Chelsea Crockett

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Signs He May Not Be the One

If you’re like me, you look for signs from time to time. Maybe you’re looking for a sign to take that one job you’ve been debating over. Or maybe you’re…

If you’re like me, you look for signs from time to time. Maybe you’re looking for a sign to take that one job you’ve been debating over. Or maybe you’re waiting for a sign to accept that college offer you’ve been waiting to commit to.

There are signs all over, and depending on your situation, people look for different signs for different things. Going through life, I’ve had so many of my friends be in relationships they shouldn’t have been in at all. They’d always tell me they’re waiting for that one sign to really show them they should break things off.

These signs are important and are usually from God himself. The Bible has advice and guidance on what you should be looking for in your future husband, you just have to look for it.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Is your boyfriend or girlfriend not only supporting your relationship with the Lord, but pushing you closer to him, as well? Your significant other’s main priority should be keeping you accountable and encouraging you to pursue the Lord.

If you notice your boyfriend or girlfriend tearing down your faith, pulling you away from God, teasing your relationship with the Lord, etc., run the other way! We become like the people we surround ourselves with, especially those we spend a large amount of time with.

1 John 3:18 says, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

Do your significant other’s words line up with their actions? Are they constantly making promises they can’t keep? Loving solely with words leads to unfulfilled promises, but loving with truthful actions leads to genuine, long-lasting love.

As they say, actions always speak louder than words. If you’re constantly being disappointed by commitments not being met, then maybe this is the sign you’ve been looking for.

Proverbs 31:10-11 says, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.

Do you feel full support and confidence from your current partner? Do you feel like they have your back no matter what? The Bible says a husband should have full confidence in his wife, lacking nothing of value. Your significant other should be your #1 fan, rooting for your accomplishments and picking you back up when you fail.

Lastly, if you’re looking for signs to breakup, odds are you probably shouldn’t be in that relationship anyways. Trust your gut instinct, and ask God for the strength and guidance for his will to be done. When it comes to wrong relationships, the grass really is always greener on the other side. Know what you deserve and find the person God intended for you to be with!

– Chelsea

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How to Love Your Husband Before You Have One

Growing up, I was always told to pray for the things I wanted from God. I often found myself praying for relationships or my “prince charming” moment time and time…

Growing up, I was always told to pray for the things I wanted from God. I often found myself praying for relationships or my “prince charming” moment time and time again.

At the time, this was probably more surface-leveled than I realized. It wasn’t until I got a little bit older to realize that there’s actually so much power in praying for your future husband or wife!

You may be thinking “how do I pray for someone I’ve never met?” And I get it, it might sound silly at first. But praying for the person you will one day be married to and building a family with is so important and powerful!

I encourage you to begin a prayer journal if you never have before. Write down the things you desire for your future husband. Do you want him to be the leader of your household? Keep things positive? Is patient? Kind? Understanding? Your list can start to get long! Then, form them into a prayer.

Devote at least one time a week to pray for your future husband. This one time a week can be so meaningful and powerful.

Mark 11:24 says, “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”

The Bible promises us that if we pray intently for something, we’ll receive it, but we must believe in what we are praying for. God requires us to surrender our doubts and hesitations and depend on faith. When your faith is strong, God delivers and fulfills the promises of the Bible.

One of the coolest parts about praying for your future husband is the ability to go back and look at what you’ve prayed for. You can one day show your husband those prayers that you so intentionally prayed for. It creates such an amazing bond between you and the man you’ve been praying for for so long.

Another thing you get to do is prepare yourself for marriage one day. The choices we make now set us down the path toward our futures, and the Bible tells us how to live in order to be the person he wants us to be.

In Proverbs 31:26,30, it says, “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue… Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

When we are God-fearing, wise, and kind, we become more like Christ. When we are obedient to the Word of God, we are being shaped into the woman God intended for us to be. We prepare ourselves for the future starting now, by obedience!

Praying for your husband and preparing yourself for God’s plan are two things you can start doing now. God gives us the ability to love our husbands before even knowing them, which is an amazing and powerful thing, so take advantage of it!

