Chelsea Crockett

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How to Cut Ties Without Feeling Guilty

Whether you’ve been dating for one month or twelve, breakups are just rough all around. It is terrible being the one broken up with. It can be even more difficult…

Whether you’ve been dating for one month or twelve, breakups are just rough all around. It is terrible being the one broken up with. It can be even more difficult being the one to initiate the split. We’ve all been there, and we all know the terrible feeling, especially when you are parting ways with someone you wish nothing but the best for. How do we make the break without feeling guilty about it?

  1. Waiting makes it worse. There will always be a reason that “it isn’t the time” to break it off. But, the longer you wait, the harder it will be for the other person to move on. Don’t waste their time. There is never a good time to breakup with someone, so rip off the bandaid and get it over with. Hurting someone you deeply care about and respect is like a kick in the stomach. But, it had to happen sometime. Drawing it out makes it that much worse!
  2. Know their worth. If you really care about the person you are in a relationship with, wouldn’t you want them to be happy and not in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere? Give them the opportunity to find love with someone else and find happiness. They deserve that.
  3. Realize that they will recover from this. If you are putting off breaking up with someone because you know it will break their heart, don’t let that be your excuse anymore. You may think you are saving them from sadness, but you’re really just stalling. People are resilient, and hard times like these make a person stronger. They will come out of this tougher, just you wait and see!
  4. Think of the positives. Think of what an enormous weight will be lifted off of your shoulders! You are not a terrible person for not reciprocating the same feelings as someone else. You are a good person. You can’t control how you feel. You deserve to be happy, too! Let go of the guilt and move on. When you find the right person, you will know.

Breakups are one of the worst experiences for everyone involved, but who says we can’t make them a little easier?

Chels

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Prayers for your Friends

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when…

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when life gets hard I have no problem praying for what I want and need, but when my friends are going through tough times I’m not as diligent as I should be. The best thing you can do for your friends is pray for them. Here are 4 prayers for your friends and mine.

Jeremiah 17:7-8:Ask that the Lord would bless your friend as she trusts in the Lord. Pray that she would be like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots strong and deep by the stream, and has no need to fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit. Pray that God would make your friend strong, fruitful, and flourishing for His glory.

Numbers 6:24-26: Pray that the Lord bless your friend and keep her; that He would make his face to shine upon her and be gracious to her; that the Lord would lift up His countenance upon her and give her peace.

Proverbs 3:3-8: Pray that she would trust in the Lord with all her heart, and not lean on her own understanding. Ask that in all her ways she would acknowledge God, and God will make her paths straight. Ask the Lord to help your friend not to be wise in her own eyes, but to fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.

Psalm 138:7-8: Ask that when your friend walks in the midst of trouble, God would preserve her life. Claim His promise to stretch out His hand against the wrath of your friend’s enemies, to deliver her with His right hand. Remind God of His commitment to fulfill His purpose for your friend, and of His steadfast and endless love for her.

I hope my friends pray these prayers over me from time to time as well. What an encouragement to know that someone cares about you enough to lift you up in prayer!

Chels

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One Week Media Detox

The start of the year is a great time to detox, whether it be a nutritional detox or otherwise. I have been trying to do some media detoxing by deleting…

The start of the year is a great time to detox, whether it be a nutritional detox or otherwise. I have been trying to do some media detoxing by deleting apps that tend to suck up my time, and then re-downloading them at the end of the day. It forces me to be more present and stay on task. Media detoxing looks different for everyone and comes in all shapes and sizes whether it is all media like TV and the internet or select media like social media. Here is an easy 7-day plan to follow if you want to try a media detox for yourself.

  1. Unsubscribe and unfollow. Give your social media a good purge. At the beginning of the year, I like to do a scroll through my list of accounts that I follow and unfollow people or accounts that bring me down or take me to an unhealthy place, unsubscribe from channels that I’m no longer interested in, and give myself a clean and healthy slate for the year. It is amazing how much our mental state and emotions are affected by the people we follow.
  2. Stay media-free until 10 AM. Like I said earlier, your definition of media may include TV and the internet and social media, or it may mean a combination of them. How many of us wake up and go directly to our phones to check social media? Instead of reaching for your phone, grab a book and do a morning devotional.
  3. Stay off media until 4 pm. This is going to be much harder than staying off until 10 AM. But, you can do it!
  4. Stay media-free until bed time. You may start feeling something like withdrawals during your media-free day. You will most likely find yourself reaching for your phone to scroll through Instagram every so often, but use that time you would normally browse to do something that is more fulfilling.
  5. Read or watch only three things. Whether it be one show on Netflix and opening your Facebook and Instagram apps once, the choice is yours.
  6. Only open one app all day. Choose wisely!
  7. Go media-free for 24 hours. After the week of cutting back you’ve had, this will feel like a breeze!

