Chelsea Crockett

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Why You Should Unfriend Your Ex

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the…

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the breakup, and how quickly he gets over you. Let me tell you, girl, it isn’t healthy. Here are 3 reasons you should unfriend your ex.

  1. It is hurting more than it is helping: Sometimes, seeing that your ex hasn’t unfriended you after a breakup can make you think that there is hope of you two getting back together. It can also prevent you from moving on. Seeing that ex and what they are up to can make you miss them and forget the reasons you broke up in the first place. It can also tempt you into trying to contact them and get back together. Unfriend them so that you can move on to bigger and better things!unfriend
  2. You won’t compare yourself: Being able to see what they are up to and who they are starting to date hurts. By unfriending them you are preventing yourself from the hurt that comes from comparing yourself to their new boo. It is easy to wonder who is doing better right now, you or him. Did they start dating someone new and you are still single? Did they get a better job than you have? Who cares what they are doing. And who cares who they moved on to. Don’t compare yourself to their new love interest. Your life is just as amazing as theirs, and you are just as great of a person as their new boo, so deleting them allows you to enjoy the ups and downs of your own life.
  3. You will be more of a mystery: If you want to seem like more of a mystery, and like you have moved on to better things, deleting your ex is a great idea. They won’t have access to your profiles and can’t see how you are doing, so they will become curious. If you are friends with them, all they have to do is pull up your profile to see how you are. If you aren’t friends, they actually have to reach out and ask you. If you are wanting to re-connect with them, this is the best way to do so!

Clicking that “unfriend” button is one of the best things you can do for yourself!

XOXO, Chels

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What to Ask Yourself Before a Breakup

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us…

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us will dump or be dumped multiple times before we find Mr. Right. When you are the one doing the breaking up, things can get awkward. Really awkward. No breakup is easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. The feelings and realizations that the relationship isn’t working happen over time. Before you decide to break up with someone, there are a few things you should ask yourself in order to make the process as painless, for both of you, as possible.

  1. What is the reason I want to break up with them?: This is something you will get asked a lot. “Why did you break up?” To prepare yourself for this, write down your feelings. Make a list of pros and cons of breaking up, or write down the reasons you think you should, just so that you can go back later and be confident in your decision and not feel regret.images (3)
  2. “What will things be like after we break up?”: Most people who are dating see one another a lot. They hang out a lot, see each other’s families a lot, and are pretty invested in one another’s lives. Once you break up, all of that changes. This is one of the toughest parts of a breakup, the “not being with each other all the time” part. But this also means that now, since you are single, you can focus on yourself more and hang out with friends or do things you want to do when you want to do them. Alone time is healthy!
  3. “How do I break up with them?”: Now that you are 100% confident that you want to break up with them, you should do the act in person. You need to be face to face so that there is no misunderstandings or unnecessary hurt feelings. Be confident, and be clear about why you are ending things.
  4. Reflect on the relationship: Everyone learns something from each relationship that they have been in, whether it is finding out that you love sushi or that you really don’t like it when the person you are dating chews with his mouth open. You learn more about yourself and about what you want in a life partner. Ask yourself what are some positive things you can take away from the relationship and focus on them when you feel down.

Breakups are tough, but they aren’t the end of the world. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! It gets better.

XOXO, Chels

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Things You Should Always Do on First Dates

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a…

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a lot of things we cant control when it comes to first dates, and the uncertainty is what makes us so nervous. There are a few things you CAN control that can make the date go more smoothly, and they are how you behave. Here are things you should always do on a first date.

  1. Dress to impress: both him and yourself! Usually, before a first date I try on lots of different outfits in hope of finding one I think will impress my date. Instead of trying to impress HIM, impress YOURSELF. Wear what makes you feel like you! Be confident in what you are wearing and he will notice!FullSizeRender (46)
  2. Be honest: If you are having a good time, say it! And if you aren’t, don’t say “I’m just not feeling it,” but also don’t tell him that you “want to do this again sometime.” If you didn’t like it, just tell him thank you for the date, and if he asks you out on a second one, just be polite and say no.
  3. Be polite: Say please and thank you. People notice when you do and when you don’t! If you want to make a positive impression, mind your manners. Put your phone away and give him your attention.
  4. Just be you: This is the most important point. First impressions are so so important, so make sure you give your date a good look at who you are. If you are an outgoing person, be outgoing! If you are not, don’t force it! Don’t be someone you think your date would like, just be yourself.

And finally…have fun! Yes, first dates are nerve wracking, but they can be the start of a beautiful thing!

XOXO, Chels

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