Chelsea Crockett

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As You Look at the Day Before You…

As you look at the day before you, what emotions consume you? Do you wake up with an immediate mindset of dread and negativity? Or are you filled with gratitude…

As you look at the day before you, what emotions consume you? Do you wake up with an immediate mindset of dread and negativity? Or are you filled with gratitude and excitement for what’s ahead?

It’s natural for us to wake up and grumble about our day full of work meetings or our school day filled with tests and presentations. It’s human nature to want to stay in bed and not face the responsibilities you have awaiting you.

I’ve learned that those first few thoughts I have in the morning are an indicator of how my mood will be throughout the day. I’ve read that if you train your thoughts away from negativity first thing in the morning, it prevents your head from entering a space you don’t want to be in.

So, as you look at the day before you, consider these few things.

Approach the day with gratitude.

Have one of your first thoughts in the morning be thoughts of praise. Thank God for the beautiful morning weather, the quick morning commute, the quiz that ended up being easier than you thought it would be… When you decide first thing to approach each situation, good or bad, with focusing on the good, you will be more joyful and excited for even the simplest of things.

Have an attitude of “get to” not “have to”.

When I was younger, one of my teachers told us to change our words from “have to” to “get to.” For example, we “get to” go to school to learn more, we “get to” go to practice even though today may be harder than others, we “get to” go to meetings all day for work… Phrases like this humbles us and makes us remember how blessed we are for even the simplest of things.

Counter negative thoughts with positive ones.

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

I practice this daily and always tell others to do the same. As soon as your mind starts picking out the negatives, it can quickly spiral into a bad attitude. I know this from experience! But when you immediate counter the bad thoughts with positive ones, you gain an entire new perspective. Think about the things that are worthy of praise like the verse says above!

When you wake up tomorrow, how are you going to approach the day ahead? Are you going to try and make a conscious effort to do the things above? Or are you going to mumble and grumble through your day?

I encourage you the next few days to try these attitude and mindset changes. God wants us to be our most joyful and hopeful selves, which is hard to achieve when we’re full of negativity and dread. Take advantage of every day, we only have so many!

– Chelsea

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Psalms to Keep Close to Your Heart

Growing up, I always knew that the biggest book of the Bible was Psalms, but what I wasn’t aware of was the tremendous amounts of wisdom, knowledge, guidance, and peace…

Growing up, I always knew that the biggest book of the Bible was Psalms, but what I wasn’t aware of was the tremendous amounts of wisdom, knowledge, guidance, and peace that I would find within it.

Recently, I’ve really been focusing on the book of Psalms. Although some are more “well-known” than others, there are so many verses that have become some of my favorite passages in the Bible. I love to meditate on and memorize these verses to remember them in times when I’m feeling sad, frustrated, joyful, anxious, etc.

Here are some of the passages I encourage you to meditate on, as well!

For in times of fear:

“God is our refuge and strength,

an ever-present help in trouble.

Therefore, we will not fear, though the earth give way

and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea…

Be still and know that I am God.”– Psalm 46:1-2,10

I love how this passage describes God as ever-present. He is never fading and never failing, always with us even when we feel alone. When I’m feeling fearful or anxious, I repeat in my head “be still and know that I am God.” It gives me a feeling of peace and comfort knowing that all we have to do in these moments is simply be still!

For in times of guilt:

“Cast your cares on the Lord

and he will sustain you;

he will never let

the righteous be shaken.”– Psalm 55:22

God desires for us to leave our burdens and cares at the foot of the cross. When we carry them ourselves, we become worn down and eventually burnt out. They become too much to bear, leaving us helpless and heavy with shame. Pray for God’s grace and let him cast your burdens into the sea of forgetfulness.

For when you are seeking guidance:

 “The Lord makes firm the steps

of the one who delights in him;

though he may stumble, he will not fall,

for the Lord upholds him with his hand.” – Psalm 37:23-24

This passage gives me so much comfort knowing that even though I may stumble from time to time, with God, I’ll never have to fall. He has us in the palm of his hand, walking alongside us through every stage of life.