Starting your year with a refreshed mind and spirit is a very good way to start.

Chels

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To Everything There is a Season

“To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 There is a time for exactly where you are – whether it is a time…

“To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

There is a time for exactly where you are – whether it is a time of healing, a time of questioning, a time of excitement, a time of confusion, a time of doubt, a time of laughing, a time of dancing, or even a time in between.

Maybe, if you’re like me, it is a time for planning and planting. This season is full of school and studying for my degree, full of wedding planning and also planning for my new life and new “normal.” If you are also in a busy season of life like the one I’m in, sometimes it can feel like you’re dropping the ball on some things in order to keep others up in the air. Maybe some of your friendships aren’t as strong as they used to be because you have to spend more time studying. Maybe you’ve had to put some hobbies on hold so that you can put your future first. In these times we must remember that “to everything there is a season.”

Accepting your season instead of feeling bad about it is one way to calm your heart and mind. There will be a time when school is over, weddings will be over, and life will start a brand new season. That may be the season where you pick things up where you left off, whether it be with friends or hobbies or anything else you’ve had to put on the back burner. During all seasons we should stay grateful, faithful, and supportive of one another. Learn from your seasons and be able to look back on them as teachable times. After all, every moment of your life is a time that has been handpicked by God. Maybe you are anxiously awaiting a season that has not yet started in your life. Maybe you feel stuck in a rut and are wishing for a change of scenery. Wherever you are and whatever you are feeling, be ready to trust in His timing. Embrace the season you are in and everything going on in your life right now, because in the blink of an eye, at can all change.

What season are you in? Evaluate, accept, and embrace the season. And remember, don’t get too comfortable, because every season is just that – a season.

Chels

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Date Night Q&A

Whether you have been dating your significant other for weeks, months or years, there is always more to learn about one another. Next time you are on a date with…

Whether you have been dating your significant other for weeks, months or years, there is always more to learn about one another. Next time you are on a date with your love, put down your phones and pull out this list. You may be surprised what you learn, and where the topics lead!

  1. What are 5 things you hope to be remembered for?
  2. What are 5 passions you have and why?
  3. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood verses your family dynamic now.
  4. What are 3 things that make you happy?
  5. What popular thought or notion do you think the world has most wrong?
  6. What is one thing I don’t know about you?
  7. What are two things I do well?
  8. How have you seen me change since we’ve been together?
  9. How have you changed in the time we’ve been together?
  10. What is one thing you want to do different from your parents?
  11. What is your favorite memory of us together?
  12. If you had to live in another country, where would you go?
  13. What is my most difficult challenge right now?
  14. What is your most difficult challenge right now?
  15. Excluding money or time, what is one thing that I wish I could have?
  16. If you could be an expert in anything, what would it be?
  17. Name 3 things on your bucket list.
  18. What are your favorite qualities in me?
  19. How would you spend 1 million dollars?
  20. What is the greatest strength and weakness of our relationship?
  21. What is your 5-year plan? 10-year plan?
  22. If you never had to work again, what would you do with your life?
  23. If you could choose one mentor – famous or not – who would it be?
  24. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  25. When you met me, what was your first impression? Was it correct?

I love lists like this because they take us out of our comfort zone. Asking questions like these can be beneficial at any stage of a relationship. In the beginning, when everything is new and exciting, we tend to hang on every piece of new information as we learn about one another. After a while, tossing in conversation topics like these keep things fresh and fun.

Ask away!

Chels

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Cultivate Kindness

Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3 What does it mean to cultivate kindness? When I hear…

Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3

What does it mean to cultivate kindness? When I hear the word “cultivate” I tend to think of gardening. With a garden, you have to show it a lot of time and effort to see the payoff. Cultivating your garden means to prepare and care for it. Kindness takes the same work and care.

What does kindness mean to you? What does it look like? Is it giving of your time or resources freely? Is it looking out for the underdog? Is it little acts throughout each day that show others you care? For me, it is being selfless with my time and spending it with others and giving without the expectation of getting anything in return. Why is kindness in such short supply these days? It isn’t always easy to be kind, but it is always rewarding.

