Chelsea Crockett

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How to Start Eating Clean

Nick and I are always trying to eat healthier – who isn’t? I’ve been interested in trying clean eating, which allows you to eat lots of yummy foods that are…

Nick and I are always trying to eat healthier – who isn’t? I’ve been interested in trying clean eating, which allows you to eat lots of yummy foods that are both nutritious AND delicious, but also satisfying. This means cutting out foods that are processed, have lots of preservatives, etc. We also love eating out, so I started looking into clean eating tips that even non-health nuts like us could follow. Here is what I have found!

  1. The easiest way to start is with the things you already eat. Take recipes you love and make them clean! Nick and I love tacos. So, to make them clean, we can use grass-fed beef and other organic and high quality ingredients. If you are eating it with a side like rice, use wild rice or brown rice instead of white.
  2. Plan ahead. I find that I eat the worst when I am in a pinch. Most times, the most convenient things to make are the unhealthiest. Planning a weekly menu ahead helps avoid this! Meal prep is also a must. Many “clean” foods are ingredients and not ready-to-eat foods. So, preparing them ahead saves you time in the long run. Cut up that produce and have it ready to eat when you get in the snacking mood instead of just washing it and putting it straight in the fridge.
  3. It is not all or nothing. You decide how strict you want to be. It is overwhelming to think about eliminating all processed foods – and unrealistic to think that you can and should eliminate them completely from your life. I don’t think I could go forever without a Reese Peanut Butter Cup. Not possible. So, make clean eating work for your lifestyle. Do your best to eat natural and clean most of the time, but don’t think that Chinese food on a Tuesday night is out of the question. Make your goal to eat clean 75% of the time and you will be much more successful than if you try and go 100% cold turkey.
  4. Take it one thing at a time. Make your healthy changes slow. If you usually take chips for lunch as a snack, switch them for carrot sticks and humus. If you typically eat white rice, switch it to brown. Your body will thank you for the slow transition rather than a shock to the system.

If you are interested in starting the clean eating journey too, I hope these tips helped you! They definitely helped me feel more confident about committing to the lifestyle change.

Chels

 

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Setting Boundaries in Marriage

What does it mean to have healthy boundaries in our marriages? And why is it important for us to set boundaries in the first place? Boundaries are like the fence…

What does it mean to have healthy boundaries in our marriages? And why is it important for us to set boundaries in the first place?

Boundaries are like the fence around your house. They provide a safe “fence” around your marriage, and they are unique to each relationship. They are meant to protect you, just like a fence. Your marriage should always be protected – Satan would love nothing more than to see your relationship fail. Boundaries allow you to be on the same page in life’s many situations, alleviating worries and unnecessary future arguments. So, how do we set boundaries?

  1. Pray that the Lord will give you both the courage to say what you truly feel and ask for guidance as you build this fence of protection around your relationship. Praying before discussing boundaries will help you both understand each other’s intentions and receive what they are saying in a loving way instead of feeling attacked or put down.
  2. Talk it out. This process is bound to bring up some awkward or touchy subjects. If a subject is being brought up, then it is important to you or your spouse and should be heard out rather than made into an opportunity to argue. Things to discuss are everything from boundaries with your kids, to family gatherings, to in-laws, to where you will spend which holidays and more. Obviously you cannot prevent every future issue that may arise, but there are some that you can see coming. You might have to talk it out for a while in order to come to an agreement on these, but make sure by the end of the discussion you are both on the same page. Tweak them until you are both comfortable with the end results.
  3. Follow through. Put these boundaries into action. You did the hard work, now let them work for you. It is both of your responsibilities to uphold these. There may, and probably will, be people in your life that will not be happy with some of the boundaries you have set, but just remember why you are setting them. You are doing this to protect your marriage – the most important relationship you have besides the one you have with the Lord.

Now go build that fence!

Chels

 

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Thy Will Be Done

“To pray ‘thy will be done’ I must be willing, if the answer requires it, that my will be undone.” – Elisabeth Elliot How many times have we recited the…

“To pray ‘thy will be done’ I must be willing, if the answer requires it, that my will be undone.” – Elisabeth Elliot

How many times have we recited the Lord’s Prayer and said the line, “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven” without even thinking about the gravity of those words?

