Chelsea Crockett

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What Love Looks Like

Where did you learn to love? Who taught you? Was it your parents? Your Sunday school teacher? A good friend? The Bible? If it is the last option, then you…

Where did you learn to love? Who taught you? Was it your parents? Your Sunday school teacher? A good friend? The Bible? If it is the last option, then you looked to the perfect place. It could be also be a combination of all the above. The Bible is God’s handbook for us – He gave it to us so that we would know how to live life. How great is it that we don’t have to wonder what to do, we can just know? If you want to learn how to love the people in your life well, here is God’s advice.

  1. Pray without ceasing. Colossians 1:9 says “For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives…” Pray for the ones you love, and pray for the wisdom to know how to love them well!
  2. Listen without interrupting. Proverbs 18:2 Reads “Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.” Listen without trying to insert your own two cents.
  3. Give without sparing. Proverbs 21:26 tells us “All day long he craves for more,but the righteous give without sparing.” Don’t hold on to things and be selfish with your time and money, give what you have and feel fulfilled.
  4. Speak without accusing. James 1:19 says “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”
  5. Answer without arguing. Proverbs 17:1 tells us “Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.” This verse paints a very vivid picture of why we should pick our battles and watch our words.
  6. Share without pretending. Ephesians 4:15 reminds us “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” Don’t lie to the ones you love to spare their feelings, be loving in sharing the truth.
  7. Promise without forgetting. Proverbs 13:12 says “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Don’t make promises that you can’t keep. This builds false trust and will bite you in the long run.
  8. Trust without wavering. 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 reads “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
  9. Enjoy without complaint. Philippians 2:14 tells us “Do everything without grumbling or arguing…” This one is a tough one!
  10. Forgive without punishing. Colossians 3:13 reminds us “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Nobody is perfect, and we all slip up, so having compassion and understanding is key to showing love in the trying times.

Love each other well.

Chels

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Prayers for Your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, whether it be a dating or marriage relationship, you want what is best for the other person. You want to see them happy, see…

When you are in a relationship, whether it be a dating or marriage relationship, you want what is best for the other person. You want to see them happy, see them thrive, and see them live their best life. In my experience, the best way to see these things come to be is by praying for them. Christ’s love and power can intervene and that is the best thing that could happen for your significant other. Here are some of the prayers I continually pray for my boyfriend.

  1. Pray that he will love God with all his heart (Mark 12:30). We should love God first and others second. When he loves God first, he loves me as Christ loves the church.
  2. Pray that he will find joy in his work or job (Ecc 2:24). When he is fulfilled in his work and feels needed and important, he can feel peace and joy in everyday life.
  3. Pray that he will be safe from temptation (Matt 6:13). We all face temptation. Pray that he stands strong in the face of it.
  4. Pray for his health (3 John 1:2).
  5. Pray you are the partner he needs you to be (Proverbs 31:10). Pray that you are able to help him through the good and the bad, and that you have his back. If he needs a cheerleader, pray that you will be more affirming. If he needs a confidant, pray that you have ears to listen and wisdom to give.
  6. Pray that he will grow in his faith (Ephesians 3:6-19). This goes along with number 1. When he understands his faith and understands how to love as Christ loves, your relationship with strengthen. You will also be able to see God’s hand in his life and be able to see the blessings he has been given because of his faithfulness.
  7. Pray that, as a couple, you will be quick to listen and slow to speak (James 1:19-20). Words can be damaging. In an argument, it can be tempting to try and get the last word in. But, we should watch what we say in the heat of the moment because those words can wedge themselves into our minds and eat away at us.
  8. Pray for his genuine happiness (Ecc. 3:12-13). When he is happy, you are happy.
  9. Pray that, as a couple, you will be content (Heb. 13:5-6). Wanting more and more is a vicious cycle. Try to be content with what you have and be happy with the blessings that have been given to you.
  10. Pray that we will both love God with all our hearts.

