Chelsea Crockett

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Do What’s Right, Not What’s Easy

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing…

What’s easy and what’s right can oftentimes go hand-in-hand. These situations are easy to approach knowing that the right thing to do is also going to be the easy thing to do.

The situations that take you doing the right thing when it isn’t always the easiest, now these are the situations where your boldness comes in.

God talks about this in the Bible, over and over again. As a Christian, we will face persecution for the things we say and do. What God wants for us will more times than not differ from what the world wants for us.

Eventually, there comes a choice. How will you know which choice is honoring God and which is for your own benefit? There are several verses that talk about how we can live and decide through godly wisdom.

Colossians 3:17 says, “And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”

When you’re stuck at a crossroad, you should ask yourself this question: What would Jesus want me to do? Think of the best possible way you could honor him.

Not just in what you do, but in what you say. In word and in deed, we should always think of how Jesus would respond to the situation. It can be hard to go out of your way to apologize to someone that doesn’t deserve it, but in the end, what’s right is showing mercy and grace to those who most definitely don’t deserve it!

Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live – not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”

God makes it very clear to us in the Bible that our days are numbered. We never know how many more opportunities we have to display the light and love of God through our lives.

If making the most of every opportunity means showing kindness and love in every situation, then we should do just that. Just because it’s not the easiest thing to do, doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.

I once saw a quote that puts it perfectly: “Keep a good attitude and do the right thing even when it’s hard. When you do that you are passing the test. And God promises you your marked moments are on their way.”

Think of life as a time filled with many tests. We should want God to be proud of our actions and who we are when the world isn’t looking.

So, do good, be good, and spread goodness. At the end of the day, people will remember the times you did the right thing instead of the easy thing, every single time.

Being a follower of God isn’t supposed to be easy, that’s why God calls us to a life so much greater than this. Listen to his word and his wisdom and apply it to your life. You’ll feel content, rewarded, and an all-around better person at the end of the day!

– Chelsea

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Agree to Disagree: What God Says About Conflict

At every stage in your life, you’ll always encounter people that love conflict. They love drama and it seems to follow them wherever they go. There’s also those people that…

At every stage in your life, you’ll always encounter people that love conflict. They love drama and it seems to follow them wherever they go.

There’s also those people that you simply disagree with. Whether it’s over the littlest things or not, you seem to always butt heads over anything and everything.

Whatever the case, what does God say about those little arguments? What is his take on conflict and drama, and how should we handle these situations?

Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Along with Proverbs 16:32 that says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”

What do both of these verses have in common? Patience.

Be patient in the way you respond, be patient in the way you forgive, and be patient in the way you approach situations. Patience will teach you to be kind-hearted and slow to anger, which God commands us to be.     

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

You should never be quick to pick a fight. Know which battles are worth fighting and which ones are not.

God wants us to use our energy on positive things, like building each other up and lending a hand to those in need, whoever it may be. What he doesn’t want us doing is using our energy to tear each other down and start conflict where it’s not needed!

Another verse from Ephesians that gives me some of the best advice that I still stay true to today is Ephesians 4:26. It says: “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”

Although this verse is short and sweet, it gets straight to the point. My mom always told me you should never let yourself go to bed upset or angry with someone. It’s advice that has never let me down no matter what the situation is.

Resolve things as they happen. Don’t let them build up and allow a grudge to form. God wants us to be quick to forgive because he knows the consequences of letting anger build up inside of us.

Now is God saying we should never stand up for ourselves? Not at all.

He wants us to have the wisdom of knowing where and what we should involve ourselves in. Be the peace-maker, NOT the trouble-maker!

Look at it this way: How would Jesus respond in this situation? Would he be quick to argue or quick to bring about peace?

You can find SO much knowledge in God’s Word, so if you ever need guidance, this should be the first place you look!

Start approaching situations the way God would want you to. There’s so much to gain by looking at what God says and letting that light shine through on your life and the people around you!

