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What to Change After a Breakup

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel…

Breakups can really shake your life up. They can make you depressed and can make you look at relationships in a totally new way. They can also make you feel like you need change in your life to help you move forward. Sometimes, a fresh start is just what you need after a breakup. It can make you feel powerful and like you have control! Here are a few things to change after a breakup to help you move forward.

  1. Outlook and attitude: After the chaos of a breakup, it is a good idea to evaluate how your outlook on life and love has changed. Breakups often make us want to make changes for the better and focus on improving ourselves. Make the best of your situation and use this time to get to know yourself.
  2. Hair: This one is a pretty common change people make after a breakup, and with good reason! A fresh new hair cut for a fresh new you. Did your ex ever tell you not to dye your hair blond even though you really wanted to? Dye those locks blonde, girl! No more holding back! You will feel strong, independent, and beautiful with a fresh new ‘do.images (1)
  3. Music: Did your bf like a certain type of music? Did you change your taste in music to fit with his? Time to find new music for the new you. Create a new soundtrack for your life!
  4. Style: If you dressed a certain way to impress your boyfriend or he didn’t like certain things you wore, no need to worry about that anymore! Now you can dress however you please. Did he hate red lipstick? Wear it proudly! Try new styles, you may find a new fav!
  5. Relationship outlook: Use this time to think about what you want in your next relationship. What did you like and dislike about your ex? What will you do differently the next time around?

Breakups are a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and focus on the “new you”.

XOXO, Chels

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Godly Characteristics to Look for In a Guy

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market…

The Bible says that when you are dating someone, you need to be “equally yoked.” This means that your faith needs to match theirs. When you are in the market for a guy or are already dating one, it is important to pay attention to his personality and how he acts on his faith and lives out his values. The Bible gives us lots of tips on what a Godly man looks like. Here are some Godly characteristics to look for in a guy and the scripture to back it up!

  • Dependable- Psalm 15:4
  • Truthful- Ephesians 4:5FullSizeRender (35)
  • Humility- James 4:6
  • Gentle- 1 Thessalonians 2:7
  • Attentive- Hebrews 2:1
  • Faithful- Hebrews 11:1
  • Generous- 2 Corinthians 9:6
  • Patience- Romans 5:3-4
  • Responsible- Romans 14:12

Check out these verses when you are dreaming about/praying for your future or current guy. A man that has these above characterizes is a diamond in the rough! But don’t worry, there are guys like this out there! You just have to be patient and pray about it.

XOXO, Chels

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5 Conversation Starters for a First Date

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you…

Yes, first dates are all about getting dressed up and having a night out with your crush.   And along with excitement comes nerves and butterflies! Most of the time, you might not know much about your crush. You may worry about running out of things to say. To avoid awkward silences, here are some conversation starters!

  1. Ask if they play any sports or instruments. Oftentimes guys love to talk about sports. You can always spark up a good convo with a sports fan! If they don’t like sports, maybe they’re into music or art! Either way, it’s fun to hear about their interests and hobbies!
  2. Ask about their friends and family. It’s fun and sometimes important to learn about the people they spend their time with!
  3. As much as we don’t like to talk about school, it can sometimes take the place of awkward silences. Asking what classes they’re in can bring up common interests.
  4. Ask about the future! I don’t mean asking about how many kids they want or where they want to live when they get older… TMI! Try asking if they have any fun summer plans or about where they’re going to college!
  5. Come up with a question or comment about the date you’re on. If you’re at a restaurant, ask what they’re getting or what looks good to them. If you’re mini golfing, make comments on who’s winning or what the score is!

Most of the time, conversations tend to flow nicely, so you should have nothing to worry about! But if you need to stir up the convo, hopefully these will help you out and calm your nerves!

XO – Chels

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First Date Do’s and Don’ts: Part 2

A few months ago, I uploaded an article on first date do’s and don’ts. It was extremely popular (I even made a video off of it!), so I decided to…

A few months ago, I uploaded an article on first date do’s and don’ts. It was extremely popular (I even made a video off of it!), so I decided to make a part 2! Why not? There are always a few necessities, and a few things you should avoid, on a first date. Here they are!