– Chelsea

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5 New Year’s Resolutions to Bring You Closer to God

Ahhhh yes, it’s that time of year for all of us to make our wonderful New Year’s resolutions! Whether you write them down or not, I think we all come…

Ahhhh yes, it’s that time of year for all of us to make our wonderful New Year’s resolutions! Whether you write them down or not, I think we all come up with a few changes we want to make in the new year.

This year, I wanted to encourage you to make a few resolutions that benefit your relationship with the Lord. They don’t have to be complicated or dramatic, but altering just a few small things in your daily routine can make the world of a difference.

  1. Daily quiet times.

Spending just a few moments with God in the morning starts your day in the best way possible. There are so many apps and different plans you can download to keep yourself accountable and guide you through each day. These ten or so minutes are so easy to make time for, and they create a firm foundation for your faith.

  1. Begin and end your day with prayer.

Before you get out of bed in the morning and before you lay your head down at night, pray, pray, pray. Prayer is so powerful, and starting and ending your day with talking to God is the best thing you can do. It’s something so simple that can be so beneficial!

  1. Find a home church that aids in your spiritual growth.

Finding a church that you can really plug into is so important. When you choose one church instead of bouncing around from service to service each week, you can build fellowship and involve yourself deeply into the church community.

Hebrews 10:24-25 says, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Deciding on a church to fully commit and devote your time to gives you the sense of belonging and fellowship that God desires for us!

  1. Keep the good people around you, and distance yourself from those that hinder you.

Sometimes it’s okay to put yourself first if those around you are providing a barrier between you and the Lord. Friendship is an amazing thing, but these relationships are not always beneficial. Our friendships should be encouraging, kind, forgiving, and most importantly, supportive of your faith and relationship with God. If the people around you are hindering your faith, I urge you to take a step back and evaluate whether or not that relationship is worth it.

  1. Adapt an attitude of gratitude.

If there’s one thing I live by, it’s to choose gratitude every single time. In almost every situation you’ll encounter throughout the year, you can choose to be negative or choose to approach obstacles with positivity. This takes a conscious effort and is not always easy, but will strengthen your relationship with God. Continue sending your praises up to him even in the darkest of times.

I encourage you to stick to these five resolutions and see how it benefits you. If you struggle with consistency, try it for at least a week or month before giving up! Ask God for encouragement, trust, and guidance to help bloom your relationship into something greater than it’s ever been before.

– Chelsea

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Prompts for Prayer Journaling

Prayer journaling is one of my favorite things to do no matter what mood I’m in. Am I feeling thankful? I prayer journal. Am I feeling upset or looking for…

Prayer journaling is one of my favorite things to do no matter what mood I’m in. Am I feeling thankful? I prayer journal. Am I feeling upset or looking for guidance? I prayer journal! There is more power in this simple act than you realize. It can reveal things to you that you never saw before!

Write a list of blessings, big or small, that you want to thank God for.

If you don’t know what to journal about, write about all the good things in your life! No matter how big or small, think of the things you’re grateful for. Pointing out the good in your life not only gives the praise to God but will boost your mood and gratitude!

Take a deep look at your heart. What has been weighing heavily on it recently?

It can be so therapeutic to write things down and get them off your chest. Sometimes writing things down makes them feel more real, which could be the first step in forgiving yourself and moving on. I know for me, simply writing out my guilt and shame for me and God’s eyes only gives me a sense of relief. You may be experiencing feelings of anxiety or sadness, and writing them down can help you understand yourself and what you’re going through.

In what areas of your life have you been seeking guidance in? Write them down and ask God to lead you.

If there’s one thing that God does perfectly, it’s leading us down the path he has planned for us. I like asking God for guidance in most situations in my life, to make sure I’m doing what he knows is best. If you listen to God’s still small voice, he can help you with what may seem like even the smallest of decisions.

Write a list of things you would like to see happen in the new year.

2020 is right around the corner and you know what that means… making those infamous resolutions lists we all try to stick to! This year, make your list in your prayer journal so you can be in prayer over them. Maybe you want to see a change happen in your relationship or a career shift you’ve been waiting for, write them down and pray over them!

Have you been feeling fearful or worrisome lately? Write down things your anxious about and ask God for peace. 

