Chelsea Crockett

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How to Say Bye But Also Stay In Touch With Old Friends

This week, my close high school friends have started leaving for college. The fact that we are all going our separate ways and are growing up is starting to hit…

This week, my close high school friends have started leaving for college. The fact that we are all going our separate ways and are growing up is starting to hit me hard. I know I will make lots of new great friends in college, but I also don’t want to neglect my childhood friends because we have been through so much together! I want to be able to stay close to them, even when we are apart. Here are a few ways I have found to stay in touch with your hometown friends when you go your separate ways.

  1. Say a proper goodbye: Go out and have a special evening with your friends before you both go your separate ways. Celebrate your friendship, share fun memories, and wish them luck on their new adventure! Remember that it’s not goodbye forever, just for a little while!FullSizeRender (24)
  2. Set your expectations for keeping in touch: Talk to your friends about keeping touch. Remember that it is important to maintain your old friendships, but it is also really vital that you make new ones! Remind each other that you won’t be talking as much as you used to, and that its okay and doesn’t mean you don’t care about each other. You will both need to find a healthy balance between maintaining old friendships and cultivating new ones. Remind them that you can keep in the loop through social media, too! They can stay up to date with everything you are doing that way. The first week of school, it will be tempting to text old friends and check up with them on social media, but try and put your phone down and be in the moment.
  3. It’s OK to feel nervous: Realize that it is normal to be nervous about making new friends. Don’t try and fight your anxiety, embrace it!

Your high school friends will always have a special place in your heart, so keeping in touch is important!

XOXO, Chels

 

 

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Bad Company Ruins Good Morals

Have you ever heard the phrase “you are who you hang out with”? This phrase comes from 1 Corinthians 15:33 which says “bad company ruins good morals.” What does this…

Have you ever heard the phrase “you are who you hang out with”? This phrase comes from 1 Corinthians 15:33 which says “bad company ruins good morals.” What does this mean and why should it mean anything to you?

Ill tell ya why. This is one of the most important verses for our age group to hear. Who you hang out with has a huge impact on your life. I cannot stress this enough. HUGE impact. I have had the privilege of being surrounded with many friends that share the same beliefs and morals as me, and I cannot tell you what a positive impact that has had on my life. It has motivated me to strive to serve others and God, and honor Him with my actions and words and life. As I get ready to move on to college and make new friends I am FullSizeRender (89)realizing the importance of the friends I will make. High school and college are such pivotal times in our lives. They set us up for our future and who we will become. When you are surrounded by good company and people that share the same beliefs with you, it is easy to continue to live the life you know you should be living. When you hang out with people who do not share the same morals as you, and maybe don’t understand why you believe the way you do, it can have a serious impact on your life. I’m not saying not to have friends who don’t believe the way you do, I am saying to limit your time with them. Be smart with the situations you are in with them. You can be a witness to them, but they can also be a negative influence on you. It is easy to go with the flow and do what everyone else is doing, even when you know it is wrong, because so many other people are saying it is okay. This is why the verse says that bad company corrupts good morals. Your faith needs to be protected and nurtured, and that is what happens when you hang out with people that share your beliefs.

Be smart with who you hang out with, because it can impact the person you become.

XOXO, Chels

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A Guide to Making Friends in College

When you think about going to college, what makes you the most nervous? One thing I am nervous about is leaving my friends and family behind. Not that I wont…

When you think about going to college, what makes you the most nervous? One thing I am nervous about is leaving my friends and family behind. Not that I wont ever see them or talk to them, but when you move far away you naturally lose touch a little bit. Will it be hard making new friends in college? Do you ever worry about that? I do. Here are a few general tips on how to make friends in college.

  1. Make friends in your classes: Professors do cheesy “getting to know you” games on the first day of class for a reason! Be friendly and try to initiate conversation with people you think would make good friends. Not only is this good for your social life, it is also helpful to have a study buddy in the same class!61405480
  2. Keep your door open: If you live in the dorms, keep your door open if you are in your room. This invites people who are walking by to stick their head in and introduce themselves and invite you out. It is good to know who lives around you if you are wanting to go do something but don’t have anyone to go with.
  3. Join clubs: Join clubs that have to do with your major. Are you going into marketing? Join the marketing association! Not only will you meet people who are studying the same thing you are and can help you professionally, you will make some pretty great friends! Join fun clubs too, like bowling or belly dancing. These will keep you busy!
  4. Tag along: If one of your friends is going to do something with people you really don’t know, ask to go along! This is an easy way to make new friends because you know your friend will be there to make you feel more comfortable.

Now go get ‘em tiger!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Feel More Confident

The concept of “stop taking things personally” is a tough one for me to grasp. I wouldn’t consider myself a super sensitive person, but I can definitely take things to…

The concept of “stop taking things personally” is a tough one for me to grasp. I wouldn’t consider myself a super sensitive person, but I can definitely take things to heart, and can feel like I am to blame when something negative happens. If you are a sensitive person, then you are familiar with the feeling of “it’s all my fault.” Rather than feeling like the world is on your shoulders, you need to be able to feel free of anxiety and be confident! Here are 4 ways to help you stop taking things personally.

