Chelsea Crockett

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Jealousy is Stealing Your Joy

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter…

No matter where I am in life, what I am doing or how I am doing it, there always seems to be someone doing it bigger and better. No matter how many positive things I have going for me, somehow the negative thoughts seep in.

I find myself needing to take “social media breaks” every once in a while to detox my mind and give myself fresh perspective. It seems like everywhere you look, there is someone skinnier, prettier, more popular, with a better house, better clothes, and a happier smile. Comparing your work, your life, and whatever else will only make you miserable. Why? Because when you compare yourself to others, you aren’t seeing all the stuff going on in the background. You are only seeing the positive surface-level information that they are allowing everyone to see. Comparing yourself to someone else’s “best” is unfair.

It’s not just on social media that we can start to allow jealousy to slowly seep into our hearts. Your coworker may be excelling and getting promoted faster than you are. The friends you grew up may be getting engaged or married. When I see people that started their YouTube channels around the same time I did gaining more followers or opportunities than me, it is hard not to let jealousy paralyze my thinking. If I’m not careful, comparing myself to them can strip me of my contentment with who I am and what I am good at. Jealousy steals joy.

It is painfully true. Jealousy gives you a sick feeling in your stomach and an satisfaction with all that God has given you and the gifts he has blessed you with. Dwelling on these things sets us back. I used to worry a lot about what I wore, never wanting people to see me in the same outfit twice. I saw all of my YouTube friends dressing fashionably, so I did too. All of the stress of constantly worrying what I was wearing and what people would think of it was stealing my happiness. Comparing ourselves to others removes focus from what we should be proud of within ourselves. I guarantee that someone has looked at you and thought “I wish I could be like her.”

My advice? Keep reminding yourself that comparing yourself to others only discourages you. It will push you to spend money on things you don’t want or need just to be like the people you envy. Take ownership of who you are. Be proud of your positive qualities and achievements. There is no one else on this planet who is just like you.

XOXO, Chels

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Things You Should Always Do on First Dates

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a…

First dates = one of my least favorite things on the planet. They can be super awkward sometimes, and you get so nervous before them, and ugh. There are a lot of things we cant control when it comes to first dates, and the uncertainty is what makes us so nervous. There are a few things you CAN control that can make the date go more smoothly, and they are how you behave. Here are things you should always do on a first date.

  1. Dress to impress: both him and yourself! Usually, before a first date I try on lots of different outfits in hope of finding one I think will impress my date. Instead of trying to impress HIM, impress YOURSELF. Wear what makes you feel like you! Be confident in what you are wearing and he will notice!FullSizeRender (46)
  2. Be honest: If you are having a good time, say it! And if you aren’t, don’t say “I’m just not feeling it,” but also don’t tell him that you “want to do this again sometime.” If you didn’t like it, just tell him thank you for the date, and if he asks you out on a second one, just be polite and say no.
  3. Be polite: Say please and thank you. People notice when you do and when you don’t! If you want to make a positive impression, mind your manners. Put your phone away and give him your attention.
  4. Just be you: This is the most important point. First impressions are so so important, so make sure you give your date a good look at who you are. If you are an outgoing person, be outgoing! If you are not, don’t force it! Don’t be someone you think your date would like, just be yourself.

And finally…have fun! Yes, first dates are nerve wracking, but they can be the start of a beautiful thing!

XOXO, Chels

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5 Signs You Aren’t Ready to Get Back in the Dating Game

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it…

Do you ever feel like you need to be in a relationship? Like, if all of your friends are dating someone, and Netflix romance movies makes it look like it could be fun, so you think maybe you should give it a try? Odds are you have felt this way at some point. When we think like this, we may feel like we should date the first person who shows some interest in us because if we don’t, we could end up forever alone (noooooooo!). Don’t let these thoughts drive you. Here is how to find out if you are not ready for a relationship.