– Chelsea

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Knowing Your Self-Love Language

Most of us have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages.” It is a great book to read with your significant other to better understand how they show love…

Most of us have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages.” It is a great book to read with your significant other to better understand how they show love and how they like to receive it! It has definitely helped my boyfriend and I understand eachother on a deeper level. All of us need different things to “fill our love tank.” That means that sometimes we have to turn those love languages back on ourselves and discover what our “self-love” love language is. What I need in order to feel like I am treating myself well and caring for myself may be totally different from what you need. We may even need a little of each love language! Are you speaking your own?

Acts of service: This is my #1. I love when people help me do things or do them for me. AKA taking my car to get gas for me, taking out the trash without me asking, anything that normally I would have to take time to do but they do it instead. So, how can I show myself love through acts of service? I can give myself what I need when I need it. I can take care of myself and make sure my mind and body are healthy and where they need to be. If this is your love language, cook yourself a nice meal, enjoy a nap, or let yourself indulge in an episode of your favorite TV show.

Gifts: This is the one that I identify with the least. I feel almost uncomfortable accepting gifts. I never know what to say! I feel like “thank you” just doesn’t cover it. But, if this is your love language, treat yo’ self. This is not to say that you should go blow a ton of money, I am all for budgeting and being smart with your spending. But, every once in a while, it is okay to spend $10 at Starbucks because you need a pick-me-up. It doesn’t cost a lot to be kind to yourself! Is there something that you have been really wanting? Start budgeting and then treat yourself to it. Invest in yourself!

Quality time: This love language comes in second for me. I love spending time with my loved ones, whether it is on a family vacation or just sitting around in the living room watching The Bachelor together. It doesn’t matter where we are as long as we are together. In order to show yourself some quality time, spend time doing something you love. Take a run or a walk by yourself. Give yourself some “me-time” to be able to journal or reflect. Go have fun and take time to do one of your hobbies.

Physical touch: Go get yourself a massage. Give your tired weary muscles some love. Have a spa day, even if it is just at home in your living room with a $1 Target face mask. Do some yoga, and go get a green smoothie. Again, treat yo’ self.

Words of affirmation: I go through phases where I am really good at this and then the next week I can fall out of touch with it. I try and affirm my friends and loved onces as often as possible, but sometimes you get in a rut. It is so important to make sure you aren’t forgetting to affirm yourself. Build yourself up and cheer yourself on. Remind yourself how good you are doing, and say it out loud! Think about yourself in a positive light. It can be a game changer!

Now go show yourself some self-love.

Chels

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Avoiding Spiritual Mismatch

Spiritual mismatch was a term I rarely ever heard of, let alone had given any thought of what it meant for my life and those around me. Recently, I’ve been…

Spiritual mismatch was a term I rarely ever heard of, let alone had given any thought of what it meant for my life and those around me.

Recently, I’ve been exposed to how important and crucial it is to be on the same page as those who you surround yourself with.

Ever heard of the quote: “your vibe attracts your tribe”? I can see how this reigns true in the lives of almost everyone around me. My friends that are loud and outgoing oftentimes tend to lean toward others who are also loud and outgoing. Same for the friends that are quiet, funny, crazy, etc.

Although that’s not always the case, and sometimes opposites do attract, we often like to group ourselves with the people who are similar to us. Instead of only looking for certain personality traits, we should also look for spiritual traits, those who can push us toward having a better relationship with the Lord.

Ever heard of the phrase “spurring one another on?” Hebrews talks about the importance of it in the lives of Christ followers.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

We should look for people who are going to push us toward God’s love and inspire us to do the deeds he wants us to accomplish. In this verse, he talks about “meeting together,” or in other words, fellowship.

Fellowship should be a big part of your life. God doesn’t just suggest it, he demands it. He knows that without a good group of people to continually “spur” you on, it’s easy to slip away from the path God has created for you.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

Again, God speaks of the importance of fellowship. If we surround ourselves with people who have opposite values, morals, or beliefs, it can be hard to stay true to our own.  We need to have a good balance of people we can be influenced by and people who we ourselves can have influence on.

