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5 Cheap Winter Date Ideas

Winter is the best season for fun, creative date nights.  There are so many different things you can do to get in the holiday spirit with your boyfriend or girlfriend……

Winter is the best season for fun, creative date nights.  There are so many different things you can do to get in the holiday spirit with your boyfriend or girlfriend… while saving money at the same time!  I came up with a few different date ideas that are inexpensive yet a good time for you and your crush!

  • Have a hot cocoa date. Go to your nearest grocery store and pick out different flavors of hot chocolate.  Make a variety of hot cocoa, make some cookies, and curl up on the couch!  Maybe even put on your favorite Christmas movie. 🙂
  • Do a surprise gift exchange at the mall. Set a budget and a time limit and have some fun!  Go back home and exchange your gifts with each other.  It’s not too expensive, but you still get to give and receive a gift!
  • Decorate your Christmas tree together. What’s a better way to get in the Christmas spirit than decking the halls!  Invite your boyfriend over, turn on some Christmas tunes, and set up some decorations!
  • Build a fort. Okay, this might sound super cheesy but it’s actually so fun… and not to mention, free!  Make some popcorn, pick out a movie, and chill out.  Why not channel your inner kid again?
  • Go on a horse drawn carriage ride. These are so fun and the perfect winter date!  If you live near a big city, bundle up and go for a ride.  It’s not too expensive and you get to enjoy the view of the city, too!

Which date idea are you going to try out?  Tell me in the comments below! 🙂

Love, Chels

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How You Can Tell He is Not the One, Right Away

First dates are definitely not my favorite. They are nerve wracking! Plus, it is hard to tell if the person sitting across from you on a first date is going…

First dates are definitely not my favorite. They are nerve wracking! Plus, it is hard to tell if the person sitting across from you on a first date is going to be the person of your dreams, or just a short relationship that will last two weeks. But one thing you can tell is if you actually like the person to begin with. Here are some warning signs that a date is going badly, and that the person across from you so isn’t the one.

  1. Something is just “off”: You can tell within a few hours if you are really “feeling” the other person. If you have a feeling in your gut that it just isn’t working, then trust that feeling.
  2. There is a bad first impression: If you notice them exhibiting characteristics that you know you don’t vibe with (from past experience), then don’t forget those lessons you learned. If you know you don’t like a certain “type” of guy, then don’t make the same mistake twice. Best to cut it off as early as possible to spare feelings.
  3. They put you down: When you are talking, do they listen and make you feel like they are interested? Thumbs up! Do they make you feel like your hobbies and interests are lame? Thumbs down. No one needs to be made to feel like they are less than important on a first date. Even if you have had a crush on this person for a while and then finally go out on a date with them, when you see their true colors it can be disappointing. But don’t make excuses for them. Cut them loose.
  4. They don’t respect your boundaries: If they make jokes about your morals, that is a huge red flag. If they try to question or compromise them, that is an even BIGGER red flag. People that don’t have respect for boundaries can also foreshadow other issues.

Trust your intuition, it is probably steering you in the right direction!

XOXO, Chels

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Do’s and Don’ts of Breaking Up

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or…

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or heartbreaking and miserable.  Either way, I have a few helpful do’s and don’ts that I think I could offer!

  • DO be respectful.  Make sure you are always considering their feelings and their side of the story.  Try to put yourself in their shoes and know it can be just as hard on them as it is for you.
  • DON’T forget your worth.  Oftentimes, it can be easy to forget your worth and make excuses for the other person, especially when you’re going through a rough patch.  Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less!
  • DO put yourself first.  There’s a huge difference between being selfish and putting yourself first.  It’s okay to consider your own feelings and to value what you need out of a relationship over your boyfriend.  At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself!
  • DON’T forget what you learned.  You can learn so much through dating and breaking up.  It teaches you valuable lessons that you can use the next time you date someone.  You can observe what worked, what didn’t work, and what traits you’re looking for in the next person you date!

I hope this helps you out next time you go through a break up, which I hope isn’t any time soon for you!

Xoxo – Chelsea

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5 Tips for Dating in Today’s Culture

Dating today is completely different from what it used to be.  We now have to take into account social media, texting, and lots of other things that can cause too…

Dating today is completely different from what it used to be.  We now have to take into account social media, texting, and lots of other things that can cause too many problems in today’s relationships.  Here are five dating tips that can be super helpful in today’s culture!

