At every stage in your life, you’ll always encounter people that love conflict. They love drama and it seems to follow them wherever they go.

There’s also those people that you simply disagree with. Whether it’s over the littlest things or not, you seem to always butt heads over anything and everything.

Whatever the case, what does God say about those little arguments? What is his take on conflict and drama, and how should we handle these situations?

Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Along with Proverbs 16:32 that says, “Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.”

What do both of these verses have in common? Patience.

Be patient in the way you respond, be patient in the way you forgive, and be patient in the way you approach situations. Patience will teach you to be kind-hearted and slow to anger, which God commands us to be.     

Ephesians 4:31-32 says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

You should never be quick to pick a fight. Know which battles are worth fighting and which ones are not.

God wants us to use our energy on positive things, like building each other up and lending a hand to those in need, whoever it may be. What he doesn’t want us doing is using our energy to tear each other down and start conflict where it’s not needed!

Another verse from Ephesians that gives me some of the best advice that I still stay true to today is Ephesians 4:26. It says: “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”

Although this verse is short and sweet, it gets straight to the point. My mom always told me you should never let yourself go to bed upset or angry with someone. It’s advice that has never let me down no matter what the situation is.

Resolve things as they happen. Don’t let them build up and allow a grudge to form. God wants us to be quick to forgive because he knows the consequences of letting anger build up inside of us.

Now is God saying we should never stand up for ourselves? Not at all.

He wants us to have the wisdom of knowing where and what we should involve ourselves in. Be the peace-maker, NOT the trouble-maker!

Look at it this way: How would Jesus respond in this situation? Would he be quick to argue or quick to bring about peace?

You can find SO much knowledge in God’s Word, so if you ever need guidance, this should be the first place you look!

Start approaching situations the way God would want you to. There’s so much to gain by looking at what God says and letting that light shine through on your life and the people around you!

– Chelsea