Chelsea Crockett

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Dating Tips to Defy Distance

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in…

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in distance and you’ve really got a challenge! I strive to be the best girlfriend I can be, even from a thousand miles away. Here are some of my tips on how to keep your relationship strong despite the distance.

  1. Give him your full attention: When you are on the phone with him or skyping, get rid of distractions. You want him to know that when you are talking to him that he has all of your attention. You want to make the most of the little time you have together.FullSizeRender (34)
  2. Be the “friend” in girlfriend: Be his best friend! Be the one who they can talk to and share all of their hopes, dreams, and fears. Ask him how his day went, tell him the funny parts of your day, and just be a friend! Things don’t have to be romantic all the time.
  3. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Don’t focus on the negative and don’t pick fights. When you focus on the negative, all you will see is negative!
  4. Love something he loves: Does your boyfriend like football or a certain band? Ask him about how his favorite team is doing or download some of the band’s music and discuss it with him when you talk to him next. Watch an episode of his favorite tv show with him over skype. By sharing in the things he loves, you are becoming closer and you are showing him how much you care!
  5. Don’t text him allllll the time: A few texts during the day is just fine. You both understand that you are busy, and feeling like you have to constantly keep texting each other can make you feel a little stressed. Wait until the end of the day to catch up on everything, it will give you more to talk about when you are together or when you have his undivided attention. Plus, he needs his space and you need yours!

Long distance relationship-ers…I’m with you! I feel your pain! You are not alone. We got this. J

XOXO, Chels

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Why You Should Unfriend Your Ex

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the…

Trust me, I know it is tempting to continue following your ex on social media post-breakup. You want to keep tabs on him, see how he is dealing with the breakup, and how quickly he gets over you. Let me tell you, girl, it isn’t healthy. Here are 3 reasons you should unfriend your ex.

  1. It is hurting more than it is helping: Sometimes, seeing that your ex hasn’t unfriended you after a breakup can make you think that there is hope of you two getting back together. It can also prevent you from moving on. Seeing that ex and what they are up to can make you miss them and forget the reasons you broke up in the first place. It can also tempt you into trying to contact them and get back together. Unfriend them so that you can move on to bigger and better things!unfriend
  2. You won’t compare yourself: Being able to see what they are up to and who they are starting to date hurts. By unfriending them you are preventing yourself from the hurt that comes from comparing yourself to their new boo. It is easy to wonder who is doing better right now, you or him. Did they start dating someone new and you are still single? Did they get a better job than you have? Who cares what they are doing. And who cares who they moved on to. Don’t compare yourself to their new love interest. Your life is just as amazing as theirs, and you are just as great of a person as their new boo, so deleting them allows you to enjoy the ups and downs of your own life.
  3. You will be more of a mystery: If you want to seem like more of a mystery, and like you have moved on to better things, deleting your ex is a great idea. They won’t have access to your profiles and can’t see how you are doing, so they will become curious. If you are friends with them, all they have to do is pull up your profile to see how you are. If you aren’t friends, they actually have to reach out and ask you. If you are wanting to re-connect with them, this is the best way to do so!

Clicking that “unfriend” button is one of the best things you can do for yourself!

XOXO, Chels

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What Godly Guys Look For In A Gal

Okay gals, how many of us sit and daydream about our perfect guy? Most of us talk about what our prince charming is like to our girlfriends and gush about…

Okay gals, how many of us sit and daydream about our perfect guy? Most of us talk about what our prince charming is like to our girlfriends and gush about meeting him one day. If you are like me, you even have a list of what your perfect guy is like, from personality to physical traits. Do you ever wonder if guys do this too? Make lists of what they want their future Mrs. Right to be like? If so, do we measure up to that list? Well, I wanted an answer, so I consulted one of my Christian guy friends. Here is a guy’s perspective of what they look for in a gal. He says:FullSizeRender (83)

Guys’ minds really don’t operate the same as girls (surprise surprise!). In fact, most guys don’t really know what they want until they’ve found it. Now, I can’t speak for all guys when I say that, but among my Christian guy friends, there are 2 things we look for: if there is a spark between us, and if she loves God. We want a connection that gives us butterflies, just like you do. We want to be attracted to them both on the surface, and to what is in their hearts. We want to be able to hold a deep, intelligent conversation, but also have fun and goof off. Each guy is different in what they look for as far as a “spark”. Like I said before, us Christian guys also want a woman who is chasing after God and seeks His wisdom in her life. We want someone who cares for others and who inspires girls around her. But, like we said, we don’t really 100% know exactly what we want until we actually find it! Here is the most important thing: stop trying to be someone you think guys will like and be who you want to be, because the right guy will like exactly who you are.

