Chelsea Crockett

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4 Things to Ask Yourself Before Getting into a Relationship

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When…

Getting into a relationship is a much bigger deal than people make it out to be.  It can end in either one of two ways: breaking up or marriage!   When you put it that way and look at the bigger picture, you should make sure you’re certain about someone before you get into a relationship with them.  Here are four things to ask yourself before dating someone!

  • “Am I ready for a relationship?” First and foremost, you need to put yourself first.  Although you might like the idea of him, make sure YOU are ready to make the commitment.  You need to be sure you’re over any past relationships and are ready to date again.
  • “Does he have everything I’m looking for?” We have to set our standards, ladies!  Sometimes it even helps to write down a list of all the things you look for in someone.  Maybe it’s humor, manners, kindness, or honesty.  The list can go on and on.  Then, go from there!
  • “Are there any red flags?” These are SO important to pick out before you get into a relationship with someone.  If there’s an automatic red flag at any point, you should definitely look further into it!  Whatever it may be true or not, don’t make excuses for it unless you ask them about it first.
  • “Are you both on the same page?” Making sure you have the same morals and values is also an extremely important factor to put into play. Although opposites can attract, most times two people with similar mindsets work out a little better!

I hope this helps you next time you’re unsure about getting into a relationship! 🙂

Love, Chelsea

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5 Types of Breakups Every Girl Goes Through

All of us girls can agree on one thing: breakups are the worst.  No one enjoys breaking it off with someone or especially being broken up with!  Although they’re never…

All of us girls can agree on one thing: breakups are the worst.  No one enjoys breaking it off with someone or especially being broken up with!  Although they’re never fun, there are some breakups that are better than others.  Here are 5 different types of breakups that most of us have experienced at least once!

  1. The friendly breakup.  Aren’t these the best?  You know and agree that you both aren’t right for each other so you end on a civil note.  You can still have friendly conversations without it being awkward or hostile!   
  2. The heartbreaking breakup.  These breakups are the ones you never ever want to experience.  They’re the breakups that leave you with sleepless nights and lots of heartache.  If you’ve experienced this before, just know you’re not alone! 
  3. The angry breakup.  Having built up grudges and anger especially at the end of a breakup makes parting ways 10x harder.  I know for me, I hate when people are mad at me or when a situation leaves me boiling up inside!
  4. The one-sided breakup.  Depending on what side you’re on, you can either leave feeling relieved or extremely heartbroken.  It’s the worst when you’re more invested in someone than they are in you.  
  5. The end result breakup.  This is the breakup that you both expected no matter how much you wanted to deny it.  I think we’ve all experienced this at some point in our dating life.  You didn’t want to admit it, but you knew breaking up would be the end result!

Which breakup do you think is the worst?  One day we’ll have a relationship that won’t ever have to end in a breakup!

Love, Chelsea

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What to Ask Yourself Before a Breakup

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us…

I don’t know anyone who starts a relationship by thinking they will break up soon. Although no one likes to think about it, the reality is that most of us will dump or be dumped multiple times before we find Mr. Right. When you are the one doing the breaking up, things can get awkward. Really awkward. No breakup is easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. The feelings and realizations that the relationship isn’t working happen over time. Before you decide to break up with someone, there are a few things you should ask yourself in order to make the process as painless, for both of you, as possible.

  1. What is the reason I want to break up with them?: This is something you will get asked a lot. “Why did you break up?” To prepare yourself for this, write down your feelings. Make a list of pros and cons of breaking up, or write down the reasons you think you should, just so that you can go back later and be confident in your decision and not feel regret.images (3)
  2. “What will things be like after we break up?”: Most people who are dating see one another a lot. They hang out a lot, see each other’s families a lot, and are pretty invested in one another’s lives. Once you break up, all of that changes. This is one of the toughest parts of a breakup, the “not being with each other all the time” part. But this also means that now, since you are single, you can focus on yourself more and hang out with friends or do things you want to do when you want to do them. Alone time is healthy!
  3. “How do I break up with them?”: Now that you are 100% confident that you want to break up with them, you should do the act in person. You need to be face to face so that there is no misunderstandings or unnecessary hurt feelings. Be confident, and be clear about why you are ending things.
  4. Reflect on the relationship: Everyone learns something from each relationship that they have been in, whether it is finding out that you love sushi or that you really don’t like it when the person you are dating chews with his mouth open. You learn more about yourself and about what you want in a life partner. Ask yourself what are some positive things you can take away from the relationship and focus on them when you feel down.

Breakups are tough, but they aren’t the end of the world. There is a light at the end of the tunnel! It gets better.

XOXO, Chels

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What to Change After a Breakup

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel…

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel like you need change in your life to help you move forward. Sometimes, a fresh start is just what you need after a breakup. It can make you feel powerful and like you have control! Here are a few things to change after a breakup to help you move forward.

  1. Outlook and attitude: After the chaos of a breakup, it is a good idea to evaluate how your outlook on life and love has changed. Breakups often make us want to make changes for the better and focus on improving ourselves. Make the best of your situation and use this time to get to know yourself.
  2. Hair: This one is a pretty common change people make after a breakup, and with good reason! A fresh new hair cut for a fresh new you. Did your ex ever tell you not to dye your hair blond even though you really wanted to? Dye those locks blonde, girl! No more holding back! You will feel strong, independent, and beautiful with a fresh new ‘do.images (1)
  3. Music: Did your bf like a certain type of music? Did you change your taste in music to fit with his? Time to find new music for the new you. Create a new soundtrack for your life!
  4. Style: If you dressed a certain way to impress your boyfriend or he didn’t like certain things you wore, no need to worry about that anymore! Now you can dress however you please. Did he hate red lipstick? Wear it proudly! Try new styles, you may find a new fav!
  5. Relationship outlook: Use this time to think about what you want in your next relationship. What did you like and dislike about your ex? What will you do differently the next time around?

Breakups are a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and focus on the “new you”.

XOXO, Chels

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How To Get Over Your Ex

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways…

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways to get over those tricky ex’s.

1. Exercise the blues away

Exercise is a great way to boost your endorphins and get out of your depressed state! When you are happy, you aren’t feeling down and won’t be so tempted to go back to your ex! Just 10 minutes of moderate exercise is enough to improve your mood. Not only does exercise boost your mood, exercise helps your body look and feel better, which boosts your self confidence! When you are happier and more self confident, you are in the right mindset to leave your past relationship in the dust and explore new horizons!

2. Take time to rebuild your relationship with yourself and God

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A lot of times, when you are in a relationship you often put the other person’s needs and wants above your own. Sometimes this can cause you to lose a little bit of yourself. That is no bueno! Often when your relationship comes to an end, you may find it difficult to remember the things that you enjoyed or liked to do because you were so wrapped up in what HE wanted. Pray about it. Lose yourself in Jesus and become so close to Him that all of your relationship blunders will fade into the past. Rebuilding your relationship with yourself and God is the first step to moving on

3. Find a new hobby

Now that you are single and free, find something that you love to do! You may have pushed aside a hobby of yours while you were in a relationship, but now that you are single you are free to do as you please! Immersing yourself in a hobby will not only keep your mind off of your ex, but it will also bring you joy! Pick up painting or photography or even reading! Anything you like!

Kick those ex’s to the curb, ladies! Show ‘em you are strong and resilient.

XOXO, Chels

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