Chelsea Crockett

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How to Handle Jealousy in your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you become less of a jealous person.jealousy

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know you that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling! I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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Why You (and I) Should Learn to Give and Take Compliments

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments….

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments. Why is this?

One of my philosophies is that we feel like we are being self-centered or “proud” when we take a compliment. When you are told a compliment, do you shrug it off? Why do we feel like we cannot believe the positive things other people tell us? Imagine if you accepted all of the compliments that are given to you instead of shrugging them off and trying to counteract them. How much would that change your self-confidence? Believing the positive things people tell us can be such a boost! We need to learn to see the good in ourselves that others see in us.compliment

Now for my philosophy on why we sometimes have a hard time giving compliments. This, to me, goes hand in hand with the reason we don’t take compliments as well as we should. We don’t know how the other person will react to our praise, whether they will shrug it off or accept it. I think, as girls, sometimes we can let the jealousy bug bite us. We can think that by giving another girl a compliment, we are setting them above ourselves and making them look better than we do. WRONG. Giving someone else a compliment is the simplest, but most impactful thing you can do for them! Compliments are free to give, and they can make someone’s day SO much better!

Moral of the story? Give sincere compliments, and learn to take them in return. Accept people’s praise, because you are worth their affirmation! Don’t think that by accepting a compliment you are being self-righteous or prideful. Learn to confidently accept people’s admiration with a kind smile, and understand that you deserve it. We also need to know the importance of GIVING complements. They can honestly make someone’s day. How great is it knowing you can take someone’s mood and flip it around, just by telling them that you like their outfit? It is so easy to do, so why not humble yourself and give out a compliment or two?

XOXO, Chels

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How to Shave Less Often

Now that we are in the warm weather season, one thing is clear: we have to start shaving our legs again. It is so nice to take a few days…

Now that we are in the warm weather season, one thing is clear: we have to start shaving our legs again. It is so nice to take a few days (okay weeks) off of shaving during the winter months. I am always looking for ways to cut down my shaving time/frequency, and here are the tricks that have served me well!

  1. Go against the grain: A easy trick to shave less is to shave against the grain of your hair. This ensures that you are getting the closest shave possible and saves you time by not having to go over the same spot twice!Shaving Tips For Woman(1)
  2. Exfoliate: To get a close shave every time you should exfoliate your skin often. This gets rid of the dead skin and also exposes any hairs that you may have missed.
  3. Condition: Use conditioner instead of shaving cream! Not only will it save you money, it also keeps your skin soft and healthy!
  4. Cut the carbs: The foods you eat can actually promote access hair growth! Carbs do this. Cut back on the carbs to keep you hair from growing so you can shave less often.

Now you can have silky smooth legs all summer long!

XOXO, Chels

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Dating in the 21st Century: What’s Your Opinion?

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand,…

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand, and you greet him with a smile. You take his arm and walk to his car, where he opens the door for you. He takes you to a nice restaurant, where you two have a lovely conversation about your likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams. After the meal, he pays the bill and takes you home, where he walks you to the door and you part with a warm smile and a “goodnight.” This routine is repeated a few times and may lead to courtship, and then possibly marriage. Does this scenario sound totally foreign to you or like something out of an old movie? This is what your grandparents called dating.download (1)

Isn’t it crazy how drastically the action of dating has morphed over the years? Now dating is considered texting someone at all hours of the day, and making them your “Man Crush Monday”, and posting cute pictures of you two on Instagram. Staying in and watching movies is a typical date, and going to nice dinners is reserved for birthdays or your “six month anniversary”. We put so much attention on “relationship statuses” on Facebook and Twitter “subtweets”. If we said any of these phrases to our grandparents, they would have no idea what we were talking about, and probably think you were talking in some kind of secret code or language. So, I am curious, what do you wish was different about our dating culture? Do you long for the dates like the one above, or do you enjoy our version of dating?

I know that sometimes I get frustrated with society’s definition of dating, and the expectations that is put on it. Sometimes, society’s view seems so shallow, does it not? Here is what I think, straight up and to the point: Don’t fall into the trap of conforming to any set standard just because it is what society says you should do. We need to set our own relationship standards based on something that doesn’t trend or move, and that is the standards that God has set. Don’t let your views be compromised by popular opinion.

So, like I said, I am curious to hear your point of view. Comment below and tell me your thoughts, because I want to know what you think!

XOXO, Chels

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How To Get Over Your Ex

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways…

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways to get over those tricky ex’s.

1. Exercise the blues away

Exercise is a great way to boost your endorphins and get out of your depressed state! When you are happy, you aren’t feeling down and won’t be so tempted to go back to your ex! Just 10 minutes of moderate exercise is enough to improve your mood. Not only does exercise boost your mood, exercise helps your body look and feel better, which boosts your self confidence! When you are happier and more self confident, you are in the right mindset to leave your past relationship in the dust and explore new horizons!

2. Take time to rebuild your relationship with yourself and God

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A lot of times, when you are in a relationship you often put the other person’s needs and wants above your own. Sometimes this can cause you to lose a little bit of yourself. That is no bueno! Often when your relationship comes to an end, you may find it difficult to remember the things that you enjoyed or liked to do because you were so wrapped up in what HE wanted. Pray about it. Lose yourself in Jesus and become so close to Him that all of your relationship blunders will fade into the past. Rebuilding your relationship with yourself and God is the first step to moving on

3. Find a new hobby

Now that you are single and free, find something that you love to do! You may have pushed aside a hobby of yours while you were in a relationship, but now that you are single you are free to do as you please! Immersing yourself in a hobby will not only keep your mind off of your ex, but it will also bring you joy! Pick up painting or photography or even reading! Anything you like!

Kick those ex’s to the curb, ladies! Show ‘em you are strong and resilient.

XOXO, Chels

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Love Doctor Chelsea

Welcome to the office of love dr. Chelsea! If you watched my  YouTube vid, then you know it is all about my love life (of lack thereof). Well, since I…

Welcome to the office of love dr. Chelsea! If you watched my  YouTube vid, then you know it is all about my love life (of lack thereof). Well, since I am such an expert on love (okay, maybe not an expert) I thought that I would give you all some friendly relationship advice. Relationships are tough, so a little advice wouldn’t hurt!

  1. Stay independent. When you are in a relationship, it is really easy to want to spend every waking minute with that person. Resist that temptation! I am not saying that it is bad to spend time with them, but everyone knows that girl that blows off all of her friends for her boyfriend, and that is totally not healthy! Doing your own thing every once in a while ad44d43ed81591320331ae17024066d8leads to a healthier relationship.
  2. Don’t try to be perfect, just be honest. Just be yourself when you are with your man candy! He knows that you aren’t perfect, so don’t try to be! Trying to be perfect for him can be exhausting, and it doesn’t show him who you really are.
  3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. This kind of goes with the last one, but I thought it deserved its own category. If you try and take yourself too seriously, then you keep yourself from having fun! Joke around, have tickle fights, just do fun stuff! But also, when the time is right, you can be serious. Joking around can be great, but sometimes you have to take things seriously.
  4. Keep your boundaries clear. When you are up front about your boundaries and morals, it makes dating much easier because they know exactly what you are about! Keep it Christ centered J

The picture I used in this article shows you how joking around can be fun. Love can be a blast, you just gotta have some tips on how to navigate through the waters. Hang on ladies, it can be a bumpy ride!

XOXO, Chels

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