Instead of making decisions based off of what youwant, consider the passage above. When we delight in the Lord and run to him for guidance, he makes our steps firm, leading us down the path he has made for us. Putting our trust in God instead of what we think we want will lead to eternal satisfaction, instead of temporary happiness.

These few Psalms are just some of the many powerful verses you should lay on your heart. Keep them fresh in your mind so they are quick to remember in the times you need them. I encourage you to read through Psalms yourself and discover the wisdom and peace within it!

– Chelsea

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When Was the Last Time You Opened Your Bible?

Think about the last time you really sat down and read your Bible. Was it last week? Last month? Last year? I always notice when it’s been a minute since…

Think about the last time you really sat down and read your Bible. Was it last week? Last month? Last year?

I always notice when it’s been a minute since I’ve had a good read and quiet time with the Lord. I feel further from God and less connected to him, which is never a good feeling.

The Bible is a source of comfort, joy, safety, hope, grace, and so much more. It’s the one thing that we can physically hold in our hands that automatically makes us feel that much more connected to our heavenly father.

2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness.”

Not only does the Bible strengthen your relationship with the Lord, it is also full of knowledge on how to live your life according to God’s plan and purpose. It is full of instruction, teachings, wisdom, and so much more. It has all of the puzzle pieces to your life hidden within it: how you should speak, think, act, love, forgive… It paints the perfect picture of what our lives should look like.

I love how this verse from 2 Timothy describes Scripture as God-breathed. How cool is it to think that what we get to read in the Bible are actually the words of God! Knowing this is what draws me in more and more to discover who God is and who I am in the eyes of God.

Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.”

Being able to take the time to really study and meditate on God’s word is a beautiful thing that we getto do, not haveto do. If you see it as a chore, you may be missing the whole point.

The words written in the Bible are written by GOD himself! Every word was written for a distinct purpose, with specific meaning and knowledge behind it. It was written for each and every one of us to learn and grow from it.

If you’re someone that needs structure in order to avoid procrastination, take Sunday evening to plan your quiet times with the Lord. Even plan what you’ll read each day so you don’t waste time aimlessly searching for something to read. A simple way to do this is by downloading the Bible app, which has premade plans for whatever needs or wants you may have, such as how to deal with anxiety, gaining peace for the future, how to approach conflict, etc.

So, ask yourself: When was the last time you opened your Bible? Not out of guilt or obligation, but taking the time to sit down and spend uninterrupted, quiet time with the Lord will make your relationship with him so much deeper.

– Chelsea

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Taking Your Thoughts Captive

Our minds are a scary place. We can either have full control of our thoughts or let them wander… and wander… and wander. Some people consider their minds a place…

Our minds are a scary place. We can either have full control of our thoughts or let them wander… and wander… and wander.

Some people consider their minds a place where they can think whatever they want, negative or positive, nice or mean, etc. It can be harder to have control over our thoughts than over our words and actions. Since no one can hear them, we think we have free reign to say whatever we want about anyone we want.

Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.”

God gives us clear instructions on what to focus our thoughts on. It’s easy to focus on gossip, the negatives, and other things that wouldn’t be considered noble, pure, or right. Our minds are trained to automatically think like the world around us.

I know it’s easy for me to think thoughts of comparison. Sound familiar for yourself? Without even knowing that I’m doing it, I’m wondering if I’m good enough instead of feeding myself thoughts of praise, joy, and confidence.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Your heart is the source of your words, thoughts, and actions. Like the verse above says, everything you do flows from it. Guarding your heart is a phrase I’ve heard for years but never really knew what it meant. When we protect ourselves from temptation, negativity, false hope, comparison, etc., our minds are more at ease than the latter.

Guarding your heart starts with your thoughts. Make a conscious effort to protect yourself from the thoughts of the world instead of giving in and letting your mind wander. That’s when you end up hurting yourself!

2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.”

Self-discipline is the key to taking your thoughts captive. You have to have a tight rein on your mind or it can go to the worst places before you even realize it. God gave us this powerful spirit of self-discipline for a reason. Use it to stray away from temptation, even the temptation that begins in your head!

Because practicing this takes such a conscious effort, I encourage you to try it the rest of today. When your head starts judging those around you, immediately switch to admiring those around you. If you head starts filling with thoughts of “I’m not good enough,” switch to thoughts of praise for the person you are.