  • Keep your communication face to face.  If you have to talk about something important or sort something out, don’t do it over the phone!  It is so important being able to talk about the deep stuff face to face instead of texting it out.  It’ll make your relationship 10x closer.
  • Don’t think too far into social media posts.  Girls are over-thinkers as it is but overanalyzing something as simple as a tweet can drive us crazy!  Don’t dwell on something as little as a post that most likely isn’t what you think it is in the first place.
  • Be honest.  I know this is kind of vague and should already be assumed, but simply be honest and open with one another!  Honesty is the best policy and it shouldn’t be overlooked.
  • Make it a point to see each other frequently.  In today’s culture, people substitute facetiming, calling, and texting for hanging out with their boyfriend or girlfriend, and that’s not okay!  Don’t let phones be the core of your relationship.
  • Be intentional.  Like I mentioned before, make it a point to talk to each other and see each other.  Go out of your way to do something nice for them occasionally, too!

I hope these tips give you some clarity on how you can lessen the effect today’s culture has on your relationship!

Love, Chelsea

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How to Get Rid of Toxic People

Toxic people are often hard to get away from.  Whether its due to relationships, being in the same friend group, or simply dating the wrong person, having toxic people in…

Toxic people are often hard to get away from.  Whether its due to relationships, being in the same friend group, or simply dating the wrong person, having toxic people in your life can be both draining and exhausting.  Most of us leave these people in our lives because we simply don’t know how to get away from them.  Here’s how you can separate yourself from these people in a kind and mature way!

  • Distance yourself.  Although this doesn’t always work for every situation, it does work for some.  Slowly backing away from the situation really can work.  It’s a good way to get some air and realize what you really want, whether it be in a relationship or with a close friend.
  • Pray for strength.  Prayer is powerful and I’m a strong believer that God provides when you ask him for something.  Sometimes we just need the strength to cut ties with someone and know that it really is for the best.
  • Surround yourself with people who build you up.  Surrounding yourself with good people while trying to distance yourself from the opposite is one of the best distractions.  It shows you the people you deserve to have in your life!  Know your worth!
  • Be bold and determined.  I know it’s easier said than done, but having the courage to know what you deserve in your life is something we should all believe about ourselves.  Changing your mindset to having the boldness to get rid of toxic people in your life is one of the most freeing feelings ever!

I hope you have enough courage to break away from the people bringing you down in your life! 🙂

Love, Chels

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5 Signs that You’re in the Right Relationship

It’s a pretty terrifying thing to know when the person you’re dating isn’t the one for you.  You know they’re too different from you or that you both are going…

It’s a pretty terrifying thing to know when the person you’re dating isn’t the one for you.  You know they’re too different from you or that you both are going down two totally different paths.  BUT when you meet someone that’s perfect for you, there are certain signs to assure you that you’re in the right relationship!  They do say you know when you know right? 🙂

  • You’re on the same page.  It’s so good to have the same beliefs, morals, and plans as each other.  I’m not saying you can’t differ on things but it’s better to have similar wants and mindsets as one another!
  • Trust.  If you can’t trust the person you’re dating, maybe you should reevaluate why you can’t trust him in the first place.  Maybe something in your past makes it hard for you to trust, but if you truly can’t trust what he’s saying, that’s a major red flag!
  • Openness.  Openness and honesty are two of the best things to have in a relationship.  It’s nice to be with someone that you can tell everything to and rely on them to do the same! 
  • God is the center of your relationship.  This may not be the case for everybody, but for my relationship, I like to keep God in the center.  If you glorify God with your relationship, you’re most likely on the same page and everything else will fall into place!
  • You have fun together.  Nothing’s better than kicking back and laughing till you cry, especially with the person you’re dating.  As important as it is to have those serious moments, it’s just as important to have the fun ones, as well!

Are you in a relationship?  What do you think about these signs?  Let me know in the comments below!