 

Praying for your boyfriend/husband/significant other shows them that you genuinely care about them and want to see them thrive. You can also ask them “How can I pray for you this week?” and help share their burdens. Prayer is powerful, y’all!

XOXO, Chels

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25 Kind Things to do for Your Significant Other

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is…

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is definitely key in maintaining a healthy relationship. No matter how big or small, acts of kindness never go unnoticed or unappreciated. Here are some easy ideas on how to serve your significant other and make them feel loved.

  1. Start a conversation with him that you know he will really value.
  2. Watch a sports game with him (or an event that he really loves to watch)
  3. Leave a sweet love note in his backpack or coat pocket so he will find it later.
  4. Brag about him in front of his friends. It will make him feel proud and will boost his self-esteem!
  5. Pray for him. Then, let him know that you have been praying for him.
  6. Hold his hand in public, when you are in the car, any time you can!
  7. Tell him how much you appreciate him. Give him specific examples of things that you appreciate about him.
  8. Do one of his daily chores for him, like taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, or anything else he usually does.
  9. Cook him his favorite meal.
  10. Let him pick the movie or restaurant or desert or whatever you are doing for date night!
  11. Leave your phone, tv, or computer off while you are eating dinner and give him your undivided attention.
  12. Give him a genuine compliment (or two)
  13. Write an encouraging Bible verse and place it somewhere he’ll see it.
  14. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him, or if you can help him with anything.
  15. Surprise him at work with his favorite lunch or coffee.
  16. Send him a random text in the middle of the day telling him you are thinking about him.
  17. Bake his favorite treat.
  18. Take his car and get it washed, vacuum it out, and make it look squeaky clean!
  19. Make him a mix tape CD or Spotify playlist with songs that make you think of him.
  20. Brag about him on your social media.
  21. Surprise him with something he loves, like tickets to see his favorite band or a new book by his favorite author.
  22. Tell him that you are glad he is in your life.
  23. Play his favorite board game or video game with him.
  24. Ask him to go on a walk or bike ride with you.
  25. Go out and do his hobby with him. It may not be your favorite thing, but he will appreciate your effort to spend time with him!

Doing ALL of these things definitely isn’t necessary, but there are definitely some great ideas on this list! Whatever place you are at in life, whatever season you are going through, you can always find ways, however big or small, to make your significant other feel loved and appreciated.

Chels

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Bad Relationship Advice from Disney Princesses

At some point in our childhood, we all wanted to be a Disney princess. Now that we are grownups, going back and watching those movies is so different. We catch…

At some point in our childhood, we all wanted to be a Disney princess. Now that we are grownups, going back and watching those movies is so different. We catch things that went right over our heads as kids, things like how dysfunctional their relationships are! As much as we love the princesses, they’ve made some questionable dude decisions. Here are the top 5 pieces of really bad relationship advice Disney princesses give us.

  1. Pretending you are something you aren’t is a great way to begin a relationship: Cinderella, for example. She pretended to be a princess so the prince would fall in love with her. This is just bad. In our case, it could be pretending you like certain things to impress the guy you are dating. In the end, being someone you aren’t is deceiving, even if your intentions are good. Just be yourself! This can also go the other way, and the guy can be lying about who he really is. Aladdin is totally guilty of this. It causes huge strain on your relationship when you learn that person isn’t who you thought they were.
  2. Spend all of your time waiting for the love of your life to show up: Nope, don’t be Rapunzel. Get out there and show ‘em who’s boss! Don’t wait for them to come to you, put yourself out there.
  3. You can change the person you are dating: Belle. The Beast. Enough said. Trying to “save” the person you are dating and turn them into your ideal man is not the way a healthy relationship goes. Your guy should be striving to be the best person he can be, and you should be doing the same. It is not your responsibility to “save” them. That’s God’s job.
  4. Finding the right guy solves all of life’s problems: Yes, we all want our own happily ever after. But the idea of finding the guy and having the fairytale ending is just that, a fairytale. Life is hard. Life throws you curves. But that is half the fun! Going through life’s battles with your guy by your side makes you stronger, and also helps you appreciate the good times.

