Chelsea Crockett

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Single and Not Ready to Mingle?

Society loves to tell us that we’re single for a reason. “Oh, do you not like dating?” “Have you not found anyone you’re interested in?” “Did your last relationship go…

Society loves to tell us that we’re single for a reason. “Oh, do you not like dating?” “Have you not found anyone you’re interested in?” “Did your last relationship go badly?”

When I was younger, I was asked these questions every once in a while when I wasn’t in a relationship. It was like if I remained single people made it seem like something was wrong with me or that there had to be a reason behind it. Can you relate?

This stigma around singleness that society has created can oftentimes pressure us into something we’re not ready for or a relationship we should’ve never gotten involved in in the first place.

I remember the parts of singleness that you don’t get to experience when you’re married, dating, etc. You get to take advantage of the abundance of alone time with God that we so often forget we even have in the first place!

Your single days are your days to focus solely on yourself and on God. You have all the free time in the world to spend in the Word, doing daily devotionals, etc. It’s a chance to focus on bettering yourself and figuring out where God is leading you next in your life.

If you’re single and not ready to mingle, let me be the first to tell you: that’s OKAY! God wants us devoted to him, spending time with him, and making him our priority above all else.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven…” If you’re in one of your seasons of singleness, do what YOU want to do and follow the path God wants you to. When you’re leaving your season of singleness, you’ll know when it’s right and that God is guiding you in that direction.

Maybe your season is over and you’re happily in a relationship. Maybe your season will end months, or even years from now, when you finally meet the right person. However long your season of singleness is, know that it’s okay no matter how long it lasts. Thankfully we have a God that fills our every need and desire. Even if loneliness tries to creep in, He is our comforter and the most incredible relationship we will ever have.

Let me tell you, the wait is worth it! When you’re ready to start praying for guidance when it comes to beginning a relationship, focus on where God is wanting to take you.

Remember, it’s okay to be single and not ready to mingle! Everyone’s path is different and God knows when the right time for every season is! Trust in Him and allow Him to guide your footsteps!

– Chelsea

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To the Girl Struggling in Her Singleness

Finding contentment in your singleness… What does this phrase even mean? There is such a negative stigma around singleness. Society loves to convince us into things, one of which is…

Finding contentment in your singleness… What does this phrase even mean?

There is such a negative stigma around singleness. Society loves to convince us into things, one of which is thinking we’re wrong for wanting to be alone.

Now I get it, it’s fun to have crushes, go on dates, have someone to talk to, etc., but there’s also nothing wrong with the latter. In fact, we should be finding happiness in our single seasons! This phrase can oftentimes be cliché or overused, but I wanted to dive a little deeper into what it really means to be content in your singleness!

If you’re like me, you grew up dreaming of your prince charming. You painted the perfect picture of your future life, obsessing over the man that would eventually be your soulmate. Trust me, I get it, but when it starts to take away the joy of the present, it becomes a problem. We spend so much time thinking about when we’ll finally meet “the one” that we forget to find the joy in being single!

I have a friend that’s been in a total of 7 weddings, always as a bridesmaid. I asked her if she ever gets frustrated being surrounded by so many of her best friends finding their special someone, but showing up dateless, time and time again. She told me that although thoughts of jealousy and envy creep in occasionally, her trust in the Lord is so strong that she never allows these thoughts to take over. She knows that one day she’ll meet her perfect someone, and that God is simply using these single years for growth in other areas, such as getting closer to Him.

Your single years are some of the best years of your life! You get the opportunity to give your undivided attention to God, and spend uninterrupted time with Him daily! These years can be used for so much growth in your spiritual life, that you wouldn’t have had the chance to experience without otherwise. You get to experience the joys of independence alongside the creator of the universe!

God’s timing is perfect, He just needs you to trust in Him. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”

Know that these single years are used to prosper you, and so much good will result from them! Find true contentment in your singleness and grow closer to God through them!

