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Guarding Your Heart 101

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships. Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching…

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships.

Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching feelings, it covers several areas of your life you wouldn’t even think of.

When it comes to different areas in our life, we should practice guarding our hearts from anything that could damage it.

Maybe music is your weak point. What songs are affecting you negatively? Maybe it’s movies. What movies put bad thoughts into your head over and over again?

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

For boys:

This is a big one ladies. I know for me, I grew up dreaming of the husband God was preparing for me. Every guy I dated, I always wondered in the back of my head if he was the one.

For a while, I would pour out my heart to every boyfriend I had. In the end, I would be left broken and empty because I rushed to give so much of my heart to whoever I was in a relationship with.

I soon after learned a very important lesson: stop giving my heart to the hands that can break it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Once you find the kind of love God describes in 1 Corinthians, then you can start your journey of letting your guard down.

Until then, be careful who you give parts of your heart to. Seek God and you’ll find him in all areas of your life, even your relationships.

For friends:

When you’re with your friends, learn which ones are lifelong and which are temporary. Learn who you can trust with your secrets and venting sessions.

I learned this the hard way, by trusting too many people and giving too many of my “friends” access to all areas of my life.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

God wants you to have good fellowship and to keep those in your life who encourage and build you up. You just have to know who’s wise and who you should walk with.

For the things of this world:

As far as music, movie, TV shows, etc., you retain more of the information you hear and watch than you think.

After a while, the harsh words you hear or the vulgar scenes you watch may start to take a toll on you.  Put into your body the things that are going to leave a positive impact on you, not a negative one.

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There’s a strong difference between guarding your heart and shutting people out. It’s important to know when to let your guard down and when to keep it up.

God wants us to protect ourselves from the things that take us away from Him.

I challenge you to practice the things God talks about in the Bible. Once again, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

– Chelsea

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Do’s and Don’ts of Breaking Up

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or…

Break-ups can be both the best and worst thing in the world.  Depending on who you are and/or who you are dating, break-ups can either be freeing and relieving or heartbreaking and miserable.  Either way, I have a few helpful do’s and don’ts that I think I could offer!

  • DO be respectful.  Make sure you are always considering their feelings and their side of the story.  Try to put yourself in their shoes and know it can be just as hard on them as it is for you.
  • DON’T forget your worth.  Oftentimes, it can be easy to forget your worth and make excuses for the other person, especially when you’re going through a rough patch.  Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less!
  • DO put yourself first.  There’s a huge difference between being selfish and putting yourself first.  It’s okay to consider your own feelings and to value what you need out of a relationship over your boyfriend.  At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself!
  • DON’T forget what you learned.  You can learn so much through dating and breaking up.  It teaches you valuable lessons that you can use the next time you date someone.  You can observe what worked, what didn’t work, and what traits you’re looking for in the next person you date!

I hope this helps you out next time you go through a break up, which I hope isn’t any time soon for you!

Xoxo – Chelsea

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Why You Should Learn to Love Yourself Before Loving Him

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so…

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so much, so quickly.  With that growth, I experienced both good and bad feedback, both nice and hurtful comments.  DespiteChelsea Crockett - Love Yourself Quote the negativity, I discovered who I was over the years and have learned a few reasons why you should love yourself before loving someone else!

Self-confidence is a wonderful thing to have, but it can be so hard to attain.  Whenever I feel down or start to doubt myself, I always turn to the Bible for advice.  On the subject of loving myself, I also refer to Psalm 139:14.  It says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful.”  This is a verse that you can always lean on for a little boost! 🙂

As far as the reasons why this factor is so important before starting a relationship, there are many!  I’ve learned from experience that if you are still trying to find who you are as a person, it will be 10x harder when you’re looking to someone else for reassurance.  When you love who you are and are 100% confident with your own values, morals, and beliefs, that’s when you should share your life with another person!  I promise you, you will be so much happier.

Learn to love yourself and you’ll be so happy you did!

Love, Chels

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5 Things to Consider Before Getting into a Relationship

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet…

Relationships can be both the best and worst thing.  When you meet the right person, that relationship can be the best thing that happens to you!  But if you meet the wrong person… Yikes!  There are certain things to consider before getting into a relationship.  Consider it a “checklist” to make sure both you and the other person are ready for it!