The Bible tells us not to be anxious over anything, but by prayer, give our requests to God. This is just what prayer journaling is. We can write down each fear or worry that fills our mind and give them to God. He wants us to lay them at the foot of the cross so we can be filled with joy and peace!

Try out these different prompts and start filling that journal! It’s extremely therapeutic and will bring you closer to God each day.

– Chelsea

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Must-Have Items for Pursuing the Lord

You can develop a relationship with the Lord starting any time, any day. Building a relationship with God is one of the most amazing things that he desires for each…

You can develop a relationship with the Lord starting any time, any day. Building a relationship with God is one of the most amazing things that he desires for each and every one of us.

As I began diving deeper and deeper into my walk with God, I would try different books, journals, devotionals, etc. that would help me do so. Through all the different things I collected, I found that some items aided in my relationship with God tremendously and wanted to share them with you!

A Bible.

First and foremost, you’ll need a Bible that suits your style. For me, I like journaling Bibles where I can write little notes and comments next to certain verses. It helps me remember what I’ve read and allows me to meditate on it. There are also study Bibles that provide further information on certain topics, stories, verses, etc. that can help clarify what it means!

With all of the different types of Bibles, you can find one that is easiest for you to read and understand. There are lots of styles of Bibles out there, so pick the version and type that will work best for you!

A prayer journal.

Prayer journals give you a place to write down anything you may be feeling and refer back to it in the future. I prayer journal on all occasions, when I’m feeling thankful, sad, frustrated, lost… Writing out my feelings is not only therapeutic, but helps me collect my thoughts and calm me down. My favorite thing to do is to go back and read what I’ve written in the past and see what God has done in my life!

A daily devotional.

Having a set daily devotional will encourage you to stay on track as well as give you a dose of God’s word every single day! I realized it gave me a sense of accountability to make sure I spent even as little as five minutes with God. Figure out what time of the day works best for your schedule and stick with it! I suggest first thing in the morning to start your day off on the right foot. Set your alarm for 10-20 minutes earlier than you normally would, and see how that small amount of time can impact your day and attitude!

Topic-specific books. 

As you grow in your relationship with the Lord, you may begin having questions and curiosities about certain parts of the Bible. It’s completely normal to start wondering beyond the surface level. There are many books that will help you dive deeper into whatever topic you may be curious about! Jump in and discover all there is to know about God and his Word.

I encourage you to buy these items and get on track for an amazing relationship with God. We are fortunate enough to have so many resources to grow closer to him, so take advantage of them and start today! 🙂

– Chelsea

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Single and Not Ready to Mingle?

Society loves to tell us that we’re single for a reason. “Oh, do you not like dating?” “Have you not found anyone you’re interested in?” “Did your last relationship go…

Society loves to tell us that we’re single for a reason. “Oh, do you not like dating?” “Have you not found anyone you’re interested in?” “Did your last relationship go badly?”

When I was younger, I was asked these questions every once in a while when I wasn’t in a relationship. It was like if I remained single people made it seem like something was wrong with me or that there had to be a reason behind it. Can you relate?

This stigma around singleness that society has created can oftentimes pressure us into something we’re not ready for or a relationship we should’ve never gotten involved in in the first place.

I remember the parts of singleness that you don’t get to experience when you’re married, dating, etc. You get to take advantage of the abundance of alone time with God that we so often forget we even have in the first place!

Your single days are your days to focus solely on yourself and on God. You have all the free time in the world to spend in the Word, doing daily devotionals, etc. It’s a chance to focus on bettering yourself and figuring out where God is leading you next in your life.

If you’re single and not ready to mingle, let me be the first to tell you: that’s OKAY! God wants us devoted to him, spending time with him, and making him our priority above all else.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven…” If you’re in one of your seasons of singleness, do what YOU want to do and follow the path God wants you to. When you’re leaving your season of singleness, you’ll know when it’s right and that God is guiding you in that direction.

Maybe your season is over and you’re happily in a relationship. Maybe your season will end months, or even years from now, when you finally meet the right person. However long your season of singleness is, know that it’s okay no matter how long it lasts. Thankfully we have a God that fills our every need and desire. Even if loneliness tries to creep in, He is our comforter and the most incredible relationship we will ever have.

