Chelsea Crockett

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When to Bite Your Tongue

How do you know when it’s time to keep your mouth shut and when it’s time to speak your mind? We walk such a fine line of wanting to say…

How do you know when it’s time to keep your mouth shut and when it’s time to speak your mind? We walk such a fine line of wanting to say what we truly want to say while still adhering to scripture and what God would want at the same time. There are five situations in which I find myself wanting to say what’s on my mind but knowing it’s best to bite my tongue!

When you are angry:

Being angry is the #1 reason that hurtful words are oftentimes said. The emotional buildup that comes from anger can lead to saying things you don’t even mean.

James 1:19-20 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” 

Slow to speak and slow to become angry. These are the two parts of the verse that we really need to pay attention to. We grew up with the phrase: “think before you speak,” and I think that’s still applicable to life today! Don’t let anger be a gateway to regret!

When you’re tempted to gossip: 

Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Gossip is one of the easiest sins to fall into. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it! If you find yourself in a situation where you’re tempted to gossip, either remove yourself or think of a new topic to talk about. Let your conversations be full of encouragement and positivity!

When it’s time to listen:

Sometimes all a friend needs is for someone to listen to them instead of overbearing them with advice or trying to tell them what they’re doing is wrong. When was the last time someone sat and simply listened to you? We all need these moments, and it’s important to recognize when the people close to us need them, as well.

If your words will be hurtful:

Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

If you know what you’re about to say may be hurtful, then stop and think: is this benefiting anyone? Sometimes it’s necessary to be honest and straightforward, but there can be a fine line between hurtful and truthful.

If your words don’t reflect the Lord:

As followers of Christ, people watch what we say and do whether we know they are or not. Our words and actions should reflect who Jesus is as our Lord and Savior.

Psalm 19:14 says, “May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”

If you’re wondering if you should bite your tongue, think if Jesus would approve of what you’re about to say. Although we’ll never be perfect, we can take steps to ensure that our words are pleasing to the Lord!

Start today by creating positivity and encouragement around you by what you say. Use your words to lift people up instead of tear them down. It starts with one person to make a difference in the conversations you’re having daily! Stop tearing people down and start lifting people up, even if that means staying silent! 🙂

– Chelsea

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The Power of Your Words

Has someone ever said something to you that lingers in your head and repeats itself over and over again? This shows the power of words. Hurtful words can take a…

Has someone ever said something to you that lingers in your head and repeats itself over and over again?

This shows the power of words. Hurtful words can take a toll on your mind, heart, and entire being. They stick with you and can be hard to forget if they hit hard enough.

God has a lot to say about the power of words throughout the Bible. He gives us advice on how to watch our mouths and prayers to pray to help us think before we speak.

When words are spoken, they are a reflection of the heart. If you’re bitter and jealous, your words will show that. If you’re happy and joyful, it’ll reflect through the way you speak to others.

Take a look at Matthew 12:33-34 for example.

It says, “Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit… For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.”

If you struggle with jealousy, anger, bitterness, etc., it shows through your words. An angry heart will speak angry words, just like a bad tree will bear bad fruit.

This is an important message that the Bible is trying to make clear to us. Your true colors will show through the way you speak! Your words are more powerful than you think and others take note of them.

So, how do we make sure our words are used for good instead of bad?

First, we need to learn patience and gratitude. We need to be able to think before we speak to ensure that what we’re saying is the right thing. James 1:19 says this: “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…” 

Take the time to listen to what others are saying to you. Listen, think, and then respond. Think of how Jesus would respond to the situation! If he wouldn’t say it, then you probably shouldn’t say it either.

I think it all comes back to the golden rule: do unto others as you would like to be treated. Or in this case: speak to others as you would like to be spoken to.

Be a listening ear. Compliment others. Show kindness. You are what you say! Your positivity and kindness will be contagious, and others will take notice.

Speak from a godly heart and show others the contagious love of Jesus Christ. You’ll see a difference in how others respond to you.

Be a listener and an encourager and see how your perspective changes!

– Chelsea

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Words with Weight

Ever heard the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?” Although some words oftentimes have no intention of harm, they can come off…

Ever heard the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?”

Although some words oftentimes have no intention of harm, they can come off rude, demeaning, or offensive, which can tear you down and affect you more than you thought they could.