  • Know your worth.  If you don’t know who you are as a person, you’re going to look to others to define you, especially someone you have a lot of feelings for.  Knowing your worth is important in and out of a relationship, but even more so before you date someone!
  • Make sure you’re over past relationships.  There is nothing worse than getting into a relationship without being over your last one.  This is so important!  Don’t allow anyone to be your “rebound.”Chelsea Crockett - Dating Quote
  • Talk about your morals and values with each other.  Being on the same page is crucial for a successful relationship.  Talk about religion, priorities, etc.
  • Prepare yourself to be fully committed.  If you can’t do this, then you’re not ready to invest your time and feelings into someone.  Don’t waste your time and theirs!
  • If you can’t see yourself possibly marrying the person, then don’t start a relationship with them!  I cannot stress this enough.  If you know you’re not going to end up with them in the long run, don’t waste your time and feelings.

Take these things into account before dating that special person!

Love, Chelsea

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5 Signs You Aren’t Ready to Get Back in the Dating Game

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it…

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it could be fun, so you think maybe you should give it a try? Odds are you have felt this way at some point. When we think like this, we may feel like we should date the first person who shows some interest in us because if we don’t, we could end up forever alone (noooooooo!). Don’t let these thoughts drive you. Here is how to find out if you are not ready for a relationship.

  1. You still social media stalk your ex: If your sleuthing is on the Sherlock Holmes level, you probably aren’t over that person, hence you are not ready for a new relationship.via-christianfunnypictures.com_
  2. Your friends’ relationship drama makes you gag: If hearing about your friends’ relationship troubles makes you thank your lucky stars you aren’t dating a guy like that, then you might want to wait to get into the dating game.
  3. You like treating yourself: If you love your “me” time and don’t feel like sharing, then you aren’t ready for a relationship. And you know what? That is totally fine! When you are ready to date you will feel ready to share your time with someone else.

So, if you still social media stalk your ex, you hate hearing about your friends’ relationship drama, and you don’t feel like sharing your time, then you aren’t ready to get back in the dating saddle!

XOXO, Chels

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What Godly Guys Look For In A Gal

Okay gals, how many of us sit and daydream about our perfect guy? Most of us talk about what our prince charming is like to our girlfriends and gush about…

Okay gals, how many of us sit and daydream about our perfect guy? Most of us talk about what our prince charming is like to our girlfriends and gush about meeting him one day. If you are like me, you even have a list of what your perfect guy is like, from personality to physical traits. Do you ever wonder if guys do this too? Make lists of what they want their future Mrs. Right to be like? If so, do we measure up to that list? Well, I wanted an answer, so I consulted one of my Christian guy friends. Here is a guy’s perspective of what they look for in a gal. He says:FullSizeRender (83)

Guys’ minds really don’t operate the same as girls (surprise surprise!). In fact, most guys don’t really know what they want until they’ve found it. Now, I can’t speak for all guys when I say that, but among my Christian guy friends, there are 2 things we look for: if there is a spark between us, and if she loves God. We want a connection that gives us butterflies, just like you do. We want to be attracted to them both on the surface, and to what is in their hearts. We want to be able to hold a deep, intelligent conversation, but also have fun and goof off. Each guy is different in what they look for as far as a “spark”. Like I said before, us Christian guys also want a woman who is chasing after God and seeks His wisdom in her life. We want someone who cares for others and who inspires girls around her. But, like we said, we don’t really 100% know exactly what we want until we actually find it! Here is the most important thing: stop trying to be someone you think guys will like and be who you want to be, because the right guy will like exactly who you are.

Well said! Sometimes your guy friends can be a great source of wisdom, am I right?

XOXO, Chels

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Dating Etiquette 101

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, first dates are scary business. You are putting yourself out there, and even though you have probably texted them a bunch…

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, first dates are scary business. You are putting yourself out there, and even though you have probably texted them a bunch or chatted with them in person, your first date is a totally different ball field. It is all about making a good impression and keeping your wits about you. Dating etiquette is much more than saying please and thank you and putting your napkin on your lap during dinner. Here are the basics on everything you need to know about dating etiquette to help you make a fab impression on your date.

