Chelsea Crockett

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What REAL Friendship Looks Like

Friends are supposed to be the people you do life with and run this race alongside. They’re the people responsible for building you up and pointing you back to God…

Friends are supposed to be the people you do life with and run this race alongside. They’re the people responsible for building you up and pointing you back to God every single time.

If you’ve had friends like this your entire life, then you’re one of the few. Most of us have had friends that have torn us down, led into temptation, and more. I wanted to share with you what the Bible says about REAL friendship, because when you find it, you’ll want to hold on to it.

Proverbs 18:24 says, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Are your friends reliable? Are they there for you in times of trouble or to lend a hand when you need one? Reliability and trust are two of the most important things in a relationship. If there is no dependence, then friendship has nothing to be built on.

Any relationship, whether that be a romantic relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, etc., has to have trust. With trust, we are able to confide in one another and seek advice, guidance, or simply a listening ear. This is a test of true friendship, once you know you can trust them with your deepest fears, secrets, worries, and hopes.

Real friends also help you endure burdens. Ecclesiastes 4:10 says, “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”We should make it a conscious effort to find the people that do just that: helpus. You’ll never notice the importance in this until you find the friends that genuinely have the desire to help you through trials, mistakes, and the harder seasons of life.

I know it may seem harsh to leave behind the “friends” that bring you down, but it’s okay to put yourself first when it comes to personal growth and happiness.

Lastly, real friends help you love and pursue the Lord.

Psalm 1:1,3 says, “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers… that person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither – whatever they do prospers.”

We should run our lives with those running the same race as us. It is so much harder to pursue a Christ-like life when the people we surround ourselves with are doing the opposite. Surrounding yourself with good company is just like what the verse says: a tree that will not wither and bears good fruit!

I pray that you find real friendship throughout your life and that you build one another up, just as the Bible tells us to do. I encourage you to pray for these friends, and God will surely bring them into your life!

– Chelsea

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F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

We all desire good friends. Positive people to do life with, lean on, and walk alongside throughout this life is something God has always intended for us. Even God had…

We all desire good friends. Positive people to do life with, lean on, and walk alongside throughout this life is something God has always intended for us. Even God had his disciples that cared, prayed, and looked out for one another.

Good friends are hard to find. Growing up, I found it hard to realize if someone’s intentions were what I was looking for in a friend or not. I recently saw a post on Pinterest that had an acronym for the word “friends,” listing seven different attributes you should be looking for in true, godly friendships!

Forgiving

We all make mistakes from time to time, no matter how perfect we try to be. The Bible calls us to be forgiving toward one another, no matter how many times we mess up.

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”Forgiveness is important in every relationship and is crucial to making a friendship work. We all fall short and disappoint each other at times, but the key to moving forward is true, genuine forgiveness.

Respectful

Being a good friend means being respectful of each other’s’ time, space, privacy, etc. Everyone needs alone time to recharge, some moreso than others. If your friends are making you feel bad or guilty for not spending enough time with them, not sharing enough information about your life with them, etc., then maybe you need to talk to them about what you need from them as a friend!

Involved

A good friend is involved in your life and wants to be there for you, even through the hard times. Are your friends curious about your life and what’s next for you? Or do they let you deal with things on your own, without making sure you’re okay with whatever it may be? You want friends to be involved in your life, and vice versa!

Encouraging

1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”

I think as human beings, we draw toward the people who are encouraging, kindhearted, and supportive. The friends you have in your life should be encouraging you to reach your fullest potential and pushing you to be the most genuine version of yourself.

Nurturing

Whether we admit it or not, we all like to be cared for. A nurturing friend makes sure we’re okay after a rough day, after a breakup, after a failed test… We all need to be checked on every once in a while. Notice the people that ask if you’re okay when you feel a little off. We should be doing the same when we notice this about our friends, too.

Dedicated

Being a dedicated friend means sticking with each other through an argument, a bad day, a rough season of life… Would your current friends be by your side through anything and everything? Dedication is needed in any relationship, but having committed friends through the best and worst times of your life is so important! 

Supportive

 Lastly, having supportive friends to encourage you to step outside of your comfort zone and be yourself is one of the best feelings in the world. Every relationship needs support and encouragement to push you to do what you think is best for yourself!

These are only a few of the many attributes a good friend should have. God designed friendship to be each one of these things I mentioned above. I hope your friends are genuine companions to do life with and lift you up, just as God intended them to be!