Let me tell you, the wait is worth it! When you’re ready to start praying for guidance when it comes to beginning a relationship, focus on where God is wanting to take you.

Remember, it’s okay to be single and not ready to mingle! Everyone’s path is different and God knows when the right time for every season is! Trust in Him and allow Him to guide your footsteps!

– Chelsea

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Advice for An Overflowing Relationship with God

We all want that overflowing, abounding, “on fire for the gospel” type of relationship with God. The type of mutual love that not only God has for us, but we…

We all want that overflowing, abounding, “on fire for the gospel” type of relationship with God. The type of mutual love that not only God has for us, but we have for him.

Like every relationship, it requires work. I like to treat my relationship with God as if he were one of my best friends. He’s the first person you want to run to, talk to, vent to… You have to make time for him and be open and honest with him in order for you to grow in your relationship!

There’s a ton of advice I’ve learned to follow to gain this overflowing relationship with the Lord. It’s been so beneficial for me, so I wanted to share it with you all, as well!

There’s a difference between simply reading the Bible and really studying the Bible. How often does your mind wander and you realize you weren’t even paying attention to what you were reading in the first place?

I know for me, this used to happen all the time. But then I began to journal about what I was reading, write down prayer points that came to me, etc. These small changes will help you fully understand what you’re reading and allow you to get closer to God! When we’re reading and meditating on his word, we learn more about God and who our identity is in him!

Vulnerability and transparency are two concepts I’ve really come to know throughout this past year. To be transparent is to be completely open and honest with God. He already knows even the smallest details of each one of our lives, but he wants us to fully surrender and let him see the darkest parts of our hearts. To be vulnerable is to know that the possibility of feeling ashamed, guilty, or embarrassed exists.

These two words will make your relationship with God so much more intimate. It’s okay to be vulnerable when it comes to him. In fact, he wants you to let your walls down and open up. Practice transparency and vulnerability in these next few days when you’re talking to God and see how it changes your relationship with him.

There are a couple different verses that are the key to this overflowing relationship with God that we all desire. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” And Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

The bottom line is: seek God first and everything else will follow. When we leave our old selves behind, we create our new selves with God.

When we make it a conscious effort to turn away from sin and seek faith, trust, grace, mercy, etc., we naturally fall more and more in love with the Lord.

I encourage you to let down your walls and allow God to see the real you, flaws and all. When we let go of our pride and selfishness, we fall into God’s love. He is always there waiting for you to take the first step!

– Chelsea

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How to Make and Keep Friends as You Get Older

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even…

Friendships are some of the trickiest relationships to start, cultivate, and maintain. Romantic relationships have the reputation to be the hardest to keep up with, but it can be even more difficult to find new friends while keeping in touch with old ones. Don’t let the fear of the hard work keep you isolated, because friendship is so important for our happiness and even our health!

Even though we are constantly connected to so many people on social media, studies have found that our generation is actually becoming lonelier. We have fewer friends than our parents’ generation, and the relationships we have on social media are not satisfying our need for friendship. A lot of us feel like we don’t know how to make new friends or feel left out or forgotten by our old ones. Here are some tips on how to cultivate new friendships and strengthen existing ones.

Finding the new:

One great way to make new friends is to have a friend introduce you to their group. Ask if you can join the next time you hear they are going out with their posse. You may strike up a new connection or two! Also, whenever meeting new friends, always be your genuine self and try not to put on some sort of front. You will find that you have things in common with people that you never would have imagined! Another great way to find new friends is to go and pursue your hobbies and meet people that way. If you like cooking, take a cooking class and be open to making new friends there. Love hiking or running? Go do a group run or hike. When you are doing things you love, you are bound to find people who share the same interests. After you make contact with a new friend, follow up with them and invite them to coffee or send a follow up text saying it was great to meet them. If the friendship doesn’t work out, and if they turn down an invite to hang, don’t take it personally.

