We all desire good friends. Positive people to do life with, lean on, and walk alongside throughout this life is something God has always intended for us. Even God had his disciples that cared, prayed, and looked out for one another.
Good friends are hard to find. Growing up, I found it hard to realize if someone’s intentions were what I was looking for in a friend or not. I recently saw a post on Pinterest that had an acronym for the word “friends,” listing seven different attributes you should be looking for in true, godly friendships!
We all make mistakes from time to time, no matter how perfect we try to be. The Bible calls us to be forgiving toward one another, no matter how many times we mess up.
Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”Forgiveness is important in every relationship and is crucial to making a friendship work. We all fall short and disappoint each other at times, but the key to moving forward is true, genuine forgiveness.
Being a good friend means being respectful of each other’s’ time, space, privacy, etc. Everyone needs alone time to recharge, some moreso than others. If your friends are making you feel bad or guilty for not spending enough time with them, not sharing enough information about your life with them, etc., then maybe you need to talk to them about what you need from them as a friend!
A good friend is involved in your life and wants to be there for you, even through the hard times. Are your friends curious about your life and what’s next for you? Or do they let you deal with things on your own, without making sure you’re okay with whatever it may be? You want friends to be involved in your life, and vice versa!
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
I think as human beings, we draw toward the people who are encouraging, kindhearted, and supportive. The friends you have in your life should be encouraging you to reach your fullest potential and pushing you to be the most genuine version of yourself.
Whether we admit it or not, we all like to be cared for. A nurturing friend makes sure we’re okay after a rough day, after a breakup, after a failed test… We all need to be checked on every once in a while. Notice the people that ask if you’re okay when you feel a little off. We should be doing the same when we notice this about our friends, too.
Being a dedicated friend means sticking with each other through an argument, a bad day, a rough season of life… Would your current friends be by your side through anything and everything? Dedication is needed in any relationship, but having committed friends through the best and worst times of your life is so important!
Lastly, having supportive friends to encourage you to step outside of your comfort zone and be yourself is one of the best feelings in the world. Every relationship needs support and encouragement to push you to do what you think is best for yourself!
These are only a few of the many attributes a good friend should have. God designed friendship to be each one of these things I mentioned above. I hope your friends are genuine companions to do life with and lift you up, just as God intended them to be!