Often, we use prayer to ask for things from God. Many times, when we need help, especially in desperate situations, God is the only one we can turn to. In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus is saying that prayer is less about asking God to give us our way and more about seeing God’s will done here on earth. Our worldly priorities and the priorities of heaven are in constant conflict. This means that prayer is about aligning our expectations to God’s purpose rather than asking God to conform to OUR expectations.

Jesus prayed “thy will be done” and was the only person – ever – to completely fulfill God’s will. Jesus did this for us. We can try to do God’s will, but not to earn His favor but to spread His goodness to the world. We listen to God’s word and obey his will because it is our joy, not because we think it will make God happy. This is what we were created for.

So what does it mean to pray “thy will be done”? One thing it represents is asking God to come into our cities, government, culture, and homes and defeat every kind of evil. He calls us to desire to see our world looking how God intended it. God’s will is for abundant joy and lasting peace. His will is to eradicate sin, evil, and death and wipe our slate clean through Jesus’s resurrection.

We are assets in this by surrendering to him and aligning our priorities with His. Using our prayers to ask for these things will accomplish His will and, in turn, answer many of our own prayers. And if not, He is still good.

Chels

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5 Biblical Ways to Show Love

One thing marriage has taught me is that there are many ways to show love – some easier than others. Showing love isnt always a physical action, many times it…

One thing marriage has taught me is that there are many ways to show love – some easier than others. Showing love isnt always a physical action, many times it is emotional and verbal. As a wife, I want to strive to “out-love” my husband every day. He does the same for me. The Bible is a great resource when it comes to advice on the best ways to show love to those we are closest to.

  1. Trust without doubting. “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” 1 Corinthians 13:7. Simply put, trusting your significant other – and showing them you do – is a clear expression of your love. They will know they have your full support and confidence in them. There is nothing better than feeling 100% trusted and supported in the decisions you are making.
  2. Let it go. “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Colossians 3:13-14. Forgiving and letting go is a beautiful way to show love to anyone, not just a significant other. Looking past the ways they’ve wronged you or hurt you is a clear act of love.
  3. Practice patience. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” 1 Corinthians 13:4. This is a big learning curve for any relationship. One of you may be a morning person and one a night owl, one may be always late and the other always on time, and many other little differences that can drive the other crazy. Being patient and learning to be flexible is a way to show love and that you are willing to adjust.
  4. Give selflessly. “Some people are always greedy for more, but the godly love to give!” Proverbs 21:26. One thing I try and give selflessly is my time. I feel like being sacrificial with this precious commodity shows tremendous love.
  5. Keep the complaining to yourself. “Do everything without grumbling or arguing,” Philippians 2:14. I have noticed that complaining just exasperates a situation. If you have a complaint, approach it in a loving way. Your man will be grateful for your gentle reminder rather than starting an argument.

Are there any lessons on love that God has been teaching you recently?

Chels

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I’m a Rough Draft, and So Are You

“We’re all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming” Bob Goff I love this quote from Bob Goff. We are all works in progress, no matter what age or stage…

“We’re all rough drafts of the people we’re becoming” Bob Goff

I love this quote from Bob Goff. We are all works in progress, no matter what age or stage we are at in life. It’s God’s grace that keeps us in the “revision” process, even when we are content in our unfinished state.

Do you remember having to write rough drafts in grade school? Your teacher would probably give you a fill in the blank sort of prompt and you would have to write your introduction, paragraphs, and conclusion into boxes. After that, you would turn those pieces into a full draft, and keep revising until it was worthy to turn in. That’s how life goes. We start living one way, then see a need for revision and change, and the cycle continues. Sometimes it is others telling us that we need to make some changes to the draft. Other times, we see the need ourselves. We are all in a state of constant revisions, and thank goodness for that.

Think of it this way. If you left your paper in its original draft state, the way you first put pen to paper, warts and all, and turned it in, you would probably be pretty unhappy with the feedback from your teacher. If we give up on improving ourselves, we are selling our future selves short. The person you’re becoming is counting on you to not be content with the “same old same old”. To quote Hannah Montana, “nobody’s perfect”, which means no one is a final draft ready to turn in to the teacher. Some of us are “rougher” than others. But, like the Bible says in Proverbs 27:17, As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” We can use the people in our circle and those we look up to for inspiration and guidance as we go through our personal revision process.

