Teen Talk

Take The High Road: Be Proactive

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proactive-2Being proactive is not always the easiest thing to do. In Sean Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens," Habit 1 tells you how to succeed in being proactive during every situation you go through in life.

            Being proactive, I've learned, is to be positive and to make choices based on values, not impulse. It's to think before you act and to control how you react to situations in life. The other path you can take is to be reactive. Although this seems easier to do, it's the wrong way to go. The analogy used in this book is a good way to look at it. Reactive people are like a can of soda.CMSResultFigure01_11_10_14 If life tends to shake them up, everything builds inside of them and they suddenly explode. Unlike reactive people, being proactive is like a bottle of water. Shake it all you want but nothing will happen once you take off the lid. These people remain calm and in full control.

            Now you have a choice, to be reactive or proactive. Being a teenager, I know the choice is not easy. I've gone through many situations during school or sports where I thought being reactive was the only thing I could be and that's what I would do.  It's easier to blame other players for throwing you a bad pass or to blame the teacher for your bad grade. The truth is it's your fault. Maybe you caught the ball wrong or you were in the wrong position. Instead of giving up and saying "There's nothing I can do," think positive and say "Let's look at all our options, I can do better."

            If you catch yourself having a reactive mindset, push pause. Think of how you can change your negative comments to positive statements. Maybe you got a bad grade on a big test. blame-gameInstead of blaming others or thinking you should've studied or worked harder, push pause and say you'll do better next time.

            Being an athlete, I know working with a team is sometimes frustrating and hard to do. A few months ago, my basketball team played in a big tournament that we were all very excited about. In the game to get into the semi-finals we were losing by quite a few points at half-time. We were all very down and being reactive. Thinking of the mistakes we made and the could-of, should-of moments was what most players were doing at this time. After a talk between our team and motivating words to be positive from our coaches, we then went into the game with a more positive attitude knowing we could do it. We finally caught up to the other team and ended up going into overtime and winning the game. From then on we had a more positive outlook on the next few games we had to play.

            I know being proactive is hard, but it pays off. Wake up every morning and think "I am going to be proactive today." Think before you speak, be positive, and put yourself in control of your attitude. Be proactive. 

                                                                      Alli Stone, age 15  

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32 Comments

  1. brianna braman

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    April 6, 2014 at 11:47 am

    can you give me a shout out on YouTube I’m strongling my name is Brianna Braman or gymnastics1234.bb

  2. Clareycat

    April 3, 2013 at 5:48 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this article and I found it so inspiring. You’re website is beautiful! Thanks, Chelsea! :)

  3. coralfelix

    April 3, 2013 at 3:25 pm

    This helped me not procrastinate so much :)

  4. hinbro

    April 2, 2013 at 5:46 am

    omg I read the same book, and I’ve loved it! moreover, I like the fact that your blog isn’t only makeup-talking.. some posts like that reminds us that there’s so much things why we can be thankfull for! Thank’s to be there Chelsea, I love what you do :) (excuse my english please)

  5. Sleepy

    April 1, 2013 at 10:11 pm

    Wow this is so true! I also can never get started on things I need to get done, some of these are so bad, I’ve been leaving them off for over a year.. :)))

  6. daisy_duck28

    April 1, 2013 at 9:16 pm

    This really helped a lot !!! Thank you so much I learned a lot from this article :) I really hope you keep putting more of them up each and everyday !! well … muah

  7. Lolo12

    April 1, 2013 at 10:26 am

    I like the teen talk because I think it helps me as a teen what we can overcome in high school, plus I’m goning to be freshman in one more year so this page really helps me.

