Chelsea Crockett

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The Secret Sins You Don’t Even Know You’re Committing

Have you ever done an in-depth, undistracted reading of the Bible? I don’t mean reading it word-for-word, front-to-back, but what I do mean is spending time to fully comprehend what…

Have you ever done an in-depth, undistracted reading of the Bible? I don’t mean reading it word-for-word, front-to-back, but what I do mean is spending time to fully comprehend what messages the Bible has to tell you.

It’s easy to overlook certain passages in the Bible that tell us all the things we shouldn’t be doing. Who wants to read about the things they’re doing wrong?

When we consider the term “sin,” we often think of the 12 commandments or other obvious sins throughout the Bible. But what about the sins that aren’t always talked about in church or throughout our day-to-day Bible plans? These secret sins are just as important to avoid and be in prayer over!

WORRY/FEAR

Worrisome and anxious thoughts are easy to possess. And although these sometimes creep in out of our control, the Bible talks about it being a hidden sin.

1 Peter 5:6-8 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.”

When we worry, we allow Satan to have a foothold in our lives. It’s like we’re telling God we don’t trust what he’s doing. Now I’m sure he knows there’s times when we can’t control our worrying, but letting it drive our lives is when it becomes displeasing to God. Trust him, and let go and let God!

PRIDE

James 4:6 says, “But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.’”

This is a sin that I see being committed time and time again, and I’m guilty of it, too. When we have certain accomplishments and successes, it’s hard not wanting to tell the world or post about them on social media. God wants us to have a humble heart, boasting of his greatness rather than our own.

JEALOUSY

 You may think that you’re not a jealous person, but jealousy exists outside of relationships! When was the last time you’ve thought “I wish I had her hair, her body, her outfit, etc.”?  God loves when we’re content in our own circumstances, not longing for the circumstances of others.

Proverbs 14:30 says, “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.

It’s exhausting to constantly desire the things of others. Focus on loving who you are and the things you are blessed with. Thank God for everything he’s given you instead of wanting the things he’s given others!

HOLDING A GRUDGE

Holding grudges makes us bitter and stubborn. God wants us to extend forgiveness to everyone, no matter how bad they’ve hurt us or how wrong they’ve treated us. This doesn’t mean to let those people walk all over us, but more so forgiving them like God constantly and whole-heartedly forgives us!

Nobody’s perfect, but we can try our hardest to avoid these sins and be in prayer over them. Pick one that you want to focus on this week, and make a daily choice to practice it!

– Chelsea

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God’s Relationship Red Flags

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships. When we…

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships.

When we look deeper into the Bible, it tells us what we should and what we shouldn’t be looking for in a relationship. There are several so-called “red flags” that we can take from certain verses in the Bible. They can help us know if we’re in the relationship God wants us to be in!

Impatience

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Patience is something that every relationship needs to have in order to work. Whether that be showing patience toward the other person or having patience for the future, every relationship needs a firm foundation of patience. Patience is the glue that holds things together. In tense situations or waiting moments, without patience, there would be nothing to keep you sane.

Selfishness

1 John 3:16-18 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

In every relationship, whether it be boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, or friend to friend, we should be making a conscious effort to put others before ourselves. When someone is only looking out for themselves all the time, they aren’t ready to commit themselves to someone else in a relationship. Relationships require sacrifice, even if it means giving up your own needs and wants in order to put the other person first.

Fear/Worry

1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

Having constant worry or anxiety in your relationship is one of the biggest red flags there could possibly be. This is God speaking to you and telling you that you maybe shouldn’t be dating the person that you are. The Bible says it itself: “There is no fear in love.” If you have a constant pit in your stomach or a reoccurring feeling of worry, take a step back and look at your relationship.

Jealousy

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

As humans, jealousy is a feeling that we’ve all experienced from time to time. It becomes a red flag when it starts taking over your relationship. It’s a feeling no one likes to experience, and when you’re constantly getting jealous over even the little things, maybe that relationship isn’t the one for you.

If you’re seeing signs of these red flags within your relationship, maybe God is trying to tell you something. Sit and talk with him and ask him for guidance. He always wants the best for us, we just have to let him work in our lives!

– Chelsea

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Jealousy is Stealing Your Joy

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter…

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter how many positive things I have going for me, somehow the negative thoughts seep in.