Well said! Sometimes your guy friends can be a great source of wisdom, am I right?

XOXO, Chels

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What to Change After a Breakup

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel…

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel like you need change in your life to help you move forward. Sometimes, a fresh start is just what you need after a breakup. It can make you feel powerful and like you have control! Here are a few things to change after a breakup to help you move forward.

  1. Outlook and attitude: After the chaos of a breakup, it is a good idea to evaluate how your outlook on life and love has changed. Breakups often make us want to make changes for the better and focus on improving ourselves. Make the best of your situation and use this time to get to know yourself.
  2. Hair: This one is a pretty common change people make after a breakup, and with good reason! A fresh new hair cut for a fresh new you. Did your ex ever tell you not to dye your hair blond even though you really wanted to? Dye those locks blonde, girl! No more holding back! You will feel strong, independent, and beautiful with a fresh new ‘do.images (1)
  3. Music: Did your bf like a certain type of music? Did you change your taste in music to fit with his? Time to find new music for the new you. Create a new soundtrack for your life!
  4. Style: If you dressed a certain way to impress your boyfriend or he didn’t like certain things you wore, no need to worry about that anymore! Now you can dress however you please. Did he hate red lipstick? Wear it proudly! Try new styles, you may find a new fav!
  5. Relationship outlook: Use this time to think about what you want in your next relationship. What did you like and dislike about your ex? What will you do differently the next time around?

Breakups are a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and focus on the “new you”.

XOXO, Chels

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Dating Etiquette 101

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, first dates are scary business. You are putting yourself out there, and even though you have probably texted them a bunch…

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, first dates are scary business. You are putting yourself out there, and even though you have probably texted them a bunch or chatted with them in person, your first date is a totally different ball field. It is all about making a good impression and keeping your wits about you. Dating etiquette is much more than saying please and thank you and putting your napkin on your lap during dinner. Here are the basics on everything you need to know about dating etiquette to help you make a fab impression on your date.

Be on time: Please please pleeeease. There is no bigger annoyance than a late date. Be respectful and be on time, don’t keep them waiting! If you are running behind, text them and keep them updated on your status.IMG_3938

Put your phone away: Unless there is a big family emergency that requires you have your phone handy, put it away. Your friends will understand if you respond to their text in a few hours instead of right away. When you have your phone out during a date it gives off the message that they aren’t your main focus and they aren’t as important as what is going on on your phone.

Make eye contact: Giving someone eye contact lets them know you are interested in what they have to say and shows them respect. If you avoid eye contact they may think you are bored or aren’t into them.

Be attentive and ask questions: Really listen to what they have to say and try to give them your input. Also, ask them questions to keep the dialogue going. Feedback shows them that you’re really listening and want to hear what they have to say.

Manners are hard to come by these days, so when you show that you have good ones, you will be even more of a total catch! Plus, it will most likely knock the socks off of your date.

XOXO, Chels

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Relationship Red Flags

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is always a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little…

Relationships are fun. Having someone you can talk to and spend time with is always a great feeling. But, have you ever been in a relationship and felt a little uneasy about it? Like, you have a nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is a little off or just isn’t right. Don’t ignore that feeling! It could be a sign that the relationship isn’t meant to be. Here are 5 red flags to look out for while dating.