Genesis 1:27 tells us that we are all made in the image of God. In this case, I interpret this verse as saying that we are all works in progress and masterpieces all at the same time. We are still good, but we are growing, changing, and improving. I am so thankful for God’s patience and grace as we navigate life, stumbling, falling, and failing at times. He loves us through it all.

Chels

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Girl, Read Your Bible

There’s a good chance you’ve heard of the book “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. It is a super popular motivational book that came out in 2018. I’d like…

There’s a good chance you’ve heard of the book “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. It is a super popular motivational book that came out in 2018. I’d like to offer a different set of advice, and that is “girl, read your Bible.”

In a world and society where girls can easily rattle off their favorite music group, coffee order, place to shop, and favorite travel destinations, be the girl that recall a memorized scripture to encourage someone right when they need it. We are tired, stressed, and looking for a release from the tension of life. Be ready to show your faith on a dime. Instead of using cliché phrases or quotes when giving advice, give biblical guidance. The problem with inspirational books and quotes and Instagram posts are that they take God out of the picture and lead us to self-empowerment. Our confidence should be based in Christ.

In a world and society where girls spend hours learning how to do their hair and makeup and style clothes to look more trendy, be the girl that seeks beauty that is not skin deep but in your spirit. That is true beauty.

In a world and society where anxiety and depression are becoming more and more common, be the girl who recognizes that the only hope and joy in the world is found in Him and not in the world. You can use your wisdom found in God’s Word to point these girls towards the One who offers true happiness.

In a world and society full of girls, be a woman. Be a woman after God’s own heart and a woman who seeks first the Kingdom of God, not what is trendy. When life is tough, draw near to Him and His word. Lean on Jesus and go to scripture before go to anyone or anything else. His word should be our first response, not our last resort.  When we do this, He provides the peace, confidence, and rest that we need. Rest your soul in Jesus. Only then will you find true peace.

Girl, go read your Bible.

Chels

 

 

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How to Make and Keep Friends as You Get Older

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even…

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even more difficult to find new friends while keeping in touch with old ones. Don’t let the fear of the hard work keep you isolated, because friendship is so important for our happiness and even our health!

Even though we are constantly connected to so many people on social media, studies have found that our generation is actually becoming lonelier. We have fewer friends than our parents’ generation, and the relationships we have on social media are not satisfying our need for friendship. A lot of us feel like we don’t know how to make new friends or feel left out or forgotten by our old ones. Here are some tips on how to cultivate new friendships and strengthen existing ones.

Finding the new:

One great way to make new friends is to have a friend introduce you to their group. Ask if you can join the next time you hear they are going out with their posse. You may strike up a new connection or two! Also, whenever meeting new friends, always be your genuine self and try not to put on some sort of front. You will find that you have things in common with people that you never would have imagined! Another great way to find new friends is to go and pursue your hobbies and meet people that way. If you like cooking, take a cooking class and be open to making new friends there. Love hiking or running? Go do a group run or hike. When you are doing things you love, you are bound to find people who share the same interests. After you make contact with a new friend, follow up with them and invite them to coffee or send a follow up text saying it was great to meet them. If the friendship doesn’t work out, and if they turn down an invite to hang, don’t take it personally.

Maintaining the old:

These are the friends who have known you since your days of bad hairdos and braces. These are the friends who, even though you don’t see or talk to them much anymore, you still want them in your life. When maintaining an old friendship, the first tip I have is to go easy on them. Maybe they forgot your last birthday or missed your bachelorette party. Instead of assuming they just don’t want to be part of your life anymore, remember how busy your life is and how overwhelmed you can be. They are probably in the same boat! You both have tons of adult responsibilities, so cut them some slack. Another tip is to be virtually present, even when you can’t physically be, and this is as easy as liking their Instagram post or commenting on a picture of theirs on Facebook. It is a great way to simply remind them that you are here and still keep up with what they do. If they like to talk on the phone, maybe give them a call and catch up every once in a while. If they prefer text, shoot them one every so often just checking in with them.

Friendship is work, but the payoff is priceless.