These are just a couple examples of taking your thoughts captive. Don’t let them have a hold on you any longer! If there’s one thing we have full control over, it’s what goes on in our heads. Take advantage of that and think thoughts of joy, hope, praise, and love, not only for yourself, but for those around you!

– Chelsea

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People, Possessions, & Professions

I recently came across a sign outside a church that asked this question: “What are you worshipping? A person, a possession, or a profession?” It really stuck with me and…

I recently came across a sign outside a church that asked this question: “What are you worshipping? A person, a possession, or a profession?” It really stuck with me and weighed on my heart for quite some time.

Many times throughout life, you will find yourself placing things above God, no matter how good, holy, or obedient you try to be. It’s part of human nature to go through phases of prioritizing things over others, whether it’s intentional or not.

So, consider these three categories: people, possessions, and professions. What do you struggle with placing below God and surrendering to him?

Maybe you’re in a relationship and your boyfriend is of utmost importance at this point in your life. He became your life and what you look forward to each and every day. Instead of going to God for validation, guidance, or joy, you look to him to fulfill all your needs. This is an example of prioritizing a person over God.

Maybe it’s your phone, your computer, your Netflix account, etc. that takes you away from God. I know there are times when my phone can act as a distraction while I’m spending time in the Word and pulls my mind and attention elsewhere. This is an example of prioritizing possessions over God.

Or maybe it’s your bank account that gets you out of bed in the morning. You’re so focused on having a successful career that money is the driving factor in your life. You never truly feel satisfaction because you’re always waiting for that next paycheck. This is an example of making your job your #1 priority.

When I think of those chasing after a career, money, success, etc., I think of Matthew 6:24. It says, “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

Desiring a successful career is one thing, but to become obsessed with your job is another. When we put our hope and trust in the Lord, good things will come our way! He knows our past, present, and future and will guide us into what’s best for our lives.

People, possessions, and professions are good things to focus on throughout your life. It’s good to prioritize the important things that you care deeply about whether that be your boyfriend or your career, but it becomes a problem when we lose sight of God in the process.

Write down the top 10 things you consider your greatest priorities. Then consider how each one plays a role in your life. Does it take you away from God or push you closer to him? Do you often seek it out for satisfaction and fulfillment? These are good questions to ask yourself to know if you’re living for the right or wrong things.

God wants your love, attention, and dependence. Don’t ignore him by giving yourself to temporary, worldly things. Talk to him and let him guide your focus onto what’s important: God’s joy, love, peace, and eternal satisfaction!

– Chelsea

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Turning Your Burdens into Blessings

“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” – James 1:17 Life is full…

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” – James 1:17

Life is full of disappointments and situations you can’t control. Burdens can be seen as blessings or can be seen as just that: burdens.

I think life is all about perspective. We can look at things from a negative point-of-view and ask God, “why me?” Or we can look at things with a positive perspective and consider it to be an opportunity to help shape us into the people we’re meant to be.

The above verse from James is one of my favorite verses from that chapter. Every gift from God is good and perfect, even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time. God is unchanging, caring, certain, and will never push you beyond your breaking point.

Too often, I see people doubting and getting angry at the Lord, constantly asking “why me?” Think of what you can gain from the situation you’re going through, not what you can lose. I wanted to share with you how to adopt this mindset instead of focusing on the negatives.

I wanted to learn how to take a different perspective on burdens and figure out how I can view them as blessings instead. Life is too short to dwell on what we think are negatives, when they’re actually blessings from God!

Consider the burdens in your life. Is it a person, a past mistake, a future promise? Everyone has their own burdens, but I encourage you to thank God throughout your trials. When you show Satan that he has no grip on you, then nothing can get you down, regardless of what life throws at you.

Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast your burdens on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.

I encourage you to give your burdens to God and ask him for guidance. Guidance on where to go next, what to say, what to do… When we cast our cares on the Lord, he always answers and points us in the right direction.

When I think of what I consider to be burdens in my life, I think of the MSG version of Matthew 11:28-30. It says:

Are you tired? Worn out? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me – watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.”