  1. They don’t initiate hanging out: One of the worst feelings is when you have to initiate every time you guys hang out. He never asks if you want to do something, you always have to ask. Girls like to be pursued! You having to make every move is a sign that the relationship may be a little one-sided.5-relationship-red-flags-large
  2. They’re always “too busy” or “too tired”: We make time for the people we care about and want to see, and if they are always making excuses for why they can’t hang out, that’s a red flag!
  3. They never pay for anything: Splitting the bill at dinner is totally great, but sometimes it also feels great to be treated to dinner! If you are always splitting or even paying for your dates, things need to be re-evaluated.
  4. They take a day or two to respond to a text: We are all busy, and sometimes it takes me a few hours to respond to text messages, but there is a difference between being too busy to answer and taking forever just because you can. Texting games are no fun! If they can answer the text in a timely manner, they should.
  5. All they want to DO is text: This reminds me of me and my first “boyfriend.” All he wanted to do was text and never wanted to hang out! If you’re dating a guy and he is all talk (or text, for that matter) and no action, dump him. If he won’t hang out with you in person, just text you, that is more like a virtual boyfriend, and that’s not what you signed up for!

So, if you just started dating a guy, or if you have been dating them for a few months, watch out for these red flag warning signs. If your guy does these things, it might be time to show him to the door!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Handle Jealousy in your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you become less of a jealous person.jealousy

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know you that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling! I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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Lessons on Love from Buddy the Elf

Let’s face it. We have all secretly wanted to try maple syrup on our spaghetti, and it is all because of Buddy the Elf. “Elf” may be one of my…

Let’s face it. We have all secretly wanted to try maple syrup on our spaghetti, and it is all because of Buddy the Elf. “Elf” may be one of my all-time favorite Christmas movies. And, although he may not give the best food advice, Buddy the Elf is actually pretty smart when it comes to love. Here are a few things the big guy in green tights has taught us about how to love someone.

  1. Go for it!: Don’t be scared to give love a try.
  2. Take risks: Now, that doesn’t mean eating gum off of a NYC subway railing. 😉tumblr_mc9renKUTF1rhucoqo1_500
  3. Plan fun outings with your crush: How much fun is it to jam-pack every Christmas related activity you can think of into your weekend? Do it Buddy the Elf style and plan to make snow angels for 2 hours, go ice skating, then eat a whole roll of Tollhouse cookie dough as fast as they could, and then snuggle.
  4. Stay positive: Buddy shows us that a smile can solve any problem. In fact, smiling is his favorite. And when you smile, it makes people around you feel the love.
  5. Give them your attention: Show someone you love them by giving them your undivided attention, and by asking them about themselves. It will make them feel like you are interested in them and who they are! Even questions like “what’s your favorite color” are Buddy approved. 😉

See? Buddy the Elf is full of good love advice! Now if you will excuse me, I am going to go curl up with a bowl of spaghetti and maple syrup and watch me some Elf.

XOXO, Chels

 

 

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Christmas Gifts for your Guy

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear,…

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear, Chels is here! I have 3 gifts that will warm any boy’s heart.

  1. 1 month of planned date nights: You know that horrible conversation you have with your BF before date night? The one that goes “what do you want to do?” “I don’t know…what do you want to do?” This gift saves you that convo! Have a bunch of date ideas written out on slips of paper, then fold them up and put them in a jar. This is a gift you will both enjoy!7-candy-bar-saying-ideas
  2. His favorite candy or a candy card: The way to a boy’s heart is food. Get him a mixture of his favorite candies all wrapped up super cute, or make him a creative card using candy like this one! He will laugh at your “sweetness”. 😉
  3. I like you because…”: Boys love to be complimented, just like girls! Maybe even more! They love to hear all the things you like about them. It lets them know how much you value them and appreciate them. Write things you like about them on slips of paper and put them in a jar for him to read when he needs a little pick-me-up. You can write anything you want, he will appreciate your thoughtfulness. It can be something as small as “you have the cutest smile”.

Hopefully I have helped you come up with a great gift idea for your handsome hunk!

XOXO, Chels

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Best Things About Being Single in the Fall

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what…

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what else sounds fun? The stuff below! Here are a few reasons why being single in the fall is fabulous.