I know we all have wished that life could “Bibbity Bobbity Boo” a little relationship luck our way. Disney princesses don’t always have the keys to life, my friends!

XOXO, Chels

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How You Can Tell He is Not the One, Right Away

First dates are definitely not my favorite. They are nerve wracking! Plus, it is hard to tell if the person sitting across from you on a first date is going…

First dates are definitely not my favorite. They are nerve wracking! Plus, it is hard to tell if the person sitting across from you on a first date is going to be the person of your dreams, or just a short relationship that will last two weeks. But one thing you can tell is if you actually like the person to begin with. Here are some warning signs that a date is going badly, and that the person across from you so isn’t the one.

  1. Something is just “off”: You can tell within a few hours if you are really “feeling” the other person. If you have a feeling in your gut that it just isn’t working, then trust that feeling.
  2. There is a bad first impression: If you notice them exhibiting characteristics that you know you don’t vibe with (from past experience), then don’t forget those lessons you learned. If you know you don’t like a certain “type” of guy, then don’t make the same mistake twice. Best to cut it off as early as possible to spare feelings.
  3. They put you down: When you are talking, do they listen and make you feel like they are interested? Thumbs up! Do they make you feel like your hobbies and interests are lame? Thumbs down. No one needs to be made to feel like they are less than important on a first date. Even if you have had a crush on this person for a while and then finally go out on a date with them, when you see their true colors it can be disappointing. But don’t make excuses for them. Cut them loose.
  4. They don’t respect your boundaries: If they make jokes about your morals, that is a huge red flag. If they try to question or compromise them, that is an even BIGGER red flag. People that don’t have respect for boundaries can also foreshadow other issues.

Trust your intuition, it is probably steering you in the right direction!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Nurture Your Long Distance Relationship

As most of you know, I am in a long-distance relationship. My boyfriend lives down South, and I live in the Midwest. Long-distance is not easy. At all. When you…

As most of you know, I am in a long-distance relationship. My boyfriend lives down South, and I live in the Midwest. Long-distance is not easy. At all. When you miss your boo, you can’t just drive over to their house and hang. Sometimes we go months at a time without seeing each other in person. Facetime and social media keep it way easier to keep in touch, which is awesome, but there are other ways to keep your relationship strong despite the distance. Here are a few tips, from one long distance-er to another.

Make plans and keep them: This isn’t just plans to travel and see each other. This can be plans to have a Skype date, plans to make dinner together while on the phone, plans to start and finish the same book. This keeps us from feeling like it has been a long time since we saw each other and helps make the time pass faster. It is always fun having something to look forward too! And when you make plans, keep them, just like you would with an actual date.

Be as open and honest as possible: We all know how easy it is to misinterpret messages. When you are feeling sad, lonely, hurt, confused, or just missing your guy, tell him! And make sure he feels he can do the same to you. It is easy to feel neglected or put on the back burner when you are both so busy and have two separate lives. That is why it is so important to be intentional about having meaningful conversations and opening up to one another.

Give them something to remember you by: Whether it is a little note that you stick in his wallet that reminds him how you feel about him, or an item that he can use all the time and remember you by, like a watch. Little reminders of your affection will keep the spark alive and be great reminders of how much you care.

Long distance is tough, but it is also worth it.

Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? How did YOU make it work? Comment below!

XOXO, Chels

 

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How to Manage Jealousy In Your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to one of your girlfriends, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to one of your girlfriends, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you keep your jealousy in check.

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling. I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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4 Signs of a True Gentleman

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys in my town” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend….

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys in my town” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend. And sometimes, that really can seem like the truth! In my age group, there seems to be a lack of gentlemen, and finding a quality guy can feel like finding a needle in a haystack. Don’t lose heart! There is a guy out there for you that will treat you like a lady. Here are the signs that you have found a true gentlemen.