Be on time: Please please pleeeease. There is no bigger annoyance than a late date. Be respectful and be on time, don’t keep them waiting! If you are running behind, text them and keep them updated on your status.IMG_3938

Put your phone away: Unless there is a big family emergency that requires you have your phone handy, put it away. Your friends will understand if you respond to their text in a few hours instead of right away. When you have your phone out during a date it gives off the message that they aren’t your main focus and they aren’t as important as what is going on on your phone.

Make eye contact: Giving someone eye contact lets them know you are interested in what they have to say and shows them respect. If you avoid eye contact they may think you are bored or aren’t into them.

Be attentive and ask questions: Really listen to what they have to say and try to give them your input. Also, ask them questions to keep the dialogue going. Feedback shows them that you’re really listening and want to hear what they have to say.

Manners are hard to come by these days, so when you show that you have good ones, you will be even more of a total catch! Plus, it will most likely knock the socks off of your date.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Conversation Starters for a First Date

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you…

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you might not know much about your crush. You may worry about running out of things to say. To avoid awkward silences, here are some conversation starters!

  1. Ask if they play any sports or instruments. Oftentimes guys love to talk about sports. You can always spark up a good convo with a sports fan! If they don’t like sports, maybe they’re into music or art! Either way, it’s fun to hear about their interests and hobbies!
  2. Ask about their friends and family. It’s fun and sometimes important to learn about the people they spend their time with!
  3. As much as we don’t like to talk about school, it can sometimes take the place of awkward silences. Asking what classes they’re in can bring up common interests.
  4. Ask about the future! I don’t mean asking about how many kids they want or where they want to live when they get older… TMI! Try asking if they have any fun summer plans or about where they’re going to college!
  5. Come up with a question or comment about the date you’re on. If you’re at a restaurant, ask what they’re getting or what looks good to them. If you’re mini golfing, make comments on who’s winning or what the score is!

Most of the time, conversations tend to flow nicely, so you should have nothing to worry about! But if you need to stir up the convo, hopefully these will help you out and calm your nerves!

XO – Chels

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Beauty Trends that Guys Dislike

Ladies, can you think of one male style trend that drives you nuts? I am not a big fan of guys wearing high Nike socks with sandals. Gross. Guys look…

Ladies, can you think of one male style trend that drives you nuts? I am not a big fan of guys wearing high Nike socks with sandals. Gross. Guys look at some of our style choices in the same way, and their opinions are actually pretty amusing! Now, you should not let a guy’s opinion dictate the way you feel about yourself or your style choices, this list is just purely for fun and for you to get a little look into the male brain!

  1. Bangs: Some guys comment that bangs make them think of “mom hair.” I personally love bangs! But, some guys say FB3A9990-X2they are no bueno. Some guys even say bangs make girls look intimidating!
  2. Too-tight hair: When you pull your hair back too tight, like in a tight ponytail or bun, guys say it makes them feel like the girl is a major tomboy. But hey, if that is your thing, keep rockin it!
  3. Fragrance to the max: Don’t get me wrong, smelling great is always a must! But, If your boyfriend is being choked by your fragrance, you might need to tone it down a smidge.
  4. Too much tanner: Guys prefer you NOT to be tanned the color of Snooki.
  5. Helmet head: Too much hairspray means he cannot run his hands through your hair like Jack and Rose in the Titanic, and he is just NOT okay with that. 😉

 

Like I said earlier, you do you, who cares what guys think?! These were merely observations to give you a little giggle.

XOXO, Chels

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Why All Girls Can Relate to Taylor Swift

Oh Taylor Swift, how us girls just adore you! I mean, how can you not relate to her?!  Some may call her crazy or boy-obsessed, but when you really dig…

Oh Taylor Swift, how us girls just adore you! I mean, how can you not relate to her?!  Some may call her crazy or boy-obsessed, but when you really dig down deep into her lyrics, there really is some genius stuff going on there.  Whether you’re going through a break-up, having a tough time with friends, or just need a song to dance to, Taylor Swift’s got you covered!  Check out a few of my favorites and why you can relate to them!Chelsea Crockett- Taylor Swift

