Forgiveness is a hard concept. How do you forgive someone that has wronged you so many times, again… and again… and again? Do you let someone get by with hurting you, no matter the situation?
Forgiveness is hard as it is, but it’s even harder when you can’t forget. It’s easy to forgive someone for something small and go about your day like it never happened, but when someone really hurts you, I mean really hurts you,it isn’t always that simple.
So, how do you forgive when you can’t forget?
The Bible talks about forgiveness many, many times and gives us advice on how to go about it. I wanted to share some powerful verses that will help you let go of anger, resentment, or whatever you may be holding in.
Luke 6:37 says, “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
We all make mistakes in life, some more than others. But we can’t deny that we’ve all messed up and have sinned against God, others, and even ourselves at times. It’s easy to judge others instead of taking a step back and judging ourselves. Why do we give ourselves the power to hold grudges for what others have done to us, when we make mistakes as well?
This mindset of “forgiving and not forgetting” comes from a place of judgement, and we so often forget who the ultimate judge is. When we decide we want to hold a grudge, we are not only being hypocritical, but we’re forgetting that God forgives us every single day, hour, minute… and not only forgives, but tosses any memory of our sin away.
Hebrews 8:12 says, “For I will be merciful toward their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more.”
Every day, we should be striving to be more like Christ. If our heavenly father forgives even our darkest of sins, then we too can extend our forgiveness to those who have wronged us in the past, no matter how many times they have.
Now I know it’s not that simple. It can be hard to forget at the snap of your finger. But taking the steps toward forgiveness is better than not trying at all.
Have you tried putting yourself in their shoes? Remembering how it’s felt to seek forgiveness when you know you might not deserve it? We’ve all been there and, although it can be hard to adapt God’s mindset, it will benefit you greatly throughout your life.
So, start today by letting go of any grudges you may be holding. Maybe for you this means having a tough conversation with someone. Or maybe it means finally letting go of the past. It can be hard to be the bigger person, but it is always so worth it!
In Matthew 18:21-22, Peter asks Jesus, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus replied: “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”
Take notes from what Jesus is telling Peter in this story. Forgive and forget not once, not twice, but an endless amount of times. Forgive others just as the Lord forgives you!