Chels

 

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He Left the Ninety-Nine to Find You

“Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. Oh, it chases me down, fights ‘til I’m found, leaves the ninety-nine” – Cory Asbury, “Reckless Love” Have you heard the parable of…

“Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. Oh, it chases me down, fights ‘til I’m found, leaves the ninety-nine” – Cory Asbury, “Reckless Love”

Have you heard the parable of the lost sheep? It talks about how, if a shepherd has 100 sheep and one of them wanders off, he leaves the other 99 sheep and goes to find the lost one. “And if he finds it, I tell you the truth, he will rejoice over it more than over the ninety-nine that didn’t wander away! In the same way, it is not my heavenly Father’s will that even one of these little ones should perish. (Matthew 18:12-14)”. Luke 15:7 goes on to say, “In the same way, there is more joy in heaven over one lost sinner who repents and returns to God than over ninety-nine others who are righteous and haven’t strayed away!”

This helps explain why God would leave the ninety-nine to find you. The ninety-nine have one another to support each other and to love and care for each other. God wouldn’t leave any of His people, even for a moment, if he didn’t think they could handle it. He has the confidence that they have the knowledge and know what to do. They aren’t lost, and if they do begin to wander, they have a support system to keep them on track. The one who wanders completely from the group is alone and has no one. If you are the lost one, He will come after you. Maybe you have been at a point in your life, or maybe you are there right now, where you feel your faith is thin and you have wandered from the path Christ meant for you.

If you are the “one” and not with the “ninety-nine”, I hope you see that there is nowhere you can go where God will not go to reach you. Just like the song “Reckless love” says, there’s literally no mountain he wont climb and wall he won’t kick down to come after you! His love will reach you wherever you are. He wants to bring you back to the flock and reconnect you with your family of believers. If you are one of the “ninety-nine”, God never really leaves you when he goes after the lost, He is with you always.

If it weren’t for the love of the Lord, we would all be like wandering sheep lost in the wilderness of life. Thank goodness for the overwhelming, never ending, reckless love of God!

Chels

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Never Let Your Wants Make You Forget Your Blessings

Contentment is a huge issue in our culture. We constantly want more, different, newer, better things than we already have. We let our wants distract us from the blessings right…

Contentment is a huge issue in our culture. We constantly want more, different, newer, better things than we already have. We let our wants distract us from the blessings right in front of us.

We’ve seen it happen to people from friends and family to popular celebrities. They get so caught up in seeking more and more material possessions and popularity and they lose the best things that they already have. As a Christian, it is important to never let the things you want distract you and blind you from the blessings you have been graciously given.

Paul tells us in Philippians 4:19 “But my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” God has not promised to give us everything we want, but he has promised to give us what we need. How lucky are we that we have been given LIFE? Don’t let what you strive for take away that life from you. When we are continuously seeking more and more, our freedom is taken from us. We are trapped in a cycle of working for more and more, and somewhere along the way we let happiness and fulfillment walk out the door.

Why not make the best of every good thing that we have been given? Why try and be someone else when God has made you to be exactly who he meant for you to be? You are an original, not a copy. There is no one like you in this world.

It is so exhausting to try and keep up with fashion trends, beauty trends, technology trends, social media trends, fancy cars, fancy houses, and all of the things our world seems to idolize and set above everything else. Instead of striving for the next thing and the next, why not focus on having gratitude for what we have already worked for and call “ours”? I can remember being so worried about keeping up with all of the fashion and beauty trends that I would never want to wear the same thing twice and was constantly wishing I had outfits of the girls on Instagram. What I soon realized was that they are probably thinking the same thing of someone else. They probably wish they had someone else’s clothes or hair or car.

Once I started practicing an attitude of gratitude and contentment, life became so much simpler. I started appreciating the things I already had. Many people around the world have so much less and are happy and joyful. I saw this when I went to Haiti. They are grateful to just be alive!

What if we all lived like that?

Chels

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Blessed is She

“ Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her.” –  Luke 1:45 Think about all of the women in the Bible who had…

Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her.” –  Luke 1:45

Think about all of the women in the Bible who had incredible things happen in their lives, like Mary Jesus’s mother, and Sarah, who had a baby in her nineties. What would have happened if they would not have believed in the power of the Lord?

Mary was just a girl living a simple life, engaged to a guy named Joseph. Then, all of a sudden, she is told that she will be the mother of the Savior of the world. An angel shares with her that she has been chosen by the Lord to complete this enormous task. This promise is not anything any human could ever bestow upon another human, it is completely Heaven-driven. In spite of her fear and confusion, Mary believes the promise she has been given by her God. As a result, she is one of the most blessed women among those in the Bible.

