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How to Handle Jealousy in your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of…

When you are in a relationship, are you a jealous person? Meaning, when you see your dude talking to another girl in class, does it make you feel possessive of him and maybe a bit mad at the other girl for talking to him? He’s yours after all, right? Wrong. Ladies, we need to keep our jealousy in check. Feeling a little jealousy is natural, but snooping his Instagram and checking his texts when he isn’t looking is NOT. That could ruin your relationship, plus it is just exhausting worrying about him talking to other girls. Here are 4 ways to help you become less of a jealous person.jealousy

  1. Be honest: Let your boyfriend know you that you have been feeling jealous. Open up to him! In healthy relationships, you two are a team! He should be open to hearing what is on your mind, and he should want to help you overcome these feelings and work with you on it.
  2. Ask friends for advice: Odds are, they have felt some jealousy themselves. Your gal pals will know how to be supportive and lend an ear to hear you out. They may even have some tips on what helped them overcome jealousy.
  3. Take a step back: Step back and look at your relationship. If time goes by and your feelings of jealousy don’t ease, your boyfriend might be the culprit. He may be acting certain ways that he shouldn’t with girls that make you suspicious or jealous. Your feelings of jealousy might not be your doing! Look at your relationship from another perspective and be honest with yourself on whether your relationship is still healthy and positive.
  4. Stop snooping: As girls, we are great social media stalkers. We can find out anything! But, once you start social media snooping on your bf, it is hard to stop. Stop playing detective! It isn’t healthy! You should be able to trust him and his behaviors and interactions on social media. If not? See step 3.

Jealousy is not a fun feeling! I hope this helps you overcome your jealousy, once you do you will feel so free!

XOXO, Chels

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Lessons on Love from Buddy the Elf

Let’s face it. We have all secretly wanted to try maple syrup on our spaghetti, and it is all because of Buddy the Elf. “Elf” may be one of my…

Let’s face it. We have all secretly wanted to try maple syrup on our spaghetti, and it is all because of Buddy the Elf. “Elf” may be one of my all-time favorite Christmas movies. And, although he may not give the best food advice, Buddy the Elf is actually pretty smart when it comes to love. Here are a few things the big guy in green tights has taught us about how to love someone.

  1. Go for it!: Don’t be scared to give love a try.
  2. Take risks: Now, that doesn’t mean eating gum off of a NYC subway railing. 😉tumblr_mc9renKUTF1rhucoqo1_500
  3. Plan fun outings with your crush: How much fun is it to jam-pack every Christmas related activity you can think of into your weekend? Do it Buddy the Elf style and plan to make snow angels for 2 hours, go ice skating, then eat a whole roll of Tollhouse cookie dough as fast as they could, and then snuggle.
  4. Stay positive: Buddy shows us that a smile can solve any problem. In fact, smiling is his favorite. And when you smile, it makes people around you feel the love.
  5. Give them your attention: Show someone you love them by giving them your undivided attention, and by asking them about themselves. It will make them feel like you are interested in them and who they are! Even questions like “what’s your favorite color” are Buddy approved. 😉

See? Buddy the Elf is full of good love advice! Now if you will excuse me, I am going to go curl up with a bowl of spaghetti and maple syrup and watch me some Elf.

XOXO, Chels

 

 

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Christmas Gifts for your Guy

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear,…

Some of my close girl friends are in a tizzy right now. They are panicking because they have no idea what to get their dudes for Christmas! Have no fear, Chels is here! I have 3 gifts that will warm any boy’s heart.

  1. 1 month of planned date nights: You know that horrible conversation you have with your BF before date night? The one that goes “what do you want to do?” “I don’t know…what do you want to do?” This gift saves you that convo! Have a bunch of date ideas written out on slips of paper, then fold them up and put them in a jar. This is a gift you will both enjoy!7-candy-bar-saying-ideas
  2. His favorite candy or a candy card: The way to a boy’s heart is food. Get him a mixture of his favorite candies all wrapped up super cute, or make him a creative card using candy like this one! He will laugh at your “sweetness”. 😉
  3. I like you because…”: Boys love to be complimented, just like girls! Maybe even more! They love to hear all the things you like about them. It lets them know how much you value them and appreciate them. Write things you like about them on slips of paper and put them in a jar for him to read when he needs a little pick-me-up. You can write anything you want, he will appreciate your thoughtfulness. It can be something as small as “you have the cutest smile”.