  • DON’T rush anything. You might be secretly waiting for him to kiss you or wanting him to ask you out right there on the spot, but great things take time! Patience is a virtue. Just wait for the perfect moment that feels right.
  • DO be chill during the date. As girls, we like to overanalyze and over think everything that happens, especially with boys. Our heads may jump to the “OMG he definitely doesn’t like me” kind of thoughts. Just calm down and relax! And most importantly, be yourself!
  • DON’T only talk about yourself. Be engaged and interested in his life. Ask him questions and listen attentively. Yes, he is there to get to know you, but remember you are there to get to know him too!
  • DO be polite and considerate. Saying “please” and “thank you” might seem overrated to you, but I promise it’s not!
  • DON’T be on your phone the whole night. This is a big one. Our generation is obsessed with technology, but we need to know when to put our phones away. If you and your date both do this, there will be more time for getting to know each other, which is the main reason why you’re there!

What other do’s and don’ts do you suggest? Let me know below!

XO – Chels

 

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Relationship Red Flags

Throughout relationships, there may be times when you start to second guess certain aspects of it. Following your gut feeling can mean a lot more than you think. Sometimes we…

Throughout relationships, there may be times when you start to second guess certain aspects of it. Following your gut feeling can mean a lot more than you think. Sometimes we make excuses for being in a relationship we really want, but it might not always be what’s best. I wanted to help sort out some of the feelings that may actually be red flags in your relationship!

  • Lack of respect. This is a big one! If your boyfriend doesn’t respect who you are, physically or not, then that can be a huge problem. You need to be on the same page in a relationship 100%.
  • Reoccurring stress. If you find yourself stressing several times throughout the week about your relationship, you shouldn’t have to feel that! Relationships should be about making each other a better person and bringing happiness into each other’s lives.
  • Lack of honesty. If you catch your boyfriend hiding certain things from you, maybe you should bring it up. Honesty is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
  • Not over a past relationship. If you’re not ready to move on, then you’re simply not ready to move on! If your boyfriend seems to frequently bring up an ex, maybe you need to talk to him about it.
  • Negative reactions from your friends and family. If a majority of your friends and family seem to be concerned, maybe you should reconsider. I know some of you think listening to your parents is overrated, but if they have a bad feeling about someone, it’s usually pretty accurate!

If you see any of these signs in your relationship, think about sitting down and having a conversation about it! It may save you from wasting your time in a relationship you shouldn’t be in.

Love, Chels      

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Bible Verses for Dating Couples

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great…

As a Christian, I strive to have God as the center of all my relationships, including my romantic ones. God’s word gives us great guidelines for growth and a great foundation for relationships and it outlines the core principals of godliniess, purity, and unconditional love in the scriptures. If you are a believer in a relationship with another believer, these 4 verses are great to study in order to strengthen your relationship.

  1. Respect each other: Proverbs 22:1 says “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” This means that respecting each other’s boundaries, personalities, and thoughts gives couples the ability to humble themselves individually. This gives the relationship the opportunity to mature and for each person to give respect by demonstrating integrity, moral character, and devotion to God.f1cbb692e0c8b0738af1a392901ee2cc
  2. Encourage each other to grow spiritually: 2 Thessalonians 1:3 tells us to encourage our brothers and sisters to seek Christ and to grow spiritually. This shows maturity in relationships and strengthens them. A couple who prays together, goes to Bible study or church together, or fellowships with other believers is helping eachother flourish.
  3. Serve with each other: Hebrews 10: 24 says “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,” serving together in the community or in church is a great way to use your spiritual gifts to further God’s kingdom, AND to grow your relationship!
  4. Pray for each other and for others: Ephesians 6:18 encourages us to pray for each other and for others, because when we do, we will experience a greater closeness to God and each other.

The Bible encourages us to be in relationships where we are equally yoked, which means of the same faith. Being in a relationship with someone who holds the same beliefs as you really sets you up for success, and gives you a sense of confidence that you are both on the same page when it comes to issues of purity and what you believe.

XOXO, Chels

 

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How to Rid Yourself of Jealousy

Jealousy is a feeling we all experience daily. Whether it’s within relationships, friendships, or simply wanting something we don’t have, it’s hard to control. As hard as it is to…

Jealousy is a feeling we all experience daily. Whether it’s within relationships, friendships, or simply wanting something we don’t have, it’s hard to control. As hard as it is to be fully content with the situation we’re in at times, once you free yourself of envy, life becomes 10x more enjoyable!  

When we look to the Bible for advice on how to overcome jealousy, God has a lot to say to us. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” He means that no matter what situation you’re in, be grateful. Sometimes this can be the most difficult task. For example, if your friend starts dating a boy you like, it’s tough to think of the positives. Maybe what God has in store for you will be even better than your own plan. Trust that His plan is always right and that everything happens for a reason.