– Chelsea

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For the Girl Seeking Fellowship

Fellowship is so important in our walk with the Lord. It gives us a group of people to do life with and lean on when we need to. Being a…

Fellowship is so important in our walk with the Lord. It gives us a group of people to do life with and lean on when we need to. Being a young girl, it’s easy to lose yourself in the crowd. If you’re anything like me, you like to feel accepted, welcomed, and loved by the people around you. I mean, who doesn’t?

Everyone throughout their lives seeks fellowship, especially as a Christ follower. Having good, like-minded people to surround yourself with and encourage you to be the best version of yourself is something everyone desires.

For the girl seeking true, genuine fellowship, you’re probably wondering where to find it. God gives us little pieces of advice throughout the Bible to guide us in the direction of fellowship.

John 15:12-13 says, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.

Look for the people that display God’s love through themselves. These people will stand out and display the light of God in both their words and actions. Take note of when you notice this in others! These are the people you want to stick around.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Are the current people in your life spurring you on? If you’re unfamiliar with this term, it means to encourage, urge, and guide someone toward God. Are your friends pushing you to be Christ-like and pursuing God in all areas of your life? Or are they tugging you the other way, encouraging you to be more like the world?

Now you may be thinking, where do I go from here?

I know for me, church has always been the place for me to find my people. Even at school, I joined the clubs and organizations that I knew had similar values and desires as me.

I encourage you to find your church home. I understand wanting to experience different churches and see which place God leads you to, but picking a place to call your home is even more important. This commitment gives you a place to build relationships and invest your time in which will eventually result in the fellowship you’re looking for.

Have you also spent time in prayer over your desire for true fellowship?  The Bible says in 1 John 5:14, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.”

Talk to God about the things you’re longing for, whether that be fellowship or something else. God wants to answer our requests and wants us to talk to him about our concerns. Have a conversation with God and ask him to guide you!

Fellowship is one of the most amazing parts of being a Christ follower. You get to do life alongside people with similar values, mindsets, ways of life, etc. Find these people, and stick with them! 🙂

– Chels

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How to Make and Keep Friends as You Get Older

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even…

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even more difficult to find new friends while keeping in touch with old ones. Don’t let the fear of the hard work keep you isolated, because friendship is so important for our happiness and even our health!

Even though we are constantly connected to so many people on social media, studies have found that our generation is actually becoming lonelier. We have fewer friends than our parents’ generation, and the relationships we have on social media are not satisfying our need for friendship. A lot of us feel like we don’t know how to make new friends or feel left out or forgotten by our old ones. Here are some tips on how to cultivate new friendships and strengthen existing ones.

Finding the new:

One great way to make new friends is to have a friend introduce you to their group. Ask if you can join the next time you hear they are going out with their posse. You may strike up a new connection or two! Also, whenever meeting new friends, always be your genuine self and try not to put on some sort of front. You will find that you have things in common with people that you never would have imagined! Another great way to find new friends is to go and pursue your hobbies and meet people that way. If you like cooking, take a cooking class and be open to making new friends there. Love hiking or running? Go do a group run or hike. When you are doing things you love, you are bound to find people who share the same interests. After you make contact with a new friend, follow up with them and invite them to coffee or send a follow up text saying it was great to meet them. If the friendship doesn’t work out, and if they turn down an invite to hang, don’t take it personally.

Maintaining the old:

These are the friends who have known you since your days of bad hairdos and braces. These are the friends who, even though you don’t see or talk to them much anymore, you still want them in your life. When maintaining an old friendship, the first tip I have is to go easy on them. Maybe they forgot your last birthday or missed your bachelorette party. Instead of assuming they just don’t want to be part of your life anymore, remember how busy your life is and how overwhelmed you can be. They are probably in the same boat! You both have tons of adult responsibilities, so cut them some slack. Another tip is to be virtually present, even when you can’t physically be, and this is as easy as liking their Instagram post or commenting on a picture of theirs on Facebook. It is a great way to simply remind them that you are here and still keep up with what they do. If they like to talk on the phone, maybe give them a call and catch up every once in a while. If they prefer text, shoot them one every so often just checking in with them.

Friendship is work, but the payoff is priceless.

Chels

 

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What “I’ll Pray for You” Should Really Mean

Prayer. It’s one of the most powerful and meaningful things you could do for someone. When we ask God to help someone in our lives, he hears our prayer and…

Prayer. It’s one of the most powerful and meaningful things you could do for someone. When we ask God to help someone in our lives, he hears our prayer and acts on it.