Luke 1:45 applies to each and every woman everywhere. It simply tells us that when God speaks and gives us a promise, we believe and are blessed. Sounds simple, but believing can be the most difficult part of this equation. It goes against our human nature to throw reason out the window and believe things will happen when the world tells us they won’t. But, as the verse tells us, if we believe, we will be blessed among women. We can hold onto that promise when we struggle to believe we are who God says we are, and struggle to believe the promises he has placed in our hearts.

Do you ever struggle to understand His promises? Like, how can He make this happen when it seems impossible? We want to believe they will happen, but we can’t understand how they actually will. But, what if we dropped our questions and just believed? What if we believed he could do anything, and do it through US? Women are incredible creatures. Even when we are a crazy mess, he can use us. God brought the Savior into the world through a woman. Just like Mary, he can create beautiful things through all of us.

God speaks amazing promises into our lives, and if we are bold enough to believe Him, we will be blessed.

Chels

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4 Inspiring Mothers in the Bible

With today being Mother’s Day, I began to think about the inspiring mothers in the Bible. There are so many to choose from, and they are each made great for…

With today being Mother’s Day, I began to think about the inspiring mothers in the Bible. There are so many to choose from, and they are each made great for their own reasons. Mothers in the Bible can inspire us on how to be better women, better wives, better mothers, and just better people in general. Here are 5 mothers in the Bible who can inspire us today and every day.

  1. Moses’s mother. Can you imagine having the strength and trust to put your baby in a basket and send him down a river to save his life? When Moses was born, the Pharaoh had ordered all of the baby boys to be killed. So, to rescue him from certain death, his mother placed him in a basket and sent him down the Nile river. She had faith that the Lord would protect Moses and had great plans for him. What this mother taught me is that we can’t let fear keep us from acting, because we could be keeping ourselves from big blessings if we don’t step out in faith.
  2. Mary, Jesus’s mother. She might be the most famous mother in the Bible. She was about 14 years-old when she became a mom. When I was 14, I was nowhere near ready to take on the role of “mother”! We can imagine she was feeling some fear and anxiety over the pressure of becoming the mother of Jesus. Then, years later, she had to watch him be sacrificed on a cross for our sins. She stood near his cross and was strong enough to be there for him during his darkest hour. What sacrificial love.
  3. Leah, the mother who was her husband’s second choice. As I was reading through Genesis recently, I came across this story that I have heard many times growing up but it just now resonated with me. Jacob had two wives, who happened to be sisters. They were Leah and Rachel. He was tricked into marrying Leah when he really wanted to marry Rachel. Rachel could not have children, but Leah could. Leah had son after son, and her husband still preferred her sister over her. She continued to praise the Lord even in her anguish. She praised Him for her children. Can you imagine the agony of watching your husband love your sister more than you, even though you have given him many beautiful children and your heart? She praised the Lord even in her pain.
  4. Sarah, who had to wait and wait. Sarah waited almost her entire lifetime to have a baby. God had promised she and her husband, Abraham, a child, but she was very old and didn’t think it would happen. She was 90 years old! But, the Lord told Abraham “Is anything too hard for the LORD? I will return to you at the appointed time next year, and Sarah will have a son.” Genesis 18:14. What a great reminder that there is nothing too difficult for our God. If you are in a season of waiting for something, just remember Sarah. She waited, and waited, and trusted that the Lord would fulfill his promise to her.

I hope these mothers inspired you in some way, big or small. Happy Mother’s Day to all of the wonderful mothers out there! Give your momma a hug and tell her how much you love and appreciate her today.

Chels

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Gracefully Navigating Change

Change is a natural part of life and can be both a good thing and a hard thing at the same time. Change leads to growth and progress, but on…

Change is a natural part of life and can be both a good thing and a hard thing at the same time. Change leads to growth and progress, but on the way there we can face some things that pull us out of our comfort zone. Right now, in my life, I am navigating lots of change, from being a newlywed to a new dog mom and beyond. There are ways to gracefully handle change and manage our expectations, and I am learning as I go, so ill share what I have found.

