Whether you’ve been dating for one month or twelve, breakups are just rough all around. It is terrible being the one broken up with. It can be even more difficult being the one to initiate the split. We’ve all been there, and we all know the terrible feeling, especially when you are parting ways with someone you wish nothing but the best for. How do we make the break without feeling guilty about it?

  1. Waiting makes it worse. There will always be a reason that “it isn’t the time” to break it off. But, the longer you wait, the harder it will be for the other person to move on. Don’t waste their time. There is never a good time to breakup with someone, so rip off the bandaid and get it over with. Hurting someone you deeply care about and respect is like a kick in the stomach. But, it had to happen sometime. Drawing it out makes it that much worse!
  2. Know their worth. If you really care about the person you are in a relationship with, wouldn’t you want them to be happy and not in a relationship that isn’t going anywhere? Give them the opportunity to find love with someone else and find happiness. They deserve that.
  3. Realize that they will recover from this. If you are putting off breaking up with someone because you know it will break their heart, don’t let that be your excuse anymore. You may think you are saving them from sadness, but you’re really just stalling. People are resilient, and hard times like these make a person stronger. They will come out of this tougher, just you wait and see!
  4. Think of the positives. Think of what an enormous weight will be lifted off of your shoulders! You are not a terrible person for not reciprocating the same feelings as someone else. You are a good person. You can’t control how you feel. You deserve to be happy, too! Let go of the guilt and move on. When you find the right person, you will know.

Breakups are one of the worst experiences for everyone involved, but who says we can’t make them a little easier?