Hopefully I have helped you come up with a great gift idea for your handsome hunk!

XOXO, Chels

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4 Signs of a Real Gentlemen

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys at my school” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend….

I don’t know how many times I have heard the phrase “there are no good boys at my school” when girls are talking about why they don’t have a boyfriend. And sometimes, that really can seem like the truth! In my age group, there seems to be a lack of gentlemen, and finding a quality guy can feel like finding a needle in a haystack. Don’t lose heart! There is a guy out there for you that will treat you like a lady. Here are the signs that you have found a true gentlemen.

  1. He treats the women in his life with respect: Whether it is his mother, sister, or other friends that are girls, a boy should respect and treat them with dignity. He does this by listening to them when they talk and by affirming and defending them. I was always told to watch how a boy treats his mother, because that is a sign of the way he will treat his girlfriend.real-men
  2. He values you: A gentlemen will lift you up, not tear you down. He will make sure you know how valuable you are!
  3. He is confident without being cocky: No one likes being with a guy that is full of himself. A gentlemen is humble, and he also seeks guidance from people that are older and wiser than him, aka he is not a know-it-all!
  4. He is smart with money: This one isn’t as big of a deal in high school, but knowing how to wisely handle money is a biiiiiiig deal as you get older! So, having a guy who knows how to save money and doesn’t blow it all the second he gets it.

Finding a true gentlemen may be hard, but it is worth the wait! You are worth it.

XOXO, Chels

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How You Know You’re Finally Over “Him”

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you…

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you realize that you are completely and utterly over him and that you have come out of the ordeal on top. You are wiser and so much stronger! Here are 5 things you realize when you are completely over your ex.

1.    You realize that the time you spent together was not wasted. You earned a degree in “This is what I DON’T want in a guy!”

2.    You now have time for YOU. No need to worry about him or what he is doing, you can focus on you!

3.    Hey, you know what? Being single rocks! And now you can see that. You can go out with friends! You can stay in bed and watch Netflix! WOOO!

4.    You appreciate the lessons you learned from him. Hey, he might have broken your heart, but he taught you how to be a better person. And now you can appreciate that.

5.    You don’t stalk him on social media any more. Yes, he has a new girlfriend. And yes, you are kind of sort of curious what he is up to. But you know what? You are glad he is happy, because you are too.

You keep doing you!

XOXO, Chels

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Single and Happy

Who says you have to have a boyfriend to make you happy? So many girls find their self-worth and happiness through the guys they date. I want to tell you…

Who says you have to have a boyfriend to make you happy? So many girls find their self-worth and happiness through the guys they date. I want to tell you that the single life is a GOOD life! Just because you don’t have a boy toy doesn’t mean you aren’t pretty or likeable, it just means God has bigger plans for you! Here are a few ways to be happily single.

  1. Enjoy your independence: When you have a boyfriend you aren’t just thinking of yourself anymore because your actions impact both of you. When you are single, you have so much freedom! Want to go out with friends Friday night? DO it! You won’t have a boyfriend competing for your attention! Enjoy this time with your girlfriends, because before long you will all be going off to college and growing apart as you grow up.FullSizeRender (8)
  2. Figure YOU out: These teenage years are crucial for us teenage girls! These are the years where we are figuring out who we are and what we are all about. Sometimes having a boyfriend can cause us to put our thoughts/feelings on the back burner and focus more on his. Be confident and sure of yourself and who you are!
  3. Trust God’s timing: I don’t stress about being single because I know that it is just God preparing the perfect guy for me. Plus, he is preparing ME for the perfect guy! You may feel ready to meet your prince charming, but God may have other plans. Don’t stress, just enjoy life where God has you. The perfect guy will come along when you least expect it. 

So, if you are single, just enjoy it! I know I do!

XOXO, Chels

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10 Signs You’re Head Over Heels

Love makes us do silly things, am I right? We say things, do things, and even try things we never imagined we would! Here are 10 signs you are head…

Love makes us do silly things, am I right? We say things, do things, and even try things we never imagined we would! Here are 10 signs you are head over heels, goo goo gaga, crazy about a guy!

1.  You actually start paying attention to sports so that you can converse with him. You want to impress him and show you what a sports-savvy girl you are!

2. You let him have the last bite of your favorite dessert. And you did it with a smile on your face!

3. You keep it cool on social media. When you were younger and you got a boyfriend you gushed and bragged to all your friends, but now you know that relationships are between 2 people, not between 500 of your Facebook friends AND you. Yes, the occasional picture of you two together is to be expected, but you aren’t posting about him on the daily.