It’s so easy to tell someone those four simple words: “I’ll pray for you.” But the actions you take after making that comforting statement is what really matters most.

Have you ever told someone you’d pray for them, and almost immediately forgot to do so? This phrase isn’t just a phrase to make someone feel better, it’s an action that should be taken seriously no matter what the case!

Ephesians 6:18 says, “And pray in the Spirit and on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.

Like the verse above says, we need to be persistent in prayer. Praying for someone means to be consistently praying for their needs, not saying a quick prayer and never asking God for that request again. It’s an ongoing action that should be repeated until God answers that prayer!

Something that helps me remember who and what I need to pray for is keeping a prayer journal. I know I’ve talked about it numerous times, but keeping a prayer journal has so many benefits! Keep a list of who you need to pray for to jog your memory when you need it. You can even write out prayers throughout your journal to refer back to! If your journal isn’t around (and you can be forgetful at times, like me), you can even jot things down in the notes app on your phone when someone asks you for prayer!

I know when it’s the other way around and I ask someone to pray for me, I rely on them to do so. Just as we would expect from our friends, family, etc., we should keep our word and pray faithfully over them!

When we look at Mark 11:24, we should approach prayer even more confidently. It says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

This should motivate us to pray for others even more persistently. The power of prayer is so incredible, and God really does listen when we come to him.

Like the verse above says, whatever we ask for in prayer, we can believe that we have received it. And the people we pray over have received it as well… his grace, mercy, love, protection and so much more! Isn’t it amazing we get to be a part of something so great?

– Chelsea

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Prayers for your Friends

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when…

Prayer is a powerful thing. Having a solid prayer life is essential in strengthening your faith, and it can get you through the toughest of times. I must confess, when life gets hard I have no problem praying for what I want and need, but when my friends are going through tough times I’m not as diligent as I should be. The best thing you can do for your friends is pray for them. Here are 4 prayers for your friends and mine.

Jeremiah 17:7-8:Ask that the Lord would bless your friend as she trusts in the Lord. Pray that she would be like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots strong and deep by the stream, and has no need to fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit. Pray that God would make your friend strong, fruitful, and flourishing for His glory.

Numbers 6:24-26: Pray that the Lord bless your friend and keep her; that He would make his face to shine upon her and be gracious to her; that the Lord would lift up His countenance upon her and give her peace.

Proverbs 3:3-8: Pray that she would trust in the Lord with all her heart, and not lean on her own understanding. Ask that in all her ways she would acknowledge God, and God will make her paths straight. Ask the Lord to help your friend not to be wise in her own eyes, but to fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.

Psalm 138:7-8: Ask that when your friend walks in the midst of trouble, God would preserve her life. Claim His promise to stretch out His hand against the wrath of your friend’s enemies, to deliver her with His right hand. Remind God of His commitment to fulfill His purpose for your friend, and of His steadfast and endless love for her.

I hope my friends pray these prayers over me from time to time as well. What an encouragement to know that someone cares about you enough to lift you up in prayer!

Chels

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Be a Full-Time Christian

Part-time Christianity: choosing to follow Christ at times that are convenient, but abandoning him when things get hard. Sound familiar? We’re all guilty of being part-time Christians from time to…

Part-time Christianity: choosing to follow Christ at times that are convenient, but abandoning him when things get hard.

Sound familiar? We’re all guilty of being part-time Christians from time to time. The world can tempt us, question us, and pull us away from God, causing us to fall short. But the hardest part is making a conscious effort to get back on track and remember who our heavenly Father is after all.

1 Kings 8:61 says, “Let your heart therefore be wholly devoted to the Lord our God, to walk in His statutes and to keep His commandments, as at this time.”

God asks us to be wholly devoted, committed, and surrendered to him. He asks us for a fully committed life, not only in times of need or in times of praise. If we only followed Christ during the good times in our life, then living a Christian life would be easy. But God doesn’t call us to an easy life, he calls us to a life of devotion which leads to true joy, God’s grace, and so much more.

I witness a lot of people being one person with their friends, another at church, another with their family, etc. Their morals, values, words, and actions all change depending on who they’re with or where they’re at. I know I’ve been guilty of this at times, whether I like to admit it or not.

This is one area where part-time Christianity oftentimes takes over. People think it’s okay to only follow Christ around others that are doing the same.

