Have you ever wanted something so badly that when it fails to happen you feel defeated and alone?

Take situations in my life for example. In high school, I would fall head over heels for a boy just to find out he has no interest in me. I would get excited about possible work opportunities to find out they’ve already contacted someone else for the job.

Life’s not always easy when an opened door that you wanted and hoped for ends up closing with little to no explanation. You thought life was working itself out only to find out that God doesn’t want you there at all.

There’s a concept that I heard a long time ago that never really made sense until now: If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

I would more often than not find myself getting so frustrated at God when things didn’t go my way. I would want something so badly only to watch it disappear right in front of me.

With that being said, how do you know which doors God opens for you?

Psalm 25:4-5,9 says, “Make me to know your ways, O Lord; teach me your paths. Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation; for you I wait all the day long. He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble his way.”

First, comes prayer. Prayer is so much more powerful than you think! Although we may not see our prayers answered right before our eyes, God is always working on our behalf.

Pray for guidance and knowledge. Pray for God’s plan to be revealed to you amidst the confusion and uncertainty. God wants us to call out to him, not lean on our own control.

Luke 11:9 says, “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.”

If you want something so badly you can’t stand it, ask for it. All God wants from us is to simply look to him. How can something we want be given to us if we don’t even ask for it to begin with? If we seek something with all our heart, God will deliver. And if he doesn’t, then he didn’t for a reason.

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. And if God closes a door in your life, realize that. Don’t try to force something that isn’t there.

Lastly, I’ll leave you with a quote that I think so many of us need to hear:

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.”

I love the way this is phrased! You may think one door leads to so much happiness but behind it is actually the opposite. Trust God and trust his plan. You’ll be happy you did!

– Chelsea