Maintaining the old:

These are the friends who have known you since your days of bad hairdos and braces. These are the friends who, even though you don’t see or talk to them much anymore, you still want them in your life. When maintaining an old friendship, the first tip I have is to go easy on them. Maybe they forgot your last birthday or missed your bachelorette party. Instead of assuming they just don’t want to be part of your life anymore, remember how busy your life is and how overwhelmed you can be. They are probably in the same boat! You both have tons of adult responsibilities, so cut them some slack. Another tip is to be virtually present, even when you can’t physically be, and this is as easy as liking their Instagram post or commenting on a picture of theirs on Facebook. It is a great way to simply remind them that you are here and still keep up with what they do. If they like to talk on the phone, maybe give them a call and catch up every once in a while. If they prefer text, shoot them one every so often just checking in with them.

Friendship is work, but the payoff is priceless.

Chels

 

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Getting Your Relationship Back on Track

Relationships aren’t always rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes it rains, and sometimes it pours. Regardless of where you’re at in your relationship, whether you’ve encountered trials and tough situations, whether you’ve…

Relationships aren’t always rainbows and sunshine. Sometimes it rains, and sometimes it pours. Regardless of where you’re at in your relationship, whether you’ve encountered trials and tough situations, whether you’ve been dating for a month or for a year… There are times when you could use some tips to get back to the place you’ve always been and where you’re meant to be!

Never go to bed angry.

Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”

I love this verse because it encourages us to solve the problem before we even lay down our heads at night. When we go to bed angry, we wake up angry, and that’s no way to have a fresh start to the day. Let yourself cool off, and then calmly solve the situation at hand before silence takes over. It makes such a big difference when you can go to sleep at night knowing that everything is going to be okay!

Practice patience.

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Patience is the glue that holds everything together. We always want our boyfriend or girlfriend to be patient with us, so why wouldn’t we extend the same desired patience to them? Whether it’s biting our tongues in the moment or waiting patiently for growth in our relationships, it’s always a good idea to practice the act of genuine patience.

Give 100% no matter the situation.

Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.

Although this verse was written in a different context, I believe it applies perfectly to relationships, as well. A lot of relationships go south because people forget to try and impress, love, and care for their significant other just like they did when the relationship first began. This is when problems can start to occur!

Fall humble to forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:31-21 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

A forgiving and humble heart can be one of the hardest things to possess. It’s easy to forgive from the head, but not as easy to forgive from the heart. It’s natural for us to verbally forgive one another yet hold a silent grudge in our heads. This kind of mentality gets us nowhere in our relationships. If we want to continue to grow in love and trustworthiness with our significant others, letting go of any grudges and breaking down those barriers is a must.

Any time is a good time to get your relationship back on track. Why be stuck in a rut when you can change your relationship for the better with just a few simple actions? Start today, and love each other like He first loved us!

– Chelsea

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Improving Your Relationship God’s Way

If you truly know God, then you should know his way of doing things is one hundred times better than our own. Especially when it comes to relationships, God knows…

If you truly know God, then you should know his way of doing things is one hundred times better than our own. Especially when it comes to relationships, God knows a thing or two about how we can not only find true, lasting love, but how we can improve our relationship as the years go by.

There are so many attributes that are talked about in the Bible in order to have or improve a healthy relationship. I wanted to focus on a few of the main things you can work on just like I do in my own relationship. You can’t argue with what the Bible has to say!

PATIENCE

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” – Ephesians 4:2

You may think you’re a patient person, but recognize the next time you start tapping your foot or rolling your eyes. Patience comes solely from a place of love and a peaceful mind. Next time your boyfriend starts testing your patience, take a deep breath, and remember how patient God is with us and how undeserving we are of his mercy.

ENDURANCE

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” – Colossians 3:23

Disagreement, jealousy, bitterness, and so many other things can cause relationships to get hard at times. If you know you’re with the person God wants you to be with, that relationship will require work, even when things get rough. This isn’t an excuse to stay in a toxic relationship, but when you know your boyfriend or girlfriend is the one, you have to put in the effort to make it work no matter what.

SINCERITY 

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” – Romans 12:9

If your relationship isn’t sincere, truthful, and genuine, then you probably shouldn’t be in it in the first place. Sincerity and honesty is something God holds so highly, because it allows you to fully trust the other person. Love must be sincere, and if we practice that daily, good things will happen in our relationships.