4. You start shopping for him more than you shop for yourself.

5. Every floor is a dance floor, even the Walmart isle! When you hear your favorite song you break out in dance together.falling-in-love-600x450

6. You show him you like him, even when he smells weird. What I mean is, after you guys work out or are outside doing things and you are both smelly and sweaty, you still give him a big ‘ole bear hug. Showing him that you like him even when he is a slippery sweaty mess means the world!

7. You aren’t afraid to ugly cry in front of him.

8. You spend 6 hours baking his favorite cupcakes (which is 6 hours you should have been doing homework) because you know he will be over the moon when he finds out you baked them just for him.  

9. You do everything you can to impress his family, because you know that the way to your boy’s heart is by being nice to his momma.

10. You listen to and laugh at alllllll of his bad jokes. And then tell him that he is just the funniest guy on the planet!

Does any of this sound like you? If so, you’ve got it bad girlfriend!

XOXO, Chels

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Happy Couple Habits

If you are in a relationship of have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few easy methods that help…

If you are in a relationship of have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few easy methods that help them, well, stay happy! These little tidbits of advice are things that I have learned and what my friends have learned through the wonderful world of dating.

  1. Smile when you see them: It feels amazing to walk into the room and immediately see your crush’s face light up. It makes you feel so special! Even if you aren’t particularly thrilled to see your man friend, at least act happy to see them! This will set a happy mood for the two of you.happy-couple-valentines-day
  2. Randomly text them: A lot of us are busy throughout the day, so texting someone constantly just isn’t an option. But, a cute random text every once in a while can really brighten their day and them appreciate you so much.
  3. Share your day with them: Every day, take a few minutes to share your days with each other. Tell them your concerns, your goals, your hopes and your frustrations! It will really strengthen your relationship.
  4. Tell them thanks: For everything! Did they hold the door for you? Thank them. Cook you dinner? Thank them. Help you out with homework? Thank them.
  5. Complement the socks off of them: A little complement can go a long way! You know when your guy tells you he likes the way you are wearing your hair, and it makes you smile from ear to ear because you feel valued and treasured? He needs the same feeling from you! By building each other up, you are creating a happy environment!

There are so many more ways to make your relationship a happy one, you just have to be willing to work at it!

XOXO, Chels

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Dear Future Husband…

Have you ever made a “Future Husband” list? A list of all of the qualities and quirks you want your future husband to have? I know I have. During a…

Have you ever made a “Future Husband” list? A list of all of the qualities and quirks you want your future husband to have? I know I have. During a church retreat, one of our small group activities was to make a list of qualities you hope your future spouse to have. They said to keep these items on the list in mind when you are dating someone to see if they are future husband material! Here is a guide to making your very own “future husband list”.

  1. Keep your values in mind: The very first item on my list is “has to be a Jesus lover” because that is something I am absolutely positive my future husband will have to be. A few other good ones are “respects my morals”, “respects me and my family”, “is honest”, qualities like that.tumblr_mat9ehtV5R1r9k0q3o1_500_large
  2. Think of common interests: Do you like to travel? Then you want to marry someone who does too, or your family vacations will be miserable. Do you like to lead an active lifestyle? Then you might want to add “values fitness and a healthy lifestyle” to your list.
  3. Add in a few fun ones: I remember when I made a list when I was in middle school “blonde hair and blue eyes” was an item on my list! Have fun with some of the items! For instance, “has to be a pro snowboarder” miiiiight be on my list ;).

Have fun making your list, but you also need to take it seriously. Like I said, you can use your list as a test to see if the dude you are dating is hubby material. Also, when you are married some day it will be fun to look back at what qualities you wanted your future husband to have when you were a teenager and to see how many of those qualities your hubby has!

Happy listing!

XOXO, Chels

 

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Verses to Pray for your Relationship

When you are dating someone, it is important for Christ to be the center of that relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are in middle school, high school, college or…

When you are dating someone, it is important for Christ to be the center of that relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are in middle school, high school, college or beyond, having a Christ-centered relationship is super important. Here are a few verses to pray to strengthen your relationship, protect it, and to give you hope for the future.

1 Corinthians 12: 4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1-Corinthians-13-4-8

Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, baring with one another in love.

John 15:12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.