We all know people that are guilty of this, referring to even each of us at times. But it’s especially important to avoid switching up our actions and personalities around those who take notice. When people know you’re a follower of Christ, they expect our words and actions to match our beliefs. If we’re not practicing what we preach, then what’s the point of following Christ in the first place?

Other times it comes from a place of aggravation. We get so frustrated with God during the hard times in our lives that we abandon him when we need him most. Something goes wrong and we doubt God instead of thinking of it as a blessing in disguise. Sometimes we even shut him out instead of praying and talking to him.

These are all situations in which you could be tempted to become a part-time Christian. But I assure you, sticking it out with Christ is the best thing you could do. God would never give up on us, so why would be abandon a god that is so gracious, loving, and forgiving? Whether times get hard or the world is against you, do your best to remain unaffected, living the life God created you to live.

– Chelsea

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5 Hints That God is Redirecting You

When we come across open or closed doors, we never know what God is doing in our life. We debate if we should take the opportunity at hand, or simply…

When we come across open or closed doors, we never know what God is doing in our life. We debate if we should take the opportunity at hand, or simply walk away from it.

How do we know what’s best for us? How do we know when God is giving us hints to change our direction and lead us to something much, much better?

There are many ways to hear God’s voice and discover what he wants for our life, we just have to know what those ways are. When we’re aware of how we can listen and receive guidance from God, life becomes a while lot easier! We just have to lean on him and trust what we know is truly from God!

  1. Your gut feeling.

Everyone always says to “listen to your gut feeling.” Sometimes this is God’s way of telling you when something’s right or wrong. More often than not, we have this gut feeling but choose to ignore it because of doubt or confusion. Trust your instinct!

  1. Wisdom from friends and family.

We all have those people in our life that we go to when we need advice or support. Whether it be your mom, your cousin, or your best friend, having those people to back you up or to tell you when something’s not right is comforting and reassuring. God can speak through people, so go to those who are full of godly wisdom and consider the advice they give you!

  1. Open opportunities.

Sometimes God gives us an open door directly when and where we’re looking for it. Don’t let this go unnoticed! If something is perfectly in your path, there is a good chance God placed it there. Don’t ignore the obvious!

  1. Answered prayers.

This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us – whatever we ask – we know that we have what we asked of him.” – 1 John 5:14-15

When you ask God for something, he hears you. If you ask for guidance and he gives it to you, don’t question it! God doesn’t want us to be filled with confusion and doubt. He wants so badly for us to have faith in where he sends us, whether you we’re expecting that path or not!

  1. Reoccurring thoughts.

Do you ever try to push a thought out of your head, but it keeps coming back, over and over again? Sometimes these thoughts hold a higher significance than we think. God likes to speak to us in whispers which can come in the form of our thoughts. Once again, listen to your instinct and know what feels right!

Know that when God is redirecting your life, it’s part of his overall plan of the great things he has in store for you. Don’t question what he’s doing. Instead, thank him for the guidance and joy he brings you along the way!

– Chelsea

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5 Ways You Can Hear God’s Voice

God’s voice is hard to hear. It’s not a clear, loud voice that tells you exactly what you need to hear exactly when you need to hear it. It can…

God’s voice is hard to hear. It’s not a clear, loud voice that tells you exactly what you need to hear exactly when you need to hear it. It can be both frustrating and disappointing when you expect to hear from God and can’t seem to find him in the midst of your circumstances.

I realized I get let down when I put high expectations on God to give me answers as soon as I ask for them. I forget that God is always in perfect timing and it’s not my place to tell him when and when not to act in my life.

After diving deeper into God’s word, I realized there are so many ways you can hear God’s voice. Instead of sitting around waiting for God to speak to you, look closely at what the Bible says about hearing God’s voice, even if you’re not really hearing it at all.

God’s Word

Have you ever read a verse that described your exact situation or circumstance at the exact time you needed to hear it? These are some of the sweetest moments because we can see, on paper, God speaking to us through his word.  If you think it’s coincidental when you read something spot-on, it’s usually God’s doing. 🙂

His Still Small Voice

I’ve always heard of people hearing God’s still small voice but I never really knew how to listen for it. Have you ever taken the time to simply sit and dwell in the presence of God? Maybe you need to pray for open ears and an open heart to hear him speaking to you. Sometimes we have random thoughts and think, “what did that mean?” or “why would I even think that in the first place?” This is God speaking to you! Don’t overlook it.

