Chelsea Crockett

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Signs He May Not Be the One

If you’re like me, you look for signs from time to time. Maybe you’re looking for a sign to take that one job you’ve been debating over. Or maybe you’re…

If you’re like me, you look for signs from time to time. Maybe you’re looking for a sign to take that one job you’ve been debating over. Or maybe you’re waiting for a sign to accept that college offer you’ve been waiting to commit to.

There are signs all over, and depending on your situation, people look for different signs for different things. Going through life, I’ve had so many of my friends be in relationships they shouldn’t have been in at all. They’d always tell me they’re waiting for that one sign to really show them they should break things off.

These signs are important and are usually from God himself. The Bible has advice and guidance on what you should be looking for in your future husband, you just have to look for it.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Is your boyfriend or girlfriend not only supporting your relationship with the Lord, but pushing you closer to him, as well? Your significant other’s main priority should be keeping you accountable and encouraging you to pursue the Lord.

If you notice your boyfriend or girlfriend tearing down your faith, pulling you away from God, teasing your relationship with the Lord, etc., run the other way! We become like the people we surround ourselves with, especially those we spend a large amount of time with.

1 John 3:18 says, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Do your significant other’s words line up with their actions? Are they constantly making promises they can’t keep? Loving solely with words leads to unfulfilled promises, but loving with truthful actions leads to genuine, long-lasting love.

As they say, actions always speak louder than words. If you’re constantly being disappointed by commitments not being met, then maybe this is the sign you’ve been looking for.

Proverbs 31:10-11 says, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

Do you feel full support and confidence from your current partner? Do you feel like they have your back no matter what? The Bible says a husband should have full confidence in his wife, lacking nothing of value. Your significant other should be your #1 fan, rooting for your accomplishments and picking you back up when you fail.

Lastly, if you’re looking for signs to breakup, odds are you probably shouldn’t be in that relationship anyways. Trust your gut instinct, and ask God for the strength and guidance for his will to be done. When it comes to wrong relationships, the grass really is always greener on the other side. Know what you deserve and find the person God intended for you to be with!

– Chelsea

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God’s Relationship Red Flags

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships. When we…

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships.

When we look deeper into the Bible, it tells us what we should and what we shouldn’t be looking for in a relationship. There are several so-called “red flags” that we can take from certain verses in the Bible. They can help us know if we’re in the relationship God wants us to be in!

Impatience

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Patience is something that every relationship needs to have in order to work. Whether that be showing patience toward the other person or having patience for the future, every relationship needs a firm foundation of patience. Patience is the glue that holds things together. In tense situations or waiting moments, without patience, there would be nothing to keep you sane.

Selfishness

1 John 3:16-18 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

In every relationship, whether it be boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, or friend to friend, we should be making a conscious effort to put others before ourselves. When someone is only looking out for themselves all the time, they aren’t ready to commit themselves to someone else in a relationship. Relationships require sacrifice, even if it means giving up your own needs and wants in order to put the other person first.

Fear/Worry

1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

Having constant worry or anxiety in your relationship is one of the biggest red flags there could possibly be. This is God speaking to you and telling you that you maybe shouldn’t be dating the person that you are. The Bible says it itself: “There is no fear in love.” If you have a constant pit in your stomach or a reoccurring feeling of worry, take a step back and look at your relationship.

Jealousy

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

As humans, jealousy is a feeling that we’ve all experienced from time to time. It becomes a red flag when it starts taking over your relationship. It’s a feeling no one likes to experience, and when you’re constantly getting jealous over even the little things, maybe that relationship isn’t the one for you.

If you’re seeing signs of these red flags within your relationship, maybe God is trying to tell you something. Sit and talk with him and ask him for guidance. He always wants the best for us, we just have to let him work in our lives!

– Chelsea

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4 Things to Ask Yourself Before Getting into a Relationship

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When…

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When you put it that way and look at the bigger picture, you should make sure you’re certain about someone before you get into a relationship with them.  Here are four things to ask yourself before dating someone!

  • “Am I ready for a relationship?” First and foremost, you need to put yourself first.  Although you might like the idea of him, make sure YOU are ready to make the commitment.  You need to be sure you’re over any past relationships and are ready to date again.
  • “Does he have everything I’m looking for?” We have to set our standards, ladies!  Sometimes it even helps to write down a list of all the things you look for in someone.  Maybe it’s humor, manners, kindness, or honesty.  The list can go on and on.  Then, go from there!
  • “Are there any red flags?” These are SO important to pick out before you get into a relationship with someone.  If there’s an automatic red flag at any point, you should definitely look further into it!  Whatever it may be true or not, don’t make excuses for it unless you ask them about it first.
  • “Are you both on the same page?” Making sure you have the same morals and values is also an extremely important factor to put into play. Although opposites can attract, most times two people with similar mindsets work out a little better!

I hope this helps you next time you’re unsure about getting into a relationship! 🙂

Love, Chelsea

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Red Flags to Look For When Dating

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy…

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy about it? Like, you have a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is a little off or just isn’t right. Don’t ignore that feeling! It could be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to be. Here are 5 red flags to look out for while dating.

  1. They don’t initiate hanging out: One of the worst feelings is when you have to initiate every time you guys hang out. He never asks if you want to do something, you always have to ask. Girls like to be pursued! You having to make every move is a sign that the relationship may be a little one-sided.
  2. They’re always “too busy” or “too tired”: We make time for the people we care about and want to see, and if they are always making excuses for why they can’t hang out, that’s a red flag!
  3. They never pay for anything: Splitting the bill at dinner is totally great, but sometimes it also feels great to be treated to dinner! If you are always splitting or even paying for your dates, things need to be re-evaluated.
  4. They take a day or two to respond to a text: We are all busy, and sometimes it takes me a few hours to respond to text messages, but there is a difference between being too busy to answer and taking forever just because you can. Texting games are no fun! If they can answer the text in a timely manner, they should.
  5. All they want to DO is text: This reminds me of me and my first “boyfriend.” All he wanted to do was text and never wanted to hang out! If you’re dating a guy and he is all talk (or text, for that matter) and no action, dump him. If he won’t hang out with you in person, just text you, that is more like a virtual boyfriend, and that’s not what you signed up for!

So, if you just started dating a guy, or if you have been dating them for a few months, watch out for these red flag warning signs. If your guy does these things, it might be time to show him to the door!

XOXO, Chels

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