Ever heard the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?”

Although some words oftentimes have no intention of harm, they can come off rude, demeaning, or offensive, which can tear you down and affect you more than you thought they could.

Just because the words of others don’t define us as a people doesn’t mean they can’t strike a nerve every once in a while.

As someone that grew up on YouTube, I’ve learned that people can say awful things, whether those nasty words spawn from jealousy, hate, or just plain boredom.  I’ve learned to take rejection, criticism, judgement and everything that comes along with it.

Being a teenage girl in today’s society, this is something God could use us to be a light in. I wanted to dive into scripture and build a conviction for how my every day conversations with others should be.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29

When we’re with our friends, our conversations can be full of gossip and drama. Or we can steer our conversations away from “unwholesome talk” and encourage and build each other up. If our conversations aren’t beneficial to those who listen, then we need to rethink what we’re talking about.

“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6

When our conversations are full of grace, we grow in patience and dignity. Whether someone comes to us with drama, anxiety, depression, etc. we’ll know how to extend support and love to them.

“May my lips overflow with praise, for you teach me your decrees. May my tongue sing of your word, for all your commands are righteous.” – Psalm 119:171-173

When we replace our negative conversations with those of praise and grace, you will see the entire attitude of your friends, family, or whoever you’re with change.

Anyone can talk the talk, but it takes a genuine follower of the Bible to walk the walk..

So, next time you’re tempted into ungodly words and conversations, keep your eyes fixed on the one who extends endless amounts of grace, love, and wisdom.