  1. Guys in flannels: fall = flannels, flannels + cute dudes = heart eyes emoji. And you can stare because you are single!single 4
  2. Guilt free PSL indulgence: You won’t have to worry about a guy saying “don’t you ever get tired of pumpkin spice..?”
  3. No cheesy couples Halloween costume: Yes, couples Halloween costumes can be cute, but they’re sometimes slightly obnoxious. Like, if I want to be Elsa from Frozen, no one can stop me! I don’t need a dude to sing “Let it Go” at the top of my lungs with. I’m a solo act.
  4. Candids.: You and your gal pals can take “candid” pictures of yourselves mid-laugh in the pumpkin patch, looking like Instagram models. You don’t need a guy to have a impromptu photo shoot, that’s what bffs are for. Guys are not so good at staged candids. “Look happy! You look mad. Just act like you’re happy then! Ugh, my friends are way better at this than you are.” That is how I imagine that conversation with a guy going.

See? Being single during the fall can be loads of fun. Having a guy is fun too, and there are tons of fun fall date ideas out there, but this post is for my single ladies.

 

 

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Fun Fall Date Ideas

Fall is one of my favorite times to go on dates. The weather is just getting to be chilly, which means you can dress cute without being worried that you…

Fall is one of my favorite times to go on dates. The weather is just getting to be chilly, which means you can dress cute without being worried that you will sweat your brains out. Plus, your hair won’t plaster to your forehead or go poofy with humidity! SCORE! Anyway, autumn holds lots of opportunities for super fun dates. Here are just a few of my favs!

  • Corn maze: Go get lost together in a corn maze! You will have a blast trying to find your way, bumping into each other, 15-Fabulous-Fall-Date-Ideas-Pumpkin-Patch-Datelaughing the whole time!
  • Pumpkin picking: Go have a blast picking out the perfect pumpkin! You will have so much fun riding out to the patch and trying to find a better pumpkin than the other ;). Plus, you can make pumpkin pie or roast the seeds with the insides of your precious pumpkins!
  • Pumpkin decorating: After you go pick out the pumpkins together, have a decorating contest!
  • Haunted house: Getting to jump into your boy’s arms when a creepy zombie scares you= the best kind of date. 😉
  • Apple picking: Go apple picking together, then make yummy treats with the apples you picked!
  • Go to a football game: Football games are one of the best fall activities if you ask me. You will have a blast cheering on your favorite team together!
  • Rake leaves…and then jump through them: Pretty self-explanatory. Leaves + you + your man + a couple of rakes = hours of fun and a leaf-free yard.
  • Have a Halloween movie marathon: Grab that pumpkin pie or apple dumplings you made together, cozy up, and turn on a good Halloween movie!

Don’t have a boy toy? Grab a gal pal and do all of these things together! They may take a little bit of tweaking, but they will still be a super blast!

XOXO, Chels

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4 Signs of a Real Gentlemen

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys at my school” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend….

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys at my school” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend. And sometimes, that really can seem like the truth! In my age group, there seems to be a lack of gentlemen, and finding a quality guy can feel like finding a needle in a haystack. Don’t lose heart! There is a guy out there for you that will treat you like a lady. Here are the signs that you have found a true gentlemen.

  1. He treats the women in his life with respect: Whether it is his mother, sister, or other friends that are girls, a boy should respect and treat them with dignity. He does this by listening to them when they talk and by affirming and defending them. I was always told to watch how a boy treats his mother, because that is a sign of the way he will treat his girlfriend.real-men
  2. He values you: A gentlemen will lift you up, not tear you down. He will make sure you know how valuable you are!
  3. He is confident without being cocky: No one likes being with a guy that is full of himself. A gentlemen is humble, and he also seeks guidance from people that are older and wiser than him, aka he is not a know-it-all!
  4. He is smart with money: This one isn’t as big of a deal in high school, but knowing how to wisely handle money is a biiiiiiig deal as you get older! So, having a guy who knows how to save money and doesn’t blow it all the second he gets it.

Finding a true gentlemen may be hard, but it is worth the wait! You are worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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The Votes Are In: Top Traits Gals Want in Their Guys

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him…

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him to be? If so, you are the average teenage girl J. I read a recent study about the top traits that women want in the guy they date, and they really aren’t surprising! In fact, most of them were on MY list of traits I want to see in my guy. Here is a list of the top character, personality, and practical skill traits females want in a man.