So, how can we avoid spiritual mismatch?

Take a step back and look at your life. Are you doing the things God speaks of in Hebrews and 2 Corinthians? Are you letting the people in your life influence you for the better?

I challenge you to make some changes in your life. Surround yourself with the people who “match up” with how you want to live your life.

It makes a world of a difference and will make you the best version of yourself that you can be!

– Chelsea

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Super Sweet Valentine’s Day Nails

If you have a Valentine’s Day date planned with your honey, then you most likely have a cute outfit all planned out. You know what every cute Valentine’s Day outfit…

If you have a Valentine’s Day date planned with your honey, then you most likely have a cute outfit all planned out. You know what every cute Valentine’s Day outfit needs? Super cute nails. Keep reading to see a few of my favorite Valentine’s Day nail styles!nails 2

  1. Easy ombre: This look is so fun and unique! It combines all of the Valentine’s colors in one style: red, hot pink, and light pink.
  2. Gorgeous geometric: This style is for my girly gals! It combines soft, romantic pink with sassy glitter for a “reversed french tip” look. I think this one is the most “me.”
  3. Sweet and subtle: If you go for the more understated look, just paint a simple coat of glitter polish over your nails! It will give you a nice subtle sparkle, and is a totally simple way to add a little extra to your V-Day ensemble.

Have a fun Valentine’s Day, my pretties!

XOXO, Chels

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Loving Others When We Think We Can’t

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know…

“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John 4:7

Have you ever had that one person in your life that makes you think loving them is impossible?  If I were to guess, someone probably just popped into your mind.

When I think of loving others, I think of my family, my closest friends, etc. Who I don’t think about are the people that I find hardest to get along with, or the people I just don’t see eye-to-eye with at all

When the Bible talks about love, how many times have you heard God say, “do not love those who have done wrong to you” or “love only your closest friends and family?” … That’s right, you never have.

As followers of Christ, we are called to much more than loving only those who are easy to love.  We are called to love everyone, whether or not they’re our brothers and sisters in Christ, whether or not they’re slow or easy to anger, whether or not they’re forgiving or stubborn… Everyone.

This generation is full of fake love. We say “I love you” to almost anyone, even when how we feel toward them is the furthest away from love.

So, how then do we learn to naturally love others whole heartedly? There are multiple ways to do so, but here are three ways I put into practice daily.

Put others above yourself.

Romans 12:9-10 says, “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

Have you ever noticed that one person who is constantly putting themselves last and constantly building others up? Strive to be like them.

When we learn to put others first, our pride and stubbornness disappears. We learn to see things from their perspective and learn to love them gratefully and honestly, just like Jesus did.

Show outstanding love by serving others with no strings attached. 

1 John 3:16,18 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Anyone can say they’re going to do this and say they’re going to do that, but it takes a true person to put that plan into action.

When we follow through with our actions and learn to serve others with a humble heart, our love for Christ shines through.  When we love others with no strings attached, we learn the humility that God felt, shaping us to be more like him.

Work toward peace instead of waiting around for it.

Peace with someone doesn’t always come easily. Ephesians 4:2-3 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”

As followers of Christ, we need to work toward peace.  Reach out to forgive others, even when it feels impossible.  Swallow your pride and show what it truly means to forgive others as God forgives us.

Now, put your plan into action. What are you going to do differently this week to love others well? I encourage you to work toward peace by loving those in your life who are hardest to love!

– Chelsea

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Thanksgiving Love Letters

During this time of year, I always take a moment to think about the things I’m thankful for. I try to practice this often throughout the year, but the month…

During this time of year, I always take a moment to think about the things I’m thankful for. I try to practice this often throughout the year, but the month of Thanksgiving really gets me thinking about all the things, especially people, God has put in my life!

When you think about Thanksgiving, what do you think of?  Do you think of all the food you get to eat?  Or maybe the Macy’s Day Parade you get to watch with your family?  More importantly, we should use this holiday to genuinely reflect on all that we’re thankful for.  And this year, why don’t we actually act on it? I have decided to challenge myself this month. I want to spend some time writing thank you notes to the people in my life that I’m grateful for. I want to challenge you to do the same thing!

