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Why You Should Unfriend Your Ex

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the…

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the breakup, and how quickly he gets over you. Let me tell you, girl, it isn’t healthy. Here are 3 reasons you should unfriend your ex.

  1. It is hurting more than it is helping: Sometimes, seeing that your ex hasn’t unfriended you after a breakup can make you think that there is hope of you two getting back together. It can also prevent you from moving on. Seeing that ex and what they are up to can make you miss them and forget the reasons you broke up in the first place. It can also tempt you into trying to contact them and get back together. Unfriend them so that you can move on to bigger and better things!unfriend
  2. You won’t compare yourself: Being able to see what they are up to and who they are starting to date hurts. By unfriending them you are preventing yourself from the hurt that comes from comparing yourself to their new boo. It is easy to wonder who is doing better right now, you or him. Did they start dating someone new and you are still single? Did they get a better job than you have? Who cares what they are doing. And who cares who they moved on to. Don’t compare yourself to their new love interest. Your life is just as amazing as theirs, and you are just as great of a person as their new boo, so deleting them allows you to enjoy the ups and downs of your own life.
  3. You will be more of a mystery: If you want to seem like more of a mystery, and like you have moved on to better things, deleting your ex is a great idea. They won’t have access to your profiles and can’t see how you are doing, so they will become curious. If you are friends with them, all they have to do is pull up your profile to see how you are. If you aren’t friends, they actually have to reach out and ask you. If you are wanting to re-connect with them, this is the best way to do so!

Clicking that “unfriend” button is one of the best things you can do for yourself!

XOXO, Chels

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What to Ask Yourself Before a Breakup

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us…

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us will dump or be dumped multiple times before we find Mr. Right. When you are the one doing the breaking up, things can get awkward. Really awkward. No breakup is easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. The feelings and realizations that the relationship isn’t working happen over time. Before you decide to break up with someone, there are a few things you should ask yourself in order to make the process as painless, for both of you, as possible.

  1. What is the reason I want to break up with them?: This is something you will get asked a lot. “Why did you break up?” To prepare yourself for this, write down your feelings. Make a list of pros and cons of breaking up, or write down the reasons you think you should, just so that you can go back later and be confident in your decision and not feel regret.images (3)
  2. “What will things be like after we break up?”: Most people who are dating see one another a lot. They hang out a lot, see each other’s families a lot, and are pretty invested in one another’s lives. Once you break up, all of that changes. This is one of the toughest parts of a breakup, the “not being with each other all the time” part. But this also means that now, since you are single, you can focus on yourself more and hang out with friends or do things you want to do when you want to do them. Alone time is healthy!
  3. “How do I break up with them?”: Now that you are 100% confident that you want to break up with them, you should do the act in person. You need to be face to face so that there is no misunderstandings or unnecessary hurt feelings. Be confident, and be clear about why you are ending things.
  4. Reflect on the relationship: Everyone learns something from each relationship that they have been in, whether it is finding out that you love sushi or that you really don’t like it when the person you are dating chews with his mouth open. You learn more about yourself and about what you want in a life partner. Ask yourself what are some positive things you can take away from the relationship and focus on them when you feel down.

Breakups are tough, but they aren’t the end of the world. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! It gets better.

XOXO, Chels

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Things You Should Always Do on First Dates

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a…

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a lot of things we cant control when it comes to first dates, and the uncertainty is what makes us so nervous. There are a few things you CAN control that can make the date go more smoothly, and they are how you behave. Here are things you should always do on a first date.

  1. Dress to impress: both him and yourself! Usually, before a first date I try on lots of different outfits in hope of finding one I think will impress my date. Instead of trying to impress HIM, impress YOURSELF. Wear what makes you feel like you! Be confident in what you are wearing and he will notice!FullSizeRender (46)
  2. Be honest: If you are having a good time, say it! And if you aren’t, don’t say “I’m just not feeling it,” but also don’t tell him that you “want to do this again sometime.” If you didn’t like it, just tell him thank you for the date, and if he asks you out on a second one, just be polite and say no.
  3. Be polite: Say please and thank you. People notice when you do and when you don’t! If you want to make a positive impression, mind your manners. Put your phone away and give him your attention.
  4. Just be you: This is the most important point. First impressions are so so important, so make sure you give your date a good look at who you are. If you are an outgoing person, be outgoing! If you are not, don’t force it! Don’t be someone you think your date would like, just be yourself.