Another verse in the Bible from 1 Corinthians says this: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Apart from being content in all circumstances, try and remove any negative mindsets you might have. Be patient, be kind, be humble… all of these actions will tear away the jealousy and negativity one day at a time.

XOXO – Chelsea 

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Why It’s Okay to Be Single

Relationships. One of the most confusing topics throughout our teenage years. They can be valued so highly that we often feel left out if were not in one. You might…

Relationships. One of the most confusing topics throughout our teenage years. They can be valued so highly that we often feel left out if were not in one. You might receive those dreadful statements such as “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” or “you haven’t dated anyone in a long time!” UGH. News flash: being single is perfectly okay! If you need some convincing, here are a few reasons.

  • Independence. Of course having someone to rely on is great but learning how to stand on your own is a good quality to have. If you know your worth, you can be strong and independent on your own.
  • Figuring out yourself. Being as young as we are, we’re still trying to figure ourselves out. Being in a relationship can alter the way you think whether you want to admit it or not. Learning to love yourself before loving someone else is a very important concept that most people ignore.
  • Less time-consuming. For teens, there isn’t enough time in the day. We have to juggle school on top of homework, sports, work, church, family, friends, etc. If you barely have enough time for yourself, then you won’t have enough time to devote to another person.
  • Less stress. Being in a relationship can be extremely stressful. Girls especially worry and overthink a lot. And the number one topic we do this over? Boys! Make sure you’re trusting and confident before getting into a committed relationship.

This being said, being single can get old at times! It’s nice to be in a relationship every once in a while as long as you’re ready. But just because you’re not in one doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing! Enjoy the single life!

XOXO – Chelsea

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Tips on Letting Go: It’s Not Easy!

As teenagers, we deal with a lot of letting go. You might have to say goodbye to someone who was once a best friend or a boy who isn’t good…

As teenagers, we deal with a lot of letting go. You might have to say goodbye to someone who was once a best friend or a boy who isn’t good for you anymore. I can tell you from personal experience, it’s tough! It will never quite be easy, but here are things you can do to lighten the toll it can take.

First off, when you’re done with something, solely be done with it, especially when it comes to boys. It’s usually not a good idea to text or hang out with someone you’re trying hard to get over. Seeing and talking to them will only make you miss them more. You need to know life without them or else you won’t be able to move on. Of course a “how have you been” text occasionally is okay, but talking to them 24/7 can become a hard habit to break.Chelsea Crockett - Let Go

When we see people drifting away, we often cling onto them because we aren’t used to life without them. You need to realize when a person is toxic in your life. Ask yourself, “does he or she make me a better person?” If you find yourself not being able to answer this, then nine times out of ten the answer is no. This should be a red flag! Realize your worth and that you can walk away from these situations.

You may be reading this and thinking “it’s not that easy” and I know it’s not. But once you realize the strength you have to do these things and finally let go, your life will become less stressful and more enjoyable. Praying about it and trusting that God will help you move on is another easy suggestion that will make all the difference. Trust me!

Good luck! Love, Chelsea

 

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Girl Code: What Does It Mean?

As girls, we should always have each other’s backs when it comes to boys, stupid arguments, etc. There are too many times where I see girls tearing each other down…

As girls, we should always have each other’s backs when it comes to boys, stupid arguments, etc. There are too many times where I see girls tearing each other down instead of building each other up. We have enough of that from society! I get so many questions and comments for advice on what is considered “breaking girl code.” It’s simple and you shouldn’t be hesitant to follow it!Chelsea Crockett - Girl Code

The whole concept of “girl code” is pretty basic. For starters, if something feels wrong that you’re doing behind someone’s back, then it most likely is! Going with your gut is totally underrated in my opinion. For instance, some girls think it’s not a bad idea to do as little as flirt with someone in a relationship. Listen closely: stay away from anyone in a relationship! DO NOT be the girl that messes up something great between two people. This comes with lots of drama and guilt!

I have a lot of girls asking for my advice on what to do when you and your friend like the same guy (or something along these lines!). The first thing to learn about girl code is respect. Have respect for your friend and realize you’re both in the same boat. In my opinion, you should both back away from the situation. If I’ve learned one thing throughout my life, NEVER let a boy come between you and your BFF!

To wrap this up, I’m going to share one of my favorite quotes: “You can tell who the strong women are. They are the ones you see building one another up, instead of tearing each other down!” Can I get an “Amen?”