Whether you have to repeat this passage to yourself multiple times a day or write it in your prayer journal, do it! God wants you to surrender your burdens to him so he can take them and turn them into blessings.

God always has a purpose for everything in your life. Don’t question why a burden is placed on your life. Instead, thank him, praise him, and trust the path he is taking you down!

– Chelsea

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Keeping Christ at the Center of Your Home

Being a newly married woman, I now have a home that’s solely my own. It is a new foundation for my husband and I that will eventually hold a family,…

Being a newly married woman, I now have a home that’s solely my own. It is a new foundation for my husband and I that will eventually hold a family, host our friends, experience so many “firsts,” and so much more!

Although we plan to move throughout our life together, each house will be our home, where we get to experience life and make it our own! I’ve always understood the importance of keeping Christ at the center of our home, but I didn’t realize how intentional you have to be when you’re actually the head of the household.

There are several verses throughout the Bible that stress the importance of building a home centered around Christ.

Matthew 7:25 says, “The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.

Regardless of arguments, disappointments, or negativity that you experience inside your home, if Christ is your foundation, it will not be shaken. As perfect as you want your life to be, there will always be these three things that I mentioned above, but what makes the world of a difference is who your #1 priority is when life gets hard.

Proverbs 24:3-4 says, “By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.

Think about how you can grow wisdom, understanding, and knowledge inside your home. I know for me and Nick, we like to set aside time to be completely in the word with no distractions. Reading the Bible gives us the knowledge of how we should live our lives as Christ followers and it continues to amaze us every day.

Through listening to sermons, talking to God, reading devotionals, etc., we get the opportunity to gain this godly wisdom and understanding that God offers to us. It makes such a huge difference when our mindsets, actions, and words are Christ-like and mirrored after the Lord.

I remember listening to a podcast a few months ago that talked about what people often put at the center of their home. For some people, it may be money and finances. For others, it may be the pursuit of happiness regardless of what that may mean for them. And for some, the sole center of their home may be their careers.

Regardless of what the world around you is doing, I encourage you to make a list of ways you can keep Christ at the center of your home. If you need a starting point, begin by going to church every Sunday. Pray before each meal and as a family before you go to bed. These small changes welcome God into your home and allow him to lead each and every one of you throughout your life. His presence is powerful, comforting, and will fill your home with love, grace, and so much more!

– Chelsea

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Bible Verses to Make Your Personal Prayers

When I’m going through a rough patch in my life, it seems that God always shows me the right verses at the right times. Sometimes verses relate to my situation…

When I’m going through a rough patch in my life, it seems that God always shows me the right verses at the right times. Sometimes verses relate to my situation so strongly that I wonder if God made that verse just for me in that moment. It’s so comforting to know that God can speak to us through the Bible when we need him most!

Certain verses can be made into your own personal prayers. I wrote some below that I like to repeat over and over in my head when I need them! You can make them your own personal prayers, too!

In times of sadness: 

Let Nehemiah 8:10 be your prayer. It says, “Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.

This verse is the perfect reminder that our joy doesn’t come from the world, it comes from the Lord! We let so many things throughout life make us feel sad, defeated, lonely, etc., when we’re seeking the wrong things for joy in the first place. Look to the Lord for true, lasting joy!

In times of fear:

Let Psalm 32:7-8 be your prayer. It says, “You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance.”

During fearful times, we always need to remember that God is our hiding place. We can go to him for security and peace and he will always provide those things for us. It’s a beautiful comfort that only He can give us.

In times of guilt:

Let Isaiah 30:15 be your prayer: “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength.

Guilt can drive your life if you let it. It can eat you alive and consume your thoughts until you don’t know what to do anymore. Remember Isaiah 30:15 in these times of guilt. Know that through repentance, you will always find rest and peace!

In times of anger:

Let Matthew 5:44 be your prayer: “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

This is an important lesson we can all learn from. Pray for those who persecute you, not gossip about them or build up hatred toward them. That type of attitude does nothing positive for the situation you’re in. Try praying for them and see how your attitude changes for the better!

In times of distress:

Let Psalm 4:1 be your prayer. It says, “Answer me when I call to you, my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress; have mercy on me and hear my prayer.