  1. You still social media stalk your ex: If your sleuthing is on the Sherlock Holmes level, you probably aren’t over that person, hence you are not ready for a new relationship.via-christianfunnypictures.com_
  2. Your friends’ relationship drama makes you gag: If hearing about your friends’ relationship troubles makes you thank your lucky stars you aren’t dating a guy like that, then you might want to wait to get into the dating game.
  3. You like treating yourself: If you love your “me” time and don’t feel like sharing, then you aren’t ready for a relationship. And you know what? That is totally fine! When you are ready to date you will feel ready to share your time with someone else.

So, if you still social media stalk your ex, you hate hearing about your friends’ relationship drama, and you don’t feel like sharing your time, then you aren’t ready to get back in the dating saddle!

XOXO, Chels

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Habits of the Less Stressed

Odds are, you are no stranger to stress. School, work, friends, family, there are so many things vying for our time and attention and sometimes we feel like we are…

Odds are, you are no stranger to stress. School, work, friends, family, there are so many things vying for our time and attention and sometimes we feel like we are being pulled a million ways at once and that there is no possible way to get everything done that we need to. Then, there are those people who don’t seem to feel any stress at all, even though they’ve got lives just as busy as ours. How do they do it?! How do they manage their stress and make it seem so easy? Here are 5 habits of the less-stressed people of the population.

  1. Laugh lots: Laughing every day is a great way to manage stress. Laughter releases endorphins, stimulates your lungs and heart, and improves your circulation which all help calm your stress response.
  2. Be grateful: Being thankful helps you decrease your worries and increases your focus on the positive things in life which helps fight negativity.
  3. Exercise: Working out doesn’t just strengthen your body, it also strengthens your mind. It helps you stay calm because exercising is an outlet for frustrations. It also increases the hormones in your brain that make you feel happy and good.62824517
  4. Get enough sleep: Sleep and stress go together like peanut butter and jelly. Healthy people who know how to deal with stress know that sleep is a priority. Lack of sleep can make you angry, sad, mentally exhausted, and stressed.
  5. Watch the caffeine intake: You may think of caffeine as the magical substance that helps you power through the day, but it actually may be causing you stress. Caffeine can actually increase the symptoms of stress, so limit how much you take in on a daily basis.

Stress doesn’t have to rule our lives! Hopefully these tips from people who know how to stay on top of stress help you do the same.

XOXO, Chels

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How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Feel More Confident

The concept of “stop taking things personally” is a tough one for me to grasp. I wouldn’t consider myself a super sensitive person, but I can definitely take things to…

The concept of “stop taking things personally” is a tough one for me to grasp. I wouldn’t consider myself a super sensitive person, but I can definitely take things to heart, and can feel like I am to blame when something negative happens. If you are a sensitive person, then you are familiar with the feeling of “it’s all my fault.” Rather than feeling like the world is on your shoulders, you need to be able to feel free of anxiety and be confident! Here are 4 ways to help you stop taking things personally.

  1. Know that not everyone needs to like you: Yes, in an ideal world everyone would like everyone and get along, but that is not the world we live in. It can be exhausting to try and please everyone, and there is no need for it! It is impossible for everyone to like you, so don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t. Some people just flat out don’t like me. And I have realized that it is okay! I am confident in who I am, I have friends and family that think I am the bomb.com, and I have you guys! Bye, haters.617849f15df4b425d44a4db8d6f3bcf87a2dcca8f3a06e1253b772d2c7181cca
  2. Don’t jump to conclusions: If someone says something negative that you think is directed towards you, don’t immediately get defensive and hurt. Take a second and step back. Odds are, the comment or criticism wasn’t actually directed towards you, or if it was, it could be a reflection of their insecurities.
  3. Just do you: Don’t let other people try and tell you who you are. What other people say about us can really have an impact on us, and it can be hard not to let it get to you. Just because people say it doesn’t make it true! You know who you are. You know what you are all about and your value and worth. Some people just choose not to recognize it. Like I said earlier, a lot of times when people criticize others, it is because they are insecure.