First, arm yourself with knowledge. Before we got married, Nick and I did premarital counseling and read books on marriage and relationships. This helped us understand each other better and laid a foundation for us to build up from. We can take what we have learned and combine it with what we are finding works in our own relationship. Preparing helped us have a clearer understanding of what was about to happen and ease into this major life change.

Next, manage your expectations and be realistic. Expecting to be great at something right away is unrealistic and can brew discontentment. Expectations can help us set goals, but it is unfair to place your own expectations on a person or thing and expect them to be exactly what you pictured. Even once you make realistic expectations, there will be days where you feel disappointed or unsure how to handle things, but those are learning and growing moments.

Another point to remember is that change is part of life. Resisting or denying change, or regretting change, does nothing but hold us back from enjoying the season of life we are in. Allow the change to happen, accept it, and adapt to it. Embrace the circumstances God has given you and figure out how you can make the best of them.

Change, especially major life changes, are disorienting. They derail all of the routines you had in place and toss life into a tizzy. Planning for change helps us gracefully accept and adapt to it instead of feeling like life has lost all sense of normalcy. There will also be times that you look back on a change that you thought was the worst possible thing, but it became a great learning moment and had some positive outcomes. I am someone who loves a good routine, so getting back into the swing of things after getting married, moving, school, and a new dog has been like a whirlwind. But, I am learning to navigate it, accept it, and make it work. Life is good, and change can be too!

Chels

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How to Cut Ties Without Feeling Guilty

Whether you’ve been dating for one month or twelve, breakups are just rough all around. It is terrible being the one broken up with. It can be even more difficult…

Whether you’ve been dating for one month or twelve, breakups are just rough all around. It is terrible being the one broken up with. It can be even more difficult being the one to initiate the split. We’ve all been there, and we all know the terrible feeling, especially when you are parting ways with someone you wish nothing but the best for. How do we make the break without feeling guilty about it?

  1. Waiting makes it worse. There will always be a reason that “it isn’t the time” to break it off. But, the longer you wait, the harder it will be for the other person to move on. Don’t waste their time. There is never a good time to breakup with someone, so rip off the bandaid and get it over with. Hurting someone you deeply care about and respect is like a kick in the stomach. But, it had to happen sometime. Drawing it out makes it that much worse!
  2. Know their worth. If you really care about the person you are in a relationship with, wouldn’t you want them to be happy and not in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere? Give them the opportunity to find love with someone else and find happiness. They deserve that.
  3. Realize that they will recover from this. If you are putting off breaking up with someone because you know it will break their heart, don’t let that be your excuse anymore. You may think you are saving them from sadness, but you’re really just stalling. People are resilient, and hard times like these make a person stronger. They will come out of this tougher, just you wait and see!
  4. Think of the positives. Think of what an enormous weight will be lifted off of your shoulders! You are not a terrible person for not reciprocating the same feelings as someone else. You are a good person. You can’t control how you feel. You deserve to be happy, too! Let go of the guilt and move on. When you find the right person, you will know.

Breakups are one of the worst experiences for everyone involved, but who says we can’t make them a little easier?

Chels

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Prayers For Our Country

Watching the news is hard these days. There are so many people sharing so many different viewpoints and opinions, and most of the news seems negative and discouraging. I find…

Watching the news is hard these days. There are so many people sharing so many different viewpoints and opinions, and most of the news seems negative and discouraging. I find myself commenting or complaining about it instead of doing something about it. The best thing we can do for our nation and its leaders is lift them up in prayer. National Day of Prayer is May 2nd, and I would encourage you to use a few of these verses to inspire your prayers on that day.

II Chronicles 7:14 –  “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.”

Matthew 6:10 – “Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

Psalms 33:12 – “Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord, the people he chose for his inheritance.”

Proverbs 14:34 – “Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin condemns any people.”

Proverbs 9:10 – “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”

Daniel 2:21 – “He changes times and seasons; he deposes kings and raises up others. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning.”

Pray over these verses and our nation and its leaders as often as you can. If you live in another country, pray these for your nation and leaders as well. These are the people that make the most impact-full decisions for our country and these decisions affect more than just our citizens, they affect the world. Pray for God’s mercy, as we are sinners and do not deserve His love or protection. We can make a difference! Prayer is our most powerful weapon against the evils of this world. Let’s use it to our advantage.