Here are a few ways that I have been trying to cultivate kindness in my daily life:

  1. Be aware of your influence: Be conscious of the effect you have on others. You know the snarky remark you made when you were out of patience with the store clerk? We’ve all been there – we’ve all ruined someone else’s day because we were having a bad one ourselves. Don’t take your aggravation or exhaustion out on innocent bystanders. If you do, follow it up with a sincere apology. Knowing your influence on others is a great way to keep kindness at the center.
  2. Be present in person: Offering your condolences and congratulations over Facebook doesn’t always take it far enough. A true act of kindness is taking the time to show up face to face.
  3. Let some things go: When someone cuts you off on the interstate because they are in even more of a hurry than you are, let it go instead of giving them a dirty look and possibly shouting at their car. I know it can be tempting to let road rage take over, but the feeling of knowing that you aren’t quite as wound up as the other driver must be is a small victory. Maybe the next time someone cuts THEM off they will remember your kind reaction and show someone else grace.
  4. Keep it to yourself: Being kind to others is not about showing off or “humble bragging” after you do something nice for someone else. It is about the internal pat on the back you get, not the external one. Kindness requires no affirmation or payback.

Just like exercising your muscles makes them stronger, flexing your kindness muscles does the same. You get better and better with practice.

Chels

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Just Because You’re Young

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity.” –…

“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity.” – 1 Timothy 4:12

When you are a young person in the spotlight, there is a lot of pressure on your shoulders. I have done a lot in my young age, from starting a business to making big life moves to getting engaged. And, as a young blogger trying to be a positive influence on all those I meet, I think this verse is so important.

When you accomplish many things in your youth, people tend to doubt you or discredit you because you are young. But, this verse is an awesome encouragement – telling us that in His eyes and through Him, we can do amazing things.

Have you ever heard someone give the excuse “Oh, well, they ARE a millennial,” when a young person does something they don’t necessarily agree with? Today’s youth get a bad name. They’re seen as lazy, grumpy and self-centered, when this couldn’t be further from the truth. Some of the smartest and most aware individuals are people in my circle of friends.

In this verse, Paul is writing to Timothy and encouraging him as a young leader in the church. He says that although he is younger than the others, he should not let them look down on him because of it, and that he should set an example for others no matter his age. This same principal applies to us today. Although we are young, we cannot let this stop us from setting an example for others by living for Christ.

Why not let our youth be a strength instead of a stereotype? Help that elderly lady figure out how to use an app on her phone when you see her struggling. Help a mom open the door to a restaurant when she is trying to wrangle her children. Pick up after someone who leaves their trash out. Be someone who brightens someone’s day and reflects the joy of the Lord. Also, don’t let anyone discredit you or make you feel like what you say or feel is wrong because you are young or seem to have less life experience.

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young. Use the knowledge and wisdom that the Lord has blessed you with to show the older generation what millennials really look like.

We are the future, so let’s show ‘em what we got!

Chels

 

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To Pray is to Let Go

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,…

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

To summarize, to pray is to let go and let God take over. I know this is easy to say and way harder to put into actual practice. There are times in our lives when the bills are piling up, our email inboxes are overflowing, we are injured and cant exercise or play the sport we love, our faith feels as though it is getting further and further from us, you wonder if you are secure at your job, and so many more situations that can arise. Feelings of doubt, worry, anxiety, and stress bubble up. Life’s trials are immeasurable, but so is God’s goodness.

One of the best mental health exercises I have adapted in times like I mentioned above is to think to myself “Do these emotions serve any positive purpose in my life?” The answer is no more often than not. It is in those moments that I have to consciously decide to let go of them and breathe. You come to a point in life where you have done everything you can do, and the rest is out of your control. You have to completely surrender to the Lord. Losing sleep and getting sick with worry is not worth it – especially when Philippians 4:6-7 tells us that, when we give everything to God, he will strengthen and sustain you. The Bible is full of God’s promises to us – He gives us direction and advice on how to handle what life throws at us.

Remember in these times that the Lord is working behind the scenes in your life. We just need to pray to Him and make our requests known. Stressed? Pray. Worried? Pray. Focus on the Lord instead of your problems, and suddenly your woes seem much smaller. I pray that this message is both a friendly reminder and an encouragement for you all at the same time!