  8. AoifeMarie98

    March 31, 2013 at 9:50 am

    Your website and your videos help me out so much :) You taught me all I know about makeup and using pops of colours to brighten everything up and to truly believe in what you want in life <3 Thank you so much Chelsea :)

  9. AoifeMarie98

    March 31, 2013 at 9:47 am

    Thanks so much Chelsea for posting about this it really helps me out a lot. I love the way that you are so dedicated to helping other people and that is why you are my inspiration <3

  10. delilah1813

    March 31, 2013 at 12:33 am

    I love this post as well as your website because it is chock-full of helpful tips and inspirational posts like the one above. Your website has such a nice layout and i absolutely LOVE your you tube channel! It would be SOOOO cool to win the pallet!
    Thanks for reading!
    ~Delilah <3

  11. Purplehair11

    March 30, 2013 at 1:51 pm

    This is a true issue thanks for writing about it. It’s super helpful.

  12. kaitdoyl

    March 30, 2013 at 1:21 pm

    Love the website! What great colors and themes. So nice!

  13. JazmineRaine13

    March 30, 2013 at 12:40 pm

    This is so helpful I love your website :)

  14. jwow033

    March 30, 2013 at 10:56 am

    I love teen talk! It really helped me out!
    love ur vids :)

  15. jordankro

    March 30, 2013 at 10:08 am

    i like this post because it really helped me with my perspective in life and it’s very very well written and it gives me a wider outlook. thanks

  16. LoveeBeautyForever

    March 30, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Thanks Chelsea. This will really help me out in life.

  17. jackie_coronado

    March 30, 2013 at 9:43 am

    thanks Chelsea, this really helped me since I just moved into high school. you in courage me to do more then I would ever in courage myself to do!

  18. Beautytothemax

    March 30, 2013 at 7:44 am

    Thank you SO much for this post I am entering high school soon and I know I’m going to have to make hard decisions and put my life on the right path and this post helped me with that. I feel like now I can enter high school with a good state of mind and make the right choices. By far my favorite post :).

    • LaurenArch

      March 30, 2013 at 8:10 am

      This was so helpful! Thank you so much! Your website is amazing, there’s so many things to do and see! Keep up the amazing work Chelsea

  19. xnadiaserena

    March 30, 2013 at 3:54 am

    This is such a great post! I can see from the other comments that I’m not the only one who thinks so! Loving your site so far! It was a bit difficult to register, and in your giveaway video you said “subscribe to my website” and I wasn’t sure if that meant register or subscribe for newsletters but either way, your website looks great – keep it up! <3 x

  20. gaya3shinika

    March 30, 2013 at 2:32 am

    Wow Chelsea! This truly helped me. Ive looked up so many websites for advice like this and this is the best ive gotten. I love how i can get advice from a teen’s perspective and i really love how you do these! Thanx so much! <3

  21. destinyortiz

    March 30, 2013 at 12:21 am

    This blog has helped me be more athletic after i read this it made me want to join track at school! I love the choice of words you used!

  22. Jennnguyenx

    March 29, 2013 at 11:34 pm

    Thank you, Chelsea! I really needed this. Going to change my view on things now! :)

  23. oliviachic430

    March 16, 2013 at 6:16 pm

    Thanks!!!!

  24. alexis822

    March 11, 2013 at 6:57 pm

    i totally remember doing this in school! You are awesome! Write back if you can!

  25. MaikkiSalo

    March 11, 2013 at 7:00 am

    You are pretty!

  26. AllanaLuvsYa

    March 10, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    Hay!

    • Chelsea Crockett

      March 10, 2013 at 10:54 pm

      Hey Back!

      • Em

        March 14, 2013 at 4:11 pm

        hi Chelsea, I just wanted to know what age are you and why did you decide to make a website?

        • Chelsea Crockett

          March 14, 2013 at 11:44 pm

          I am 15 now. I wanted a website to be able to help girls learn about makeup, fashion plus the word of God. I also want to help girls that are in need from pregnancy, suicide, drugs etc..

          Thank you for comment and I hope you enjoy the site. We plan on having new post daily so come back and enjoy.

          <3 Chelsea

          • Love_cheer12

            March 15, 2013 at 3:47 pm

            I love the website

      • Chartycathy

        March 30, 2013 at 8:10 pm

        Hi Chelsea’s the best thing about your website is that you help us grow up and help us along the way you have ever trick in the book

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