It may be your parents, your grandparents, your teacher, your Pastor, or a special friend that you would like to thank! Join me this month and take a little extra time to write a note that tells someone just how much they mean to you.  You may think it’s cheesy, but it’ll mean more to them than you know!

I think this little Thanksgiving project will bless you just as much as it blesses the receiver of your letter! I certainly hope to bless those that I’m thankful for!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!

Love, Chels

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Prayer Journaling 101

Prayer journaling is something that’s become a really big part of my spiritual life.  It’s something that brings me closer to God and has changed my perspective on prayer as…

Prayer journaling is something that’s become a really big part of my spiritual life.  It’s something that brings me closer to God and has changed my perspective on prayer as a whole.  There are so many things about prayer journaling that I want to tell you about so you can dive into prayer in a whole new way, too!

Chelsea Crockett - Prayer JournalFirst, you’ll need an empty journal with lots of blank pages that are ready to be filled!  I like to start by writing a list of different things I want to start praying for.  Whether it be a friend that’s going through something or a hard test that’s coming up, I write it all down.  Put on paper everything that’s on your mind and everything that needs prayer.

Now comes the best part.  Find a quiet spot where you can be alone with God, just you and him. You can either pick one of those things you put on your list to journal about or just spill out your heart to God, about anything and everything.  These are like your own little love notes to God.  There’s no wrong way to write your out your needs and wants to him.  My favorite part about writing my prayers down is being able to look back at them and see how God has answered my requests.  Watch how he is faithful and see how he answers your prayers when you need him to!

So, what do you think?  Are you going to try it out?  Now that I’ve started, I can’t stop! 🙂

Love, Chels

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3 Ways to Find Rest in God

Life can be stressful.  It can be full of setbacks and disappointments that are hard to overcome.  If you let these consume you, you can lose sight of God’s plan…

Life can be stressful.  It can be full of setbacks and disappointments that are hard to overcome.  If you let these consume you, you can lose sight of God’s plan for you and how much he loves and cares for you.  Here are three different ways you can find rest in God when life throws unexpected challenges at you!

  1. Find a quiet place to dive into the Word. One of the best ways to grow closer to God is by spending time with him and him alone.  When you give yourself time to read the truth about what God says, you can find rest in his promises!
  2. Pray continuously, not just when you feel like it. When I’m in constant communication with God, I automatically feel 10x closer to him.  When I’m simply thanking him for the things in my life, I feel at peace.  It puts into perspective how many blessings I have in my life whether I realize it or not!
  3. Play some good worship music. I don’t know about you, but music is one of the most calming things for me, especially worship music. I love listening to slow, calming music that puts me into a happy mood!  It might not work for you, but it’s worth a try!

I hope this advice helps you out next time you’re feeling down or far from God! 🙂

XOXO – Chels

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5 Types of Friends Every Girl Needs

My girlfriends are the people that hold me together.  They’re the people I run to when I’m having a good day, a bad day, or just want to kick back…

My girlfriends are the people that hold me together.  They’re the people I run to when I’m having a good day, a bad day, or just want to kick back and binge watch One Tree Hill with.  Although all of my BFF’s have a lot of things in common, they’re also extremely different, too!  Here are 5 types of friends every girl needs!

  1. The Best Friend.  Every girl needs that friend that is their go-to for everything.Chelsea Crockett - Best Friend  If all else fails, you know you have that one best friend that will always, always be there for you in any situation.  This friend is so important!
  2. The Mom Friend.  This friend is someone who won’t hesitate to correct you if you’re wrong.  She’ll make sure to take care of you when you need it, but to also help steer you down the right path.  (She also gives the best advice!)
  3. The Fun Friend.  Having a fun, adventurous friend that’s always down for anything and everything is the perfect person to pull you out of your comfort zone.  Maybe this friend will convince you to go skydiving or on that rollercoaster you’ve always chickened out of.  Let her tag you along on her crazy adventurous!
  4. The Sister Friend.  This friend is the one you go to for all your advice.  She’s the one who will sit and listen to you at any hour of the night!
  5. The Stick-Up-For-You Friend.  We all need that friend that will stick up for us when we can’t defend ourselves.  You know this friend will have your back in any situation!