  1. He treats the women in his life with respect: Whether it is his mother, sister, or other friends that are girls, a boy should respect and treat them with dignity. He does this by listening to them when they talk and by affirming and defending them. I was always told to watch how a boy treats his mother, because that is a sign of the way he will treat his girlfriend.
  2. He values you: A gentlemen will lift you up, not tear you down. He will make sure you know how valuable you are!
  3. He is confident without being cocky: No one likes being with a guy that is full of himself. A gentlemen is humble, and he also seeks guidance from people that are older and wiser than him, aka he is not a know-it-all!
  4. He is smart with money: This one isn’t as big of a deal at this stage of life, but knowing how to wisely handle money is a biiiiiiig deal as you get older! So, having a guy who knows how to save money and doesn’t blow it all the second he gets it is a huge plus. Getting in the habit of saving money is really important.

Finding a true gentlemen may be hard, but it is worth the wait! You are worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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Small Ways to Show You Care

Our culture is so fast paced and dominated by technology. With all of the distractions around is, it can be easy to forget how important it is to show people…

Our culture is so fast paced and dominated by technology. With all of the distractions around is, it can be easy to forget how important it is to show people we are thinking about them, we love them, and we care about them. How long has it been since you told your best friend you were thinking about her? If you don’t see her every day, it can be easy to forget to remind her how much she means to you. Same goes to your sister or your boyfriend. Here are a few ways to let the people you care about know, well, that you care about them!

  1. Handwritten notes: Knowing that you spent the time to hand write them a letter will warm their heart. Handwriting someone you love a letter is even shown to decrease YOUR stress and improve your mood! Everyone loves getting a “love note.”
  2. Remembering the little details: Does your bff have a test on Tuesday? Text her that morning and wish her luck! Does your boyfriend have a big baseball game coming up? Text him before and let him know you are rooting for him. You can even show up to the game with his favorite snack and give it to him after the game. He will be so impressed you remembered what his favorite candy bar is and thought to bring it to him! Remembering the details shows how much you care.
  3. Random surprises: Out of the blue gifts are so fun to receive because you had no clue it was coming, and it can totally brighten your day! Doing random acts of kindness is not only great for others, but it is good for you as well because it increases your mood! Surprise your sister with flowers today and watch her face light up.

 

What gestures make YOU feel loved?

XOXO, Chels

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Happy Couple Habits

If you are in a relationship or have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few methods that help them,…

If you are in a relationship or have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few methods that help them, well, stay happy! These little tidbits of advice are things that I have learned and what my friends have learned through navigating the wonderful world of dating.

  1. Smile when you see them: It feels amazing to walk into the room and immediately see your crush’s face light up. It makes you feel so special! Even if you aren’t particularly thrilled to see your dude, putting a smile on your face is an easy way to show him you care! This will set a happy mood for the two of you.
  2. Randomly text them: A lot of us are busy throughout the day, so texting someone constantly just isn’t an option. But, a cute random text every once in a while can really brighten their day and them appreciate you so much.
  3. Share your day with them: Every day, take a few minutes to share your days with each other. Tell them your concerns, your goals, your hopes and your frustrations! It will really strengthen your relationship.
  4. Tell them thanks: For everything! Did they hold the door for you? Thank them. Cook you dinner? Thank them. Help you out with homework? Thank them.
  5. Complement the socks off of them: A little complement can go a long way! You know when your guy tells you he likes the way you are wearing your hair, and it makes you smile from ear to ear because you feel valued and treasured? He needs the same feeling from you! By building each other up, you are creating a happy environment!

There are so many more ways to make your relationship a happy one, you just have to be willing to work at it!

XOXO, Chels

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Bible Quotes for Dating Couples

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great…

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great foundation for relationships and it outlines the core principals of godliness , purity, and unconditional love. If you are a believer in a relationship with another believer, these 4 verses are great to study in order to strengthen your relationship.