Friends and Family

The good thing about having relationships with godly, wise people is that they can give you direction and guidance when you can’t seem to find it yourself. God uses people here on earth to be his messenger even when they don’t know he’s using them. Go to these people for wisdom and advice when you’re lacking guidance. 

His Creation

Have you ever looked around and been amazed by God’s creations all around you? Sometimes God sends us subtle messages in the sky, in the trees, through the birds. Sometimes something will remind you that everything’s going to be okay, even if that’s as simple as a sunny day or a bird flying above you.

Peace

Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

In those moments when you’re stressed, anxious, or afraid, pray to God for his overwhelming peace. In the chaos of it all, God will give you a peace that calms you and fills you with comfort and security. It’s a peace that surrounds you so strongly that you can know whole-heartedly it’s from the Lord.

At the end of the day, don’t feel discouraged when you can’t hear God’s voice when you’ve been praying for it for so long. He could already be speaking to you, you just have to look for it in the not-so-obvious places!

– Chelsea

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The Things You Can Control vs. The Things You Can’t

As human beings, we like to be in control of every aspect of our lives. It’s normal for us to want to have a grip on everything that’s going on…

As human beings, we like to be in control of every aspect of our lives. It’s normal for us to want to have a grip on everything that’s going on around us and to try make it this way or that way.

There are things we can control, such as our attitude, our actions, and our priorities. That being said, there are also things we have no control over, that we have to give to God and trust with Him instead.

Things You Can Control

  1. Your attitude.

Although this can be one of the hardest things to control, your attitude can affect the people around you, your mindset, and your perspective. You don’t always have to vocalize any time something is annoying you or anytime you’re in a bad mood. Using your attitude to make a situation better or to motivate others to do the same is an easy way to turn a bad day around!

  1. Your actions.

Along with your attitude, you can also control your actions. Actions speak so much louder than words and they can represent who you are as a person. Your true self is shown through how you treat your friends, family, and those around you.

Matthew 5:16 says, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Through our actions, we can witness to those who may not yet know Jesus!

  1. Your priorities.

Throughout life, your priorities are constantly going to change. One year, your top priority could be your new job, followed by the new person your dating or your social life. I’ve realized that when I’m not prioritizing God first, I fall behind in so many other areas of my life, as well.

Things You Can’t Control

  1. Time.

As much as we want to have control over the timing in our life, most of the time we can’t. Acts 1:7 says, “He said to them: ‘It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority.” It’s not our responsibility to pick when things do or don’t happen in our lives. We need to give up our grip over the things we can’t control, especially when God already has His perfect timing!

  1. The future.

I think this is the thing most people struggle with trying to control. It’s something that can terrify you if you let it. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

If we put all our trust in Jesus Christ, we have no reason to worry about our future, for his plans are only to prosper us and give us hope and security. We don’t have to control our future, especially when our heavenly father already does that for us!

  1. Other people.

Although we can’t control the actions of other people, we can control who we surround ourselves with. If someone is draining and discouraging to be around, replace them with someone who builds you up and encourages you! People that push you to be a better person in Christ are the people you want in your life!

If you’re one that struggles with this, start deciding what in your life is out of your control. Take it day by day, and focus on the things you can change, instead of the things you can’t!

– Chelsea

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Make Humility a Habit

“Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that He will lift you up in His own good time. Leave all your worries with Him, because He cares for you.”…

Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that He will lift you up in His own good time. Leave all your worries with Him, because He cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:6-7

Humility is a learned trait. It’s something that doesn’t come easily for most of us. Whether it be humility toward God, humility toward our friends, or humility toward the people around us, it’s something that we have to be conscious of to actually put into practice.

There are so many situations in which humility should come into play. You may think you’re almost always humble, but I never realized how much I could actually grow in this area of my life.

Humility Toward God

Having humility toward God is a concept I never really understood until I got a little bit older. I always wanted to take control of every situation and plan out my own life instead of letting God do that for me.

God wants us to get rid of our pride and be humble in knowing that we can’t be Him ourselves. When we humble ourselves, we enable God to come into our lives and transform it under his sole power. So, let God take control. It’s always better that way!

Humility Toward Friends

When we’re around our friends, it can be easy to boast about the good and successful things in our lives. It could be about your new boyfriend or a good grade you got on a test. Finding a balance between bragging and informing is the solution to humility in these situations!

