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First Date First Impressions 101

Not only is dating scary, FIRST dates are even scarier! You usually don’t really know the person, you are nervous, the buildup of the whole thing can give you date-induced…

Not only is dating scary, FIRST dates are even scarier! You usually don’t really know the person, you are nervous, the buildup of the whole thing can give you date-induced anxiety, and you want to be able to put your best foot forward and make the best impression possible. Here are a few ways to beat the nerves and put your most date-ready self out there.

  1. Put your phone away: Checking your phone in front of your date tells them that you are bored and not interested in them. If you have to check your phone, excuse yourself to the restroom and do it there. It is the polite thing to do!
  2. Ask questions: Ask them about themselves, and not just the everyday questions like “what do you want to study in college” or “what kind of job do you have”, ask things like “what has been your favorite place to travel to” and “if you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be”. These kinds of questions let the person know that you are interested in their likes and also helps you learn more about them.FullSizeRender (72)
  3. Stay positive: Even if they were late to pick you up or if you had a bad day, try and stay positive and optimistic during your date. Positive people are likeable people!
  4. Stay away from talking about your ex: If you recently got out of a relationship or even if you haven’t dated in a while, stay away from talking about past relationships. If they ask, just say that it didn’t work out but you learned a lot and leave it at that.
  5. Be honest: At the end of the date, if you had a good time, say so! If not, just say thank you for taking you out and leave it at that. Don’t play games, just be honest. Honesty is attractive!

Dating can be rough, but it can also be a lot of fun! Keep these tips handy for the next time you need to make a fab first impression.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Signs Your Boyfriend is Too Clingy

Have you ever dated a guy that was, well, a bit too clingy? Are you wondering if your current BF is just that? First, let me define clingy. I mean,…

Have you ever dated a guy that was, well, a bit too clingy? Are you wondering if your current BF is just that? First, let me define clingy. I mean, he is jealous when you spend time with friends, he is insecure about your feelings towards him, that sort of thing. A clingy boyfriend is one that is not fun to be around. Here are a 4 signs your beau is a bit too clingy and what to do about it.

  1. He is always blowing up your phone: Even when you are at a friend’s house, out to dinner with family, shopping with your sister, he is always texting or calling you. When you are not together, your bf won’t leave you (and your phone) alone. This could be a sign that he is insecure and jealous. If he is always trying to keep tabs on you, that is a red flag!
  2. All of his friends have vanished: And now you are his only friend. He has given up all of his other friends just to be with you. He doesn’t want to spend time with anyone else but you. BEEP BEEP, red flag ahead!resized_y-u-no-meme-generator-clingy-boyfriend-y-u-no-leave-me-alone-938a07
  3. You constantly need to reassure him you like him: No matter how many times you say it, they want you to say it just one more time. We all need reassurance that our boyfriend/girlfriend has feelings for us, but not on a hyper-frequent basis. Like a few times every few hours. They feel insecure about your feelings for them and just want to make sure that you still like/love them. This is not healthy, and odds are, they will never feel reassured enough to feel secure in the relationship.
  4. He is more interested in you than you are in him: This is the icing on the cake. If your BF is needy or clingy, and it annoys the daylights out of you, odds are he is more into the relationship than you are. If your boyfriend texting you a few times a day to check on you is cute to you, then then this scenario isn’t the case! You are both mutually invested in the relationship. But, if you find the constant check-ins, and clinginess to be obnoxious and downright annoying, it’s time to cut him loose.

If any of these points sound like your boyfriend, then he is what we would classify as clingy. Like I said earlier, if you like your man to only want to hang out with you and text you constantly, then a clingy guy is right for you! But, if you like to have space and freedom to hang out with people without getting a million texts or being checked-in on constantly, then a clingy guy is not your cup of tea.

XOXO, Chels

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Teen Tips: What to Wear When Meeting the Parents

A short time ago I wrote a blog about beauty tips when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, and in the blog I promised to write another one…

A short time ago I wrote a blog about beauty tips when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, and in the blog I promised to write another one on what to wear when meeting the parents. Well, I aim to please! Here are my tips on how to make a good first impression with what you wear.

  1. Plan ahead: Your guy has told you when and where you will meet his parents, so now it is time to plan out your outfit! Planning ahead helps you feel more prepared and gives you time to pick the perfect outfit and try things on to make sure they look good together. Picking out what to wear a few hours before you are supposed to meet them is a recipe for disaster!
  2. Choose something new: This is a special occasion, so dress like it! Don’t wear your favorite shirt that your boyfriend always sees you in, pick something that is fresh and new. He will love seeing a different side of you, and wearing something fresh will make you feel stylish and confident.FullSizeRender (47)
  3. Wear statement shoes: Keep your outfit simple. Not flashy, not lots of patterns or prints, just simple. But, that doesn’t have to be the case with shoes! A good statement shoe is a great way to impress his momma.
  4. Colors are cool: If you have a colorful personality, wear color! You don’t have to keep colors muted if that isn’t your style, let your personality shine through! This can be something as simple as colored accessories or, like we said earlier, shoes!
  5. Keep it classy: This is the most important tip! Make the best impression possible on his parents by keeping your outfit tasteful and classy. Make them proud that their son is dating such a classy gal! Tight pants may make you feel confident and super fine, but they may not be the best choice for your first meeting. Pair them with a flowy shirt to offset them

Meeting the parents can be fun and exciting! Let your personality shine, and just be yourself!