I find myself needing to take “social media breaks” every once in a while to detox my mind and give myself fresh perspective. It seems like everywhere you look, there is someone skinnier, prettier, more popular, with a better house, better clothes, and a happier smile. Comparing your work, your life, and whatever else will only make you miserable. Why? Because when you compare yourself to others, you aren’t seeing all the stuff going on in the background. You are only seeing the positive surface-level information that they are allowing everyone to see. Comparing yourself to someone else’s “best” is unfair.

It’s not just on social media that we can start to allow jealousy to slowly seep into our hearts. Your coworker may be excelling and getting promoted faster than you are. The friends you grew up may be getting engaged or married. When I see people that started their YouTube channels around the same time I did gaining more followers or opportunities than me, it is hard not to let jealousy paralyze my thinking. If I’m not careful, comparing myself to them can strip me of my contentment with who I am and what I am good at. Jealousy steals joy.

It is painfully true. Jealousy gives you a sick feeling in your stomach and an satisfaction with all that God has given you and the gifts he has blessed you with. Dwelling on these things sets us back. I used to worry a lot about what I wore, never wanting people to see me in the same outfit twice. I saw all of my YouTube friends dressing fashionably, so I did too. All of the stress of constantly worrying what I was wearing and what people would think of it was stealing my happiness. Comparing ourselves to others removes focus from what we should be proud of within ourselves. I guarantee that someone has looked at you and thought “I wish I could be like her.”

My advice? Keep reminding yourself that comparing yourself to others only discourages you. It will push you to spend money on things you don’t want or need just to be like the people you envy. Take ownership of who you are. Be proud of your positive qualities and achievements. There is no one else on this planet who is just like you.

XOXO, Chels

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3 Things That Make You a Bad Friend

I have heard way too many girls say that they don’t have many girl friends because “There’s too much drama” or “Too much judgement.” Our society tries to pit females…

I have heard way too many girls say that they don’t have many girl friends because “There’s too much drama” or “Too much judgement.” Our society tries to pit females against each other and dramatizes female conflict and makes everything seem like it is one big competition, when really we should be on the same team and working with each other to be better friends. I don’t doubt for one minute that you are a great friend who supports your gal pals, but like I said, we live in a world where it is often easy and sometimes encouraged to be a bad friend. Here are a few things you may not be aware you are doing, but they can be making you a bad friend.

  1. Jealousy: it can be difficult not to feel jealous when you see your bff getting her dream job, taking an incredible trip, or gaining huge achievements. But, nothing good comes from playing the
    comparison game. It just brings you down and makes you feel inadequate. It can also make your friend upset if you aren’t happy for her and her successes. Be happy for her achievements! It will make your life much more joyful, and she will be more likely to celebrate yours.FullSizeRender (79)
  2. You see her has competition: There are always going to be women that are more successful than you. Instead of making it feel like life is a competition and comparing yourself to them, take pride in what YOU have accomplished. You are also an amazing person, and are doing incredible things, so take pride in that. Not everything has to be a competition!
  3. You tend to judge her: If your friends do things you don’t agree with or approve of, let them know how their actions make you feel. Share your thoughts and feelings with them in a respectful manner instead of letting your judgements cloud your view of them. When they hear the way you feel, they will be able to respect your opinions.

Be supportive, caring, kind and a team player. That’s the key to being a great friend!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Handle Jealousy in your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you become less of a jealous person.jealousy

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know you that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling! I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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How to Rid Yourself of Jealousy

Jealousy is a feeling we all experience daily. Whether it’s within relationships, friendships, or simply wanting something we don’t have, it’s hard to control. As hard as it is to…

Jealousy is a feeling we all experience daily. Whether it’s within relationships, friendships, or simply wanting something we don’t have, it’s hard to control. As hard as it is to be fully content with the situation we’re in at times, once you free yourself of envy, life becomes 10x more enjoyable!  

When we look to the Bible for advice on how to overcome jealousy, God has a lot to say to us. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” He means that no matter what situation you’re in, be grateful. Sometimes this can be the most difficult task. For example, if your friend starts dating a boy you like, it’s tough to think of the positives. Maybe what God has in store for you will be even better than your own plan. Trust that His plan is always right and that everything happens for a reason.

Another verse in the Bible from 1 Corinthians says this: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Apart from being content in all circumstances, try and remove any negative mindsets you might have. Be patient, be kind, be humble… all of these actions will tear away the jealousy and negativity one day at a time.

XOXO – Chelsea 

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