God promises to answer our prayers, whether it’s the way we expected him to or not. He hears our prayers and knows what is best for our lives! Trust that he will give you the relief you need, even if doesn’t seem like he is at the time.

Make these verses your personal prayers when you encounter these situations. Write them down, repeat them in your head, set them as a reminder on your phone… Whatever you need to do to remember that God is with you every step of the way!

– Chelsea

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When You Struggle with How to Pray…

Whether we’re drawing near to God or find ourselves running from him, prayer can be hard. Even in the darkest parts of our lives, it can seem almost impossible to…

Whether we’re drawing near to God or find ourselves running from him, prayer can be hard. Even in the darkest parts of our lives, it can seem almost impossible to find the right words to say.

I know for me, I find it hardest to pray when I’m frustrated or mad at God. As selfish as it is, it’s hard to praise him during our own personal times of trials, even when we know deep down this is when we need God the most.

Recently, I dove into Scripture to discover what the Bible says about the times when we feel unable to pray. There is so much truth to be known during these difficult times that can help us know what to do when we face that obstacle.

Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

I love this verse because it gives us direct instructions on what to do when we’re needing direction in our prayer life. Not knowing what to pray isn’t an excuse to God when considering the fact that he wants us to come to him with anything and everything. We could talk to him about something as simple as our agenda for the day and he would love that time spent with him!

Like the verse says, in every situation present your requests to God. If you’re at a place where the last thing you want to do is pray, start here. Depending on your situation, write down the good and bad things of what you’re going through. Maybe you’ve been waiting your whole life to get into the college of your dreams only to receive a rejection letter in the mail. When you approach the situation by pointing out the good that can come from it, your whole perspective will change.

This also gives you things to talk to God about. Pray for guidance, joy, peace, or whatever you need at that point in time. God will never turn you away, no matter how long you’ve been pushing him away. Isn’t that a beautiful truth?

God tells us in the Bible to talk to him about our struggles, even if that struggle is in our prayer life. We shouldn’t feel embarrassed or defeated when we’re going through a hard season with prayer. This just gives us one more thing to pray about! Ask God to help you find the words to say and to be honest and vulnerable. Find the joy in your struggles!

– Chelsea

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Find Joy in the Journey

I was recently asked “How are you staying so calm during this wedding planning process?” There are a few things that are helping me keep my cool. One is that…

I was recently asked “How are you staying so calm during this wedding planning process?” There are a few things that are helping me keep my cool. One is that I have a lot of help, and another is that I have resolved to find joy in the journey. I want to soak up this season of life and really make the most of it! So, how am I doing that?

  1. Avoiding comparison. I think it is so important to focus on what I want my wedding to look like and be like instead of comparing it to others. We’ve all seen those “Pinterest perfect” weddings, and it is so fun to dream! It can also be discouraging when you actually start to plan and find out how much everything really costs, and you have to be realistic. Your wedding is just that – YOURS! So, if you don’t get that picture perfect venue or dream cake like you’ve seen in the movies or on Instagram, that’s ok. Find joy in the things that you ARE able to have, like the people you love surrounding you.
  2. Celebrating every day’s successes. There are bound to be setbacks during the planning process, so keeping that in mind has been helpful. There have also been unexpected victories! I try and focus on the wonderful “celebrations” that happen each day, even if it is something as simple as choosing the color of the groomsmen’s socks. That is one less thing I have to do, and one more thing I can check off the list!
  3. Thinking positively. Our thoughts have a huge impact on how we feel about ourselves and how we feel our lives are going. Negative thoughts are like weeds that can take over and suffocate out all of the beauty of the moment. By thinking positively and spinning the negatives to seem more positive, my outlook on my wedding day has been one of joy instead of stress.
  4. Stop questioning. Once I make a decision, I lock it up and throw away the key. I am not doing myself any favors if I am questioning my decisions and keep circling back to the same things. Did I pick the right bridesmaid dress color? Will the guests like the food we chose? Will they have fun? The answers are YES, so no need to go back and fret about it.

Most of all, I remember that “The joy of the Lord is your strength”(Nehemiah 8:10). As this season of wedding planning comes to a close, I will continue to choose to find joy in the journey that God has put before me, and I pray that you will do the same in whatever season you find yourself in.