XOXO, Chels  

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Relationship Red Flags

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is always a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little…

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is always a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy about it? Like, you have a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is a little off or just isn’t right. Don’t ignore that feeling! It could be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to be. Here are 5 red flags to look out for while dating.

  1. They don’t initiate hanging out: One of the worst feelings is when you have to initiate every time you guys hang out. He never asks if you want to do something, you always have to ask. Girls like to be pursued! You having to make every move is a sign that the relationship may be a little one-sided.5-relationship-red-flags-large
  2. They’re always “too busy” or “too tired”: We make time for the people we care about and want to see, and if they are always making excuses for why they can’t hang out, that’s a red flag!
  3. They never pay for anything: Splitting the bill at dinner is totally great, but sometimes it also feels great to be treated to dinner! If you are always splitting or even paying for your dates, things need to be re-evaluated.
  4. They take a day or two to respond to a text: We are all busy, and sometimes it takes me a few hours to respond to text messages, but there is a difference between being too busy to answer and taking forever just because you can. Texting games are no fun! If they can answer the text in a timely manner, they should.
  5. All they want to DO is text: This reminds me of me and my first “boyfriend.” All he wanted to do was text and never wanted to hang out! If you’re dating a guy and he is all talk (or text, for that matter) and no action, dump him. If he won’t hang out with you in person, just text you, that is more like a virtual boyfriend, and that’s not what you signed up for!

So, if you just started dating a guy, or if you have been dating them for a few months, watch out for these red flag warning signs. If your guy does these things, it might be time to show him to the door!

XOXO, Chels

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Bible Verses for Dating Couples

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great…

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great foundation for relationships and it outlines the core principals of godliniess, purity, and unconditional love in the scriptures. If you are a believer in a relationship with another believer, these 4 verses are great to study in order to strengthen your relationship.

  1. Respect each other: Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” This means that respecting each other’s boundaries, personalities, and thoughts gives couples the ability to humble themselves individually. This gives the relationship the opportunity to mature and for each person to give respect by demonstrating integrity, moral character, and devotion to God.f1cbb692e0c8b0738af1a392901ee2cc
  2. Encourage each other to grow spiritually: 2 Thessalonians 1:3 tells us to encourage our brothers and sisters to seek Christ and to grow spiritually. This shows maturity in relationships and strengthens them. A couple who prays together, goes to Bible study or church together, or fellowships with other believers is helping eachother flourish.
  3. Serve with each other: Hebrews 10: 24 says “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” serving together in the community or in church is a great way to use your spiritual gifts to further God’s kingdom, AND to grow your relationship!
  4. Pray for each other and for others: Ephesians 6:18 encourages us to pray for each other and for others, because when we do, we will experience a greater closeness to God and each other.

The Bible encourages us to be in relationships where we are equally yoked, which means of the same faith. Being in a relationship with someone who holds the same beliefs as you really sets you up for success, and gives you a sense of confidence that you are both on the same page when it comes to issues of purity and what you believe.

XOXO, Chels

 

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How to Handle Jealousy in your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you become less of a jealous person.jealousy

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know you that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling! I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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Fun Fall Date Ideas

Fall is one of my favorite times to go on dates. The weather is just getting to be chilly, which means you can dress cute without being worried that you…

Fall is one of my favorite times to go on dates. The weather is just getting to be chilly, which means you can dress cute without being worried that you will sweat your brains out. Plus, your hair won’t plaster to your forehead or go poofy with humidity! SCORE! Anyway, autumn holds lots of opportunities for super fun dates. Here are just a few of my favs!

  • Corn maze: Go get lost together in a corn maze! You will have a blast trying to find your way, bumping into each other, 15-Fabulous-Fall-Date-Ideas-Pumpkin-Patch-Datelaughing the whole time!
  • Pumpkin picking: Go have a blast picking out the perfect pumpkin! You will have so much fun riding out to the patch and trying to find a better pumpkin than the other ;). Plus, you can make pumpkin pie or roast the seeds with the insides of your precious pumpkins!
  • Pumpkin decorating: After you go pick out the pumpkins together, have a decorating contest!
  • Haunted house: Getting to jump into your boy’s arms when a creepy zombie scares you= the best kind of date. 😉
  • Apple picking: Go apple picking together, then make yummy treats with the apples you picked!
  • Go to a football game: Football games are one of the best fall activities if you ask me. You will have a blast cheering on your favorite team together!
  • Rake leaves…and then jump through them: Pretty self-explanatory. Leaves + you + your man + a couple of rakes = hours of fun and a leaf-free yard.
  • Have a Halloween movie marathon: Grab that pumpkin pie or apple dumplings you made together, cozy up, and turn on a good Halloween movie!