  1. Respect each other: Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” This means that respecting each other’s boundaries, personalities, and thoughts gives couples the ability to humble themselves individually. This gives the relationship the opportunity to mature and for each person to give respect by demonstrating integrity, moral character, and devotion to God.
  2. Encourage each other to grow spiritually: 2 Thessalonians 1:3 tells us to encourage our brothers and sisters to seek Christ and to grow spiritually. This shows maturity in relationships and strengthens them. A couple who prays together, goes to Bible study or church together, or fellowships with other believers is helping each other flourish.
  3. Serve with each other: Hebrews 10: 24 says “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” serving together in the community or in church is a great way to use your spiritual gifts to further God’s kingdom, AND to grow your relationship!
  4. Pray for each other and for others: Ephesians 6:18 encourages us to pray for each other and for others, because when we do, we will experience a greater closeness to God and each other.

The Bible encourages us to be in relationships where we are equally yoked, which means of the same faith. Being in a relationship with someone who holds the same beliefs as you really sets you up for success, and gives you a sense of confidence that you are both on the same page when it comes to issues of purity and what you believe.

XOXO, Chels

 

 

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Fun and Unique Valentine’s Day Dates

It is almost Valentine’s Day (yay!), and I am sure those of you who have honeys are trying to think of date ideas. You could do the normal Valentine’s Day…

It is almost Valentine’s Day (yay!), and I am sure those of you who have honeys are trying to think of date ideas. You could do the normal Valentine’s Day routine of dinner and a movie, OR you could have a super fun, cute date that you will never forget! Here are 3 adorable date ideas for this Valentine’s Day.

  1. Indoor picnic: where I live, it is hardly picnic weather. It is too cold for that! As a fun alternative, have an inside picnic! Make PB&J sandwiches or finger foods, lay out a blanket, and have a fun little picnic in the living room.skating-square
  2. Waffle bar: have a waffle bar dinner! Lay out a bunch of waffle toppings like fresh fruit, whipped cream, chocolate chips, syrup, and jelly! Make waffles together and then top them with all of your favorites.
  3. Ice skate date: the best part about ice skating is getting to hold hands with your honey! Bundle up and head to the skating rink for a fun night of slipping, falling, and laughing at and with one another.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your boo!

XOXO, Chels

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Godly Characteristics to Look For in A Guy

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market…

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market for a guy or are already dating one, it is important to pay attention to his personality and how he acts on his faith and lives out his values. The Bible gives us lots of tips on what a Godly man looks like. Here are some Godly characteristics to look for in a guy and the scripture to back it up!e92be97ddcb365b45d2c450768922067

  • Dependable- Psalm 15:4
  • Truthful- Ephesians 4:5
  • Humble- James 4:6
  • Gentle- 1 Thessalonians 2:7
  • Attentive- Hebrews 2:1
  • Faithful- Hebrews 11:1
  • Generous- 2 Corinthians 9:6
  • Patient- Romans 5:3-4
  • Responsible- Romans 14:12

Check out these verses when you are dreaming about/praying for your future or current guy. A man that has these above characterizes is a diamond in the rough! But don’t worry, there are guys like this out there! You just have to be patient and pray about it.

XOXO, Chels

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Red Flags to Look For When Dating

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy…

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy about it? Like, you have a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is a little off or just isn’t right. Don’t ignore that feeling! It could be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to be. Here are 5 red flags to look out for while dating.