Chels

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Are You Truly Content?

We all want one thing in life: to be truly content. True happiness isn’t something that comes along easy, but it’s something we can have through God and God alone….

We all want one thing in life: to be truly content. True happiness isn’t something that comes along easy, but it’s something we can have through God and God alone.

We often find ourselves seeking things that only provide temporary satisfaction. They satisfy us for a day, a month, a year, etc., and then we go on seeking the next thing to give us that joy or contentment that we quickly felt.

These things we use to try to fill the void in our lives will always run out. As Jesus was a human on this earth, he knows the temporary joy the world offers. He also knows the long-lasting, fulfilling joy that our heavenly father gives freely to us.

God wants us to feel the joy he has in store for us. It’s something that doesn’t even compare to any joy we’ve felt before. He is the true giver of every perfect gift, and he wants to give us the gift of true, lasting contentment. Take a look at what God’s word says about discovering real happiness!

For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” – Matthew 6:32-33

God may not give you a new car or hand you a million dollars, but he will give you the things no one else on this earth can. When we seek him and his righteousness, God provides us with so much more than worldly riches.

I was once told of a verse that talks about worldly contentment so perfectly. Jeremiah 2:13 says, “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water”

Jesus is the spring of living water that is endless, ever-flowing, pure, and holy. If we take a look at this verse, it’s saying that we, as sinners, replace Jesus’s perfect water and replace it with our own. Our cisterns are broken, unable to hold water, only satisfying our needs for a short amount of time.

So, I challenge you to this: think of three different cisterns in your life. Maybe it’s partying, boys, grades, whatever it may be. These are the things you find yourself seeking happiness in that only end up giving you joy in the moment. Then, focus on how you can take the effort you spend on these things and spend it on growing closer to God. Watch how your heart changes!

At the end of the day, happiness will always come and go. But with God, our hearts, minds, and spirits are always filled with his love and his joy. We waste so much time on temporary fulfillment when she should be looking for everlasting fulfillment from our heavenly father. That is where true, eternal contentment can be found

– Chelsea

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The Burden of FOMO

FOMO… It’s an ever-so-real phrase that our generation made up that means the “fear of missing out.” Every heard of it? It’s something that’s so real that we’ve all experienced…

FOMO… It’s an ever-so-real phrase that our generation made up that means the “fear of missing out.” Every heard of it?

It’s something that’s so real that we’ve all experienced from time and time again. Especially being young in a culture that is all about FOMO, we want to take every opportunity to travel, hang out with friends, go on dates, etc., which is not always a bad thing. FOMO becomes a problem when it starts taking away the joy of the present.

Let’s look at a situation for example. Your friends are all hanging out and, because you don’t want to miss out, you drop what you’re doing to go join them. Even though you may not have the time or money to do so, you’re so worried about missing out that you forget to stop and actually think about it.

Obviously, that’s a milder example, but I’m sure you’ve been there multiple times! You probably experience FOMO on a harsher scale, which can be both exhausting and draining. You may even overthink and overanalyze the situation so much that FOMO isn’t your only problem anymore.

I read a quote that describes it perfectly: “Do not fear missing out at the expense of missing now. There is magic all around and joy inside. Do not be mindlessly chasing all shiny new things and miss what matters most – the appreciation, gratitude, and generosity in this very moment.”

We get so caught up in what we may be missing out that we forget to enjoy the moment we’re in now. It’s a cycle that never ends and it takes away the joy of the present.

What does the Bible say about enjoying the present? In the MSG version of Ecclesiastes 5:18-20, it says, “We should make the most of what God gives, both the bounty and the capacity to enjoy it, accepting what’s given and delighting in the work. It’s God’s gift! God deals out joy in the present, the now…”  You can’t receive joy when your mind is so consumed with worry and thoughts of the “what ifs.”

God also commands us to rest. You don’t always need to be doing things that fill up your time 24/7. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

When we live our life waiting for tomorrow or worrying about missing out, we don’t get to experience this rest that God wants for our lives. Our bodies need rest! We need to take a day off every once in a while, even if that means potentially missing out in the end.