1 John 3:18 Let us not love with words or tongue, but with actions and in truth. (AKA, actions speak louder than words!)

James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry.

Proverbs 14:29 The one who is slow to anger has great understanding, but the one who has a quick temper exalts folly.

1 Corinthians 13:5 [Love] keeps no record of wrongs.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as your are doing.

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I hope that these verses help encourage and strengthen your relationship! Like I said earlier, keeping Christ the center of your relationship is crucial if you want the relationship to succeed!

XOXO, Chels

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What Turns Guys Away…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I…

Guys are so different from girls! Have you ever wondered what turns guys away? I asked two of my guy friends for some advice on what turns guys away. I asked these same fellas on what guys look for in girls, so I decided to bring them back! According to them, things that turn guys away are:

  1. Needy/clinginess:

The boys said that when girls are clingy and needy that it pushes them away! They say that they love hanging out with you, but they also like space! Just remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder!

1. Playing dumb:

The guys say that they really don’t like when girls play dumb. They like when a girl can think for themselves and is intelligent! Don’t act like you don’t know something just to get a guy’s attention, show him how smart you are! It will impress them!

2. Drama Queen:

The guy’s opinion? “Save the drama for your momma”! There is nothing a guy despises more than drama! Don’t be a drama queen!

Doesn’t stick up for herself:

The boys say that they don’t like when a girl compromises her beliefs just to follow what everyone else is doing. Don’t do something just because everyone else is doing it! Do what you KNOW is right!

 

Hope you enjoyed taking a dive through the brain of a boy!

XOXO, Chels

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4 Ways to Pray for your Future Husband

Want to know the best possible thing you could do for your future husband? Pray for him. You may not meet him for many years, or you may already know…

Want to know the best possible thing you could do for your future husband? Pray for him. You may not meet him for many years, or you may already know him, but whatever the case, it is really important to keep him in your prayers. Wouldn’t you like to think that he is praying for you, too? Here are some ways that you can pray for your future husband to encourage and strengthen him, wherever he may be, because he is the future head of your house and the future father of your children. He needs some prayer, ladies!

  1. Pray for his relationship with God. Like I said, he is the future head of your house and father to your children, so you want a strong man of God in the position of husband.tumblr_m4c1guYyY81rvjm9wo1_500
  2. Pray for your husband to make wise choices. Pray that he is being smart with the decisions he makes right now in his teen years and that he is wise with where and who he spends his time with.
  3. Pray that he as the power to resist temptations, whatever they may be. At this time in our lives, there is a lot of temptations! Pray that he resists them now and throughout his young adulthood so that when he meets you he is wise and pure.
  4. Pray for him to pray for you! How would it be to have your future husband out there praying for you right this second? Praying for all of the things that you pray for him about? How encouraging!

It is SO important to pray for your future hubbies, ladies! Pray for him and see how God will bless your relationship when you finally meet.

XOXO, Chels

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Dating in the 21st Century: What’s Your Opinion?

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand,…

Okay, so picture this. A boy pulls up to your house, walks up your sidewalk, and knocks on your door. Your dad answers the door, the boy shakes his hand, and you greet him with a smile. You take his arm and walk to his car, where he opens the door for you. He takes you to a nice restaurant, where you two have a lovely conversation about your likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams. After the meal, he pays the bill and takes you home, where he walks you to the door and you part with a warm smile and a “goodnight.” This routine is repeated a few times and may lead to courtship, and then possibly marriage. Does this scenario sound totally foreign to you or like something out of an old movie? This is what your grandparents called dating.download (1)

Isn’t it crazy how drastically the action of dating has morphed over the years? Now dating is considered texting someone at all hours of the day, and making them your “Man Crush Monday”, and posting cute pictures of you two on Instagram. Staying in and watching movies is a typical date, and going to nice dinners is reserved for birthdays or your “six month anniversary”. We put so much attention on “relationship statuses” on Facebook and Twitter “subtweets”. If we said any of these phrases to our grandparents, they would have no idea what we were talking about, and probably think you were talking in some kind of secret code or language. So, I am curious, what do you wish was different about our dating culture? Do you long for the dates like the one above, or do you enjoy our version of dating?

I know that sometimes I get frustrated with society’s definition of dating, and the expectations that is put on it. Sometimes, society’s view seems so shallow, does it not? Here is what I think, straight up and to the point: Don’t fall into the trap of conforming to any set standard just because it is what society says you should do. We need to set our own relationship standards based on something that doesn’t trend or move, and that is the standards that God has set. Don’t let your views be compromised by popular opinion.

