No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter how many positive things I have going for me, somehow the negative thoughts seep in.

I find myself needing to take “social media breaks” every once in a while to detox my mind and give myself fresh perspective. It seems like everywhere you look, there is someone skinnier, prettier, more popular, with a better house, better clothes, and a happier smile. Comparing your work, your life, and whatever else will only make you miserable. Why? Because when you compare yourself to others, you aren’t seeing all the stuff going on in the background. You are only seeing the positive surface-level information that they are allowing everyone to see. Comparing yourself to someone else’s “best” is unfair.

It’s not just on social media that we can start to allow jealousy to slowly seep into our hearts. Your coworker may be excelling and getting promoted faster than you are. The friends you grew up may be getting engaged or married. When I see people that started their YouTube channels around the same time I did gaining more followers or opportunities than me, it is hard not to let jealousy paralyze my thinking. If I’m not careful, comparing myself to them can strip me of my contentment with who I am and what I am good at. Jealousy steals joy.

It is painfully true. Jealousy gives you a sick feeling in your stomach and an satisfaction with all that God has given you and the gifts he has blessed you with. Dwelling on these things sets us back. I used to worry a lot about what I wore, never wanting people to see me in the same outfit twice. I saw all of my YouTube friends dressing fashionably, so I did too. All of the stress of constantly worrying what I was wearing and what people would think of it was stealing my happiness. Comparing ourselves to others removes focus from what we should be proud of within ourselves. I guarantee that someone has looked at you and thought “I wish I could be like her.”

My advice? Keep reminding yourself that comparing yourself to others only discourages you. It will push you to spend money on things you don’t want or need just to be like the people you envy. Take ownership of who you are. Be proud of your positive qualities and achievements. There is no one else on this planet who is just like you.

XOXO, Chels