Spiritual mismatch was a term I rarely ever heard of, let alone had given any thought of what it meant for my life and those around me.

Recently, I’ve been exposed to how important and crucial it is to be on the same page as those who you surround yourself with.

Ever heard of the quote: “your vibe attracts your tribe”? I can see how this reigns true in the lives of almost everyone around me. My friends that are loud and outgoing oftentimes tend to lean toward others who are also loud and outgoing. Same for the friends that are quiet, funny, crazy, etc.

Although that’s not always the case, and sometimes opposites do attract, we often like to group ourselves with the people who are similar to us. Instead of only looking for certain personality traits, we should also look for spiritual traits, those who can push us toward having a better relationship with the Lord.

Ever heard of the phrase “spurring one another on?” Hebrews talks about the importance of it in the lives of Christ followers.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

We should look for people who are going to push us toward God’s love and inspire us to do the deeds he wants us to accomplish. In this verse, he talks about “meeting together,” or in other words, fellowship.

Fellowship should be a big part of your life. God doesn’t just suggest it, he demands it. He knows that without a good group of people to continually “spur” you on, it’s easy to slip away from the path God has created for you.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

Again, God speaks of the importance of fellowship. If we surround ourselves with people who have opposite values, morals, or beliefs, it can be hard to stay true to our own.  We need to have a good balance of people we can be influenced by and people who we ourselves can have influence on.

So, how can we avoid spiritual mismatch?

Take a step back and look at your life. Are you doing the things God speaks of in Hebrews and 2 Corinthians? Are you letting the people in your life influence you for the better?

I challenge you to make some changes in your life. Surround yourself with the people who “match up” with how you want to live your life.

It makes a world of a difference and will make you the best version of yourself that you can be!

– Chelsea