Don’t have a boy toy? Grab a gal pal and do all of these things together! They may take a little bit of tweaking, but they will still be a super blast!

XOXO, Chels

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Verses to Pray for your Relationship

When you are dating someone, it is important for Christ to be the center of that relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are in middle school, high school, college or…

When you are dating someone, it is important for Christ to be the center of that relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are in middle school, high school, college or beyond, having a Christ-centered relationship is super important. Here are a few verses to pray to strengthen your relationship, protect it, and to give you hope for the future.

1 Corinthians 12: 4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1-Corinthians-13-4-8

Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, baring with one another in love.

John 15:12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.

1 John 3:18 Let us not love with words or tongue, but with actions and in truth. (AKA, actions speak louder than words!)

James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.

Proverbs 14:29 The one who is slow to anger has great understanding, but the one who has a quick temper exalts folly.

1 Corinthians 13:5 [Love] keeps no record of wrongs.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as your are doing.

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I hope that these verses help encourage and strengthen your relationship! Like I said earlier, keeping Christ the center of your relationship is crucial if you want the relationship to succeed!

XOXO, Chels

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Dating in the 21st Century: What’s Your Opinion?

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand,…

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand, and you greet him with a smile. You take his arm and walk to his car, where he opens the door for you. He takes you to a nice restaurant, where you two have a lovely conversation about your likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams. After the meal, he pays the bill and takes you home, where he walks you to the door and you part with a warm smile and a “goodnight.” This routine is repeated a few times and may lead to courtship, and then possibly marriage. Does this scenario sound totally foreign to you or like something out of an old movie? This is what your grandparents called dating.download (1)

Isn’t it crazy how drastically the action of dating has morphed over the years? Now dating is considered texting someone at all hours of the day, and making them your “Man Crush Monday”, and posting cute pictures of you two on Instagram. Staying in and watching movies is a typical date, and going to nice dinners is reserved for birthdays or your “six month anniversary”. We put so much attention on “relationship statuses” on Facebook and Twitter “subtweets”. If we said any of these phrases to our grandparents, they would have no idea what we were talking about, and probably think you were talking in some kind of secret code or language. So, I am curious, what do you wish was different about our dating culture? Do you long for the dates like the one above, or do you enjoy our version of dating?

I know that sometimes I get frustrated with society’s definition of dating, and the expectations that is put on it. Sometimes, society’s view seems so shallow, does it not? Here is what I think, straight up and to the point: Don’t fall into the trap of conforming to any set standard just because it is what society says you should do. We need to set our own relationship standards based on something that doesn’t trend or move, and that is the standards that God has set. Don’t let your views be compromised by popular opinion.

So, like I said, I am curious to hear your point of view. Comment below and tell me your thoughts, because I want to know what you think!

XOXO, Chels

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5 Fun Free Date Ideas

  Are you a little strapped for cash, but long to go on fun dates with your boo thang? Most high school and college kids don’t have money to throw…

 

Are you a little strapped for cash, but long to go on fun dates with your boo thang? Most high school and college kids don’t have money to throw around, so when you find a way to save money and still have fun, you take it! Here are 5 super fun date ideas that are totally free and totally awesome.

  1. Make a blanket fort: Let the inner child in you break free! If the weather isn’t ideal, stay indoors, grab a few blankets, and make a blanket fort! You will both have a blast trying to assemble it, and you can even bring your laptop in there with you to watch a movie in your blanket fort!images (2)
  2. Buy flowers or balloon and give them to random people who need cheering up: Okay, so this one isn’t quite free, but the impact you will make on people’s day is priceless. Run to the dollar store, pick up some balloons and flowers and hand them out to people who are looking down in the dumps. You both will be so happy when you see the looks on people’s faces when you bless their day.
  3. Do touristy things in your own city: A lot of people don’t really explore their home town, which is a shame! Take a free trolley tour, grab a free city map and explore, or research free attractions in your city!
  4. Make a bucket list together: The items you come up with don’t even have to be things that you want to do with each other, but a bucket list can also be a great way to come up with new date ideas! And, you will learn a lot about each other’s hopes and dreams.

Go out and have a blast! Who says dating has to break the bank?