– Chelsea

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Why It’s Okay to Be Single

Relationships. One of the most confusing topics throughout our teenage years. They can be valued so highly that we often feel left out if were not in one. You might…

Relationships. One of the most confusing topics throughout our teenage years. They can be valued so highly that we often feel left out if were not in one. You might receive those dreadful statements such as “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” or “you haven’t dated anyone in a long time!” UGH. News flash: being single is perfectly okay! If you need some convincing, here are a few reasons.

  • Independence. Of course having someone to rely on is great but learning how to stand on your own is a good quality to have. If you know your worth, you can be strong and independent on your own.
  • Figuring out yourself. Being as young as we are, we’re still trying to figure ourselves out. Being in a relationship can alter the way you think whether you want to admit it or not. Learning to love yourself before loving someone else is a very important concept that most people ignore.
  • Less time-consuming. For teens, there isn’t enough time in the day. We have to juggle school on top of homework, sports, work, church, family, friends, etc. If you barely have enough time for yourself, then you won’t have enough time to devote to another person.
  • Less stress. Being in a relationship can be extremely stressful. Girls especially worry and overthink a lot. And the number one topic we do this over? Boys! Make sure you’re trusting and confident before getting into a committed relationship.

This being said, being single can get old at times! It’s nice to be in a relationship every once in a while as long as you’re ready. But just because you’re not in one doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing! Enjoy the single life!

XOXO – Chelsea

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Best Things About Being Single in the Fall

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what…

Its fall yall! It’s a great time to be alive…and to be single! Yeah, going to the pumpkin patch with a cute dude sounds super fun, but you know what else sounds fun? The stuff below! Here are a few reasons why being single in the fall is fabulous.

  1. Guys in flannels: fall = flannels, flannels + cute dudes = heart eyes emoji. And you can stare because you are single!single 4
  2. Guilt free PSL indulgence: You won’t have to worry about a guy saying “don’t you ever get tired of pumpkin spice..?”
  3. No cheesy couples Halloween costume: Yes, couples Halloween costumes can be cute, but they’re sometimes slightly obnoxious. Like, if I want to be Elsa from Frozen, no one can stop me! I don’t need a dude to sing “Let it Go” at the top of my lungs with. I’m a solo act.
  4. Candids.: You and your gal pals can take “candid” pictures of yourselves mid-laugh in the pumpkin patch, looking like Instagram models. You don’t need a guy to have a impromptu photo shoot, that’s what bffs are for. Guys are not so good at staged candids. “Look happy! You look mad. Just act like you’re happy then! Ugh, my friends are way better at this than you are.” That is how I imagine that conversation with a guy going.

See? Being single during the fall can be loads of fun. Having a guy is fun too, and there are tons of fun fall date ideas out there, but this post is for my single ladies.

 

 

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Single and Happy

Who says you have to have a boyfriend to make you happy? So many girls find their self-worth and happiness through the guys they date. I want to tell you…

Who says you have to have a boyfriend to make you happy? So many girls find their self-worth and happiness through the guys they date. I want to tell you that the single life is a GOOD life! Just because you don’t have a boy toy doesn’t mean you aren’t pretty or likeable, it just means God has bigger plans for you! Here are a few ways to be happily single.

  1. Enjoy your independence: When you have a boyfriend you aren’t just thinking of yourself anymore because your actions impact both of you. When you are single, you have so much freedom! Want to go out with friends Friday night? DO it! You won’t have a boyfriend competing for your attention! Enjoy this time with your girlfriends, because before long you will all be going off to college and growing apart as you grow up.FullSizeRender (8)
  2. Figure YOU out: These teenage years are crucial for us teenage girls! These are the years where we are figuring out who we are and what we are all about. Sometimes having a boyfriend can cause us to put our thoughts/feelings on the back burner and focus more on his. Be confident and sure of yourself and who you are!
  3. Trust God’s timing: I don’t stress about being single because I know that it is just God preparing the perfect guy for me. Plus, he is preparing ME for the perfect guy! You may feel ready to meet your prince charming, but God may have other plans. Don’t stress, just enjoy life where God has you. The perfect guy will come along when you least expect it. 

So, if you are single, just enjoy it! I know I do!

XOXO, Chels

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