Just because the words of others don’t define us as a people doesn’t mean they can’t strike a nerve every once in a while.

As someone that grew up on YouTube, I’ve learned that people can say awful things, whether those nasty words spawn from jealousy, hate, or just plain boredom.  I’ve learned to take rejection, criticism, judgement and everything that comes along with it.

Being a teenage girl in today’s society, this is something God could use us to be a light in. I wanted to dive into scripture and build a conviction for how my every day conversations with others should be.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29

When we’re with our friends, our conversations can be full of gossip and drama. Or we can steer our conversations away from “unwholesome talk” and encourage and build each other up. If our conversations aren’t beneficial to those who listen, then we need to rethink what we’re talking about.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6

When our conversations are full of grace, we grow in patience and dignity. Whether someone comes to us with drama, anxiety, depression, etc. we’ll know how to extend support and love to them.

“May my lips overflow with praise, for you teach me your decrees. May my tongue sing of your word, for all your commands are righteous.” – Psalm 119:171-173

When we replace our negative conversations with those of praise and grace, you will see the entire attitude of your friends, family, or whoever you’re with change.

Anyone can talk the talk, but it takes a genuine follower of the Bible to walk the walk..

So, next time you’re tempted into ungodly words and conversations, keep your eyes fixed on the one who extends endless amounts of grace, love, and wisdom.

Chelsea

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5 Words to Live By

It may be cliché to say this, but life is full of many ups and downs. I lost count of the days that didn’t go as I had hoped or…

It may be cliché to say this, but life is full of many ups and downs. I lost count of the days that didn’t go as I had hoped or planned! In church, in school, and in everyday life, I’ve learned a few words that help me get through whatever I’m dealing with, without losing a positive attitude.

  1. Faith. I’ve learned in EVERY situation, that you have to have faith. Without putting my trust and hope in God, I can easily get discouraged. Sometimes so discouraged that I end up not even trying in the first place!Chelsea Crockett - Happiness
  2. Happiness. If you don’t strive towards happiness, how can you live a life you enjoy? I’ve learned that if something or someone isn’t making you happy, it’s best to get rid of whatever it is bringing you down.
  3. Forgiveness. Being a forgiving person not only helps you, but the person you’re forgiving, as well. Forgiving is a domino effect. Once you let go of something with your friend or someone in your family, it doesn’t go unnoticed. Compassion spreads, so why not pass it along yourself?
  4. Love. Love doesn’t only mean finding someone and falling head over heels for them. Love should be shown to anyone and everyone, whether you’re at school or at church. Next time you’re about to comment negatively about someone, show love and lift them up instead of tearing them down!
  5. Patience. Having patience is one of the greatest virtues in life. Things don’t always happen right when you want them to. Waiting patiently is something you’ll learn as you mature. The love of your life is out there, you just might not find them in high school!

Keep these words in mind and live a life filled with joy and happiness!

Love, Chels

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Would Changing Your Words Make a Difference?

            As I’m getting older, I’m learning that the words we speak are very powerful. You can build someone up or tear someone down very quickly.  Some words are blessings…

            As I’m getting older, I’m learning that the words we speak are very powerful. You can build someone up or tear someone down very quickly.  Some words are blessings and make me feel proud while other words can bring on hurt and pain.  Two quotes that I recently read were: “Don’t speak unless you can improve the silence.” A Spanish Proverb and “If you wouldn’t write it and sign it, don’t say it.” By Earl Wilson (I think that goes for texting too!) 
            Both of these sayings are very powerful.  I think it goes back to my mom always saying, “If you can’t say something nice, then don’t say anything at all!”  I am spending a little timChelsea Crockett - words quotee reflecting on these thoughts which I think we can all learn a little from.  Everyone is searching for signs of encouragement.  I want to be the friend that encourages and builds others up.  Who doesn’t like a friend to rely on when you need a little encouragement?  Find a friend or even an acquaintance that could use some kind words and put some positivity in their lives!  You don’t realize how much of a difference it can make!  Last but not least, I’d like to share one other thought: “Nothing else can quite substitute for a few well-chosen, well-timed, sincere words of praise. They’re absolutely free–and worth a fortune.” By Sam Walton
                                                                               XOXO, Chelsea

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