SELFLESSNESS

 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

If you want to know the best way to do relationships, read 1 Corinthians 13. The above passage lists so many characteristics of a healthy, godly relationship. Practicing selflessness could be as simple as cooking a nice meal for your boyfriend/girlfriend, getting them their favorite coffee, or even accepted defeat in an argument (which I know may not be the easiest thing!).

Practice these four qualities in your relationship and watch how things can change for the better. If we have the means to improve our relationship, why wouldn’t we? 🙂

– Chelsea

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Date Night Q&A

Whether you have been dating your significant other for weeks, months or years, there is always more to learn about one another. Next time you are on a date with…

Whether you have been dating your significant other for weeks, months or years, there is always more to learn about one another. Next time you are on a date with your love, put down your phones and pull out this list. You may be surprised what you learn, and where the topics lead!

  1. What are 5 things you hope to be remembered for?
  2. What are 5 passions you have and why?
  3. Describe your family dynamic of your childhood verses your family dynamic now.
  4. What are 3 things that make you happy?
  5. What popular thought or notion do you think the world has most wrong?
  6. What is one thing I don’t know about you?
  7. What are two things I do well?
  8. How have you seen me change since we’ve been together?
  9. How have you changed in the time we’ve been together?
  10. What is one thing you want to do different from your parents?
  11. What is your favorite memory of us together?
  12. If you had to live in another country, where would you go?
  13. What is my most difficult challenge right now?
  14. What is your most difficult challenge right now?
  15. Excluding money or time, what is one thing that I wish I could have?
  16. If you could be an expert in anything, what would it be?
  17. Name 3 things on your bucket list.
  18. What are your favorite qualities in me?
  19. How would you spend 1 million dollars?
  20. What is the greatest strength and weakness of our relationship?
  21. What is your 5-year plan? 10-year plan?
  22. If you never had to work again, what would you do with your life?
  23. If you could choose one mentor – famous or not – who would it be?
  24. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  25. When you met me, what was your first impression? Was it correct?

I love lists like this because they take us out of our comfort zone. Asking questions like these can be beneficial at any stage of a relationship. In the beginning, when everything is new and exciting, we tend to hang on every piece of new information as we learn about one another. After a while, tossing in conversation topics like these keep things fresh and fun.

Ask away!

Chels

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God’s Relationship Red Flags

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships. When we…

When it comes to relationships, God knows how to do them perfectly. He lays out different tips and advice in the Bible that assure us godly, happy relationships.

When we look deeper into the Bible, it tells us what we should and what we shouldn’t be looking for in a relationship. There are several so-called “red flags” that we can take from certain verses in the Bible. They can help us know if we’re in the relationship God wants us to be in!

Impatience

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

Patience is something that every relationship needs to have in order to work. Whether that be showing patience toward the other person or having patience for the future, every relationship needs a firm foundation of patience. Patience is the glue that holds things together. In tense situations or waiting moments, without patience, there would be nothing to keep you sane.

Selfishness

1 John 3:16-18 says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters… Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.”

In every relationship, whether it be boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife, or friend to friend, we should be making a conscious effort to put others before ourselves. When someone is only looking out for themselves all the time, they aren’t ready to commit themselves to someone else in a relationship. Relationships require sacrifice, even if it means giving up your own needs and wants in order to put the other person first.

Fear/Worry

1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

Having constant worry or anxiety in your relationship is one of the biggest red flags there could possibly be. This is God speaking to you and telling you that you maybe shouldn’t be dating the person that you are. The Bible says it itself: “There is no fear in love.” If you have a constant pit in your stomach or a reoccurring feeling of worry, take a step back and look at your relationship.

Jealousy

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

As humans, jealousy is a feeling that we’ve all experienced from time to time. It becomes a red flag when it starts taking over your relationship. It’s a feeling no one likes to experience, and when you’re constantly getting jealous over even the little things, maybe that relationship isn’t the one for you.

If you’re seeing signs of these red flags within your relationship, maybe God is trying to tell you something. Sit and talk with him and ask him for guidance. He always wants the best for us, we just have to let him work in our lives!