Which friend is which in your own girl squad?  I know each type of friend is a good one to keep around! 🙂

XOXO, Chelsea

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5 Types of Breakups Every Girl Goes Through

All of us girls can agree on one thing: breakups are the worst.  No one enjoys breaking it off with someone or especially being broken up with!  Although they’re never…

All of us girls can agree on one thing: breakups are the worst.  No one enjoys breaking it off with someone or especially being broken up with!  Although they’re never fun, there are some breakups that are better than others.  Here are 5 different types of breakups that most of us have experienced at least once!

  1. The friendly breakup.  Aren’t these the best?  You know and agree that you both aren’t right for each other so you end on a civil note.  You can still have friendly conversations without it being awkward or hostile!   
  2. The heartbreaking breakup.  These breakups are the ones you never ever want to experience.  They’re the breakups that leave you with sleepless nights and lots of heartache.  If you’ve experienced this before, just know you’re not alone! 
  3. The angry breakup.  Having built up grudges and anger especially at the end of a breakup makes parting ways 10x harder.  I know for me, I hate when people are mad at me or when a situation leaves me boiling up inside!
  4. The one-sided breakup.  Depending on what side you’re on, you can either leave feeling relieved or extremely heartbroken.  It’s the worst when you’re more invested in someone than they are in you.  
  5. The end result breakup.  This is the breakup that you both expected no matter how much you wanted to deny it.  I think we’ve all experienced this at some point in our dating life.  You didn’t want to admit it, but you knew breaking up would be the end result!

Which breakup do you think is the worst?  One day we’ll have a relationship that won’t ever have to end in a breakup!

Love, Chelsea

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Life Lessons from 1 John 3:18

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” I love this verse from 1 John 3:18. It speaks about how we should love others….

“Let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” I love this verse from 1 John 3:18. It speaks about how we should love others.

How do you express love to others? Do you tell them or do you show them? As the old saying goes, actions speak louder than words, and that is exactly what this verse explains. Your actions and how you show people you love and care about them express a lot more than the words you say. Showing someone you love them may mean sacrificing your time to be with them. It may mean helping them out with something or going somewhere to support them. Showing others we love them is so important because it helps us build a relationship with them. I know I feel loved when my family and friends come to events that I am performing or speaking at, or when I am having a bad day and they come hang out with me.

So, let’s all try our best to show love to others with our actions, because there is no better way to show them you care.

XOXO, Chels

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Why You Should Learn to Love Yourself Before Loving Him

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so…

Relationships can be tricky.  At our age, we’re experiencing a crucial time of self-growth, love, and confidence.  When I first started my YouTube channel, I didn’t expect to grow so much, so quickly.  With that growth, I experienced both good and bad feedback, both nice and hurtful comments.  DespiteChelsea Crockett - Love Yourself Quote the negativity, I discovered who I was over the years and have learned a few reasons why you should love yourself before loving someone else!

Self-confidence is a wonderful thing to have, but it can be so hard to attain.  Whenever I feel down or start to doubt myself, I always turn to the Bible for advice.  On the subject of loving myself, I also refer to Psalm 139:14.  It says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful.”  This is a verse that you can always lean on for a little boost! 🙂

As far as the reasons why this factor is so important before starting a relationship, there are many!  I’ve learned from experience that if you are still trying to find who you are as a person, it will be 10x harder when you’re looking to someone else for reassurance.  When you love who you are and are 100% confident with your own values, morals, and beliefs, that’s when you should share your life with another person!  I promise you, you will be so much happier.

Learn to love yourself and you’ll be so happy you did!