 

TOP CHARACTER TRAITS: FAITHFULNESS, DEPENDABILITY, AND KINDNESS

When it comes to the character of your guy, most women say faithfulness is a top priority. Rightflully so! You want to know that he is there for you and only you, and that he will stick with you through the tough times. You also want to know that he is dependable and that when he says he is going to do something, he does it! You want him to be responsible. Lastly, you want him to be kind. I know that it is sometimes tempting to fall for the “tough guy” or “bad boy”, but as you grow up kindness wins. Most girls want a man who will be sweet to her AND her mother!

TOP PERSONALITY TRAITS: SENSE OF HUMOR, PASSION, AND INTELLEGENCE

I don’t know about you, but I love when I can laugh with my guy. Having a sense of humor makes life so much more fun! Passion is another must. You want a guy who is passionate about something, whether it is playing the piano, playing basketball, or evenrelationship-perspectives cooking! Another personality trait that women swoon over is intelligence. Nothing beats a guy who is great at problem solving!

TOP PRACTICAL SKILLS: LISTENING, ROMANCING, HELPING

Studies have shown that women love a guy who listens. This is a no-brainer! Girls feel safe and loved when a guy will sit there and let them vent and listen to their problems. Romancing is a given, we love a guy who can show his soft side and can sweep her off her feet! And the last one, helping. If he can help me cook a dinner, clean my room, or run errands, he is on the fast track to winning my heart! Who agrees?!

What traits do YOU value in a guy? Comment below!

XOXO, Chels 

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Summer Hair your Dude will Love

Ladies, if you have a dude in your life then odds are you try to keep him in mind when you are getting ready to see him. Do you ever…

Ladies, if you have a dude in your life then odds are you try to keep him in mind when you are getting ready to see him. Do you ever wonder what sort of hair style your dude prefers? Well, here are a few hair styles that, according to surveys, guys like the most.

  1. Soft waves: Reportedly, guys like hair that is wavy and soft. It looks feminine and sweet! Curl your hair with a big barrel curling iron and then separate the curls with your fingers to achieve this look.FB3A9969-X2
  2. Natural hair: If your hair has a natural texture to it, flaunt it! According to dudes, the less “torture” you put your hair through the better.
  3. Easy updoo: This can range from a simple bun to a curly creation! Guys like the casual yet glamorous look this gives off.
  4. Beachy bedhead: Not only do girls love beachy waves, guys do too! They say it looks fun and carefree.
  5. Sporty pony: It never occurred to me that guys liked the laid back look, but apparently a lot of guys like sporty high ponies!

Now, ladies, you should never let a guy dictate how you think and feel about yourself. This list was just to show you a few looks that the dude in your life might fancy.

You do you, and he will be head over heels!

 

XOXO, Chels

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5 Guys You Should Never Date

Everyone has a type. Maybe your type is “tall, dark, and handsome” or maybe yours is “outgoing and funny”. Although everyone has a “type”, there are certain types of people…

Everyone has a type. Maybe your type is “tall, dark, and handsome” or maybe yours is “outgoing and funny”. Although everyone has a “type”, there are certain types of people you should steer clear of dating. Here are they 5 types of guys you should avoid dating:

1. The Flirt: This type of guy love to get chatty with anyone, from strangers to friends. You want a guy who gives his undivided attention to you, and flirts with JUST you! The last thing you want is to be dating someone who, not only flirts with others in front of you, but also flirts with them behind your back. guys to not date chelsea crockett

2. The Partier: Stay. Away. From. Him. Partying boys are a recipe for disaster. He may seem fun and outgoing at first, but with parties comes bad mistakes and regretful decisions. You want to date a guy who is mature and doesn’t need to go to parties to feel good about himself.

3. The Negative Nancy: He is the guy who can find something negative to say about everything! Living life with someone who is always negative will just bring you down and put a damper on your happiness!

4. The Slacker: He’s the guy who has no dreams, vision, or passion to get up and do anything. Dating this kind of guy is NEVER wise!

5. The Jerk: This one is a given. You deserve more than this kind of guy can offer you! Look for someone who is kind, generous, selfless, and chivalrous. That last thing you want is to be embarrassed about bringing your man in public because you are afraid of how he will act.

So, ladies, who do we steer clear of? Jerks, negagive Nancies, partiers, flirts, and slackers.

XOXO, Chels

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