And finally…have fun! Yes, first dates are nerve wracking, but they can be the start of a beautiful thing!

XOXO, Chels

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5 Signs You Aren’t Ready to Get Back in the Dating Game

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it…

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it could be fun, so you think maybe you should give it a try? Odds are you have felt this way at some point. When we think like this, we may feel like we should date the first person who shows some interest in us because if we don’t, we could end up forever alone (noooooooo!). Don’t let these thoughts drive you. Here is how to find out if you are not ready for a relationship.

  1. You still social media stalk your ex: If your sleuthing is on the Sherlock Holmes level, you probably aren’t over that person, hence you are not ready for a new relationship.via-christianfunnypictures.com_
  2. Your friends’ relationship drama makes you gag: If hearing about your friends’ relationship troubles makes you thank your lucky stars you aren’t dating a guy like that, then you might want to wait to get into the dating game.
  3. You like treating yourself: If you love your “me” time and don’t feel like sharing, then you aren’t ready for a relationship. And you know what? That is totally fine! When you are ready to date you will feel ready to share your time with someone else.

So, if you still social media stalk your ex, you hate hearing about your friends’ relationship drama, and you don’t feel like sharing your time, then you aren’t ready to get back in the dating saddle!

XOXO, Chels

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Christmas Gifts for your Guy

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear,…

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear, Chels is here! I have 3 gifts that will warm any boy’s heart.

  1. 1 month of planned date nights: You know that horrible conversation you have with your BF before date night? The one that goes “what do you want to do?” “I don’t know…what do you want to do?” This gift saves you that convo! Have a bunch of date ideas written out on slips of paper, then fold them up and put them in a jar. This is a gift you will both enjoy!7-candy-bar-saying-ideas
  2. His favorite candy or a candy card: The way to a boy’s heart is food. Get him a mixture of his favorite candies all wrapped up super cute, or make him a creative card using candy like this one! He will laugh at your “sweetness”. 😉
  3. I like you because…”: Boys love to be complimented, just like girls! Maybe even more! They love to hear all the things you like about them. It lets them know how much you value them and appreciate them. Write things you like about them on slips of paper and put them in a jar for him to read when he needs a little pick-me-up. You can write anything you want, he will appreciate your thoughtfulness. It can be something as small as “you have the cutest smile”.

Hopefully I have helped you come up with a great gift idea for your handsome hunk!

XOXO, Chels

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Best Things About Being Single in the Fall

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what…

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what else sounds fun? The stuff below! Here are a few reasons why being single in the fall is fabulous.

  1. Guys in flannels: fall = flannels, flannels + cute dudes = heart eyes emoji. And you can stare because you are single!single 4
  2. Guilt free PSL indulgence: You won’t have to worry about a guy saying “don’t you ever get tired of pumpkin spice..?”
  3. No cheesy couples Halloween costume: Yes, couples Halloween costumes can be cute, but they’re sometimes slightly obnoxious. Like, if I want to be Elsa from Frozen, no one can stop me! I don’t need a dude to sing “Let it Go” at the top of my lungs with. I’m a solo act.
  4. Candids.: You and your gal pals can take “candid” pictures of yourselves mid-laugh in the pumpkin patch, looking like Instagram models. You don’t need a guy to have a impromptu photo shoot, that’s what bffs are for. Guys are not so good at staged candids. “Look happy! You look mad. Just act like you’re happy then! Ugh, my friends are way better at this than you are.” That is how I imagine that conversation with a guy going.

