with him that you know he will really value.
  2. Watch a sports game with him (or an event that he really loves to watch)
  3. Leave a sweet love note in his backpack or coat pocket so he will find it later.
  4. Brag about him in front of his friends. It will make him feel proud and will boost his self-esteem!
  5. Pray for him. Then, let him know that you have been praying for him.
  6. Hold his hand in public, when you are in the car, any time you can!
  7. Tell him how much you appreciate him. Give him specific examples of things that you appreciate about him.
  8. Do one of his daily chores for him, like taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, or anything else he usually does.
  9. Cook him his favorite meal.
  10. Let him pick the movie or restaurant or desert or whatever you are doing for date night!
  11. Leave your phone, tv, or computer off while you are eating dinner and give him your undivided attention.
  12. Give him a genuine compliment (or two)
  13. Write an encouraging Bible verse and place it somewhere he’ll see it.
  14. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him, or if you can help him with anything.
  15. Surprise him at work with his favorite lunch or coffee.
  16. Send him a random text in the middle of the day telling him you are thinking about him.
  17. Bake his favorite treat.
  18. Take his car and get it washed, vacuum it out, and make it look squeaky clean!
  19. Make him a mix tape CD or Spotify playlist with songs that make you think of him.
  20. Brag about him on your social media.
  21. Surprise him with something he loves, like tickets to see his favorite band or a new book by his favorite author.
  22. Tell him that you are glad he is in your life.
  23. Play his favorite board game or video game with him.
  24. Ask him to go on a walk or bike ride with you.
  25. Go out and do his hobby with him. It may not be your favorite thing, but he will appreciate your effort to spend time with him!

Doing ALL of these things definitely isn’t necessary, but there are definitely some great ideas on this list! Whatever place you are at in life, whatever season you are going through, you can always find ways, however big or small, to make your significant other feel loved and appreciated.

Chels

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Be Kind, Even On Your Bad Days

Right now is a tense time for our country and our world. People are angry, hurt, confused, fed up, and because of these emotions their attitudes can become tainted. I…

Right now is a tense time for our country and our world. People are angry, hurt, confused, fed up, and 24f4701439373f95b9631f4a8a6d7bd5because of these emotions their attitudes can become tainted. I have witnessed how nasty people can become with their words and actions through the news and on social media, and I have a reminder for all of you out there: even if we disagree about everything, we can still be kind to each other.

Kindness is a courtesy we should all show each other. Being kind is so important during these times. Kindness can mean more to someone than you know. They may be having a terrible day, and your kind word or actions can change their whole outlook. Also, as a Christian, I find that my kindness acts as a witness of my faith. People notice when you are kind, and they ask how you can be that way even when it would be so much easier to be mean or rude. Jesus called us to be kind and be a witness to the world of His love.

Be kind, even on your bad days. You never know who may be watching you and may be impacted by your actions.

XOXO, Chels

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Life Lessons from Proverbs 3:3

It is so easy to get caught up in the troubles of this world. It is easy to become angry, irritable, sarcastic, and all kinds of other negative emotions. Yet,…

It is so easy to get caught up in the troubles of this world. It is easy to become angry, irritable, sarcastic, and all kinds of other negative emotions. Yet, Proverbs 3:3 says “ Do not let kindness and truth leave you.”

When I read this verse I immediately think “How am I treating people around me? Am I treating them with kindness? Am I speaking the truth?” As a Christian, it is really important for me to embody everything this verse says. Why? A couple of reasons. The first is proverbsife because God’s word tells me to. It tells me to be kind and to tell the truth, because those are two things that God wants His followers to represent. The second reason it is important for me to do what this verse says is because I am a Christian, therefore people look to me and watch how I act. They look to me to see how I live and what I stand for. I set an example for others, and my actions can either bring honor and glory to God, or they can dishonor and shame Him. My goal is to bring glory to God in everything I do, which means being kind to others, even when it is not easy, and to speak truth.

Don’t let kindness and truth escape you, because not only do these two attributes make you a more likeable, nice person, they also bring glory to God.

XOXO, Chels

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Real Life Application: Be Nice to Everyone

When I was little, my parents would always remind me: be nice to EVERYONE.  Still to this day they remind me.  I used to have trouble understanding this, “Why should…

When I was little, my parents would always remind me: be nice to EVERYONE.  Still to this day they remind me.  I used to have trouble understanding this, “Why should I be nice to someone that treats me awful?  I’ll never have to see them again once I leave this school or quit this job”; but as I started growing up and maturing…it all made sense.Chelsea Crockett- character

Life has a funny way of working out.  Picture this.  Remember that boy that used to pick on you?  Or that nerd you used to make fun of?  Rewind 15 years later.  He’s your boss at your new job!  He’s turned his life around, is good to others, and has a Godly heart.  The last impression you made on your new boss was not a good one!  Don’t you wish you would have been nicer back in the day?

You always run the risk of running into your past.  Why not make it a good one?  If someone is mean to you…pray for them.  If someone is picking on you, don’t retaliate, but instead keep your head up.  See someone getting picked on?  Befriend them!  While you don’t have to be best friends with the people that treat you badly, it’s always important to be the bigger person.  Be nice…to EVERYONE.

XOXO,

            Chelsea        

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