XOXO, Chels

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5 Guys You Should Never Date

Everyone has a type. Maybe your type is “tall, dark, and handsome” or maybe yours is “outgoing and funny”. Although everyone has a “type”, there are certain types of people…

Everyone has a type. Maybe your type is “tall, dark, and handsome” or maybe yours is “outgoing and funny”. Although everyone has a “type”, there are certain types of people you should steer clear of dating. Here are they 5 types of guys you should avoid dating:

1. The Flirt: This type of guy love to get chatty with anyone, from strangers to friends. You want a guy who gives his undivided attention to you, and flirts with JUST you! The last thing you want is to be dating someone who, not only flirts with others in front of you, but also flirts with them behind your back. guys to not date chelsea crockett

2. The Partier: Stay. Away. From. Him. Partying boys are a recipe for disaster. He may seem fun and outgoing at first, but with parties comes bad mistakes and regretful decisions. You want to date a guy who is mature and doesn’t need to go to parties to feel good about himself.

3. The Negative Nancy: He is the guy who can find something negative to say about everything! Living life with someone who is always negative will just bring you down and put a damper on your happiness!

4. The Slacker: He’s the guy who has no dreams, vision, or passion to get up and do anything. Dating this kind of guy is NEVER wise!

5. The Jerk: This one is a given. You deserve more than this kind of guy can offer you! Look for someone who is kind, generous, selfless, and chivalrous. That last thing you want is to be embarrassed about bringing your man in public because you are afraid of how he will act.

So, ladies, who do we steer clear of? Jerks, negagive Nancies, partiers, flirts, and slackers.

XOXO, Chels

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What to Wear on a First Date

Ever been on a first date? Odds are, if you have, you stood in front of your closet and thought “I have nothing to wear! HELP!” Have no fear, Chelsea…

Ever been on a first date? Odds are, if you have, you stood in front of your closet and thought “I have nothing to wear! HELP!” Have no fear, Chelsea is here with all you need to know about what to wear on a first date.

 First things first, make sure you pick out your outfit the night before.  You don’t want to be thinking about it all day, and running around your room 15 minutes before your date is supposed to pick you up because you cannot find your favorite pair of jeans with the rhinestones on the pockets! Having your outfit picked out the night before will make you feel more prepared and ready for your date! what to wear on a first date chelsea crockett

When you are dressing for your date, make sure that what you are wearing reflects you and your personality. You want your date to know who you are! Wear colors that compliment your skin tone and make your eyes pop. Also, wear jewelry that accents your outfit, but doesn’t overtake it. Wear makeup that accents your natural beauty and accents your favorite parts of your appearance.  

 If you are going on a date in the fall or winter months, wear trendy layers and pretty scarves that match your eyes. Also, you can never go wrong with a fab pair of dark skinny jeans and your favorite riding boots! If you are going on a date in the summer time, make sure to wear shorts or dresses that are appropriate length. Guys like respectable girls!

 

The very last accessory you will need is a smile. Wearing a smile shows you have confidence in yourself! Also, whatever you wear, make sure you feel confident. A guy will be able to tell if you are uncomfortable, and actions speak louder than words.

 

Now go knock em dead, ladies!

XOXO, Chels

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What Does The Bible Say About…Dating?

Dating can be a blast, especially if you are in a Godly relationship, because you are making Jesus look good! Sometimes, in our world, it can be hard to date…

Dating can be a blast, especially if you are in a Godly relationship, because you are making Jesus look

good! Sometimes, in our world, it can be hard to date God’s way, because God’s way isn’t always the

popular way! But I believe in you ladies, and when you are setting a Godly example with your dating

life, others around you will notice and want to be more like you! Here are some tips on what the bible

says about Godly dating.

1. Stay away from temptation. I think you all can catch my drift when I say “temptation”. It means

keep away from things that threaten your purity. Corinthians 10:13 encourages us when it says “No

temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be

tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you

may be able to endure it.” This means that, although you may be tempted to do things you know you

shouldn’t do, God knows you are strong and can overcome them! He is always on your side!

2. I heard this quote once and absolutely loved it, and that is why it is my next point. The quote

says: “A girl’s heart should be so lost in God that a guy must seek Him to find her.” The point that I am

trying to make is that a guy should seek God to find you. Want to know something funny? I pray for my

future husband. Kind of crazy, right? Not really! When you pray for your future spouse, pray that they

are staying strong in their faith and that God is preparing their heart for you, that way when you finally

meet your prince, you will know God has prepared him for you!

3. Take it sloooooooooow. Don’t have a boyfriend? Don’t worry! God’s timing is all his own. When he

wants you to meet someone, you will! In Psalm 37:4, God says “Delight yourself in the LORD, and

he will give you the desires of your heart.” Use the time when you are by your self to try and find

who YOU are, so when you are in a relationship, you know that no one can change you. God works in

mysterious ways, and he will drop your man into your life when you least expect it. Go and enjoy your

life! God has everything under control.

XOXO, Chels

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