Chels

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15 Acts of Kindness for Your Significant Other

Life gets busy. I’m sure you know the feeling! Nick and I are both so busy, and even though we try to be intentional about making time for each other,…

Life gets busy. I’m sure you know the feeling! Nick and I are both so busy, and even though we try to be intentional about making time for each other, life can get in the way. That is where little acts of kindness come in. These are great ways to express love and thoughtfulness to your significant other. Here are a few ways to keep the romance and love bright and alive!

  1. Pray for him and let him know you are! I love when Nick asks how he can pray for me, or when he tells me he has been praying for me. I feel so encouraged and uplifted.
  2. Buy his favorite treat and leave it on the front seat of his car so the next time he gets in he will have a nice surprise. You can also leave a cute note with it.
  3. Rent a movie he has been wanting to see, even if it isn’t your first choice.
  4. Take his car to get washed or clean it out and wash it yourself. While you’re at it, fill up his gas tank!
  5. Plan a surprise date night. It could be something as simple as a picnic dinner in the park, or something as elaborate as getting concert tickets or reservations at a fancy restaurant you’ve both been wanting to try.
  6. Send him a love note via email. It will give him a reason to smile at work or school!
  7. Do his least favorite chore for him so he doesn’t have to do it.
  8. Celebrate his half birthday. Get balloons, his favorite dessert, and maybe a small little gift.
  9. Figure out what his love language is, and then do small things to make him feel loved.
  10. Surprise him and bring him lunch at work.
  11. Make his favorite dinner and dessert.
  12. List all of the things you are grateful for that he does and everything you love about him.
  13. Surprise him with tickets to see his favorite team play.
  14. Make a playlist of songs that make you think of him and cue it up in his car so it plays the next time he gets in to drive.
  15. Find a cute photo of you both and have it printed. Write on the back of it and give it to him so he can take it to work and hang up to brighten his day.

What are some little acts of kindness you do for your significant other? I am always looking for new and fresh ideas!

Chels

 

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Values to Live By in Your Twenties

Your twenties are some of the most jam-packed years of your life. A lot of life’s major changes happen in these years, from graduating college to starting your first big…

Your twenties are some of the most jam-packed years of your life. A lot of life’s major changes happen in these years, from graduating college to starting your first big job to possibly getting married and starting a family and even moving away from home. Here are some of the values I try to live by while I try to navigate my twenties.

  1. Live life at my own pace. Not everyone finishes school in 4 years, not everyone gets a serious job right out of college, and we all take life at our own pace! I try not to compare my progress to where my friends are in life. We are all different and have different dreams and life circumstances. Life happens how it happens, and it is exactly how God planned it.
  2. Be purpose driven. Having a purpose or reason for life gives us clarity and assures us of who we are. Meandering through life without goals can leave us lost and wandering. Realizing our God-given purpose and following it gives life meaning and joy.
  3. Try to budget and save. Saving money and being smart with your budget may be the last thing on your mind in your twenties, but it should actually be one of the first things. Try to make smart money moves like not blowing your money on things that are temporary and instead making smart spending choices.
  4. Remember that I am only as good as the company I keep. Surround yourself with people who bring value to you and your life. It is so nice to have a circle of friends who are like minded and share the same values and beliefs. And, we were not made to do this thing called life all on our own. That’s why having a great group of friends in your inner circle is so important.
  5. Listen well. Learning to listen and listen well is so important as we grow up and communicate with more people and more important people. I have found that intently listening to people means so much more to them than interjecting my opinion. Actively listening is a great skill to master and will help us become successful individuals.
  6. Have a heart of gratitude. Because life is so full of changes during this time, having an attitude of gratitude is the best way to stay positive and optimistic. I have so much to be grateful for, even if it is something as basic as having food in my refrigerator. Take nothing for granted.
  7. Remember that my voice matters. It doesn’t matter if you are an influencer or a speaker by profession, you have a voice. Whoever you are, wherever you are, you have the power to speak up for what you believe in. I try and remember this when I encounter things that I feel I need to stand up for, especially when it has to do with people who may not have a voice or platform to speak for themselves.
  8. First impressions matter. I always try to remember that, when I’m meeting new people, I should put my best foot forward and also remember that you never know who is watching. Being a positive example is a full-time job.

Chels

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