  1. Know that not everyone needs to like you: Yes, in an ideal world everyone would like everyone and get along, but that is not the world we live in. It can be exhausting to try and please everyone, and there is no need for it! It is impossible for everyone to like you, so don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t. Some people just flat out don’t like me. And I have realized that it is okay! I am confident in who I am, I have friends and family that think I am the bomb.com, and I have you guys! Bye, haters.617849f15df4b425d44a4db8d6f3bcf87a2dcca8f3a06e1253b772d2c7181cca
  2. Don’t jump to conclusions: If someone says something negative that you think is directed towards you, don’t immediately get defensive and hurt. Take a second and step back. Odds are, the comment or criticism wasn’t actually directed towards you, or if it was, it could be a reflection of their insecurities.
  3. Just do you: Don’t let other people try and tell you who you are. What other people say about us can really have an impact on us, and it can be hard not to let it get to you. Just because people say it doesn’t make it true! You know who you are. You know what you are all about and your value and worth. Some people just choose not to recognize it. Like I said earlier, a lot of times when people criticize others, it is because they are insecure.

So, instead of feeling like it is your fault that someone doesn’t like you or that something negative happens, realize that everything is not your fault and other people cannot control how you feel about yourself, only you can!

XOXO, Chels

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Life Lessons from John 15:12

In John 15:12 the Bible tells us to “Love each other as I have loved you.” It is easy to love your family and friends (most of the time at…

In John 15:12 the Bible tells us to “Love each other as I have loved you.” It is easy to love your family and friends (most of the time at least 😉 ) but it is not always easy to love those who have done you wrong. So, how do we love everyone, even those we dislike, like God loved us, and why should we?

Easy. Because God says so. I know that is the most “Bible” answer ever, but it is the truth. We should love johnothers like God loves us, because it shows that we are different. When people see how differently you treat others and how you love others, they will be curious as to what it is that makes you different. It is Jesus that makes you different! It is the fact that you know you should love people like God loves you. God loves you even though you have disappointed Him, even though you sin, even though you sometimes do or say things that are harmful or hurtful to others. This is how you should love others, in spite of their flaws and sins. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be their BFF, it just means you need to treat them with respect and love, just as God treats you.

You will change people’s lives when you love them as God loves you. It is so different from how the world is used to being treated. Be different, and make a difference.

XOXO, Chels

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How You Know You Should Break Up With Your Best Friend

Breaking up with a boyfriend is hard, but breaking up with a best friend is even harder. Sometimes, it is just time to let them go. People change and can…

Breaking up with a boyfriend is hard, but breaking up with a best friend is even harder. Sometimes, it is just time to let them go. People change and can grow apart, and sometimes that can be a sign that it is time for the relationship to end. It is just a healthy part of life. Although it is tough, there is a time in most people’s lives when they have to say goodbye to their best friend and move on to bigger and better things. Here are a few signs that you and your bff should part ways.

  1. When you are the second choice: When you realize that you only get asked to hang out when their other friends aren’t available, you know you aren’t their priority anymore. True best friends keep in touch and never make you feel like you are a last resort.moving-on-quotes-relationships
  2. When they aren’t happy for your success: When you succeed in life and have big accomplishments, your bff is the first one to congratulate you. If your best friend is more jealous of your success than they are happy for you, then it may be time to cut them loose.
  3. You are the only one making an effort: Friendships are two-sided. If you are the only one making an effort to hang out or make plans or stay in touch, then they may be trying to tell you they’ve moved on.
  4. When you feel like you have to hang out with them: If you feel obligated rather than excited to hang out with them, that’s no bueno. Your bff is the person you are supposed to have fun and enjoy life with, not someone who makes you want to make up excuses not to hang out.

Friendships don’t have to be forever, and ending them can be healthy!

XOXO, Chels

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Why Having Guy Friends is Better Than Having a Boyfriend

If you follow me on any sort of social media then you know that I have some pretty great dude friends. There is just something totally awesome about having guy…

If you follow me on any sort of social media then you know that I have some pretty great dude friends. There is just something totally awesome about having guy bffs (who don’t have feelings for you and vice versa). Here are my top reasons why having guy friends is better than having a boyfriend. 

1. You can be gross together: If you haven’t washed your hair in two days and your clothes don’t match, no worries! If you feel totally unattractive, that is totally fine because you know you don’t have to impress him, and he feels the same way when he is with you! You guys can be gross and not give it a second thought. FullSizeRender (10)
2. He saves the drama for his mama: Have you ever heard someone gush about their boyfriend one day and then cry about how terrible he treats her the next? Ain’t nobody got time for that drama! Even the best relationship comes with it’s own hardships. Your friendship with your guy bff is a save haven from boy drama because there is no games being played and no hormonal emotions involved. You are free to be honest and open with them!
3. You don’t have to worry if you are bugging him: Sometimes when I am talking to a guy I secretly wonder if I am annoying him by texting him or just annoying him in general. You don’t have to worry about your dude bff getting annoyed and dumping you and and you know he will be honest with you when you are being a little too overbearing. 
 
Guy bffs are fun! There are no expectations, no competing emotions, and they have a different point of view on things than girls do! I am so grateful for my guy bffs. I don’t know what I would do without them!
 
XOXO, Chels 
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