So, instead of feeling like it is your fault that someone doesn’t like you or that something negative happens, realize that everything is not your fault and other people cannot control how you feel about yourself, only you can!

XOXO, Chels

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What You Do Matters, So Just Do You

Do you ever feel like you are missing out? That other people are doing all of these cool things, traveling places, being adventurous, doing big things, and you are just…

Do you ever feel like you are missing out? That other people are doing all of these cool things, traveling places, being adventurous, doing big things, and you are just living a normal life? That, my friend, is one of the worst feelings.

Social media makes it so easy for us to compare our lives to other people’s, and I think that is one of the worst things about it. Yes, it is fun to be able to see how other people’s lives differ from ours and it gives us a look into how other people live, but it becomes unhealthy when we start to become unhappy with our own lives because we think other people have it so much better. Why cant I travel like her? Why haven’t I gotten a cool job like othershers? She gets to do so many fun things and has her life together. Why cant I be like that? Those thoughts will bring you down. I have started to realize something. It is that it doesn’t matter with other people are doing, it matters what YOU are doing. You are an amazing person who has done amazing things, and the amazing things that you have done/are doing are different than the amazing things that other people are doing, but that doesn’t make them any less amazing! So what if someone you know got a super cool internship and you’ve never had one before. Don’t become jealous, be happy that she got an amazing opportunity and know that in your future you can have something just as cool! Just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it wont. The cool things people are doing now can happen to you, too! Just give it time and enjoy what is happening in your life here and now.

Remember, it doesn’t matter what other people are doing, it matters what YOU are doing. Make the most of the time you are given. Do things that matter. Make a difference. Live life!

XOXO, Chels

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Beauty “Dont’s” When Meeting His Parents

I just recently started dating someone new, and let me tell you, the most nerve racking thing in the world is meeting your dude’s parents. Honestly, your first meeting can…

I just recently started dating someone new, and let me tell you, the most nerve racking thing in the world is meeting your dude’s parents. Honestly, your first meeting can make or break your relationship! If you don’t like them or they don’t like you (but seriously, who wouldn’t like you? You rock.), it can cause strain on the relationship and it ultimately won’t work out. But, odds are, they will love you. Confidence is key when going into your first time meeting his parents, so make sure you feel your absolute best. Here are some makeup tips to help you feel confident during the whole ordeal!

  1. Stick to what you know: Don’t try new makeup tutorials when getting ready, just stick to your everyday routine. Never tried purple eyeliner? Tonight is not the night to do so. Go with what you know, it will make you feel more “normal.”
  2. Accentuate your best features: Does your boyfriend ever say things like “your eyes are so beautiful” or “I love it when you wear your hair down”? Do what you can to accentuate those features! Draw attention to them. If you have long luscious eyelashes, make sure to wear mascara to highlight them!images (1)
  3. Keep it simple: Go for a more natural look. If your normal look is dark eyeshadow and liner, maybe tone it down to more browns or golds. Moms tend to like girls who keep makeup to a minimum because it shows that they are confident in who they are and don’t need to hide behind makeup. Simple is always safe. Use a splash of blush and mascara to spruce up your natural beauty!
  4. Brush your teeth: Bad breath is a big no-no! Make sure to brush and floss before you go, bad breath makes more of an impression than makeup, guaranteed!

And the big one…just be you! I will have an article soon on what to wear to meet the ‘rents, so stay tuned!

Good luck!

XOXO, Chels

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Teen Tips: What to Wear When Meeting the Parents

A short time ago I wrote a blog about beauty tips when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, and in the blog I promised to write another one…

A short time ago I wrote a blog about beauty tips when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, and in the blog I promised to write another one on what to wear when meeting the parents. Well, I aim to please! Here are my tips on how to make a good first impression with what you wear.