– Chelsea

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He’s Closer Than We Know

Too many people see God as a distant voice or someone they hear about in church every Sunday. They think of Him as someone to go to in times of…

Too many people see God as a distant voice or someone they hear about in church every Sunday. They think of Him as someone to go to in times of need or pain.

There are so many different verses in the Bible that give us more and more hints as to who God really is. From these, we know He is loving, patient, merciful, forgiving, all-knowing, and so many other things.

One of the main things the Bible describes Him as is our father. Matthew 23:9 says, “…for you have one Father, and he is in heaven.” He cares for us endlessly and is the perfect example of how a father should be.

The Bible also describes Him as our friend:

John 15:13-15 says, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends…”

Although these are the words of Jesus, God is the same. We can draw close to him and become a true friend of God!

So, how can we make God our best friend?

Talk to him.

When you have exciting news, sudden problems, or an urgent need, talk to him.

You don’t get closer to someone by just interacting with them when it’s convenient for you or solely when you feel like it. Every good relationship requires a conscious effort to communicate and make time for each other.

When we stand at the gates of heaven, we want God to know us. Not just recognize us, but really know who we are and every little detail about our lives.

Think of it this way: Consider one of your best friends. Do you talk to them every day? Or only when you need something? Do you make an effort to learn more about their life and spend time with them? Or just use them to be a listening ear?

This is a perfect example of how we should be with God! If we truly think of him as our provider, creator, and father, then we should want to be close to him!

He’s not this big scary far-away voice. He’s here and he wants to be there for you.

Psalm 145:18 says, “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.”

If we seek him, he will draw near.  People try to make a relationship with God so complicated, but it’s as simple as drawing near and building a relationship with Him!

All it takes as an intentional first step to do so. Wherever you are reading this, take 5 minutes to talk to God. It’s an easy start but it’s the beginning of an even closer walk with God than you could imagine!

Draw near to Him and watch an amazing relationship come from it.

– Chelsea

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3 Questions to Ask God Every Day

Our relationship with God should be like our everyday relationships with our friends and family here on earth. We should treat him like the loving father he is, there to…

Our relationship with God should be like our everyday relationships with our friends and family here on earth. We should treat him like the loving father he is, there to listen and there to attend to whatever needs we may have.

1 John 5:14 says, “And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.”

God hears us whether we hear his answer or not. I encourage you to start your day by asking him these three simple questions!

  1. How can I follow your will today?

What’s on your agenda for the day may not be the same as God’s agenda. Instead of starting your day by praying for this or that, simply surrender your day to God and let Him control your plans.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

When our day begins by submitting ourselves to the Lord, God will reveal his perfect plans to us throughout each day. Trust him, and amazing things will come your way.  

  1. How can I be a witness to others today?

Witnessing to others is one of the most important things to do as a Christian. If we don’t show anyone the love of Christ by the way we talk, act, and think, how will they get to see and hear about how God can impact their life?

1 Peter 3:15 says, “Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your Christian hope, always be ready to explain it.”

Not only do we have to witness to others, but we have to be ready to explain why we are the way we are and why we do the things we do. If we can’t back up our actions, what’s the point at the end of the day?

It could be as simple as lending a hand to someone that needs one or showing kindness to someone who doesn’t necessarily deserve it. Be the light that Jesus was and is for so many people. Be a walking example of what it looks like to live for Christ.

  1. How can I be the person you want me to be today?

Like I’ve mentioned time and time again, God has a plan for each and every day of your life. Ask him how you can be who he so perfectly created you to be!

Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

 I love how he words that: “the good things he planned for us long ago.” That gives us the reassurance we need to know that we really can be the person God has always created us to be.

Tomorrow morning and the mornings after, ask yourself these three questions. Watch both your day and your relationship with God get better and better as you do so!

– Chelsea

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3 Quiet Time Plans to Follow

A crucial part of being a follower of Christ is spending time with him and yearning to know him more and more. When the day comes when we’re standing at…

A crucial part of being a follower of Christ is spending time with him and yearning to know him more and more.

When the day comes when we’re standing at the gates of heaven, we want God to know us and know of the time we’ve spent so deeply and so frequently with him.

There are many ways to get to know Him more, one of which is to have daily quiet times, diving deeper into God’s Word and dissecting what each part of the Bible means.