XOXO – Chelsea

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Why You Should Learn to Love Yourself Before Loving Him

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so…

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so much, so quickly.  With that growth, I experienced both good and bad feedback, both nice and hurtful comments.  DespiteChelsea Crockett - Love Yourself Quote the negativity, I discovered who I was over the years and have learned a few reasons why you should love yourself before loving someone else!

Self-confidence is a wonderful thing to have, but it can be so hard to attain.  Whenever I feel down or start to doubt myself, I always turn to the Bible for advice.  On the subject of loving myself, I also refer to Psalm 139:14.  It says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful.”  This is a verse that you can always lean on for a little boost! 🙂

As far as the reasons why this factor is so important before starting a relationship, there are many!  I’ve learned from experience that if you are still trying to find who you are as a person, it will be 10x harder when you’re looking to someone else for reassurance.  When you love who you are and are 100% confident with your own values, morals, and beliefs, that’s when you should share your life with another person!  I promise you, you will be so much happier.

Learn to love yourself and you’ll be so happy you did!

Love, Chels

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5 Things to Consider Before Getting into a Relationship

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet…

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet the wrong person… Yikes!  There are certain things to consider before getting into a relationship.  Consider it a “checklist” to make sure both you and the other person are ready for it!

  • Know your worth.  If you don’t know who you are as a person, you’re going to look to others to define you, especially someone you have a lot of feelings for.  Knowing your worth is important in and out of a relationship, but even more so before you date someone!
  • Make sure you’re over past relationships.  There is nothing worse than getting into a relationship without being over your last one.  This is so important!  Don’t allow anyone to be your “rebound.”Chelsea Crockett - Dating Quote
  • Talk about your morals and values with each other.  Being on the same page is crucial for a successful relationship.  Talk about religion, priorities, etc.
  • Prepare yourself to be fully committed.  If you can’t do this, then you’re not ready to invest your time and feelings into someone.  Don’t waste your time and theirs!
  • If you can’t see yourself possibly marrying the person, then don’t start a relationship with them!  I cannot stress this enough.  If you know you’re not going to end up with them in the long run, don’t waste your time and feelings.

Take these things into account before dating that special person!

Love, Chelsea

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Red Flags to Look For When Dating

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy…

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy about it? Like, you have a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is a little off or just isn’t right. Don’t ignore that feeling! It could be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to be. Here are 5 red flags to look out for while dating.

  1. They don’t initiate hanging out: One of the worst feelings is when you have to initiate every time you guys hang out. He never asks if you want to do something, you always have to ask. Girls like to be pursued! You having to make every move is a sign that the relationship may be a little one-sided.
  2. They’re always “too busy” or “too tired”: We make time for the people we care about and want to see, and if they are always making excuses for why they can’t hang out, that’s a red flag!
  3. They never pay for anything: Splitting the bill at dinner is totally great, but sometimes it also feels great to be treated to dinner! If you are always splitting or even paying for your dates, things need to be re-evaluated.
  4. They take a day or two to respond to a text: We are all busy, and sometimes it takes me a few hours to respond to text messages, but there is a difference between being too busy to answer and taking forever just because you can. Texting games are no fun! If they can answer the text in a timely manner, they should.
  5. All they want to DO is text: This reminds me of me and my first “boyfriend.” All he wanted to do was text and never wanted to hang out! If you’re dating a guy and he is all talk (or text, for that matter) and no action, dump him. If he won’t hang out with you in person, just text you, that is more like a virtual boyfriend, and that’s not what you signed up for!

So, if you just started dating a guy, or if you have been dating them for a few months, watch out for these red flag warning signs. If your guy does these things, it might be time to show him to the door!

XOXO, Chels

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Old Fashioned Dating Advice

If we compare dating nowadays to how it used to be, there are too many differences to count.  In our society, “talking” is the new dating.  Even marriage rates have…

If we compare dating nowadays to how it used to be, there are too many differences to count.  In our society, “talking” is the new dating.  Even marriage rates have dramatically decreased since decades ago!  There are so many dating pointers we could learn from couples that have been together for years.  Here are some old fashioned dating tips that should be put into action today!