Chels

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Stay Humble

“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6 In a world where people are constantly flaunting their looks, possessions, and position on social media, it can…

“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

In a world where people are constantly flaunting their looks, possessions, and position on social media, it can be hard to have the urge to stay humble. Life seems like a game of “who has what” and “whose is better.” No one ever wins or feels fulfilled in this situation.

James 4:6-10 can give us some insight on why we need to be humble. This passage from James was written during a serious time. Christians were living lives that were out of control – committing murder and adultry and living according to greed and jealousy and lust. They were truly living “worldly” lives. James tells them “You sinners, cleanse your hands. You double-minded purify your hearts. Be miserable and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be turned to grieving, and your joy to gloom.” (James 4:8-9)

Ouch! We may not be living the lives that the Christians were living back then, but even the best of us stumble sometimes. If we want to be close to the Lord, we have to prevent sin from entering our lives and grow strong spiritually. Luckily, James gave the sinners of the past three things to do to turn their lives around and mend their relationship with God.

  1. Resist Satan: “Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” James 4:7

Did you know that you have complete power to resist the devil? It’s true. God’s grace has given you this power if you are humble enough to accept it. The devil wont give up easily, but he cant win if you keep resisting him with the power and grace God has given you.

  1. Come near to the Lord: “Draw near to God and he will draw near to you.” James 4:8

Isn’t it amazing that we are allowed to get close to God? We have been granted access to being friends with the creator of the universe. We can be near him all the time – as long as we come to him humbly.

  1. Humble ourselves: “Humble yourself in the presence of the Lord, and he will exalt you.” James 4:10

This might be the best part. God will exalt those who come humbly to him. Some translations of the verse say that God will “lift you up.” When we come to him humbly, seeking nothing but his grace, we will be blessed.

Be humble. Be an example of humility to those around you. Your actions will speak loudly about the person you are and the Lord you serve.

Chels

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When You Go Through Deep Waters…

“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.” – Isaiah 43:2 Stress is ever-present. It is here to stay and will be part of our lives for…

“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.” – Isaiah 43:2

Stress is ever-present. It is here to stay and will be part of our lives for the long haul. That is why God gave us verses like Isaiah 43:2. He is our stress reliever- forever.

I find so much comfort in the fact that no matter what the world tosses at me, He is protecting me. Little old me! How crazy is it that the God who created the world is looking out for each and every one of us individually?

Many times we will stress about our careers our whether the person we are dating is “the one.” We try and take it upon ourselves to control the outcome. I am so guilty of this. That is why God gave us Jeremiah 29:11. It says, “I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, the are plans for good and not evil, to give you hope and a future.” We have to let go and let God do his thing. How? By growing in our faith and staying in His word.

In the lowest points of your life are when you are in the least control. That is when it is easiest to surrender to God and say “It’s all you. The full verse of Isaiah 43:2 says, “When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.” We do not have to be afraid of failure because He will always be there to catch us.

With everything going on in the world, when evil is staring us in the face and knocking on our front door, it gives my heart peace knowing that the Lord still cares for us even in our brokenness. If God is for us, who can stand against us?

So, when you’re feeling like a mess of stress, know that you are eternally loved and that there is a master plan for your life. Know that with certainty.

Chels

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You Were Made to Move Mountains

“I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say this to the mountain ‘move from here to there,’ and it will…

“I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say this to the mountain ‘move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Matthew 17:20

Do you remember the story in the Bible about the father who begged Jesus to heal his son? His son was suffering through sickness, and he had tried everything. The father had even gone to the disciples, but they could not heal him. He fell at Jesus’ feet and asked for His help. Jesus’s response is not what his disciples were expecting. “And Jesus answered, “O faithless and twisted generation, how long am I to be with you? How long am I to bear with you? Bring him here to me. (Matthew 17:17)” I imagine this is similar to saying, “Do I have to do everything myself?”

The boy was brought to Jesus and was healed. Who was Jesus calling faithless and twisted? All of us. He was feeling exasperated with the sins of his people and their unbelief. Imagine what it must have been like for Jesus, who created each of these people and loves them, to know that not all of them believed or received Him. The people loved that he could do miracles and heal them, but as their Creator, the one who would ultimately pay the price for their sin, they rejected and even sometimes despised him. They were, indeed, faithless and twisted. It was hard for Him to bear.