Love, Chels

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Do’s & Don’ts of Long-Distance Dating

Long distance dating can be tough.  Being in a relationship can be hard enough as it is, but adding distance into the equation can make it ten times harder!  There…

Long distance dating can be tough.  Being in a relationship can be hard enough as it is, but adding distance into the equation can make it ten times harder!  There are certain things you and your boyfriend/girlfriend can do and not do to make your long-distance relationship easier and all around better!

  • DON’T feel the need to talk or text 24/7.  I get it, you miss one another, but being across the country from each other doesn’t mean you need to keep tabs on him/her all the time.  Long-distance relationships need a lot of trust and this helps build that!  Chelsea Crockett - Long Distance Dating 
  • DO make an effort.  The worst feeling is when you feel like you’re putting in more than you’re getting out.  Make sure you’re both making an equal amount of effort!
  • DO keep a positive attitude.  Positivity is everything!  If you really want it to work, don’t doubt and complain about your situation.  Think about the good!
  • DON’T ignore your problems.  Just because you can’t talk in person doesn’t mean you shouldn’t bring up problems or issues.  It’s important to keep a healthy and open relationship whether it’s face-to-face or not. 
  • DO give each other reassurance.  Reassurance is so important when you’re dating someone far away from you.  Knowing that each other is 100% invested and willing to make the relationship work will help through the good and bad times.

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, share with me some tips below on how you make it work!

Love, Chelsea

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My Past Was Made Clean By My King

Does the thought ever cross your mind that you have made so many mistakes and have sinned so much that you don’t feel like you deserve God’s love? We should…

Does the thought ever cross your mind that you have made so many mistakes and have sinned so much that you don’t feel like you deserve God’s love? We should never feel like that. It doesn’t matter what we say, what we do, what mistakes we make, God still loves us unconditionally.kid

My past was made clean by my King. Any mistake or sin that I made in the past has been washed away. If you ask God to forgive you, He does and doesn’t look back. It doesn’t matter how long or how often you have sinned, because we ALL sin and fall short of what God expects of us. But no matter how many times we fall down, He picks us back up and says that our past has been forgiven. We can move forward knowing that our sin and shame is behind us and we have a clean slate.

In our lives, we will all have times when we feel like we need a fresh start. God makes your past clean and gives you a renewed sence of purpose and a bright future. If you ever feel like you don’t deserve His love or forgiveness, just remember that He created you and loves you unconditionally. Your past can be made clean by your King.

XOXO, Chels

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Dating Tips to Defy Distance

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in…

If you are in a long distance relationship like me, you know how hard and emotionally rough it can be. Relationships are already a lot of work, so add in distance and you’ve really got a challenge! I strive to be the best girlfriend I can be, even from a thousand miles away. Here are some of my tips on how to keep your relationship strong despite the distance.

  1. Give him your full attention: When you are on the phone with him or skyping, get rid of distractions. You want him to know that when you are talking to him that he has all of your attention. You want to make the most of the little time you have together.FullSizeRender (34)
  2. Be the “friend” in girlfriend: Be his best friend! Be the one who they can talk to and share all of their hopes, dreams, and fears. Ask him how his day went, tell him the funny parts of your day, and just be a friend! Things don’t have to be romantic all the time.
  3. Don’t sweat the small stuff: Don’t focus on the negative and don’t pick fights. When you focus on the negative, all you will see is negative!
  4. Love something he loves: Does your boyfriend like football or a certain band? Ask him about how his favorite team is doing or download some of the band’s music and discuss it with him when you talk to him next. Watch an episode of his favorite tv show with him over skype. By sharing in the things he loves, you are becoming closer and you are showing him how much you care!
  5. Don’t text him allllll the time: A few texts during the day is just fine. You both understand that you are busy, and feeling like you have to constantly keep texting each other can make you feel a little stressed. Wait until the end of the day to catch up on everything, it will give you more to talk about when you are together or when you have his undivided attention. Plus, he needs his space and you need yours!

Long distance relationship-ers…I’m with you! I feel your pain! You are not alone. We got this. J

XOXO, Chels

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