What are your intentions for what you’re about to say? Knowing the “why” behind your words is important to assure that you’re staying humble around people that are closest to you. Are you telling them about your good grade because you’re trying to “one up” your friend that always aces her tests? Consider your intentions every time!

Humility Toward Society

Social media can be a number one contributor as to how people view you as a person. Think of how many people you know solely through Instagram, Twitter, or other social media platforms. They really only know you by how you perceive yourself online!

You’ve probably heard this over a million times, but we need to watch what we post on social media. It seems like so much of it has turned into showing off our lives and boasting about what we’re doing or where we’re going. Stay humble even through what you post! Use your platform to spread love and positivity. Talk about what’s going on in the world. Discuss your favorite things. Think outside of the box!

Humility takes a conscious effort to achieve. Think of how you can apply these different things to your own life. What areas do you struggle in most?

Ask God to make you humble. Ask him to show you what you can work on to gain humility in all areas of your life. Ask him for knowledge to know the difference between confidence and boastfulness. Simply praying to him helps you every step of the way! What’s stopping you?

– Chelsea

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Guarding Your Heart 101

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships. Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching…

When you read the title of this article, you might have assumed this is all about relationships.

Although many times guarding your heart has to do with boys or catching feelings, it covers several areas of your life you wouldn’t even think of.

When it comes to different areas in our life, we should practice guarding our hearts from anything that could damage it.

Maybe music is your weak point. What songs are affecting you negatively? Maybe it’s movies. What movies put bad thoughts into your head over and over again?

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

For boys:

This is a big one ladies. I know for me, I grew up dreaming of the husband God was preparing for me. Every guy I dated, I always wondered in the back of my head if he was the one.

For a while, I would pour out my heart to every boyfriend I had. In the end, I would be left broken and empty because I rushed to give so much of my heart to whoever I was in a relationship with.

I soon after learned a very important lesson: stop giving my heart to the hands that can break it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Once you find the kind of love God describes in 1 Corinthians, then you can start your journey of letting your guard down.

Until then, be careful who you give parts of your heart to. Seek God and you’ll find him in all areas of your life, even your relationships.

For friends:

When you’re with your friends, learn which ones are lifelong and which are temporary. Learn who you can trust with your secrets and venting sessions.

I learned this the hard way, by trusting too many people and giving too many of my “friends” access to all areas of my life.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

God wants you to have good fellowship and to keep those in your life who encourage and build you up. You just have to know who’s wise and who you should walk with.

For the things of this world:

As far as music, movie, TV shows, etc., you retain more of the information you hear and watch than you think.

After a while, the harsh words you hear or the vulgar scenes you watch may start to take a toll on you.  Put into your body the things that are going to leave a positive impact on you, not a negative one.

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There’s a strong difference between guarding your heart and shutting people out. It’s important to know when to let your guard down and when to keep it up.

God wants us to protect ourselves from the things that take us away from Him.

I challenge you to practice the things God talks about in the Bible. Once again, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

– Chelsea

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You Are Who You Surround Yourself With

Do you ever hang out with someone and eventually find yourself talking and acting like they do? It could be in the simplest ways like catching onto their unique phrases…

Do you ever hang out with someone and eventually find yourself talking and acting like they do?

It could be in the simplest ways like catching onto their unique phrases or picking up on certain mannerisms.  Regardless, in the littlest ways we start to become the people we surround ourselves with.

In high school, when I would hang out with girls that gossiped and indulged themselves in drama, I started to do the same. I’d catch myself participating in conversations I had no business participating in.

Throughout my life, I’d have friends that constantly brought me down and continuously brought negativity to every situation. I noticed that bad moods are contagious, and moodiness can have a domino effect.

God encourages his followers to pick their “teammates” wisely. Choose the people who are going to make you enjoy life and spur you on to be a better follower of Christ.

This verse puts it perfectly.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this firsthand. When we surround ourselves with those who are wise and have a good head on their shoulders, we are influenced for the better. When we surround ourselves with those who’re foolish, we are more likely to stumble and fall off our path.

Booker T. Washington said it best: “Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.”

God didn’t create us to be alone. He wants us to have fellowship with other believers more than anything! When you find people that click with you and encourage you to be a better person, that’s when you know you’ve found good people to surround yourself with.

You should have a good balance of people around you who are a positive influence on you and people who you can be a positive influence on them. As much as we want to be around people who make us a better person, we should also be that person for others who need a good influence!