Were the disciples really faithless? They had tried to cast out the boy’s sickness, after all. The problem was that their faith did not bring glory to God or show His power. That is why Jesus did not applaud their efforts. He explained to them that they had little faith. It was not because of God chose not to answer their prayers, the result was solely on their shoulders. Is this why some of our own prayers go unanswered?

No, not every unanswered prayer is a result of having little faith. Also, if our faith is lacking right now, it is possible to grow in faith. We do not have to continue to fail, and “little faith” is not a permanent state of living. In fact, remember Matthew 17:20 says “I tell you the truth, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say this to the mountain ‘move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” Our lives can be transformed little by little. Is this verse hard for you to grasp? That nothing will be impossible for you? If you truly believed it, would that change the way you live?

We were made to move mountains. We were made to see impossible things happen through our faith. God uses our belief to tell others what He has done in our lives. When we have little faith, then we only show a little of His glory through us. We should not settle for this. We cannot be “lukewarm” Christians, we must be on fire for God.

Jesus knows that we can move mountains. Live like you know that nothing is impossible for Him.

Chels

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“Wear Love”

“And regardless of what else you put on, wear love.” – Colossians 3:14 What does it mean to “wear love”? To me, it says that no matter what, you should…

“And regardless of what else you put on, wear love.” – Colossians 3:14

What does it mean to “wear love”? To me, it says that no matter what, you should show love. Love is what holds everyone and everything together and is one way to display life’s goodness. In a world where it feels like, at any moment, any and everything could be going wrong, God’s word tells us that love has the power to make all things good and new.

The deeper I seek the Lord and the more often I pray that He makes less of me and more of Himself, the more He opens my eyes to the brokenness and hurt in this world. People’s hearts are breaking all around us. Sometimes you can just see it on their faces without even knowing the person. That is why we should wear love everywhere we go. 1 John 4:7-12 is a great scripture to drive this point home. It says “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.  This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”

To truly wear love means that we surrender our lives to the Lord because He is love. When we wear love people around us will be able to see His heart and His love displayed through us. Love is not just an emotion. It is a verb. It is an action. I want to love others and let my words reflect His goodness. If you have a friend who is going through a tough time, let them know that you love them. There is power in the words that we speak – and the more you see the hurt or brokenness in their hearts, the more we should tell them that we love them.

The world is hurting. Wear love, whether it be with your words, actions, or deeds. Love is the best accessory – it goes with everything!

 

Chels

 

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Stressed? Have some Scripture.

In times of transition and change, you can be sure that stress will show its ugly head. With it being back to school season, lots of changes are probably happening…

In times of transition and change, you can be sure that stress will show its ugly head. With it being back to school season, lots of changes are probably happening in your world. You may be moving away, changing schools, changing majors, changing roomates, changing jobs, or small changes may be adding up to one big ball of stress. When I feel like my world has gotten chaotic, I turn to the Bible to help me deal with it. Here are a few of my favorite stress-releiving scriptures.

  • James 1:2-4 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
  • John 14:27 – Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
  • Romans 16:20 – The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.
  • Colossians 3:15 – Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.
  • Isaiah 40:31 – But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
  • Proverbs 12:25: Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.
  • Psalm 23:4:  Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
  • Romans 8:28: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
  • Psalm 94:19: When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.
  • 1 Corinthians 3:11 For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.
  • Luke 21:19: Stand firm, and you will win life.
  • Psalm 118:5-6 When hard pressed, I cried to the Lord; He brought me into a spacious place. The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?

Hopefully these scriptures breathe relief, confidence, strength, and hopefulness into your heart as much as they do mine!

Chels

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Without Rain, Nothing Grows.

“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be…

“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” – James 1:2-4

Have you ever heard the phrase “Without rain, nothing grows. Learn to embrace the storms in life.”? I don’t know about you, but when I am experiencing one of life’s storms, one of the last things I want to hear is “embrace it.” But, truthfully, that is what I should be doing. Why? Because the Bible clearly tells us that we will go through trials and suffer in this life. Every one of us. We have the choice to either be joyous or miserable during those times. I think I’ll take joy, please.

Trials will meet us at every stage of life, but they don’t last forever. God did not promise that this life will be easy, but He did promise to use the storms for good. He also promises to be our strength and our shield as we board up our windows and fight the monsoon. Just as Psalm 28:7 says, “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and I am helped; therefore, my heart exults, and with my song I shall thank Him.”