Although it’s good to be busy and to make time for things that are important, it’s also good to take time for yourself and for God. FOMO can take you away from the present, but we only have so much of it!

– Chelsea

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“Beloved.”

Think of who you are and what makes you, you. I’m guessing several different characteristics and adjectives popped into your head. Maybe you think of yourself as a straight-A student…

Think of who you are and what makes you, you. I’m guessing several different characteristics and adjectives popped into your head.

Maybe you think of yourself as a straight-A student or a varsity athlete. Maybe you think of yourself as the class clown or a perfectionist. There are so many little things that make us who we are.

For me, I always want to do the best in all that I do. My head gets consumed with the thoughts of “am I good enough?” “am I smart enough?” “am I athletic enough?”  We get so caught up in what we think about ourselves and forget about what the creator of the universe thinks about his children.

Recently, while I was flipping through my Bible, a certain word stuck out to me: beloved.

Beloved is a word defined as “greatly loved; dear to the heart.” What I like even more than its definition is its synonyms: cherished, precious, sweet, darling.

When we think of God calling us beloved or His beloved, He is also calling us cherished, precious, and much more. The beautiful thing about this is that in the Bible, the word “beloved” is almost always used when addressing His children.

1 John 3:1-2 says this: “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does no know us is that it did not know him. Beloved, we are God’s children now…” Beloved is such an endearing term and I love the way this verse puts it.

Look at 1 John 4:7-8: “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” Then again, look at 3 John 1:2: “Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.”

This word shows up over and over again in the Bible. It gives me so much comfort knowing that I am called beloved by the God who made the planets and sent His one and only son to save the sins of His people.

We need to stop thinking of ourselves as the star athlete or the class valedictorian. Although these things are great things to be, we need to remember who we are at the end of the day. We are solely God’s children and He calls us His own. He calls us His beloved, His darling, His precious, His cherished.

Next time doubts and insecurities pop into your head, remember who you are in God’s eyes. The boy you’ve been crushing on or the peers you’ve been trying to impress may never see your worth, but your father who holds you so dearly always has and always will.

Find comfort in this, find peace in this, and find joy in this. We are His beloved and that is something to be so proud about.

– Chelsea

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Cultivate a Heart of Contentment

Comparison steals our joy. These days, being content with what we have and how we look is a struggle. If you ask a group of women what one of life’s…

Comparison steals our joy. These days, being content with what we have and how we look is a struggle. If you ask a group of women what one of life’s biggest struggles is, the overwhelming answer will be being content and not comparing ourselves to others. Contentment is something that we can and need to learn, because we are God’s children and He made us the way we are for a reason. Comparison and envy date back as far as Rachel and Leah in the Old Testament, where in Genesis 30:1 it says “When Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she envied her sister. She said to Jacob, ‘Give me children, or I shall die!’” We not only compare whether we are as “good” as others, but also compare our struggles with others and whose hardships are “worse.” How do we put out the comparison fire that Satan lights in our hearts?

Accept your uniqueness: Think of something you are good at, and then think how long you have been working at it. Is it running? Bargain shopping? Cooking? Remember everything good in life takes work. Do you envy that a friend has lost weight and looks great? Tell her that she looks amazing, and let her inspire you to work hard as well. And remember that God designed us to be different and unique. Life would be so boring if we all looked alike, dressed alike, and had the same talents and skills.

Be happy for the strengths of others: This one sort of goes with the point above. If we aren’t careful, when we first met someone we can get sucked into comparing ourselves to them. Whether it is their physical attributes or the material things they possess, we can either make ourselves feel better or worse about ourselves based on our evaluations. It is so hard to overcome this habit. Try every day to see yourself as God sees you, and remember that comparison is selfish. See the real person behind their physical and material attributes. Consider their feelings, and work hard to compliment others from the heart. You never know, they could also be struggling with a comparison battle. You can also learn from others, and instead of making life feel like a competition, you can become a better person.

Get rid of the “me” mindset: Comparison is selfishness disguised. It has us looking at others and thinking about ourselves. We need to work to train our minds to want to impress God and not others. When we stop thinking of how others view us, we can be free from the burden that is selfishness.