  1. “Fifteen”: If you’re going into high school you must listen to this song! If you’re nervous, falling into love for the first time, or having trouble making friends, Taylor will assure you that you’re not alone.
  2. “Bad Blood”: Have you ever had a really bad break up? Get all your emotions out while blasting this song!
  3. “Never Grow Up”: Growing up can be tough…especially when you find yourself graduating high school or college soon. Remember to always let your family know how much you love them.
  4. “Back to December”: Apologizing to someone can be tough, especially when you’ve waited a long time and know you’re in the wrong. Just know that saying sorry is always the best policy.
  5. “Clean”: If you’ve ever been in a bad relationship or situation that you got out of be sure to give this song a listen.

Comment below what some of your favorite Taylor Swift songs are!

Love,

Chelsea

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What Turns Guys Away…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I asked these same fellas on what guys look for in girls, so I decided to bring them back! According to them, things that turn guys away are:

  1. Needy/clinginess:

The boys said that when girls are clingy and needy that it pushes them away! They say that they love hanging out with you, but they also like space! Just remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder!

1. Playing dumb:

The guys say that they really don’t like when girls play dumb. They like when a girl can think for themselves and is intelligent! Don’t act like you don’t know something just to get a guy’s attention, show him how smart you are! It will impress them!

2. Drama Queen:

The guy’s opinion? “Save the drama for your momma”! There is nothing a guy despises more than drama! Don’t be a drama queen!

Doesn’t stick up for herself:

The boys say that they don’t like when a girl compromises her beliefs just to follow what everyone else is doing. Don’t do something just because everyone else is doing it! Do what you KNOW is right!

 

Hope you enjoyed taking a dive through the brain of a boy!

XOXO, Chels

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What Guys Look For In Girls!

Have you ever wondered what goes on in a guy’s brain? Well, I picked apart the brains of a few of my guy friends, and I have some answers to…

Have you ever wondered what goes on in a guy’s brain? Well, I picked apart the brains of a few of my guy friends, and I have some answers to a very important question: What do guys look for in girls? Want to know? Read on!

1. She has morals and sticks to them.

The boys said that a girl who has a sense of right and wrong and knows what she stands for. They like a girl that sticks to her faith and what she believes in.

2. She has Inner beauty.6122149462958582_6bIj0GJ8_f

The boys say that a girl who has a beautiful, genuine personality is the most attractive girl of all. They told me that a girl who has a great personality is more fun to be around! They also make you feel good when you are with them and they make you want to be a better person.

3. She gives you space and freedom.

The guys said that they love a girl that can give them some space! They like a girl that can trust them and let them chill with their friends and give them space. Needy girls are a no-no according to them! They also say that they like girls who are flexible with plans and go with the flow.

4. She is faithful and doesn’t flirt with other guys.

The boys told me that the most annoying thing that a girl can do is to flirt with other boys while they are dating. They told me that “If you are in a relationship, then don’t flirt with other guys! Duh!”

5.She takes care of herself.

This is the last piece of insight the boys gave me. They said that they like a girl that knows how to take care of herself! They like a girl that can dress up for a date, but can also dress down when hanging out and watching movies. They like a girl that can feel confident about themselves!

 

I hope that this info gives you a little insight into the male mind!

XOXO, Chels

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What To Look For In a Boy

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to…

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to look for in order to find a quality boy. J

  1. You have to be compatible! Duh! If he is super sporty and you totally despise all forms of physical activity as well as any sport on the planet, then you might not be such a great match. Ya know what I’m sayin? You have got to have similar likes and dislikes or else you will have nothing to talk about!
  2. Find someone who is easy to talk to. The best feeling in the world is having someone you can share everything with. It is awesome knowing that ifchelsea crockett you have a bad day, there is someone there who can cheer you up.
  3. Find someone who shares the same beliefs and morals as you. You get along so much better with people who share the same ideas about life as you  because they understand why you believe what you do and why you live the way you live.
  4. Find someone you can be yourself around. Find someone who likes you for you! When you can totally be yourself around someone and know that they will like you no matter what you do, then you know that you have found a keeper!

Any boy would be crazy lucky to have you, beautiful lady!

XOXO, Chels

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