  1. Plan ahead: Your guy has told you when and where you will meet his parents, so now it is time to plan out your outfit! Planning ahead helps you feel more prepared and gives you time to pick the perfect outfit and try things on to make sure they look good together. Picking out what to wear a few hours before you are supposed to meet them is a recipe for disaster!
  2. Choose something new: This is a special occasion, so dress like it! Don’t wear your favorite shirt that your boyfriend always sees you in, pick something that is fresh and new. He will love seeing a different side of you, and wearing something fresh will make you feel stylish and confident.FullSizeRender (47)
  3. Wear statement shoes: Keep your outfit simple. Not flashy, not lots of patterns or prints, just simple. But, that doesn’t have to be the case with shoes! A good statement shoe is a great way to impress his momma.
  4. Colors are cool: If you have a colorful personality, wear color! You don’t have to keep colors muted if that isn’t your style, let your personality shine through! This can be something as simple as colored accessories or, like we said earlier, shoes!
  5. Keep it classy: This is the most important tip! Make the best impression possible on his parents by keeping your outfit tasteful and classy. Make them proud that their son is dating such a classy gal! Tight pants may make you feel confident and super fine, but they may not be the best choice for your first meeting. Pair them with a flowy shirt to offset them

Meeting the parents can be fun and exciting! Let your personality shine, and just be yourself!

XOXO, Chels  

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Bra Maintenance 101

Bras are such an odd yet necessary item of clothing. Not only that, they are an expensive item of clothing! To keep your bras in the best shape possible and…

Bras are such an odd yet necessary item of clothing. Not only that, they are an expensive item of clothing! To keep your bras in the best shape possible and to keep them lasting a long time, keep these tips in mind!

  1. Don’t wear the same bra 2 days in a row: Bras need a 24 hour “rest” between uses to keep the elastic from stretching out. Just like you need a break, your bras do too!f_62a23a8078
  2. Wash your bra in a bag: Tossing your bras in the washer with all of your other clothes is a big no no! The hooks of your bra can snag on your other clothes, and tumbling around freely in the washer can damage their fabric! Wash them in a mesh garment bag and don’t put them in the dryer.
  3. Wash them once a month: No need to wash your bra after every use. Washing it once a month is totally fine. The less you wash it, the less “wear and tear” it will get.
  4. Store them in a flat drawer: When you are bra shopping at stores like Victoria’s Secret, they display most of their bras laying flat in drawers. This helps them keep their shape and will help them last longer.

Keep your bras in tip top shape with these teeny tips!

XOXO, Chels

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Why You (and I) Should Learn to Give and Take Compliments

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments….

Recently I have noticed something. Something that has really started to bother me. It is the fact that, as girls, we no longer know how to give and take compliments. Why is this?

One of my philosophies is that we feel like we are being self-centered or “proud” when we take a compliment. When you are told a compliment, do you shrug it off? Why do we feel like we cannot believe the positive things other people tell us? Imagine if you accepted all of the compliments that are given to you instead of shrugging them off and trying to counteract them. How much would that change your self-confidence? Believing the positive things people tell us can be such a boost! We need to learn to see the good in ourselves that others see in us.compliment

Now for my philosophy on why we sometimes have a hard time giving compliments. This, to me, goes hand in hand with the reason we don’t take compliments as well as we should. We don’t know how the other person will react to our praise, whether they will shrug it off or accept it. I think, as girls, sometimes we can let the jealousy bug bite us. We can think that by giving another girl a compliment, we are setting them above ourselves and making them look better than we do. WRONG. Giving someone else a compliment is the simplest, but most impactful thing you can do for them! Compliments are free to give, and they can make someone’s day SO much better!

Moral of the story? Give sincere compliments, and learn to take them in return. Accept people’s praise, because you are worth their affirmation! Don’t think that by accepting a compliment you are being self-righteous or prideful. Learn to confidently accept people’s admiration with a kind smile, and understand that you deserve it. We also need to know the importance of GIVING complements. They can honestly make someone’s day. How great is it knowing you can take someone’s mood and flip it around, just by telling them that you like their outfit? It is so easy to do, so why not humble yourself and give out a compliment or two?

XOXO, Chels

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