  • Put down the phone!  That might sound lChelsea Crockett - Date Listike something your mom tells you but trust me, it’s so refreshing!  Putting your phone down during dinner with your boyfriend or girlfriend is so much nicer than watching each other stare at your screens. 
  • Talk face to face.  Talking out your problems in person instead of over the phone or through text solves things much easier.  Technology is great, but being able to talk about touchy subjects face to face will make you much more comfortable in your relationship.
  • Go on real dates.  This doesn’t have to be every weekend!  Picking a night once a month or even a couple nights is a good way to keep your relationship fun and a priority!  You can even make a list like the one on the right.
  • Meet each other’s parents.  Meeting the fam is a good way to show you’re serious about each other!  It also shows your polite and committed to your relationship.
  • Commit, commit, commit.  I can’t stress this enough!  If you’re in a relationship with someone, devote yourself to them and only them.

If you follow these steps, they might help you better your relationship and make it last much longer!

Love, Chels

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What to Change After a Breakup

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel…

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel like you need change in your life to help you move forward. Sometimes, a fresh start is just what you need after a breakup. It can make you feel powerful and like you have control! Here are a few things to change after a breakup to help you move forward.

  1. Outlook and attitude: After the chaos of a breakup, it is a good idea to evaluate how your outlook on life and love has changed. Breakups often make us want to make changes for the better and focus on improving ourselves. Make the best of your situation and use this time to get to know yourself.
  2. Hair: This one is a pretty common change people make after a breakup, and with good reason! A fresh new hair cut for a fresh new you. Did your ex ever tell you not to dye your hair blond even though you really wanted to? Dye those locks blonde, girl! No more holding back! You will feel strong, independent, and beautiful with a fresh new ‘do.images (1)
  3. Music: Did your bf like a certain type of music? Did you change your taste in music to fit with his? Time to find new music for the new you. Create a new soundtrack for your life!
  4. Style: If you dressed a certain way to impress your boyfriend or he didn’t like certain things you wore, no need to worry about that anymore! Now you can dress however you please. Did he hate red lipstick? Wear it proudly! Try new styles, you may find a new fav!
  5. Relationship outlook: Use this time to think about what you want in your next relationship. What did you like and dislike about your ex? What will you do differently the next time around?

Breakups are a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and focus on the “new you”.

XOXO, Chels

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Godly Characteristics to Look for In a Guy

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market…

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market for a guy or are already dating one, it is important to pay attention to his personality and how he acts on his faith and lives out his values. The Bible gives us lots of tips on what a Godly man looks like. Here are some Godly characteristics to look for in a guy and the scripture to back it up!

  • Dependable- Psalm 15:4
  • Truthful- Ephesians 4:5FullSizeRender (35)
  • Humility- James 4:6
  • Gentle- 1 Thessalonians 2:7
  • Attentive- Hebrews 2:1
  • Faithful- Hebrews 11:1
  • Generous- 2 Corinthians 9:6
  • Patience- Romans 5:3-4
  • Responsible- Romans 14:12

Check out these verses when you are dreaming about/praying for your future or current guy. A man that has these above characterizes is a diamond in the rough! But don’t worry, there are guys like this out there! You just have to be patient and pray about it.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Conversation Starters for a First Date

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you…

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you might not know much about your crush. You may worry about running out of things to say. To avoid awkward silences, here are some conversation starters!

  1. Ask if they play any sports or instruments. Oftentimes guys love to talk about sports. You can always spark up a good convo with a sports fan! If they don’t like sports, maybe they’re into music or art! Either way, it’s fun to hear about their interests and hobbies!
  2. Ask about their friends and family. It’s fun and sometimes important to learn about the people they spend their time with!
  3. As much as we don’t like to talk about school, it can sometimes take the place of awkward silences. Asking what classes they’re in can bring up common interests.
  4. Ask about the future! I don’t mean asking about how many kids they want or where they want to live when they get older… TMI! Try asking if they have any fun summer plans or about where they’re going to college!
  5. Come up with a question or comment about the date you’re on. If you’re at a restaurant, ask what they’re getting or what looks good to them. If you’re mini golfing, make comments on who’s winning or what the score is!

Most of the time, conversations tend to flow nicely, so you should have nothing to worry about! But if you need to stir up the convo, hopefully these will help you out and calm your nerves!