So, like I said, I am curious to hear your point of view. Comment below and tell me your thoughts, because I want to know what you think!

XOXO, Chels

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What Guys Look For In Girls!

Have you ever wondered what goes on in a guy’s brain? Well, I picked apart the brains of a few of my guy friends, and I have some answers to…

Have you ever wondered what goes on in a guy’s brain? Well, I picked apart the brains of a few of my guy friends, and I have some answers to a very important question: What do guys look for in girls? Want to know? Read on!

1. She has morals and sticks to them.

The boys said that a girl who has a sense of right and wrong and knows what she stands for. They like a girl that sticks to her faith and what she believes in.

2. She has Inner beauty.6122149462958582_6bIj0GJ8_f

The boys say that a girl who has a beautiful, genuine personality is the most attractive girl of all. They told me that a girl who has a great personality is more fun to be around! They also make you feel good when you are with them and they make you want to be a better person.

3. She gives you space and freedom.

The guys said that they love a girl that can give them some space! They like a girl that can trust them and let them chill with their friends and give them space. Needy girls are a no-no according to them! They also say that they like girls who are flexible with plans and go with the flow.

4. She is faithful and doesn’t flirt with other guys.

The boys told me that the most annoying thing that a girl can do is to flirt with other boys while they are dating. They told me that “If you are in a relationship, then don’t flirt with other guys! Duh!”

5.She takes care of herself.

This is the last piece of insight the boys gave me. They said that they like a girl that knows how to take care of herself! They like a girl that can dress up for a date, but can also dress down when hanging out and watching movies. They like a girl that can feel confident about themselves!

 

I hope that this info gives you a little insight into the male mind!

XOXO, Chels

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What To Look For In a Boy

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to…

Do you ever wonder what to look for in a boyfriend? Well have no fear, Chelsea the love doctor is here! Ill give you a few tips on what to look for in order to find a quality boy. J

  1. You have to be compatible! Duh! If he is super sporty and you totally despise all forms of physical activity as well as any sport on the planet, then you might not be such a great match. Ya know what I’m sayin? You have got to have similar likes and dislikes or else you will have nothing to talk about!
  2. Find someone who is easy to talk to. The best feeling in the world is having someone you can share everything with. It is awesome knowing that ifchelsea crockett you have a bad day, there is someone there who can cheer you up.
  3. Find someone who shares the same beliefs and morals as you. You get along so much better with people who share the same ideas about life as you  because they understand why you believe what you do and why you live the way you live.
  4. Find someone you can be yourself around. Find someone who likes you for you! When you can totally be yourself around someone and know that they will like you no matter what you do, then you know that you have found a keeper!

Any boy would be crazy lucky to have you, beautiful lady!

XOXO, Chels

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How To Get Over Your Ex

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways…

Some ex’s are just tough to get over. Sometimes you can even be tempted to go back to go to them! Don’t fall for that trap! Here are some ways to get over those tricky ex’s.

1. Exercise the blues away

Exercise is a great way to boost your endorphins and get out of your depressed state! When you are happy, you aren’t feeling down and won’t be so tempted to go back to your ex! Just 10 minutes of moderate exercise is enough to improve your mood. Not only does exercise boost your mood, exercise helps your body look and feel better, which boosts your self confidence! When you are happier and more self confident, you are in the right mindset to leave your past relationship in the dust and explore new horizons!

2. Take time to rebuild your relationship with yourself and God

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A lot of times, when you are in a relationship you often put the other person’s needs and wants above your own. Sometimes this can cause you to lose a little bit of yourself. That is no bueno! Often when your relationship comes to an end, you may find it difficult to remember the things that you enjoyed or liked to do because you were so wrapped up in what HE wanted. Pray about it. Lose yourself in Jesus and become so close to Him that all of your relationship blunders will fade into the past. Rebuilding your relationship with yourself and God is the first step to moving on

3. Find a new hobby

Now that you are single and free, find something that you love to do! You may have pushed aside a hobby of yours while you were in a relationship, but now that you are single you are free to do as you please! Immersing yourself in a hobby will not only keep your mind off of your ex, but it will also bring you joy! Pick up painting or photography or even reading! Anything you like!

Kick those ex’s to the curb, ladies! Show ‘em you are strong and resilient.

XOXO, Chels

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