Lastly, take a look at Hebrews 10:24. It says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds…”

Everyone in your group of friends should be responsible for spurring one another on. God tells us to do it, and encourages us to be the change we want to see in others. Motivate each other toward love and doing good things for others. It takes one person to make a difference, and the rest will soon follow!

Choose your team carefully. Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel. Surround yourself with people who have contagious positivity and encouragement.

Surround yourself with people that make you fall in love with God even more. These are the people that are going to help YOU become a better person in all areas of your life.

– Chels

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Thanksgiving Love Letters

During this time of year, I always take a moment to think about the things I’m thankful for. I try to practice this often throughout the year, but the month…

During this time of year, I always take a moment to think about the things I’m thankful for. I try to practice this often throughout the year, but the month of Thanksgiving really gets me thinking about all the things, especially people, God has put in my life!

When you think about Thanksgiving, what do you think of?  Do you think of all the food you get to eat?  Or maybe the Macy’s Day Parade you get to watch with your family?  More importantly, we should use this holiday to genuinely reflect on all that we’re thankful for.  And this year, why don’t we actually act on it? I have decided to challenge myself this month. I want to spend some time writing thank you notes to the people in my life that I’m grateful for. I want to challenge you to do the same thing!

It may be your parents, your grandparents, your teacher, your Pastor, or a special friend that you would like to thank! Join me this month and take a little extra time to write a note that tells someone just how much they mean to you.  You may think it’s cheesy, but it’ll mean more to them than you know!

I think this little Thanksgiving project will bless you just as much as it blesses the receiver of your letter! I certainly hope to bless those that I’m thankful for!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

Love, Chels

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How to Get Rid of Toxic People

Toxic people are often hard to get away from.  Whether its due to relationships, being in the same friend group, or simply dating the wrong person, having toxic people in…

Toxic people are often hard to get away from.  Whether its due to relationships, being in the same friend group, or simply dating the wrong person, having toxic people in your life can be both draining and exhausting.  Most of us leave these people in our lives because we simply don’t know how to get away from them.  Here’s how you can separate yourself from these people in a kind and mature way!

  • Distance yourself.  Although this doesn’t always work for every situation, it does work for some.  Slowly backing away from the situation really can work.  It’s a good way to get some air and realize what you really want, whether it be in a relationship or with a close friend.
  • Pray for strength.  Prayer is powerful and I’m a strong believer that God provides when you ask him for something.  Sometimes we just need the strength to cut ties with someone and know that it really is for the best.
  • Surround yourself with people who build you up.  Surrounding yourself with good people while trying to distance yourself from the opposite is one of the best distractions.  It shows you the people you deserve to have in your life!  Know your worth!
  • Be bold and determined.  I know it’s easier said than done, but having the courage to know what you deserve in your life is something we should all believe about ourselves.  Changing your mindset to having the boldness to get rid of toxic people in your life is one of the most freeing feelings ever!

I hope you have enough courage to break away from the people bringing you down in your life! 🙂

Love, Chels

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5 Reasons to Go Through Sorority Recruitment

If you’re going off to college, especially at a big school, then I’m sure you’ve heard all the hype about sorority rush.  I questioned it at first, until I heard…

If you’re going off to college, especially at a big school, then I’m sure you’ve heard all the hype about sorority rush.  I questioned it at first, until I heard all of the awesome experiences my friends had within their sorority.  I thought I’d tell you some of the great things you can get out of a sorority if you give it a chance!

  • You meet your best friends.  Chelsea Crockett - Sorority PictureWhether you’re at a big school or a small school, you’re going to meet some people regardless.  You will be spending a lot of time with these girls, and you’ll get so close to them over your four years!
  • You can get more involved.  Most sororities have an executive board that you can serve on to make a difference in your chapter.  You can be president of your whole sorority or something less intense like a chair position!
  • You get to have social events.  Formals, exchanges, date parties, BBQs, you name it!  There are so many fun events throughout each semester for you to meet people, dress up, and have fun!
  • You’ll get more out of your comfort zone.  Going to college as it is will make you more outgoing, but joining a sorority will make you meet new people and help shape you as a whole!
  • You get to volunteer for amazing causes.  Most, if not all, sororities have a certain philanthropy they support and raise money for.  There are so many ways to volunteer throughout your chapter to support these causes!

So what do you think?  Are you going to give it a try?  A lot of my friends have and they say it’s one of their greatest decisions ever!

XO – Chelsea

 

 

 

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