See? Being single during the fall can be loads of fun. Having a guy is fun too, and there are tons of fun fall date ideas out there, but this post is for my single ladies.

 

 

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Why Having Guy Friends is Better Than Having a Boyfriend

If you follow me on any sort of social media then you know that I have some pretty great dude friends. There is just something totally awesome about having guy…

If you follow me on any sort of social media then you know that I have some pretty great dude friends. There is just something totally awesome about having guy bffs (who don’t have feelings for you and vice versa). Here are my top reasons why having guy friends is better than having a boyfriend. 

1. You can be gross together: If you haven’t washed your hair in two days and your clothes don’t match, no worries! If you feel totally unattractive, that is totally fine because you know you don’t have to impress him, and he feels the same way when he is with you! You guys can be gross and not give it a second thought. FullSizeRender (10)
2. He saves the drama for his mama: Have you ever heard someone gush about their boyfriend one day and then cry about how terrible he treats her the next? Ain’t nobody got time for that drama! Even the best relationship comes with it’s own hardships. Your friendship with your guy bff is a save haven from boy drama because there is no games being played and no hormonal emotions involved. You are free to be honest and open with them!
3. You don’t have to worry if you are bugging him: Sometimes when I am talking to a guy I secretly wonder if I am annoying him by texting him or just annoying him in general. You don’t have to worry about your dude bff getting annoyed and dumping you and and you know he will be honest with you when you are being a little too overbearing. 
 
Guy bffs are fun! There are no expectations, no competing emotions, and they have a different point of view on things than girls do! I am so grateful for my guy bffs. I don’t know what I would do without them!
 
XOXO, Chels 
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The Votes Are In: Top Traits Gals Want in Their Guys

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him…

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him to be? If so, you are the average teenage girl J. I read a recent study about the top traits that women want in the guy they date, and they really aren’t surprising! In fact, most of them were on MY list of traits I want to see in my guy. Here is a list of the top character, personality, and practical skill traits females want in a man.

 

TOP CHARACTER TRAITS: FAITHFULNESS, DEPENDABILITY, AND KINDNESS

When it comes to the character of your guy, most women say faithfulness is a top priority. Rightflully so! You want to know that he is there for you and only you, and that he will stick with you through the tough times. You also want to know that he is dependable and that when he says he is going to do something, he does it! You want him to be responsible. Lastly, you want him to be kind. I know that it is sometimes tempting to fall for the “tough guy” or “bad boy”, but as you grow up kindness wins. Most girls want a man who will be sweet to her AND her mother!

TOP PERSONALITY TRAITS: SENSE OF HUMOR, PASSION, AND INTELLEGENCE

I don’t know about you, but I love when I can laugh with my guy. Having a sense of humor makes life so much more fun! Passion is another must. You want a guy who is passionate about something, whether it is playing the piano, playing basketball, or evenrelationship-perspectives cooking! Another personality trait that women swoon over is intelligence. Nothing beats a guy who is great at problem solving!

TOP PRACTICAL SKILLS: LISTENING, ROMANCING, HELPING

Studies have shown that women love a guy who listens. This is a no-brainer! Girls feel safe and loved when a guy will sit there and let them vent and listen to their problems. Romancing is a given, we love a guy who can show his soft side and can sweep her off her feet! And the last one, helping. If he can help me cook a dinner, clean my room, or run errands, he is on the fast track to winning my heart! Who agrees?!

What traits do YOU value in a guy? Comment below!

XOXO, Chels 

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Beauty Trends that Guys Dislike

Ladies, can you think of one male style trend that drives you nuts? I am not a big fan of guys wearing high Nike socks with sandals. Gross. Guys look…

Ladies, can you think of one male style trend that drives you nuts? I am not a big fan of guys wearing high Nike socks with sandals. Gross. Guys look at some of our style choices in the same way, and their opinions are actually pretty amusing! Now, you should not let a guy’s opinion dictate the way you feel about yourself or your style choices, this list is just purely for fun and for you to get a little look into the male brain!