Over the years, I’ve discovered and put into practice several different plans and ways to do quiet times. There are three different ones in particular that I find extremely beneficial no matter how far along your relationship with God is!

5 x 5 x 5 Reading Plan

If you’re new at quiet times or reading the Bible, this is the perfect plan to get your feet wet.

This plan calls for 5 minutes a day, 5 days a week, and 5 methods to dive deeper into the Word. Just start with a simple 5 minutes and see where that takes you! This is a good challenge and it can keep you accountable day-by-day!

As far as 5 ways to dive deeper, you can memorize, underline/highlight, reword, question, or pray about what you read for the day. I challenge you to do all 5 of these to get the most out of your quiet time!

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3 R’s Plan

This is one of my favorite plans. The three R’s stand for rejoice, repent, and request.

For “rejoice,” write down every part of the verses or chapter that gives you things to be thankful for.

For “repent,” write down anything that’s talked about in the chapter that God commands us not to do.  Think of which of these commands you struggle with, and write those down as well.

For “request,” write down anything you want to ask God for. Whether that be strength to stay out of the sin you repented or simply things you’ve been struggling with.

I always like to end with a prayer reviewing what I wrote down. This is the time to send your praises and requests to God!

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Journaling

This is a much looser version of a quiet time. Sometimes the less structure, the more you can let God speak to you!

Pick out a certain book or chapter of the Bible and read it once all the way through. Then go back and read it again verse by verse. Right down anything and everything that comes to mind. If you come across a verse that speaks to you, write it down.

End with a prayer and let your heart take over. Sometimes I even like writing down the prayer and simply letting my mind be open to whatever God wants to tell me! This also gives me the chance to go back and read what I wrote down in the future.

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Which way are you going to try out? All of them are great places to start if you want to build a better relationship with God. Pick one and get started! 🙂

– Chelsea

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25 Kind Things to do for Your Significant Other

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is…

When I do something nice for Nick, it makes me feel so happy and proud seeing how much he appreciates it. Being kind and thoughtful to your significant other is definitely key in maintaining a healthy relationship. No matter how big or small, acts of kindness never go unnoticed or unappreciated. Here are some easy ideas on how to serve your significant other and make them feel loved.

  1. Start a conversation with him that you know he will really value.
  2. Watch a sports game with him (or an event that he really loves to watch)
  3. Leave a sweet love note in his backpack or coat pocket so he will find it later.
  4. Brag about him in front of his friends. It will make him feel proud and will boost his self-esteem!
  5. Pray for him. Then, let him know that you have been praying for him.
  6. Hold his hand in public, when you are in the car, any time you can!
  7. Tell him how much you appreciate him. Give him specific examples of things that you appreciate about him.
  8. Do one of his daily chores for him, like taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, or anything else he usually does.
  9. Cook him his favorite meal.
  10. Let him pick the movie or restaurant or desert or whatever you are doing for date night!
  11. Leave your phone, tv, or computer off while you are eating dinner and give him your undivided attention.
  12. Give him a genuine compliment (or two)
  13. Write an encouraging Bible verse and place it somewhere he’ll see it.
  14. Ask him if there is anything you can do for him, or if you can help him with anything.
  15. Surprise him at work with his favorite lunch or coffee.
  16. Send him a random text in the middle of the day telling him you are thinking about him.
  17. Bake his favorite treat.
  18. Take his car and get it washed, vacuum it out, and make it look squeaky clean!
  19. Make him a mix tape CD or Spotify playlist with songs that make you think of him.
  20. Brag about him on your social media.
  21. Surprise him with something he loves, like tickets to see his favorite band or a new book by his favorite author.
  22. Tell him that you are glad he is in your life.
  23. Play his favorite board game or video game with him.
  24. Ask him to go on a walk or bike ride with you.
  25. Go out and do his hobby with him. It may not be your favorite thing, but he will appreciate your effort to spend time with him!

Doing ALL of these things definitely isn’t necessary, but there are definitely some great ideas on this list! Whatever place you are at in life, whatever season you are going through, you can always find ways, however big or small, to make your significant other feel loved and appreciated.

Chels

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