Kick worldly expectations to the curb: Like I said earlier, comparison steals joy. Not only does it steal our joy, it also steals our contentment and our will to live a godly life. When we compare ourselves with others, we are not using an accurate measure. Dragging around the world’s expectations hinders us from the journey that God has in store for us. We cheat ourselves out of God’s blessings when we try to live the life we see others living. When you live your own life, and stop envying someone else’s, you see your blessings more clearly.

Let’s rejoice in our strengths, work on our weaknesses, and celebrate each other for the unique people we are!

Chels

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Jealousy is Stealing Your Joy

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter…

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter how many positive things I have going for me, somehow the negative thoughts seep in.

I find myself needing to take “social media breaks” every once in a while to detox my mind and give myself fresh perspective. It seems like everywhere you look, there is someone skinnier, prettier, more popular, with a better house, better clothes, and a happier smile. Comparing your work, your life, and whatever else will only make you miserable. Why? Because when you compare yourself to others, you aren’t seeing all the stuff going on in the background. You are only seeing the positive surface-level information that they are allowing everyone to see. Comparing yourself to someone else’s “best” is unfair.

It’s not just on social media that we can start to allow jealousy to slowly seep into our hearts. Your coworker may be excelling and getting promoted faster than you are. The friends you grew up may be getting engaged or married. When I see people that started their YouTube channels around the same time I did gaining more followers or opportunities than me, it is hard not to let jealousy paralyze my thinking. If I’m not careful, comparing myself to them can strip me of my contentment with who I am and what I am good at. Jealousy steals joy.

It is painfully true. Jealousy gives you a sick feeling in your stomach and an satisfaction with all that God has given you and the gifts he has blessed you with. Dwelling on these things sets us back. I used to worry a lot about what I wore, never wanting people to see me in the same outfit twice. I saw all of my YouTube friends dressing fashionably, so I did too. All of the stress of constantly worrying what I was wearing and what people would think of it was stealing my happiness. Comparing ourselves to others removes focus from what we should be proud of within ourselves. I guarantee that someone has looked at you and thought “I wish I could be like her.”

My advice? Keep reminding yourself that comparing yourself to others only discourages you. It will push you to spend money on things you don’t want or need just to be like the people you envy. Take ownership of who you are. Be proud of your positive qualities and achievements. There is no one else on this planet who is just like you.

XOXO, Chels

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How to Find Joy in the Hard Times

Sometimes life is just hard. Sometimes it can feel like life isn’t fair. Why are bad things happening to me? Will I ever get through this? The answer is yes….

Sometimes life is just hard. Sometimes it can feel like life isn’t fair. Why are bad things happening to me? Will I ever get through this? The answer is yes. And you do not have to go through it alone. We all go through trials and sorrow, Jesus himself tells us this in John 16:33! But, the good news? The pain you are going though right now cannot even compare to the joy that is coming! That is from Romans 8:18. Here are a few ways that you can find joy in the hard times.

  1. Have peace: The great thing about this life is that we aren’t walking through it alone, and we can have peace because we know that God has a plan for our lives, and we can have peace in Him. Nothing surprises Him, he has it all planned out! Why worry about life when God has it all under control? Your story is already written! Have peace and know that Jesus has conquered death, and overcame the world. There is nothing He cannot do.62b50cf1f0f2626a5612d78af83f8ce1
  2. Rejoice: You may be thinking “Rejoice? How can I rejoice when I feel like my world is falling apart? How can I rejoice when I feel so sad and alone?” When Paul and Silas were in a dungeon, beaten and shackled in a dark cell, they began praying and singing praises to God. While shackled! And beaten! Other prisoners saw them praising God even in their misery, and they were astounded. Their praising God in their darkest time showed the other prisoners just how much they loved their God. That is what we are called to do, rejoice in our misery because this will show others we trust God. Rejoice, because He is always there, He will never leave us!

You will be so surprised at how God can work in your life when you surrender your pain and sorrow to Him. He will open your eyes to the good in your life, He will put people in your life that will uplift and encourage you, and He will give you strength to get through every hardship you endure! Trust in Him and cast your burdens on Him, because he cares SO much for you.

XOXO, Chels

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