Chelsea Crockett

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What to Ask Yourself Before a Breakup

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us…

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us will dump or be dumped multiple times before we find Mr. Right. When you are the one doing the breaking up, things can get awkward. Really awkward. No breakup is easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. The feelings and realizations that the relationship isn’t working happen over time. Before you decide to break up with someone, there are a few things you should ask yourself in order to make the process as painless, for both of you, as possible.

  1. What is the reason I want to break up with them?: This is something you will get asked a lot. “Why did you break up?” To prepare yourself for this, write down your feelings. Make a list of pros and cons of breaking up, or write down the reasons you think you should, just so that you can go back later and be confident in your decision and not feel regret.images (3)
  2. “What will things be like after we break up?”: Most people who are dating see one another a lot. They hang out a lot, see each other’s families a lot, and are pretty invested in one another’s lives. Once you break up, all of that changes. This is one of the toughest parts of a breakup, the “not being with each other all the time” part. But this also means that now, since you are single, you can focus on yourself more and hang out with friends or do things you want to do when you want to do them. Alone time is healthy!
  3. “How do I break up with them?”: Now that you are 100% confident that you want to break up with them, you should do the act in person. You need to be face to face so that there is no misunderstandings or unnecessary hurt feelings. Be confident, and be clear about why you are ending things.
  4. Reflect on the relationship: Everyone learns something from each relationship that they have been in, whether it is finding out that you love sushi or that you really don’t like it when the person you are dating chews with his mouth open. You learn more about yourself and about what you want in a life partner. Ask yourself what are some positive things you can take away from the relationship and focus on them when you feel down.

Breakups are tough, but they aren’t the end of the world. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! It gets better.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend is Too Clingy

Have you ever dated a guy that was, well, a bit too clingy? Are you wondering if your current BF is just that? First, let me define clingy. I mean,…

Have you ever dated a guy that was, well, a bit too clingy? Are you wondering if your current BF is just that? First, let me define clingy. I mean, he is jealous when you spend time with friends, he is insecure about your feelings towards him, that sort of thing. A clingy boyfriend is one that is not fun to be around. Here are a 4 signs your beau is a bit too clingy and what to do about it.

  1. He is always blowing up your phone: Even when you are at a friend’s house, out to dinner with family, shopping with your sister, he is always texting or calling you. When you are not together, your bf won’t leave you (and your phone) alone. This could be a sign that he is insecure and jealous. If he is always trying to keep tabs on you, that is a red flag!
  2. All of his friends have vanished: And now you are his only friend. He has given up all of his other friends just to be with you. He doesn’t want to spend time with anyone else but you. BEEP BEEP, red flag ahead!resized_y-u-no-meme-generator-clingy-boyfriend-y-u-no-leave-me-alone-938a07
  3. You constantly need to reassure him you like him: No matter how many times you say it, they want you to say it just one more time. We all need reassurance that our boyfriend/girlfriend has feelings for us, but not on a hyper-frequent basis. Like a few times every few hours. They feel insecure about your feelings for them and just want to make sure that you still like/love them. This is not healthy, and odds are, they will never feel reassured enough to feel secure in the relationship.
  4. He is more interested in you than you are in him: This is the icing on the cake. If your BF is needy or clingy, and it annoys the daylights out of you, odds are he is more into the relationship than you are. If your boyfriend texting you a few times a day to check on you is cute to you, then then this scenario isn’t the case! You are both mutually invested in the relationship. But, if you find the constant check-ins, and clinginess to be obnoxious and downright annoying, it’s time to cut him loose.

If any of these points sound like your boyfriend, then he is what we would classify as clingy. Like I said earlier, if you like your man to only want to hang out with you and text you constantly, then a clingy guy is right for you! But, if you like to have space and freedom to hang out with people without getting a million texts or being checked-in on constantly, then a clingy guy is not your cup of tea.

XOXO, Chels

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How You Know You’re Finally Over “Him”

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you…

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you realize that you are completely and utterly over him and that you have come out of the ordeal on top. You are wiser and so much stronger! Here are 5 things you realize when you are completely over your ex.

1.    You realize that the time you spent together was not wasted. You earned a degree in “This is what I DON’T want in a guy!”

2.    You now have time for YOU. No need to worry about him or what he is doing, you can focus on you!

3.    Hey, you know what? Being single rocks! And now you can see that. You can go out with friends! You can stay in bed and watch Netflix! WOOO!

4.    You appreciate the lessons you learned from him. Hey, he might have broken your heart, but he taught you how to be a better person. And now you can appreciate that.

5.    You don’t stalk him on social media any more. Yes, he has a new girlfriend. And yes, you are kind of sort of curious what he is up to. But you know what? You are glad he is happy, because you are too.

You keep doing you!

XOXO, Chels

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