Comparison is like a disease. It eats at us slowly until we’re left feeling sad, empty, and worthless.
With our generation growing up posting our lives on social media, it’s easy for comparison to creep in. We think things like, why can’t I be that pretty… that skinny… that social… that wealthy. It’s a dangerous game to play when we constantly wonder why we’re not enough.
But it doesn’t stop there… Sometimes we compare ourselves to others and then boast about the things we’re doing and the people we’re hanging out with. It makes us feel validated, like we’re wanting other people to see how much fun we’re having or how good we look in a photo.
When thoughts like these cross my mind, I think about a verse in Galatians that humbles me without fail, every single time I read it. Galatians 1:10 says, “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
This verse brings up a very true and humbling point. Why are we concerned about the opinions of others when we’re supposed to be finding our identity in Christ? We spend so much time worrying about what others are saying or thinking, but God already told us all we need to know about ourselves. Psalm 139:13-14 says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
If we truly believe this verse, then we fully believe that all of His works are wonderful, not just the ones we want to think are. When we look in the mirror in the morning, we should believe in the fact that we are works of God: wonderful, beautiful, and made in His image.
One thing I like to do is monitor how much time I spend on social media. If I’m feeling down or catch myself having negative thoughts of comparison, I put my phone down and pick up my Bible. Spending time with God and diving deep into the truth of what God thinks of us, instead of what the world thinks, puts my mind at complete peace.
One of my favorite passages to reflect on is 1 Peter 3:3-4. It says, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”
Outward beauty fades, but God delights in inward beauty. Focus on who you are, how you treat others, and how your attitude toward life is. When we create an atmosphere of love, optimism, acceptance, etc., we can focus less on our flaws (or what we think are flaws) and focus more on being a devoted follower of Christ.
Have joy in who God created you to be. Love yourself like He loves you!