XO – Chels

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First Date Do’s and Don’ts: Part 2

A few months ago, I uploaded an article on first date do’s and don’ts. It was extremely popular (I even made a video off of it!), so I decided to…

A few months ago, I uploaded an article on first date do’s and don’ts. It was extremely popular (I even made a video off of it!), so I decided to make a part 2! Why not? There are always a few necessities, and a few things you should avoid, on a first date. Here they are!

  • DON’T rush anything. You might be secretly waiting for him to kiss you or wanting him to ask you out right there on the spot, but great things take time! Patience is a virtue. Just wait for the perfect moment that feels right.
  • DO be chill during the date. As girls, we like to overanalyze and over think everything that happens, especially with boys. Our heads may jump to the “OMG he definitely doesn’t like me” kind of thoughts. Just calm down and relax! And most importantly, be yourself!
  • DON’T only talk about yourself. Be engaged and interested in his life. Ask him questions and listen attentively. Yes, he is there to get to know you, but remember you are there to get to know him too!
  • DO be polite and considerate. Saying “please” and “thank you” might seem overrated to you, but I promise it’s not!
  • DON’T be on your phone the whole night. This is a big one. Our generation is obsessed with technology, but we need to know when to put our phones away. If you and your date both do this, there will be more time for getting to know each other, which is the main reason why you’re there!

What other do’s and don’ts do you suggest? Let me know below!

XO – Chels

 

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Relationship Red Flags

Throughout relationships, there may be times when you start to second guess certain aspects of it. Following your gut feeling can mean a lot more than you think. Sometimes we…

Throughout relationships, there may be times when you start to second guess certain aspects of it. Following your gut feeling can mean a lot more than you think. Sometimes we make excuses for being in a relationship we really want, but it might not always be what’s best. I wanted to help sort out some of the feelings that may actually be red flags in your relationship!

  • Lack of respect. This is a big one! If your boyfriend doesn’t respect who you are, physically or not, then that can be a huge problem. You need to be on the same page in a relationship 100%.
  • Reoccurring stress. If you find yourself stressing several times throughout the week about your relationship, you shouldn’t have to feel that! Relationships should be about making each other a better person and bringing happiness into each other’s lives.
  • Lack of honesty. If you catch your boyfriend hiding certain things from you, maybe you should bring it up. Honesty is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
  • Not over a past relationship. If you’re not ready to move on, then you’re simply not ready to move on! If your boyfriend seems to frequently bring up an ex, maybe you need to talk to him about it.
  • Negative reactions from your friends and family. If a majority of your friends and family seem to be concerned, maybe you should reconsider. I know some of you think listening to your parents is overrated, but if they have a bad feeling about someone, it’s usually pretty accurate!

If you see any of these signs in your relationship, think about sitting down and having a conversation about it! It may save you from wasting your time in a relationship you shouldn’t be in.

Love, Chels      

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Bible Verses for Dating Couples

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great…

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great foundation for relationships and it outlines the core principals of godliniess, purity, and unconditional love in the scriptures. If you are a believer in a relationship with another believer, these 4 verses are great to study in order to strengthen your relationship.

  1. Respect each other: Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” This means that respecting each other’s boundaries, personalities, and thoughts gives couples the ability to humble themselves individually. This gives the relationship the opportunity to mature and for each person to give respect by demonstrating integrity, moral character, and devotion to God.f1cbb692e0c8b0738af1a392901ee2cc
  2. Encourage each other to grow spiritually: 2 Thessalonians 1:3 tells us to encourage our brothers and sisters to seek Christ and to grow spiritually. This shows maturity in relationships and strengthens them. A couple who prays together, goes to Bible study or church together, or fellowships with other believers is helping eachother flourish.
  3. Serve with each other: Hebrews 10: 24 says “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” serving together in the community or in church is a great way to use your spiritual gifts to further God’s kingdom, AND to grow your relationship!
  4. Pray for each other and for others: Ephesians 6:18 encourages us to pray for each other and for others, because when we do, we will experience a greater closeness to God and each other.

The Bible encourages us to be in relationships where we are equally yoked, which means of the same faith. Being in a relationship with someone who holds the same beliefs as you really sets you up for success, and gives you a sense of confidence that you are both on the same page when it comes to issues of purity and what you believe.

XOXO, Chels

 

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