XO, Chels

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Bible Dating Advice 101

When it comes to dating, the Bible isn’t the first place you’d think of when looking for dating advice. Usually your best friends or your sister seem like the perfect…

When it comes to dating, the Bible isn’t the first place you’d think of when looking for dating advice. Usually your best friends or your sister seem like the perfect people to get a lesson from on the subject. But believe it or not, the Bible is filled with hundreds of simple tips that all of us should take notes on. Here are three of my favorites :).

First and foremost, Chelsea Crockett - Bible VerseI think one of the most important things in a relationship is building each other up. If you’re getting to know a person that puts you down or isn’t a positive influence, get out of that relationship! 1 Corinthians 13:7 says, “Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preservers.” Live by it!

Romans 12:9 says, “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.” This is so important, not just in the dating aspect of your life. If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend “cling to what is good,” your relationship will go much smoother. And for love to be sincere means that everything you do be honest and loyal. If that’s not good advice, I don’t know what is!

One of my absolute favorite verses in the Bible is 1 Corinthians 13:4. It says, “Love is patient, love in kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” Any relationship you have in your life, whether it be romantic or between friends and family, needs patience and kindness. If you live by this, you can’t go wrong!

Good luck :)! – Chelsea

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The Votes Are In: Top Traits Gals Want in Their Guys

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him…

Are there certain traits you HAVE to have in a boyfriend? When you have sleepovers with friends, do you dream about the perfect guy and discuss everything you want him to be? If so, you are the average teenage girl J. I read a recent study about the top traits that women want in the guy they date, and they really aren’t surprising! In fact, most of them were on MY list of traits I want to see in my guy. Here is a list of the top character, personality, and practical skill traits females want in a man.

 

TOP CHARACTER TRAITS: FAITHFULNESS, DEPENDABILITY, AND KINDNESS

When it comes to the character of your guy, most women say faithfulness is a top priority. Rightflully so! You want to know that he is there for you and only you, and that he will stick with you through the tough times. You also want to know that he is dependable and that when he says he is going to do something, he does it! You want him to be responsible. Lastly, you want him to be kind. I know that it is sometimes tempting to fall for the “tough guy” or “bad boy”, but as you grow up kindness wins. Most girls want a man who will be sweet to her AND her mother!

TOP PERSONALITY TRAITS: SENSE OF HUMOR, PASSION, AND INTELLEGENCE

I don’t know about you, but I love when I can laugh with my guy. Having a sense of humor makes life so much more fun! Passion is another must. You want a guy who is passionate about something, whether it is playing the piano, playing basketball, or evenrelationship-perspectives cooking! Another personality trait that women swoon over is intelligence. Nothing beats a guy who is great at problem solving!

TOP PRACTICAL SKILLS: LISTENING, ROMANCING, HELPING

Studies have shown that women love a guy who listens. This is a no-brainer! Girls feel safe and loved when a guy will sit there and let them vent and listen to their problems. Romancing is a given, we love a guy who can show his soft side and can sweep her off her feet! And the last one, helping. If he can help me cook a dinner, clean my room, or run errands, he is on the fast track to winning my heart! Who agrees?!

What traits do YOU value in a guy? Comment below!

XOXO, Chels 

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How You Know You’re Finally Over “Him”

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you…

High school and college are rough, especially on a girl’s heart. They are full of boys and heartbreak. But, the wonderful thing about breakups is the feeling afterwards when you realize that you are completely and utterly over him and that you have come out of the ordeal on top. You are wiser and so much stronger! Here are 5 things you realize when you are completely over your ex.

1.    You realize that the time you spent together was not wasted. You earned a degree in “This is what I DON’T want in a guy!”

2.    You now have time for YOU. No need to worry about him or what he is doing, you can focus on you!

3.    Hey, you know what? Being single rocks! And now you can see that. You can go out with friends! You can stay in bed and watch Netflix! WOOO!

4.    You appreciate the lessons you learned from him. Hey, he might have broken your heart, but he taught you how to be a better person. And now you can appreciate that.

5.    You don’t stalk him on social media any more. Yes, he has a new girlfriend. And yes, you are kind of sort of curious what he is up to. But you know what? You are glad he is happy, because you are too.

You keep doing you!

XOXO, Chels

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10 Signs You’re Head Over Heels

Love makes us do silly things, am I right? We say things, do things, and even try things we never imagined we would! Here are 10 signs you are head…

Love makes us do silly things, am I right? We say things, do things, and even try things we never imagined we would! Here are 10 signs you are head over heels, goo goo gaga, crazy about a guy!