Your storm is not the end of the world. When you learn to accept the life that God has given you, your whole outlook transforms. Your life is unique, and it is beautiful. Having strength through the storms comes from accepting the life God has handed you and rooting your Faith in His plan. His plan for your life is better than the plan you have dreamed of. Once you accept that, you will find strength in it.

There will be days when you think that there is no way you can get up and face another day of rain. The storm is beating you down. But, you get up, and you live to fight another day. Do not give yourself a choice during your storm, just accept that it is happening and do what needs to be done. Consciously make an effort to choose joy instead of giving into misery. Because without rain, nothing grows.

Chels

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How to Pray for Those Who Have Hurt You

Why in the world would you want to pray for someone who has hurt you? When someone hurts me, that is definitely not my first reaction. We have all been…

Why in the world would you want to pray for someone who has hurt you? When someone hurts me, that is definitely not my first reaction. We have all been hurt, disrespected, shamed, disregarded, and taken advantage of. How does Jesus expect us to pray for the people who treat us this way?

We first need to realize that Jesus knows that it is difficult because He knows everything about us. You do not need to hide how you feel from Him. You can share everything with Him – your joys, concerns, disappointments, weaknesses, challenges, all of it. Think about all of the times you have hurt someone – both intentionally and unintentionally. Did you feel bad once you realized that you hurt them? Would it have comforted you to know that they were praying for you? Praying that Jesus forgives you and shows you the error of your ways? Pray that He grants you patience while he works in the heart of the other person. Pray that He gives you the grace to accept what has happened, and the perspective you need to move on. Pray that the other person is led to Him.

Praying for the person that hurt you allows you to see things through God’s eyes. You will be able to see them as a person who is much like you. You will also be able to see your own wrongdoing – whether it be not showing the other person grace, talking about them behind their back, or not forgiving them.

I am not saying any of this is easy. We can be so paralyzed by our feelings of hurt and frustration towards the other person that we cannot even think straight. In these situations, we should go to the Lord in prayer and ask for His comfort and thank him for his unconditional love. We should ask for His guidance through this incredibly tough time, and the strength to come out of it stronger.

We are all works in progress. The Lord does not expect us to easily forgive those who mistreat us – but He does expect us to forgive them in the end. The next time someone wrongs you, turn to Jesus first. He is there with comfort, healing, and understanding. All you have to do is ask for it. He knows a thing or two because He has seen a thing or two.

Chels

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He’s in the Waiting

“And so it was that he, having waited long and endured patiently, realized and obtained what God had promised.” Hebrews 6:15 Abraham and his wife Sarah waited a good long…

“And so it was that he, having waited long and endured patiently, realized and obtained what God had promised.” Hebrews 6:15

Abraham and his wife Sarah waited a good long time for their prayers for a child to be answered. I think we could all take a lesson in patience from those two.

Waiting for important emails, waiting for packages, waiting for the perfect job, perfect house, perfect partner, waiting for answers. The phrase “patiently waiting” seems like an impossible task. Life is full of waiting, so we might as well learn to wait well. Waiting allows us to look forward to the good things that are in store, and it is preparing you for what is to come. I think all of us could learn a few things about how to wait.

  1. Be practical: Use your waiting wisely! Keep your mind busy and it will make the time fly by. I know how it feels to feel paralyzed by nerves, worried and waiting to hear back about something life-changing. Don’t let your waiting make you distracted – let it motivate you to get things done! Keep your brain distracted and your hands busy. Volunteer in the community. Clean out your car and closet. Go to lunch with a friend you haven’t seen in a while.
  2. Be spiritual: Spiritually invest in both yourself and in others during this time. Trust that the Lord knows the perfect time table and you do not. Use these times of waiting to dive deeper into His word. Journal, pray, read, and use your time alone with Him to find meaning in the waiting. His timing is perfect.
  3. Be invested: Live in the moment. Enjoy the season of life that you are in. Are you at a job you don’t like and waiting to see if you were picked for the new job you applied for? Invest yourself in your current job. Do your very best and enjoy the little things that you will miss when you leave. Don’t miss the joys of life that are happening right in front of you, and don’t forget to enjoy today by worrying about tomorrow.
  4. Be advised: Find someone who has been in your shoes. They can help walk you through the waiting. Find ways to grow and be mentored and advised in whatever is to come. Having someone who has been there and who can relate can be such a relief. They can show you that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Enjoy every step and every stage of the waiting. God is using this time to equip you for what is to come and is writing your story. Find Him in the waiting.

Chels

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