Finding contentment in your singleness… What does this phrase even mean?

There is such a negative stigma around singleness. Society loves to convince us into things, one of which is thinking we’re wrong for wanting to be alone.

Now I get it, it’s fun to have crushes, go on dates, have someone to talk to, etc., but there’s also nothing wrong with the latter. In fact, we should be finding happiness in our single seasons! This phrase can oftentimes be cliché or overused, but I wanted to dive a little deeper into what it really means to be content in your singleness!

If you’re like me, you grew up dreaming of your prince charming. You painted the perfect picture of your future life, obsessing over the man that would eventually be your soulmate. Trust me, I get it, but when it starts to take away the joy of the present, it becomes a problem. We spend so much time thinking about when we’ll finally meet “the one” that we forget to find the joy in being single!

I have a friend that’s been in a total of 7 weddings, always as a bridesmaid. I asked her if she ever gets frustrated being surrounded by so many of her best friends finding their special someone, but showing up dateless, time and time again. She told me that although thoughts of jealousy and envy creep in occasionally, her trust in the Lord is so strong that she never allows these thoughts to take over. She knows that one day she’ll meet her perfect someone, and that God is simply using these single years for growth in other areas, such as getting closer to Him.

Your single years are some of the best years of your life! You get the opportunity to give your undivided attention to God, and spend uninterrupted time with Him daily! These years can be used for so much growth in your spiritual life, that you wouldn’t have had the chance to experience without otherwise. You get to experience the joys of independence alongside the creator of the universe!

God’s timing is perfect, He just needs you to trust in Him. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”

Know that these single years are used to prosper you, and so much good will result from them! Find true contentment in your singleness and grow closer to God through them!

– Chelsea