  1. They don’t initiate hanging out: One of the worst feelings is when you have to initiate every time you guys hang out. He never asks if you want to do something, you always have to ask. Girls like to be pursued! You having to make every move is a sign that the relationship may be a little one-sided.
  2. They’re always “too busy” or “too tired”: We make time for the people we care about and want to see, and if they are always making excuses for why they can’t hang out, that’s a red flag!
  3. They never pay for anything: Splitting the bill at dinner is totally great, but sometimes it also feels great to be treated to dinner! If you are always splitting or even paying for your dates, things need to be re-evaluated.
  4. They take a day or two to respond to a text: We are all busy, and sometimes it takes me a few hours to respond to text messages, but there is a difference between being too busy to answer and taking forever just because you can. Texting games are no fun! If they can answer the text in a timely manner, they should.
  5. All they want to DO is text: This reminds me of me and my first “boyfriend.” All he wanted to do was text and never wanted to hang out! If you’re dating a guy and he is all talk (or text, for that matter) and no action, dump him. If he won’t hang out with you in person, just text you, that is more like a virtual boyfriend, and that’s not what you signed up for!

So, if you just started dating a guy, or if you have been dating them for a few months, watch out for these red flag warning signs. If your guy does these things, it might be time to show him to the door!

XOXO, Chels

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Why You (And I) Should Learn to Take a Compliment

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments….

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments. Why is this?

One of my philosophies is that we feel like we are being self-centered or “proud” when we take a compliment. When you are told a compliment, do you shrug it off? Why do we feel like we cannot believe the positive things other people tell us? Imagine if you accepted all of the compliments that are given to you instead of shrugging them off and trying to contradict them. How much would that change your self-confidence? Believing the positive things people tell us can be such a boost! We need to learn to see the good in ourselves that others see in us.fullsizerender-65

Now for my philosophy on why we sometimes have a hard time giving compliments. This, to me, goes hand in hand with the reason we don’t take compliments as well as we should. We don’t know how the other person will react to our praise, whether they will shrug it off or accept it. I think, as girls, sometimes we can let the jealousy bug bite us. We can think that by giving another girl a compliment, we are setting them above ourselves and making them look better than we do. WRONG. Giving someone else a compliment is the simplest, but most impactful thing you can do for them! Compliments are free to give, and they can make someone’s day SO much better!

Moral of the story? Give sincere compliments, and learn to take them in return. Accept people’s praise, because you are worth their affirmation! Don’t think that by accepting a compliment you are being self-righteous or prideful. Learn to confidently accept people’s admiration with a kind smile, and understand that you deserve it. We also need to know the importance of GIVING complements. They can honestly make someone’s day. How great is it knowing you can take someone’s mood and flip it around, just by telling them that you like their outfit? It is so easy to do, so why not humble yourself and give out a compliment or two?

XOXO, Chels

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Dating Tips to Defy Distance

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in…

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in distance and you’ve really got a challenge! I strive to be the best girlfriend I can be, even from a thousand miles away. Here are some of my tips on how to keep your relationship strong despite the distance.

  1. Give him your full attention: When you are on the phone with him or skyping, get rid of distractions. You want him to know that when you are talking to him that he has all of your attention. You want to make the most of the little time you have together.FullSizeRender (34)
  2. Be the “friend” in girlfriend: Be his best friend! Be the one who they can talk to and share all of their hopes, dreams, and fears. Ask him how his day went, tell him the funny parts of your day, and just be a friend! Things don’t have to be romantic all the time.
  3. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Don’t focus on the negative and don’t pick fights. When you focus on the negative, all you will see is negative!
  4. Love something he loves: Does your boyfriend like football or a certain band? Ask him about how his favorite team is doing or download some of the band’s music and discuss it with him when you talk to him next. Watch an episode of his favorite tv show with him over skype. By sharing in the things he loves, you are becoming closer and you are showing him how much you care!
  5. Don’t text him allllll the time: A few texts during the day is just fine. You both understand that you are busy, and feeling like you have to constantly keep texting each other can make you feel a little stressed. Wait until the end of the day to catch up on everything, it will give you more to talk about when you are together or when you have his undivided attention. Plus, he needs his space and you need yours!

Long distance relationship-ers…I’m with you! I feel your pain! You are not alone. We got this. J

XOXO, Chels

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