1.  You actually start paying attention to sports so that you can converse with him. You want to impress him and show you what a sports-savvy girl you are!

2. You let him have the last bite of your favorite dessert. And you did it with a smile on your face!

3. You keep it cool on social media. When you were younger and you got a boyfriend you gushed and bragged to all your friends, but now you know that relationships are between 2 people, not between 500 of your Facebook friends AND you. Yes, the occasional picture of you two together is to be expected, but you aren’t posting about him on the daily.

4. You start shopping for him more than you shop for yourself.

5. Every floor is a dance floor, even the Walmart isle! When you hear your favorite song you break out in dance together.falling-in-love-600x450

6. You show him you like him, even when he smells weird. What I mean is, after you guys work out or are outside doing things and you are both smelly and sweaty, you still give him a big ‘ole bear hug. Showing him that you like him even when he is a slippery sweaty mess means the world!

7. You aren’t afraid to ugly cry in front of him.

8. You spend 6 hours baking his favorite cupcakes (which is 6 hours you should have been doing homework) because you know he will be over the moon when he finds out you baked them just for him.  

9. You do everything you can to impress his family, because you know that the way to your boy’s heart is by being nice to his momma.

10. You listen to and laugh at alllllll of his bad jokes. And then tell him that he is just the funniest guy on the planet!

Does any of this sound like you? If so, you’ve got it bad girlfriend!

XOXO, Chels

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Happy Couple Habits

If you are in a relationship of have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few easy methods that help…

If you are in a relationship of have ever been in one, you know that they are a lot of work. Happy couples have a few easy methods that help them, well, stay happy! These little tidbits of advice are things that I have learned and what my friends have learned through the wonderful world of dating.

  1. Smile when you see them: It feels amazing to walk into the room and immediately see your crush’s face light up. It makes you feel so special! Even if you aren’t particularly thrilled to see your man friend, at least act happy to see them! This will set a happy mood for the two of you.happy-couple-valentines-day
  2. Randomly text them: A lot of us are busy throughout the day, so texting someone constantly just isn’t an option. But, a cute random text every once in a while can really brighten their day and them appreciate you so much.
  3. Share your day with them: Every day, take a few minutes to share your days with each other. Tell them your concerns, your goals, your hopes and your frustrations! It will really strengthen your relationship.
  4. Tell them thanks: For everything! Did they hold the door for you? Thank them. Cook you dinner? Thank them. Help you out with homework? Thank them.
  5. Complement the socks off of them: A little complement can go a long way! You know when your guy tells you he likes the way you are wearing your hair, and it makes you smile from ear to ear because you feel valued and treasured? He needs the same feeling from you! By building each other up, you are creating a happy environment!

There are so many more ways to make your relationship a happy one, you just have to be willing to work at it!

XOXO, Chels

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Dear Future Husband…

Have you ever made a “Future Husband” list? A list of all of the qualities and quirks you want your future husband to have? I know I have. During a…

Have you ever made a “Future Husband” list? A list of all of the qualities and quirks you want your future husband to have? I know I have. During a church retreat, one of our small group activities was to make a list of qualities you hope your future spouse to have. They said to keep these items on the list in mind when you are dating someone to see if they are future husband material! Here is a guide to making your very own “future husband list”.

  1. Keep your values in mind: The very first item on my list is “has to be a Jesus lover” because that is something I am absolutely positive my future husband will have to be. A few other good ones are “respects my morals”, “respects me and my family”, “is honest”, qualities like that.tumblr_mat9ehtV5R1r9k0q3o1_500_large
  2. Think of common interests: Do you like to travel? Then you want to marry someone who does too, or your family vacations will be miserable. Do you like to lead an active lifestyle? Then you might want to add “values fitness and a healthy lifestyle” to your list.
  3. Add in a few fun ones: I remember when I made a list when I was in middle school “blonde hair and blue eyes” was an item on my list! Have fun with some of the items! For instance, “has to be a pro snowboarder” miiiiight be on my list ;).

Have fun making your list, but you also need to take it seriously. Like I said, you can use your list as a test to see if the dude you are dating is hubby material. Also, when you are married some day it will be fun to look back at what qualities you wanted your future husband to have when you were a teenager and to see how many of those qualities your hubby has!

Happy listing!

XOXO, Chels

 

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