  1. Bangs: Some guys comment that bangs make them think of “mom hair.” I personally love bangs! But, some guys say FB3A9990-X2they are no bueno. Some guys even say bangs make girls look intimidating!
  2. Too-tight hair: When you pull your hair back too tight, like in a tight ponytail or bun, guys say it makes them feel like the girl is a major tomboy. But hey, if that is your thing, keep rockin it!
  3. Fragrance to the max: Don’t get me wrong, smelling great is always a must! But, If your boyfriend is being choked by your fragrance, you might need to tone it down a smidge.
  4. Too much tanner: Guys prefer you NOT to be tanned the color of Snooki.
  5. Helmet head: Too much hairspray means he cannot run his hands through your hair like Jack and Rose in the Titanic, and he is just NOT okay with that. 😉

 

Like I said earlier, you do you, who cares what guys think?! These were merely observations to give you a little giggle.

XOXO, Chels

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What Turns Guys Away…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I asked these same fellas on what guys look for in girls, so I decided to bring them back! According to them, things that turn guys away are:

  1. Needy/clinginess:

The boys said that when girls are clingy and needy that it pushes them away! They say that they love hanging out with you, but they also like space! Just remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder!

1. Playing dumb:

The guys say that they really don’t like when girls play dumb. They like when a girl can think for themselves and is intelligent! Don’t act like you don’t know something just to get a guy’s attention, show him how smart you are! It will impress them!

2. Drama Queen:

The guy’s opinion? “Save the drama for your momma”! There is nothing a guy despises more than drama! Don’t be a drama queen!

Doesn’t stick up for herself:

The boys say that they don’t like when a girl compromises her beliefs just to follow what everyone else is doing. Don’t do something just because everyone else is doing it! Do what you KNOW is right!

 

Hope you enjoyed taking a dive through the brain of a boy!

XOXO, Chels

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What To Look For In a Boy

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to…

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to look for in order to find a quality boy. J

  1. You have to be compatible! Duh! If he is super sporty and you totally despise all forms of physical activity as well as any sport on the planet, then you might not be such a great match. Ya know what I’m sayin? You have got to have similar likes and dislikes or else you will have nothing to talk about!
  2. Find someone who is easy to talk to. The best feeling in the world is having someone you can share everything with. It is awesome knowing that ifchelsea crockett you have a bad day, there is someone there who can cheer you up.
  3. Find someone who shares the same beliefs and morals as you. You get along so much better with people who share the same ideas about life as you  because they understand why you believe what you do and why you live the way you live.
  4. Find someone you can be yourself around. Find someone who likes you for you! When you can totally be yourself around someone and know that they will like you no matter what you do, then you know that you have found a keeper!

Any boy would be crazy lucky to have you, beautiful lady!

XOXO, Chels

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Great Gifts for your Guy

It’s your boy toy’s birthday coming up, and you have NO idea what to get him! Ahhhh!! Don’t lose your marbles just yet, because I have some great gift ideas…

It’s your boy toy’s birthday coming up, and you have NO idea what to get him! Ahhhh!! Don’t lose your marbles just yet, because I have some great gift ideas for the dude in your life. Sometimes trying to find a gift for your guy can be a little nerve racking, because you want to get him something that he will not only love, but that he will actually use! Here are some super fun, super creative gift ideas for all of those Handsomeliciousinsiders out there!

Iron man cloths iron: Okay, what guy wouldn’t think this is a total riot? And what better motivation for him to actually help out with the ironing? 😉iron-man-500x388

Candy: Simple. All boys love candy. Arrange it in a cute way, and use all of his favorite candies! The perfect mix of thoughtful and yummy!

Funny t-shirt: Like this funny t-shirt! He will get a kick out of it, and it will make you feel so special when he wears it!

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These were just a few ideas of gifts to get your guy on any occasion. These are just a few to get the gears in your head turning! Good luck finding the perfect gift for handsomeliciousinsider!

XOXO, Chels

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